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Professorcplus:
Well said. The society justify fruad but will be quick to bash people involved in it when caught. We are hypocritical and judgemental in this society. The situation between Hushpuppi and Daddy freeze is another example here. You see people quick to bash but the question is if were to put the mirror in front of us, are we better us than both of them?

If a big politicians is willing to give you some large sum of money to start biz would you accept even if you don't know the source.

If the corruption/fruad benefits you, would you accept it?

Even the average Nigerian has associated with these politicians and fruadsters either known or unknown, but will go ahead to bash on social media but still practice it within their caucus from banking sector to NEPA office, even in government parastatals, universities ... I won't lie to you, I don't see Nigeria become better anytime soon

Well, I do see Nigeria becoming better with our new generation, all we have to do is to help them see the light, I'm 100% certain they would make the country better

Liliantalks:
it wasn’t that way , she only stated hers but decided to mention to you on it since u mentioned ur standard also .

**I realized when u set ur standards on the Man U want physically , financially and otherwise and stand by it , u met better options**

Well, My mention of you was to reinforce your point where you mentioned physically, very clear. And you yourself wrote physically even before you wrote financially.
Then she quoted me telling me what to do and that my preference is wrong, which she clearly stated in the next post she quoted me, and here you are telling me my starndard is not more than hers as if I was the one trying to force things down her throat when I don't even care if shes a gold digger or a living thing

Liliantalks:
she stated her standard , it doesn’t hv to be yours also ,,, u are hving mercy on broke men , but hv no pity on men who don’t met your so called physical criteria. Urs opinion isn’t ultimate than others . U hv beautiful children but no food to eat right ?

Well, if you read well, you will see that she quoted me first and I wasn't aware of her existence prior that. I only stated my preference, she could just say hers and move on, in this case, she was the one forcing her opinion on mine by telling me what to take as my first preference.
And point of correction, I never said I have mercy on anyone, broke or rich nor am I saying I do not.
Preference is a scale with many lists, arranged according to importance
You should also please stop quoting me, not by force to take anything I said. Bye

Liliantalks:
she stated her standard , it doesn’t hv to be yours also ,,, u are hving mercy on broke men , but hv no pity on men who don’t met your so called physical criteria. Urs opinion isn’t ultimate than others . U hv beautiful children but no food to eat right ?

Well, if you read well, you will see that she quoted me first and I wasn't aware of her existence prior that. I only stated my preference, she could just say hers and move on, in this case, she was the one forcing her opinion on mine by telling me what to take as my first preference.
You should also please stop quoting me, not by force to take anything I said. Bye

DrFunmisticGlow:
So what's your point? That you shouldend up with an irresponsible man?

Take care of yourself first, a responsible man who won't make excuses should be a major criteria when looking for a spouse or someone to bear children for. If you ignore this, you are setting yourself up for tears and suffering. Don't make that mistake.


You sound like you are setting up poor innocent children to be your emotional crutch and retirement plan.

The truth is this.

CHILDREN WILL ONE DAY LEAVE YOU AND FACE THEIR LIVES.

failure to realise this will make you a future troublsome and bitter mother-in-law who scatters her children's marriages.

You have to learn to love yourself and plan for your future whether you have kids or not.

Lol, I'm sorry, but people like you end up in depression. Saying children matter most doesn't mean dating irresponsible people, it means it comes first in the scale of preference.
I believe in diversification of source of happiness and you are wrong to think I would be a bad mother in-law, are you in this century girl? I'm not even wishing to have a male child.
Anyway, I pray with your mentality, you don't end in depression after you realize that humans can not be totally relied on but God and yourself. I have seen some boyfriends that stopped giving their girlfriends money after a while, that is why I dont advice anyone to totally rely on their husband, boyfriend and be doing nothing to bring income. Many women today thought they married a responsible man until they get the shock of their lives and are now in psychiatric hospitals, you can help YOURSELF WITH GOOGLE girl and you will read lots of stories,and you can also get a very good hubby which would be an added advantage DIVERSIFY WHERE YOUR HAPPINESS COMES FROM
People like you stay in an abusive marriage because thats only where you think your happiness can come from, and you lie you are dating the best man, the best husband bla bla bla. I know stories of more than 20women like that.
And for your criteria to be MONEY,well its your cup of tea, keep searching for rich guys to date and don't have foresight, but you should know that ALL GIRLS CANNOT BE A GOLD DIGGER , I provide my income for myself, if my hubby gives me, it would be an added advantage

