₦airaland Forum

desgiezd:
Did this woman offend you to have punished her this way? Why were you so heartless? This is a woman made exclusively for you that's why she was able to tolerate all rubbish you put her through. In today's Nigeria, with a population of 200 million, I'm not sure there are 1000 women like your wife.

You need to value what you have, what God has given you. I'm just so pissed.

Go to God and beg for forgiveness and seek genuine repentance. At the same time, beg your wife genuinely. If you need to prostrate or kneel down before her, do so. Tell her that as a sinner, you have decided to come back home. Promise her never to maltreat her again. Continue begging her until she has forgiven you.

And when she has forgiven you, start taking her out. Treat her like a newly wed. Treat her in a way that she will give testimony in church by saying God has restored her happiness.
I don't know why I didn't come across this kind of woman when I wanted to marry.

There's just one single woman like her wife in this generation, and it is her wife. Lol

grossintel:
After doing this to your wife you expect her to forgive you? Hmm if na me I for don poison you and that your girlfriend one time. What sort of animal is this, even womanisers know their limit, you don't deserve to beloved or forgiven, you have not changed, you will continue hurting that woman when another girl hold you for work.

Bros una don vex?

Usorohtheman:
the kind of comments I'm reading here just baffles me. Do people not preach forgiveness again in their different religions?

So the woman should forgive abi? Forgiving is like opening a healed wound, she deserves to be happy, there's nothing forgivable in anything the man did, the embarrassment from her friends, family, when her husband is taking a side chick to parties

Fake stories by Nairaland Mods for engagement.

Anyway, the comments gives me some motivation/hope that I can still marry in Nigeria.

If this is halfway true, the man deserve to be beaten. I feel like cursing anyone who hopes the wife forgives her. What nonsense

LilMissFavvy:
Fake story, only a maddd woman would tolerate all this. Because a woman with brain who should experience half of this, is supposed to divorce you or gang up with her children and make life miserable for you, till you develop high BP. Is it now that you are an old man that your wife should accept you back? After you have wasted your years and youth on side chicks? You should be abandoned to loneliness in old age, you should be chased out of that house, Nigeria is a terrible country for a woman to marry into.

Fake story by Nairaland mods for engagement

Fake stories by Nairaland Mods for engagement.

Errors in this fiticioous story
The writer is bad writer, no one acts badly, this is a Nolywood story, life is not a one way traffic that a woman will always be good while the husband will always be wicked for no reason and the wife will be living with him as a good wife. Not possible, try and write in two ways in your story next time.

Your first sentence is I love my wife but I hurt her, when you love someone you don't hurt them.

Anyway, the comments gives me some motivation/hope that I can still marry in Nigeria.

If this is halfway true, the man deserve to be beaten. I feel like cursing anyone who hopes the wife forgives him. What nonsense

Ok

Samuel7nak:
I pray for a lady like you honestly..

Ig you are a good and sensible person, you will

sassysure:
That isn't me

Used that as an example.

I know, you said it is as long as that and slimmer. So I know it is beautiful

JasonJidenna:
Jasonscoolari.... But currently on ban.


Sorry for the late reply.

Take the number down

JasonJidenna:
Jasonscoolari.... But currently on ban.


Sorry for the late reply.

Your WhatsApp number please

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Ok

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JasonJidenna:
Dear Modestgal,


I Would love to learn along.

Waiting for you

JasonJidenna:
Dear Modestgal,


I Would love to learn along.

Can you please comment with your real monicker

JasonJidenna:
Dear Modestgal,


I Would love to learn along.

Okay, thank you. But your monicker is April 2020

sleit:
I assure you you wouldn't like it so much when combing feels like your brain is being uprooted.

I'd try the ACV rinse. Thanks.

You don't know how to manage your hair yet, my hair is coarse as well. And I don't even use comb at all

Im starting to learn how to talk like a TV presenter, if you want to learn along, let me know. Please you have to be advanced, I mean you must have been good with diction and correct pronunciation, and you must have deleted local accent from your tongue. This is a learn along, not a teaching
This is not American accent nor British Accent,but simply Presenters diction and style of talking.

I prefer British English to American English, if you are intrested, check my signature and chat me up there. If you are not serious, please don't waste my time as I'm extremely busy.
Again, I won't be teaching anyone anything

For goodness sake, if you ain't serious, don't chat me up.

sleit:
Hi!

What's your best tip for getting rid of dandruff and getting less coarse hair?

I love coarse hair because its natural and it's beautiful.
Try ACV rinse for dandruff, and don't braid for too long before renewing

optm:
Any tips for growing hair on a bald head ? Thanks

1. Lots of good vitamins
2/ biotin not less than 1000mcg daily
3. Scalp massage with hot oil

Kaykay999:
Please my front line hair can’t grow tall like others why
??

