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Jamean:
The same imperfect man

i thought only a perfect man deserves a perfect woman

We need to see more threads like this. For a marriage or relationship to succeed it requires efforts from both parties.

Oriafo123:
The main purpose to divulge d info shows hw much u TRUST each other. A relationship without TRUST is dead, it is better u end d relationship if u don't trust ur partner. Dis advice goes to both men and women.
In other words op u probably have trust issues caused by insecurity as a result of past failed relationships

would you want your wife to leave you when you have given her reasons not to trust you?

tinuolababy:
Tight corner. She's missing something about her ex that your friend is not giving her. Tell him to try and find out what it is

best advice

Women are meant to be perfect and men should be accepted with the faults they come with. Im sorry who is the head of the house again?

abbey621:
Still living in denial, millions of women you say? Are you saying we have millions of Nigerian women that are single mothers? Are you saying majority of these single mothers also put their children through school and provide for their well-being without any assistance? Better stop watching Youtube and get back to reality, this ain't Yankee or Jand! Women who aim to have as much sex as men in terms of the number of partners are sluts! Of course some of them are good at hiding their ways and end up marrying some sucker but it ain't me, been schooled in the game, nothing is surprising anymore. I'm a high catch myself so why would I ever settle for a slut, if a chic ain't loyal, I just replace her, end of discussion!

Divorced women and single mothers still get married despite how you view them, this remains a fact.

We all have male friends and relatives that form im smart and im a good catch yet they still are married to women with a past. Oya keep living in your little fairytale.

You will faint if you get to know the real history of some of the females closest to you, before you go around words anyhow.

Yustash001:
If not that you are mad....you wouldn't be criticizing any religion....your punishment should be worst than the one given to the blogger...hypocrite

but you can fornicate and tell yourself you dont deserve punisment now can you?

how can i build a man when there is no big kondo on the list im joking

bmoney9ja:
babymama wont be a bad idea you know?..

sure, then you can come back and make noise about paying child support and blame it on feminism like your fellow mates again

abbey621:
Do your aunts represent majority of Nigerian women? Hell no! Keep deceiving yourself believing it's a level playing field, I pray you never experience such! Unless you are messing with yourself, you know the truth and the truth shall set you free. Majority of Nigerian women are either underemployed or full time housewives and it ain't changing anytime soon! No one is disputing the last part of your statements, of course women can have sex as much as men, the key difference is men are called BOSS when it happens and women are called slutty, it ain't fair but that's just the way it is. Of course they can get jobs and take care of their children without the help of any man, but how many can actually walk the walk as much as they talk the talk?

go ask the millions of single Nigerian mothers that manage to put their children through school and provide decent homes from them and come back and tell me that they are using juju to do it.

You are still marrying the same women you go around calling sluts every saturday aren't you? this is highly laughable.

bmoney9ja:
people have been telling me that but my question is, till when?

wait till you are 40 (with no wife) and giving advice about women up and down the forum like your fellow friends on NL

Then u will move on to fiance number 3,4,5,6,7,8 abi

Go and ask her parents if they really dont have food in the house and see what happens

abbey621:
Once again you're talking bullsh*t! Did she tell you he's not doing his responsibilities? The only issue here is kissing and I doubt that warrants labeling him as negligent. When the cards are laid on the table, who stands to lose more? A guy obviously capable of taking care of a wife and 3 kids or a woman after 3 children now roaming with an ex using her as a sex pawn? Perhaps the guy discovered her shady ways a year ago with another guy and decided to punish her silently, only God knows! I admit the guy is very childish and definitely needs to work on his communication skills but to suggest he's going to be the one to lose out when his unsatisfied wife leaves is pure comedy

In case you've forgotten the scenario in 9ja, here it goes: Any average looking guy with a good job, a place to live and good finances can get a different woman in his bed for every week in the year, it's not hard at all. The bitter truth is that single ladies are still looking for husband, not to talk of a 30 year old mother of 3, so please stop all your fumbling, the woman definitely has a lot more to lose.

i can count at least 4 of my aunts that got married in their 30s with kids from previous marriages, so what you are saying is utter bullsh*t women in the real world keep getting married with kids, its only on NL were they suffer.