Anyway, the boy is in your court, depression is real, and if you are not healthy, you won't take care of your children.

Another thing is learn to respect other people's opinion, and don't think you can force yours on anyone, kindly stop quoting me, give your opinion and leave
Bye Felicia

Professorcplus:
True. I feel you bruv. You are not alone on this. But, let not live in bitterness and hatred because at the end we are all human. Don't let us be harsh with our words towards his family. The dead is gone. Cheer. @ Modestgal what do you think?

Thanks for mentioning me sir, I somehow agree with what follygunners said. And you are also right, we shouldn't live in bitterness and anger, but we should correct things.
Nigerians lacks discipline and we've all suffered from poverty mentality, its not because they want to be that way, its because living in such a way has become normal, and many of these people don't know they are doing wrong things and the society doesn't know they are responsible for such behaviors.
What we all refer to ''stealing'' is God answer my prayers for those politicians and their family members. To them, its a miracle, its because they are born with stars etcetera
Its usually people that their families are not in those offices that sees it as stealing, if a family has political leader who is not stealing, corrupting for his people, he would be referred to as a bastard and a bad person by them and others would not praise him for his discipline, but even laugh at him for being hated by his family members

DrFunmisticGlow:
Don't bring children into this world that belong to a man who cannot take care of you and them

Well, money is not constant, some people are poor that never planned to be poor. Some people could have injuries that could prevent them from so and so. I don't discriminate people due to money, but the first preference from a man is looks, others follow. Because the Children MATTER MOST. A rich man could decide not to give you money again, we've seen such stories, some good men change, some men pretend to be good and later turn stingy, different stories.
But for children, they would always be yours and would always love you and you won't ever be replaceable in their heart and if you are lucky to have a rich guy, then it would be an added advantage

The cost of testing is even more than the country's minimum wage, lol

igbesachick:
excuse me, indian ask for it ! they ask for hatred.

most chinese dont care india. the only thing they know of india is the disgusting curry food and the over crowded trains and very poor.

but, on the contrary, indians give OVERDUE attention to china.

just type "india covid", "india economy" in the search blank of twitter or youtube, china-related issue will come out within first 5 results. they are so concerned with china , like a bunch of buzzing flies.

they always compare india with china, although they always rank behind china. indian are everywhere, they are wherever chinese are ! you may find them blabing in hong kong issue, in chinese moon landing, in chinese food..... i am fed up with indians.

the funny thing is, same as they keep competing with china although they lose every competition, they badmouth a LOT about china although chinese hardly talk to them.

what is wrong with indian ? !

Please go see a psychiatrist or psychology, you are obsessed with Indians

Liliantalks:
In my life I hardly met a man who isn’t stingy , the ones i think ain’t that stingy still hv stingy ideology, it has been me and Mum taking care of ourselves, while girls had the luxury from many men, I was taking care of me. No boyfriends help , no nothing , all my phones I bought by myself or the little help from my mum, mean while I was dating some scumbags with false promises.


I hv come to the realization I don’t hv standards when it comes to men, it was always about love, Rubbish !! Mind you : I hustle and got my Mum so I lack nothing and hv all that’s required of an adult. So I am not broke . I realized when u set ur standards on the Man U want physically , financially and otherwise and stand by it , u met better options .

....

