₦airaland Forum

Goddys:
Influence of social media is the major cause of the increase in Nigeria. It was never our culture to commit suicide. In fact in Igbo land, it is an abomination that attracts severe penalty to the dead by throwing the corpse to an evil forest.

I think some of these cultures might have prevented many of our people from committing suicide in the past

This is showing how lackadaisical our authority is. That boy should be in jail but instead, they were laughing, no one is taking it serious

Don't be silent

What is the way out of this?

Thiwalade:
I commend you but you have no statistics to show a pattern in suicide as at back then. We are becoming more aware because of social media. One of the ways to build mental strength is hardship though you may think it's counterproductive but those who can endure harsh conditions and challenges are more mentally stronger than those who have it easy. The hardship we overcome on a daily basis is somehow linked with our mental fortitude. Although some situations seem insurmountable that the next thing on one's mind is suicide. I think suicide comes from being unable to overcome challenges over time. It's rarely a one time thought process. We get frustrated and these frustrations can harm our mental health, later this can result in suicidal thoughts. I believe if one makes little progress, overcome some challenges from time to time the thought of suicide will not be an option. I remember I once thought of suicide when I felt my life was stalling but when I started to make progress, I realized life is good and I'm looking forward earnestly to the future now. Remember your first heartbreak? You definitely became stronger.

I created a thread on this already, kindly proffer your solution there

@Tiwalade

Thiwalade

One of the worst effect of depression is SUICIDE, with Covid19, there have been lots of people committing suicide. Majority of these people are whites, and we've seen many white doctors committing suicide.

I noticed that in Africa we hardly commit suicide in the past. If you look at the trends of happenings in Nigeria, it is common for people that died in suicide to be ridiculed and mocked, in fact, our mothers, parents, friends use **Go and kill yourself** without a second thought and in Yoruba land, you can never scare your mother with suicide because you already know the answer, which is she will not follow you to the grave. Meanwhile, a white mother might burst into tears, take the child to a psychotherapist, and they would prescribe some certain drugs for the child.

With the advancement of the white folks in mental health, they have shunned many of these words or mockings. But Alas, they surpass us in cases of suicide and depression.

Despite the fact that we have more problems in this part of the world, it baffles me that the whites have more suicidal cases. Whenever I'm in the North or some part of the country where people are suffering, I look at some people, and tears drop from my eyes when I see them gisting or talking normally, and even smiling, because these people are people one would have thought they have no reason to be happy compared to our white folks. You will see whites children of ages below 12 commuting suicide, I really don't know how they got to know how to commit suicide.

Also in recent days in Nigeria, people are becoming more educated, and it would be rare for modern mother's to tell their children **Go and Kill yourself**, negative words are now being shunned compared to in the past, we now beg people not to kill themselves, our society is beginning to be less harsh as it was, this is when we are now having a higher number of suicidal cases.

To me, while I would shun mocking someone who commits suicide, I do not really think that pitying them has done any good by reducing cases of suicide.

What do you think?
Why is it increasing in Nigeria especially among young adults, don't tell me its because of Economy, because Nigeria was worst during Babangida Regime.

You can say its some chemical bla bla bla in the brain, why are Africans not having this same chemicals malfunctioning.
And with the rate at which we are copying whites peoples lifestyles, and we are approaching their problems, I feel a time will come that we would also be afflicted with a higher number of suicide cases, how do you think we can prevent this in the future?
Because a time is not coming, that humans will be free of CHALLENGES

Thiwalade:
Why are many judging the dead? Suicide is never an option, because you have the mental fortitude to overcome challenges doesn't mean your neighbor does. You may never truly know how it feels unless you're faced with a life or death situation.

Hmmn, you are right, but I noticed that in Africa we hardly commit suicide. If you look at the trends of happenings in Nigeria, it is common for people that died in suicide to be ridiculed and mocked, in fact, our mothers, parents, friends use **Go and kill yourself** without a second thought and in Yoruba land, you can never scare your mother with suicide because you already know the answer which is she will not follow you to the grave.
Meanwhile, our white folks that don't say those words, care much about mental health have many of their children, commit suicide. And in recent days in Nigeria, when people have started to really understand mental health and shunning those kind of talks, our society no more harsh as its used to be, it is now we are having more suicide cases.
To me, while I would shun mocking someone who commits suicide, I do not really think that pitying them has done any good by reducing cases of suicide.
What do you think?

Hmm

iamloyalty:
India movies is different from India series. I guess you are talking abt series (zee world) because India movies are one of the best in the world. Their stars are listed among the biggest stars globally. I dey follow their box office movies like steady as Nollywood turn nonsense.

Lol, its been more than 10years I have sat down to watch Indian movies.
Its over a year I have sat down to watch any movie.
I watched Nolywood last when I was in junior secondary school
Sorry, they are doing great, but too childish storyline for me.

Elpacino481:
Thanks. I'll chat you up later

Ok, please help edit my number from there

Amen

luvola:
My brother sent it to me and I can't just fill in my details just like that.