You are becoming bald.
You can solve it if you put a lot of efforts.

sassysure:
My hair is locked.
The same length with this one but small. This one is too big, abeg.
U might think it's fixing or attachment from far.
If u have bushy thick hair like me, go for locking.
So many styles to try on your hair and it cost me almost nothing to maintain this hair except the locking and washing time.

The only thing I put on my hair is locking gel.

Your hair is beautiful. Lock sisters are beautiful

Chuky7:
Am I A Yahoo Boy

Thanks for asking yourself

Frenchkiss564:
I suggest you alter your business model to cater for the emotional needs of your clients.

How?

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optm:
Learnt some things here. Thanks to the contributors . Anticipating more

You are welcome

Thiwalade:
One of the ways to build mental strength is hardship though you may think it's counterproductive but those who can endure harsh conditions and challenges are more mentally stronger than those who have it easy. The hardship we overcome on a daily basis is somehow linked with our mental fortitude. Although some situations seem insurmountable that the next thing on one's mind is suicide. I think suicide comes from being unable to overcome challenges over time. It's rarely a one time thought process. We get frustrated and these frustrations can harm our mental health, later this can result in suicidal thoughts. I believe if one makes little progress, overcome some challenges from time to time the thought of suicide will not be an option. I remember I once thought of suicide when I felt my life was stalling but when I started to make progress, I realized life is good and I'm looking forward earnestly to the future now. Remember your first heartbreak? You definitely became stronger.

Thanks for this

I agree

Lordsonn:
Greetings to you all. I want to go straight to the point. I opened this account because of my marital problems.

From the day I met my wife, she was after marriage. In less than two weeks of meeting her, she started pressurizing me to meet her family members which I succumbed to.

These are what she told me at the beginning of the relationship:

1) She had HND from Kaduna Polytechnics
2) She has Diploma in Computer Science
3) She is a professional cake baker
4) She was three months pregnant
5) That she was 27 years

My discoveries after marriage:

1) She doesn’t have any HND, infact no good WAEC result
2) She cannot even connect laptop to printer and print. She don’t know much about computer at all.
3) She doesn’t know how to bake cake. I discovered that the cake I asked her to bake for me, she gave the contract to her friend.
4) She was never pregnant. She had fibroid and that made her tummy big
5) She was 33 years.

NOTE: the reasons why I believed all she told me at the beginning was because she was a prophetess in her church. She speaks in tongues and prophesy many times and most of the prophecies came to pass.

I was even surprised that in less than two weeks of our relationship, she made move for sex and we started having sex. I did not even think of pre-marital sex because I thought she was a holy woman.

The problems after marriage: several people began to beg me to forgive her and continue with the marriage. I find it difficult but she was still living in my house. I was just being forced my her family and her family members persuaded some of my family members to beg me too. I tried to love her but hatred for her was just building in my heart.

The fibroid surgery was successfully done and she got pregnant and gave birth to a baby boy. I thought the coming of the child may make me to forgive her but I could not recover from her betrayal. I even hate her more.

She wrote WAEC last session and got nine credits but the memory of her betrayal is giving me a lot of psychological trauma. I love an educated woman and cannot see myself glued to an illiterate woman in the name of marriage.

Major problems that made me sent her out:

1) She refused to go to my church. She always want to go to her church and even want me to join her there which I refused.
2) She doesn’t like education at all. She hate going to school and will never carry book to read.
3) Anytime I have disagreement with her, she will call her elder brother. And they will come and talk to me, sometimes in a very condescending manner
4) She is not submissive, very arrogant and talks with anger, authoritatively.
5) She is a societal woman, she loves joining several associations of women and be going to meetings every sunday which I don't like.
6) She value clothes more than human being. She can use any money from the family purse to buy Hollandis, lase, George etc just to dress to her church for show off. I am introvert but she is extremely extrovert.

I sent her out of my house three weeks ago. She is trying to come back in the disguise that she doesn’t want her child to be only one, that it will make the child suffer in the future but I told her I cannot allow her to my house again. I love my little child and I cannot live with such a woman who is full of lies and pretense. I just have hatred for such kind of people.

What do you think I should do?

Your wife is a witch, this is why I don't go near pastors, Alfas, Babalawos, etc. Anyone who sees yesterday and tomorrow is a either a witch or using Evil spirit. Even people that dream, I don't walk near them because any time you fight with them, they will see you in their dreams as the root of their problems.

In fact people that go close to this servants of devils that sees future, I hate them because when you have a misunderstanding, they will take you to their pastors, Alfas etc, and you will become a witch

Goddys:
Yes it was never considered a mental health issue.

Another theory is that the circumstance of our birth as an average Nigeria hardens and enables us to face obstacles life throws at us.

How many poor and wretched people in Nigeria have you heard committed suicide. It is mainly those that had it easy with life from onset that relapse when life throws a shade at them.

Hmmn, there's wisdom in your words