Kkk

igbesachick:
according to chinese standard, tecno is a rubbish brand which can not share any market in china and thus has to look for african market instead.

but even tecno can beat the shiet out of the only indian brand micromax. actually i dont even know india has any brand before i google it.

all you guys are using redmi (the lower version) or latest tecno or second hand apple. do you think those poor indian will "sentimentally" support their rubbish indian copycat phones and abandon chinese quality phones? even american can not afford the temptation to buy huawei instead of apple .

the only thing poor ppl can do is to blab on internet, that is why 1 third of the youtube twitter users are indian. they are jealous of china, they can not fight chinese army, thousands of they die of covid in the slums like dogs everyday, indian economy slumps 45% in 2020.

goggle your eyes, the best joker of this year, namely india, is doing a wonderful show right now.

i check its covid new cases every morning , the moment after i open my eyes from sleep. and i can not wait to be in July, i want to see india's second quarter economic report . they have 24% unemploymemt rate !

this makes me feel good. it feels like the same when i see jungle justice shown on youtube. i feast on other poor ppl's miserable nightmare. india is a perfect joker!

How will you wish death and sickness on anyone due to difference in countries. You are very disgusting to wish fellow humans covid19 death and sickness. And you said you can't wait for their economy to fall, very disgusting comment

When will Nigeria or Africa start economic war?

Karex81:
Oga you and i know racism can never end. Am not supporting china nor America. China is a communist country so you don't expect anyone to protest, unless risk being in jail.
Moreover you said choose btw china and America. Why choose when i can develop my country

Abi o

NaijaOlosho:
And Buhari without First School Leaving Certificate And Waec has gotten the job of a president

Shame on all the professors and graduates in Nigeria.

Shame on the Yorubas, Igbos And The South South

Yes o, shame on everyone born in Naija or abroad or inside hole

But why Nigeria, thread dedicated to Nigerians

I just read where a 22years old killed her baby, now this.
It was in a thread I was telling woman to diversify where their happiness comes from, so that when one source is broken, other sources would be there, and they won't run mad. This is a case of mental illness

The comments here has made me realize what all these black Americans do say, Nigerians are one hell of a slave, and so used to be treated in an inhuman way that they see anyone voicing out as lazy.
Now, let me help you, there's difference between hardwork and stress work, it is Africans mentality or maybe Nigerian's mentality that stress work means more productivity, thats why in every sector in this country, one experience stress work, especially Nigerian university students, and banking sector and at the end, those stress work has not made Nigeria grow anyway forward

I do not condone laziness myself, but as a leader you should have strategies you use in making sure your employees are not underperforming nor over stressed. This is another reason why many housemaids employer overwork and stress out their housemaids because they believe in the peanuts they are paying. No matter what you pay people, it is not a reason to dehumanize them, thats is why we have the labour laws that I know its non functioning in Nigeria.
I do not know if this story is true or false, but I do know that lots of Funkes workers complain about how she treats them including one beautiful lady that was working for her Jennifer's diary that time (Toyo or something).

Learn not to dehumanize people you feed, it is a priviledge that you are in that high position, a good leader makes followers work hard in a healthy way.

Nairaland is not an online hospital where you meet doctors that would diagnose you correctly

Well, it could be food poisoning, this is why I can never eat outside my home, if I must eat foods not cooked by me, I must rewarm it properly.
And at this period of epidemic, its better you stay off foods that doesn't require rewarming so that the eat would kill any microorganism there

Cherez:
Are you saying if a man is hurt he should stay away from his responsibilities?
You said this, "Some husbands are so selfish that when they wrong you, you should happily still give them your body. Imagine after getting hurt so bad by a man, the man still want you to happily give sex in the night of that day, are women ROBOTS?"
So men are robots to endure, get insulted & bear bulk of the expenses (I'm talking about responsible men ooo)
My dear, some women enjoy being manipulative, they do not want equality but assume control
Their happiness is what's optimal in the home but not that of their partners
How would you say she'll deny her hubby cos she's not happy?
How can a human perfectly make you happy even from the human pov GOD doesn't make us happy all the time
However, nothing justifies adultery