I am trying to verify the authenticity of this link so that they will not get the details of Nigerians to scam.

How far bros? What's upping? Anything for your child? I'm referring to the email you sent me, anything you want tell me?

mansakhalifa:
Oh my... *speechless*

You deserve a bottle of vodka for this.

Would prefer some bottles of coconut instead, where is the collection venue?

OYENIYIJK:
lamb101 and ModestGal and freesoul and grandstar and op and others, God bless all. I love this thread.
I love to become one - a billionaire but I can see it requires some level of craziness and arrogance. Well, let us make everything legit. And mind you those calling lala, it doesn't need because whoever needs something like this will be surfing the business section. It can't go to the front page with 4 pages when not celeb news or gossip.

I'm glad you like it, we will surely get there together by Gods grace. We will lift the Nation out of poverty by fire by force

RIP
One of the reasons I dislike Indian Movies is due to the moustache hair, I always feel like cutting it with blade for them. With slow motion, and yeye music & dances, I do run crazy whenever I'm watching Indian movies, its for children. I can NEVER watch Indian movies again

TenthMan:
You become a millionaire by inheritance or by your actions ( ).

0-Wishing/Praying for something is one thing.
1-Desiring something is another.
2-Positioning your self with an adequate knowledge and plan (specialized skill or specialized persons with adequate skills) in ensuring that thing is achieved is another thing.
3-Then executing the plan is another thing entirely. Taking action. Just doing it.
4-Now should this plan fail, trying again with some modification of the plan and not giving is as a matter of fact, another thing entirely.

Many Nigerians you see are at level 0. They have not gone beyond this level. Some have gone to level 4 and quit. Becoming a billionaire is not by luck. Unless your parents bequeath wealth to you it has to come by your own action. You have to work for it or steal for it or kill for it. Whatever it is you have to take some form of action.

Please look at the worlds Billionaires. All of them. It was by their actions. Granted some had opportunities provided for them by their parents in form of a head start. However, they had something to offer and took action. They failed multiple times and tried again to achieve their aim. It is real work to rise beyond your background and your economic situation. But it is possible. Now I shall provide you an example. Real life example.

Woman A, comes from a humble background. Poor family. Nothing much to her name. Just a little educated. She was married off to a man who beat the shit out of her daily. He would leave her without any money for feeding and stuff. Eventually, he moved out of the house. Stopped caring for the kids and the woman. He told her she was bad luck and he is not interested in her anymore. Daily she would come to ask for assistance to feed herself and her kids. I knew offering her money was not the best idea. It will only solve her problem temporarily. I asked her to go into business. She complained of capital. I told her I was not going to give her capital for the business. She was distraught because I have always helped. I told her to learn a skill. A vocation. That way she can earn her own money by offering a service. And this knowledge will be with her anywhere she goes.

She decided that she would learn Tailoring and Hair Dressing. I told her to choose one and she did. She chose tailoring. Paying for the training for her was not difficult. It cost me nothing. Unknown to me, she had seen the light and learnt hair dressing on her own. While she was learning how to make clothes she caught on the hair dressing bit because she already made hair for her kids. She completed the hair dressing in no time. She eventually completed the tailoring as well. From the hair dressing, she sat in front of her house every evening and made hair for kids within the area. Especially on Saturdays and Sundays. She latter decided to rent a shop. She had some money and I gave her a loan to complete the rent. I had to lie to her that the money is a loan she must repay back. In the shop she set up a small corner with a sewing machine and had a girl help her out with the hair dressing/making section. In no time she split both businesses. Tailoring business in one shop. Hair dressing salon in another. Eventually she decided she was going to learn better designs. She wanted to learn with a good designer who designs for high class Lagos (Eko) Women. Told her to take the chance.

Long story short this same woman is supplying ' Afrofusion' clothing to the UK today. She sells those African Tops and Skirts that Oyibos now mix with their own clothing. She makes the handbags too. As per her hair dressing business, she progressed this into make up and beauty accessories. I encouraged her to brand it with a proper brand name. A fellow here on nairaland even made her logo for her for less than 10k. Today this woman is planning on travelling to Vietnam, China and/or Dubai to brand her own wigs, make up kits (mascara, eye pencils), artificial nails, etc. etc. I MEAN WITH HER OWN BRAND NAME AND LOGO ON IT. Picture Vlisco, Nobel, Tara, etc.

IS SHE A BILLIONAIRE YET? The answer is no. Is she getting there? The answer is a resounding yes. Who knows how much she can scale her business to? Who knows where else she can divest to and hit is bigger than she already has?

Long story short, background and baseline economic situation can be a challenge, but it does not mean it cannot be surmounted. Wisdom and Knowledge properly applied to achieve a goal, through consistent action can overcome any challenge(s).

By the way, like you I am a motivator, mentor, influencer, coach and guide on entrepreneurship. I am also behind the MacBriggsons CIGI (Conglomerate Industries Group Incorporated) Limited brand.