To every childish act there are consequences. If women cant get as much as sex as men do, that may only mean one thing nigerian men are clearly having sex with other men this is 2015 not 1842 women are working and they can take care of their own children too without a husband, you may need to catch up with the rest of the world.

lagunna1:
Lolzz

O serious o

she don chop u finish

abbey621:
Some people don't like kissing, it's not as if she's complaining of him not bleeping her well! Moreover, if the man refuse to kiss his wife, is the best solution for her to leave? As others have said maybe she's got a smelly mouth, whatever the case is, a wife should know how to communicate with her man, 6 years of marriage ain't no joke! The man is being childish but someone must be the bigger person, best advice for the wife is to appeal to the pathos(his emotional side).

mouth odour can be solved by a bottle of mouthwash or going to the dentist for a check-up i highly doubt thats the issue here. If she truly had a mouth odour why would her ex be coming back for more? Stop making flimsy excuses.

When she meets someone who can make her feel young again he shouldnt cry foul. He has opened the doors of his marriage for the devil and they will surely be consequences for it. Marriage is made for adults who are willing to make it work, the moment you stop acting that way and neglect your spouses needs,if she gets it elsewhere you will have no one else to blame but yourself if you dont step up to the plate.

U better get a divorce fast and stay away from him before you go and meet your maker sooner than you expect o

Lagunna1 na your kpeck** be that

KingTom:
What is the problem

someone chopped kpeckus finish

abbey621:
Maybe you should read the OP's post a second time, you'll notice the man does not want to hear of it again, which can only mean that her complaint was more of a nag. Typical Nigerian women nags, it's nothing new. Unless the guy is a psycho, there's no way she can talk to him from the heart and not respond positively. I'm talking tears, down on bended knees and all. When women wants something really bad, they can go above and beyond......She can continue complaining or she can start persuading!

i dont think a man who loves his wife has to be begged to kiss his wife passionately its something that requires common sense its as simple as that

abbey621:
You are right it is communicating but the type of communication we are seeking here is called effective communication. Any mad person can make noise but it takes a reasonable minded person to deliver the message effectively to the intended audience! I'm an Aries if there's one thing I hate in a woman it is one without a sense of direction or time. If you want something from me better cool the hell down and discuss with me when I'm relaxed otherwise you'll just be speaking to thin air!

last time i checked complaints can be communicated effectively. Nowhere did the OP said she acted like a mad man while doing it. You are the one who made up your own conclusion from something that was never said

abbey621:
I know you seriously aren't comparing a husband refusing to kiss his wife to a wife committing stage one adultery? Come on now, you're smarter than that!

u already made it sound like a kiss is trivial but at the same time its big enough to make a man divorce a woman. you are the one who needs to be smarter than that

netsurf:
See blunder...so because somebody said something foolishly, you too must follow the footstep? Can't you reason on your own and chose what's good rather than bn vindictive?

what not good about kissing someone just the way you want it?

abbey621:
The keyword here is complain. Instead of complaining she should try communicating. It's not about the message but the way the message gets to the receiver!

last time i checked u use words to make a complaint so it is communicating

abbey621:
Funny, people like you just don't get it. Women can get bleeped by any guy but to find one that will put you in his house and call you his wife is very scarce! Single ladies are still looking for husbands not to talk of after 3 and to make things worse when the kids ask why did you leave our father, her response would be "he refused to kiss me", nonsense!

its only a stupid man who will leave his wife over a kiss, since you are trying to make it seem like something very trivial

agarawu23:
I will never marry a cheating wife

that will only happen if you are not a cheating husband

agarawu23:
I am just taking it as an example , not my decision.
I don't cheat
I am just giving points why you should blame the wife

okay when your wife cheats please blame yourself since it make sense to blame a woman for her husband cheating

abbey621:
Issues like these all boils down to communication. Are you trying to tell me that a 6 year old marriage is not mature enough to be able to tell each other anything? If the problem is with you, your husband should be able to share with you how to resolve it. Calm him down one day, fix his favorite meal, rub his back and then let him know what's bugging you. Unless the man is related to Abacha, he would definitely want to resolve the issue. On another point of view, are you sure he didn't accidently discover you kissing another man? Times without numbers I've seen guys deal with unfaithful partners by killing them slowly

you missed the part where its written that she has complained to him about it? She should continue speaking to deaf ears abi?

abbey621:
Sorry to say but you have a lot of growing up to do! 6 year old marriage with 3 kids and the best advice you can give is to find happiness elsewhere? SMH!

arent men with more than 3kids finding happiness elsewhere everyday? So why are u acting like its new?

agarawu23:
she can't try it because I will always be there for her

but you were talking about cheating on her if u have a maid who looks like Rokiatu, but she can never try cheating on you arent those double standards

jabojafa:
so if u were in her shoes u wud find happiness elsewhr upon 3children?

will you find happiness elsewhere if u have 3kids and a wife who refuses to be romantic with you?

jaybee3:
It's your fault moana..

Why always you?

na your fault joor. You caused it all