Money is different from body, if someone hurts you, you feel weak all over the body, you feel angry, uneasy etc. Have you ever seen a woman who is angry and doesn't cook? No, we still cook and do other responsibilities, but you don't expect sex in the midnight after hurting a human being, not a ROBOT.
If you are saying the woman is not cooking, sweeping, taking care of the children due to having been hurt or quarrels with husband, then I would agree with you, but this case, the body which manifest the mind

Hmmn
I already know that non of these countries would think twice before banning Nigeria.
But in our own case we didn't and allowed them bring the virus here. Be waiting for when cases start reducing in America and other countries and how they would all banned us

Dangrace01:
If you are a married woman and you are here please say something. Why are married men complaining of this

Well, I didn't want to talk before, though I'm not married, but with this thread, Nigerian men are so unreasonable, all they think about is sex. When their mates are making money, rubbish thread with comments

This is why I tell girls to have something good that brings in money, get well educated, do things you are passionate about that brings you happiness.
Don't ever rely all your HAPPINESS on a man and don't ever MARRY a ugly man (ugly here means features you wouldn't like to see in your children), infact, you can go check up his family to be sure they do not have traits you dislike too much, because at the end of the day, your children MATTERS MOST, and think of the joy that would come out of having pretty children, it would make you forget anything that their father would have done to hurt you and people would think you have a happy home since they will not hear you fight or shout, thats the secret of some happy women. People would be saying she doesn't fight, she's calm, she doesn't nag, even your relative go love you die because when they visit, you will be giving them original smile and some gifts. Dress well, look good, use nice perf, Your blood pressure would be normal, even your husband go love you, yes, they are not too reasonable specie, He would be saying my wife is beautiful, calm, quiet, infact I'm just blessed to marry her,she doesn't give me any problem

The truth is that what some men want is to keep women in sadness and for them to be happy about it. Its so obvious childbirth, pregnancy, is not an easy thing for women, but just for them to endure for 3months till you are very healthy after childbirth is a problem for them, meanwhile you endured for 9 months to bring child for both of you, and even endured labour pains.

Men are just too selfish, if you dont have a child and giving them nonstop sex, they will still complain, if you do they will complain, if you don't want to run into depression, please do what I have said.

Some husbands are so selfish that when they wrong you, you should happily still give them your body. Imagine after getting hurt so bad by a man, the man still want you to happily give sex in the night of that day, are women ROBOTS?
This thread is so full of rubbish talks picking on women, as a woman, you should please wise up.

I'm 100% against full housewifes, 100% against women not getting good education because some men could run you crazy, and if at that time you are nothing, its possible you run mad.
My friend who is a clinical psychologist once told me highest number of his patients are women and most of the problems are caused by their husbands treatment.
If you are empowered as a woman, you will easily heal from such hurts and redirect your energy to something else like your children, your work when men misbehave, by that, your depression would be minimal and you would be healthy enough to take care of your children. A word is enough for the wise.

Hmnn

I hate when a single person thinks his influence is more than that of the people. I blame the stupid people of Nigerians by allowing people with money, influence to determine who wins election. We need a Nigeria where the person that would win election is solely determined by what the members of the society want, not what a connected influencial wealthy man wants.

We need to give power to people, but its the stupid people themselves that gave power to the wealthy ones and connected ones.

This will never make Nigeria progress, if God fathers determines who rules

Hmmn

piamily:
I see a lot of women wearing this stuff of recent . I really dunno if it’s for fashion or for a kind of spell or some sort of attraction.

Please what knowledge do you have about this. I’m really curious .