Thanks so much, kindly lets connect more on other platforms

Dcnj:
Money lies with "People", in other words, "People" are money. The more people you can reach out to, the more money you can make. So also, the more valuable people you can win over the best chance of making money fast.

Look for an idea/innovation/invention/services that solves the problem of people and watch how their money gets into your account.

You need people as
a. Channel/links:
They will connect you with investors/invest in your idea/services/innovation or invention.

b. Customers:
They will pay/spend the money that will make you rich/wealthy from the idea/services etc you render

c. Marketers:
They will sell and promote your idea or services etc and bring more customers that will patronize your idea/services etc.


A typical example of this is Jack Ma... thought of a problem, seek to solve the problem and reaping from it's solution.

Truth is to become a Millionaire/Billionaire, one needs a level of exposure to people. One also needs to take advantage of the people he/she knows.

If your circle of friends aren't useful in making you who you aspire to be, then change them or prioritize them.

Best bet is, grace plays a key role in ones success in life especially if you are growing from "zero" to "hero" (ie from NOTHING to a "Billionaire"

You need to dare the odds, be unusual. Be known for something, then monetize it. Dare to be different. Once you are seen or known or publicized. Boom! It starts coming in.

Nevertheless, other ways to make it must not be the known process. There choices in life and the ones we make determines the type of Billionaire we will become - "Legal Billionaire" or "Illegal Billionaire"

Thanks, let's connect on other platforms please

Lekute:
Owo bawo.
me i be omo Epe.

Emabinu sir, resemble surname of someone I know from Owo

Walky3:
Yes,its very possible to indeed become rich up to billionaire level...though not easy. Given the odds you mentioned, the poor background and low level economy, it will take a determined Nigerian youth with an ambitious drive towards this goal. A youth who utilizes available opportunities, gets relevant connections to build towards this dream,leverages on the strengths of others,innovative with ideas and depends on God's grace too.

My journey towards wealth finally began when I met with the right people..I mean people who are already multimillionaires and whose mode of thinking sharpened my reasoning... and of course they became my mentors.
For me,becoming extremely rich( multimillionaire,billionaire) is a journey,not a destination...and you must continuously work on it. No doubt,one is not there yet but I still meet with these guys on their online Zoom cloud meetings, despite the Lockdown. [You can whatsapp 08038780708 for more info on such meetings].

Thanks for this great tip

blaskikv:
Just go into counseling job

No money there for now, requires me to develop it to a certain stage with my money before I could earn from it

bmdmixer:
maybe u feeling attached because dey are in foreign lands, africans n over seas sentiment

You sha wan abuse me abi? I feel attached to Nigerians the more, but for Nigerians, they become friends, I don't consider these one's as my friends

Elpacino481:
Ramadan Mubarak dear

Aamin
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Franzinni:
yeah white people are generally straight forward and hey, if you get to have them as good friends ...not a bad thing cus we are only as important as our connections ..


But bill them normal normal ... They understand the value of a good business transaction, so it shouldn't be a problem for you ...

If they wana tell you their life story listen and help ..then bill them normal normal haha dem no go vex ...

Thanks, listening to their life story can be too touching. I'm thinking of concentrating on Nigerian clients

WalkerMichael:
Stop charging them.

Will you be feeding me? My hair products cost 30k, will you be buying them for me? Will you be sending money to my account? Because I do cry when money in my account is in a bad state

bmdmixer:
what kind of biz u do? and u saying u get emotional and sleep with them also abi kini?

So I will sleep with people in the UK, US, Greece, etc from Nigeria? No be everyone dey dirty like you abeg, read what I posted, I get emotional with their problems when they tell me. They are usually females and I'm a female

ModelX:
You cannot long separate the emotions from transactional sex. Since you left that part to us, I have to assume your product is sexual content or something of the nature.

Lol, they are international client. My business have nothing to do with such things. It's branding & Smm services that I offer. Most times, they chat me first and tell me how they want me to help them

Franzinni:
Clients are not hard to find ...good clients are not impossible to find ...but a good friend....now that is something...

If you value business more, then you will know that business and friendship don't mix so be nice and empathic but ruthless when its time for making money ...

If you value friendship more, then you will know that good friendship involves willingness to sacrifice even at the expense to self..knowing FULLY well that the other person will do the same for you in a heart beat ...

So if you know the value of your friendship with these clients of yours, you would easily be able to gauge how much involvement you would like to have in their personal issues and how much you will like to avoid personal issues for yourself and chase that paper...

2 cents

They are the one that start such not me. You know how whites people could be, especially when they find you a good person

Just like people have been saying, you are a disgrace to humanity for thinking of touching your sister in law sexually. Your sister inlaw should be your sister as well if you are sane. I'm sure she doesn't have that thinking of sleeping with you, you are just presuming she does because of your dirtiness

chewwie:
You are a FOOL! A big one! Didn't you know your wife was a gossip before you married her? Your sister-in-law doesn't want to have sex with your sorry as, you want to have sex with her that's why you're reading meaning into her every move. I'm ashamed of you. Cut off your manhood and swallow, you're a disgrace to men all over the world

Gbam

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