₦airaland Forum

tekajibril:
Guy, why would u photoshop an already photoshopped picture? Get a life!!

Dolemite:
BTW Hilda Dokubo works for her church Salvation ministeries as a traffic warder, she can be seen every sunday at the end of the 5th service on the road.

Kunbee:
I love Victoria

akwaowoudo:
I'm sorry Missy B; the response came as a slip of hand. It was meant for Carolece; pls. accept my apology. Regards!

akwaowoudo:
There's something i've just understood from your write-up. Instead of dwelling within the context of the act, you are busy castigating men. Castigation proceeds! _ stolen waters are the sweetest. Did the boyfriend force the sister into the act? Oh! No. She widely opened her thighs. Now to the issue of choice, dignity and respect; i want to point it out that 55% of men do possesss whereas only 2% of women have these. Taking your mind back to the biblical days, if the serpent could subdue Eve then why won't men subdue daughters of Eve. Almost all sinful act pertaining to sex is orchestrated by women; you invite and i come. You invite in divers ways _ postures, dress code, etc. No matter the danggling you know what i mean. My utmost happiness is that all agreement weren't signed on bed else women would have . . . .

Rocktation:
I mean, you're the only one that's had up to a thousand problems brought to the table, in the space of two weeks.

Carolece:
Thats not the only reason why I hate men. My dad! He was one of the worse men I've ever encountered. He was a w'hore, had so many kids outside the family, and he used to deprive us of basic necessities which he could afford. He beat us (kids and my mom). He was so disrespectful. I may sound cruel, but when he died, it was of great joy to me, I was a happier person when he died, and so were my siblings. My mother took it hard as she loved him dearly, but eventually she got over him after like two yrs and began a happy life with her girls (myself and 4 siblings).

My uncle who lived close to us, he was the biggest w'hore in the community, we used to tell lies for him as many women used to show up at the same time. Then, I didnt look at it as anything as I was too young to understand, but as I got older, it made me understand that the same can/will happen to me.

All the men I know cheat, every single one have kids outside their relationships/marriages, or have women that they are dating outside of the one they have.

Men I work with, they too have a tendency to cheat, its all around me. I just cant see myself in a relationship and trust. There will have to be an intervention from the higher one.

Carolece:
I dont think I really want to hear it at all. I just hope some day I will just forgive her on my own. Dont know if they are still seeing each other as I distanced myself from them. The topic just does not come up. I only speak to my mother via telephone, havent seen her for 3 yrs now. I avoid seeing her as she is the one taking care of the lil boy. Dont know if the father is playing any part in his life, I have zero clue what's happening and I dont think its my business.

IyaBasira:
***Sighs with relief***     

Thanks very much. I'm actually asking this question because there was someone I used to like and was going out with. I really looked up to him and respected him, so when the news got out that he liked someone else, things started going downhill. After a while he started trying, but I'm one of those people who doesnt forgive easily , so even though he started trying really hard eventually, I was still too much of a believer in Disney fairy tales (lol) to accept that he WAS willing to change and make an effort.

Normally I wouldnt even care, but I heard through the grapevine that he's just cheated on his present girlfriend. I feel a bit sad, because I think he's lost and needs help and I was once in that position to help him but I didnt.  And once this news gets out, its going to be a whole vicious cycle all over again.

IyaBasira:
I think he's lost and needs help and I was once in that position to help him but I didnt.

Carolece:
Should I put it behind me and forgive my sister. Would you?

IyaBasira:
There are often these conditions which are attached to true love, what it should do and what it should'nt do.  So when you hear ;

" If a guy/girl loves you, he will wait for you "
Or
"If a guy/girl  loves you, he will never cheat on you"
Or
"If a guy/ girl loves you, he will never do something to hurt you intentionally"

IyaBasira:
The way I see it , the only type of perfect love is that which God loves us with. But there's one problem. God is . . . God. And we are just puny humans who mess up in the most terrible ways a lot of the time.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]love is not a something on its own, it's just a term.  We humans give it life. . .thus, our love is subject to our interpretation/manipulation/strength/weakness.  [/color]

IyaBasira:
Some people are brought up in violent environments and thus, their idea of love is twisted and their way of expressing it is just not what a "normal" person is used to. But that does't mean they aren't  in love, does it?
What if someone is excessively selfish and they just are not used to the idea of looking after anyone's interests but theirs due to their background? Falling in love wont CHANGE their character's  automatically, will it? If anything it makes them more selfish because they may want to play the field and keep the one they want waiting in the wings but intentionally hurting them in the process.

Nombali:
I  have been having an affair with a married man, I joined this forum to  get an insight into how Nigerians think in general, as he is Nigerian. This article has given me something to seriously think about. I don't think for a sec that he will leave his wife for me, so the question is 'is it really worth the pain that his wife will suffer were she to find out about us'. The even sadder part is I think its not the first time he's done it to her, and she seems like the kind that will stay with him no matter what. I feel so guilty now and all for what, a very skilful lover with a big satisfying manhood who will never be mine.

neily:
Even people wey their boyfriends don beat tire, no go gree. Na who guys the beat self, since everybody don dey deny.

don't just throw away your present relationship like that for something that is uncertain.

The grass isn't always greener at the other end.