Lol,its beautiful. I like waist beads,leg chains, piercing (but I haven't pierced yet)
Its beautiful that's it

rockstarB:
Alright. I've just being seeing post recently broke shaming ladies so I didnt bother reading the OP.
If ladies should come out with their experience with an entitled broke dude, even you will be surprised.
So it's not a womans thing, tho it might be higher on womens side than men.
I'll share my personal experiences.
1) my first boyfriend; I dated him for over 5 years as a student. I was the one always giving him money, supporting his career as a good lady would do. By the time I left the relationship this guy was owing me over 200k which I didnt get back.
2)my encounter with one other guy; after I started working, he always talked about how much i was earning bla bla bla, the last time we saw he still talked about it. That's a subtle sign of a financially irresponsible man.
3)we were still in talking stage, he started from 2k, upgraded to 5k which I didnt borrow him. I realised he only talked to me when he needed money. I had to block him the last time he asked for help. I've not even entered the relationship you're already tasking me
4) talking stage too, he said he wanted to rent a house, his friend chased him out. Me wey don hear of Abuja guys and their gist. I japa for him straight up.
All these in space of less than 2 years and I'm not even the definition of a big girl, imagine what girls that earn huge will be facing, especially when you're in the marriage able stage and they sense youre desperate.
The only difference is men are subtle and intentional about their gold digging, women are mostly not. I think what young ladies needs are education about finance and empowerment. Let them know they can get whatever material thing they desire with their own money. Its beginning to seem like a culture rather than entitlement.

Sis, this behaviour is bad
Its good to be nice but please don't overdo it, when human beings see that you are too simple and too nice, they would want to take advantage of you. Please never ever give any guy any money until he gives you first.
Make him pay for Taxi, make him pay at the restaurant, make him pay everywhere, let him understand you appreciate men that spend for their wives, it doesn't mean you are wicked or anything, once he get used to him being the money caregiver, you can also help him out. But if you bring that hand first, you will just notice all the men would turn parasitic.

NevetsIbot:
This is a heads up for any feminist or gender bias person thinking I'm here taking a swing at the female folks... You're grossly mistaken.

I met this girl... 22yrs of age.. Should could converse well although most of the undertones of her sentences were always that of "manipulation".

She's damn good swimmer who spends a lot of her time at hotels that have pools. That was where we met cos I'm pretty big on swimming too. After constant contacts... She loved up and one thing led to another. She dances actually and I did my part to show her to offer her skills as a service to anyone who wants her and her crew to dance for their music videos.

Two months down the line - She was demanding almost 24hrs of my time - I was not going to give any woman the luxury of my whole day - when there was money to be made. She had to adjust.

So then - I ran at a loss at one of my trades yesterday which will mean I'll have to refund a friend of a huge sum. I got online, saw she Had dropped a text for me... She was asking for money for subscription (Can you be so broke at 22yrs that you can't manage to subscribe for yourself?) I ignored it and proceeded to tell her the mess that just happened.. I was about to take up my small phone to load her line .... Next thing she said was "SHA DO MY SUB"

Anger mixed with disappointments and rage but I chose to ignore her messages. Then she came with the barrage of slight insults saying I was ignoring her cos of 1k. And she went on ranting.

Told her how inconsiderate she was and how dissaponted I was at her. The money was not even the issue, it was her inability to not see my own loss just for her gains.

Bottom line - she said stuffs like "You know I have never asked you for anything, when have you ever told me to send my account number as a compensation for me not asking you for money?" - LIKE I WAS OBLIGATED TO REWARD HER FOR NOT ASKING ME FOR SHIT!

I asked her this " If I were Hot and I came to you for sex and you told me you just developed a stomach ache and I shrug if off and say "Sha lie down and let me do my thing"...... Would you not find it offensive that I totally ignored what was wrong with you? "

NOTE : We ain't had sex yet cos I just didn't want to.

She still maintained she was right - That was when I knew she was a lost cause and not the type worth my rebranding efforts.

Egbami... Ordinary 1k....how many mins does it even take a 15yr old to spend 1 thousand naira. And here was a 22yr old ignoring that her boyfriend made a very bad trade and lost a lot of money for it... ONE THOUSAND NAIRA..... O WRONG NAU. O WRONG!

I reloaded the airtime she needed on her line as her severance package... If 1k is more important than your boyfriends wellbeing , take it and go.


who's at fault?.. I obviously am for letting myself down and going for a girl way below my worth..... I'm not gonna let myself down anymore.

Working class ladies all the way from now

I'm angry with the girl myself, please leave her. I wouldn't do that to even someone I do not love, she doesn't love you please and she's not even human enough to know shes supposed to comfort you during distmoney.
If someone owes me 5k, and I want to ask him to give me 1k out of it, if she start conversation like that, I won't bother to ask her the money till I comfort her to a level I feel he would be fine enough to give me the money
Avoid people that are not human

iykbethany:
I love you too. Are you free this weekend? Let's get married immediately, I have black suit but no shoe. We fit manage my bathroom slippers abi?

We fit well, I have high heel shoe but no fanciful dress. How far with Wizkid? Do you like him? I'm thinking he would be the best bet for the day?

I love people that question their customs and traditions, not fools beating their chest up and down on traditions and cultures that have made them remain backward and at the lowest pyramid of humans. We need more sensible in Africa if we really want to grow.

No one is saying culture is bad, African culture is sweet, but the culture of oppression, discrimination, racism should be thrown off.

Nigerians are not just tribalist but proud ones and would boast of how racists they are in public.

And the funniest is each tribe consider themselves to be the best tribe and look down on other tribes (isn't that stupid?)
We need a society where tribalist would be shameful, in America where we have racist, most racists don't publicly come out to say they are one or hate on other race, but in Nigeria, its a thing of pride when someone confirms his hatred for another tribe.

iykbethany:
These Custom & Tradition in Igboland should be abolished. Osu, chest beating, bride price and worshipping of money.

1. Osu caste system should be abolished. I'm aware there's caste system in many countries around the world but we can't claim to be Christians and yet we hate and discriminate against people who did not offend us. I was told they were idol worshippers but from what I know all our fore fathers worshipped idols before the whites introduced christianity to us. Till date I don't understand what crime the OSU committed that will warrant us to discriminate against them from generation to generation yet we are Christians and we go to church every Sunday. Hypocrisy at it's best.

It's funny how we are shouting antichrist and Black lives matter but we do worse things against our brothers.

I've written several articles about this Osu caste system and I'm not gonna stop.

2. This senseless chest beating must stop. We claim to be the wisest people in the world yet low IQ fake pastors are playing lido with your brain and make you see everyone as an enemy. We claim to be this and that yet few corrupt politicians are looting our commonwealth and we still praise and hail them. We are the dumbest fools on earth.

We claim we are Developers, na we develop Indonesia, Malaysia and na we own all expensive properties in Lagos, Ghana, Abuja etc yet no road to our villages. Why can't we channel same energy to develop our own cities and make it the best in the world? What's wrong with us as a people?

3. We worship money too much and it needs to stop. We don't value people with integrity. During Christmas period most of us will only visit rich and successful guys that came back with expensive cars and mansions. Nobody cares about the poor jobless youths or those ones struggling to make it. We can't encourage them but tomorrow when they are caught in robbery, kidnapping, Yahoo, prostitution etc we start criticising them but how many of us will criticize and do something? I don't support crime of any type but if we start supporting each other crime will reduce drastically.

4. They need to reduce bride price in Igboland. For me 50k Naira should he enough for bride price. There's one babe that I've been eyejng since 3 years now, but in her village bride price is more than 400k, if they can reduce it to 50k I will marry her this December coz I've saved 30k, I'm sure I will save the remaining 20k before December.

Op, I love you, can we be friends?