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1. I have learn't that life is not to fair to anyone.

2. Having cash doesn't really mean you should spend unnecessarily

3. 90% of people you know want to mess/f.uck you up

4. Being a street guy doesn't really mean you should be on street

5. Believe in God/yourself, relying on others is a waste of time,

How about you?

grafixdon:
Learn how to give without expecting any favour in return. At least they remember you when they are in need, that shows how important you're. If you stop, you'll be very poor. That's ur Cross, carry it without any complain.

I always try to help others without expecting any favour in return but it seems they think it is their birth right for me to help them. Someone has been trying to chat me up for the past 1 week probably because he needs something from me, I decided to take my time before I gave him the stuffs. I finally gave him over the weekend.. I sent him a message this morning to know if what I gave him is working, he hasn't responded to my message since morning.. This is a guy that whenever i sent him a message when i never delivered, he responded back minutes after.

My complain is not really about this particular guy but majority of them ( That can never stop me from helping others).

It doesn't make sense seriously.

Sowore don turn to trollers

I always try to reflect on my action and inaction before I reach a conclusion. I realised that most people/friends only remember you when they are in need of help and the moment they got what they wanted, you are nobody to them.

I guess I am weak in that aspect cos the moment they seek for an help, I do not hesitate to help them cos most of the things they asked for cost me nothing/less even though I spend money to get those stuffs but I don't use them . Yet they make good money out of it ( not my problem though). They stop talking to you until when they are broke, come back and started telling stories in order to help them again.

Are they taking me for granted?

julietkcee:
Slay Queen geh different meaning

isn't it?

I am referring to Nigeria ladies definition of Slay queen

dollytino4real:
u dont ve 30billion as left over

And you think getting 30 billion naira na wasa?

Chai! See wetin Davido don cause

dollytino4real:
if u ve flaunt it u hear

i don't have to

Ain't slay King...

dollytino4real:
see u! if u get cash u will not talk like dat

Cash.. really?

Hearing new things.

N.B I ain't broke guy

dollytino4real:
u just escape from sambista or u ve been in 1920 too long? go work

My answer to your questions is NO and secondly, I can never be a victim cos I live with so many around.
I guess you are either one of the above or an aspiring one

Snow02:
exactly what I've been saying

A country where the president keep mute about killings of innocent people..Abeg that one na cuntry?

1. Slay Queens
2. Boss Chick

These are set of ladies who decided not to work but sell their bodies for money or just extort guys.

Olosho's are more than real girls. Guys beware

shyte hole country..

Afterall, Trump was right

Are these people normal?

How about family of the people who lost their lives and property. Any compensation yet?

I think some set of people/group are more Nigerian than others.

Nonsense

Daniel2289:
There is more to that dear..... Give to the Poor and the Needy.

To be honest with you , I see that as normal responsibility, unless if someone does not have a heart/conscience

I eat good food, drink to my satisfaction and once in a while, I do pay as you go ( mami).

How about you?

lol.. No better country

I know we all trust God, but I trust my sister more than anything. She has been my source of inspiration..
How about you?

Ogun state needs credible candidate from Yewa/Awori side..

Enough of marginalization

Proudly baawa

CAN beer you mean?

Purebeerry:
One day you will ask us if you should use tissue to wipe your bum.

Go pick beans if you are idle

I moved to a new area November ending last year 2017. I have been single for some time.. I decided though. There is a girl at a bar I normally go to enjoy myself.She is a bar attendant. She is an average girl according to me. This is my second time of trying to get her contact but one way or the other, I couldn't get it. May be my attitude of no interest since I have been going( I never ask her ).. I always trust my instinct but I believe i can't be right all the time.
Should i follow my instinct or I should try more?

Life can be sometimes funny.. One man's food is another's man poison.

And the same girl will be ignoring some other guys calls/sms

Oga oo

To be honest, our politicians are just hypocrite.. If you have been outside of Nigeria before and you got lucky to be elected , then no excuse of developing your country..

Even those who are currently leading us know what to do to better the live for their citizen but its like they are cursed whenever they clinched to power.

I am just curious. I normally put my phone off 10pm every crossover nights. Infact, I hardly return the call/sms . Some find it offensive but to me I see no different it's make. These are the set of people that have been calling/sms yet had little/no value to someones life.

Is new year call/sms necessary to you?

I have been keeping small klaro since 3 days ago.. Lighting it up on 12 exact

Op, na my honest answer to your question

Modified: Just added some liquor.. We are 7 minutes past 12:00 am here..

Happy New year to all Nairalander.. May God bless our hustle in this year 2018

#HustleWithNoMuscle

Man Utd is now an Okro soup..

Haba why now?

How about the high rate of poverty in the land?

Some problems such as past unfinished business, desperation or the need for love can lead to wrong choices. But so many people don't have any of those problems yet still fall the wrong person and this is why i decided to write an article to explain the reason behind that phenomenon. Love is the feelings we get when our brains believe that we found someone who can help us satisfy our most important needs.

The reason this correct definition doesn't appeal to some people is that it goes against what they saw in Twilight, what they read about in Romeo and Juliet and what they heard in romantic songs . As those forces combined worked on changing our beliefs about love we started to think of love in a way that usually leads to the wrong choices. Let's suppose you took the definition of love from a song , that matches what you really want to hear, instead of science.

In such a case as soon as you meet someone and experience some butterflies you will think that this person is the one and that he is your soulmate forgetting that he might be a totally incorrect match.

After sometime the butterflies will fade, the chemicals will stop being produced and you will find yourself facing the fact of being with someone who doesn't really match your needs.

The right partner for you is the one who can help you satisfy your important long term needs and not your short term bursts of emotions. And this is why the process of choosing the right person must begin with finding out your important core needs.

But there is a trick here. Don't ever confuse long term needs with short term ones. If you don't have self confidence then you might need to be around a confident and assertive person but if one day you built confidence then this need will go away.

Love can sometimes disappear because a person picked a partner based on short term needs that no longer exist.

Once you write down your needs you need to consciously control your desires by moving yourself away from the people you are attracted to if they don't meet your long term needs.

Our subconscious minds force our bodies to release certain chemicals that makes us feel happy when it believes that it found the right match for us. But there is a very big problem with that approach which is that the subconscious mind can make so many mistakes during the selection process and thus send you those feelings even though the person is a horrible long term match.

In other words without a proper level of conscious control you will easily give in to your desires and you might fall in love with the wrong person. It all begins by self understanding. Next comes self discipline which can help you make the right choices without being affected much by emotions.

Source: https://web.facebook.com/forum9ja/posts/1715144588547334

MrBrownJay1:
can you give us any reason as to WHY YOU SHOULD GO to that party?!

I don't want people to term it as act of jealousy/feeling too big

I need random opinion about this. A friend invited me for a Xmas party tomorrow. This is a guy who can never help you in anyways( financially, morally), instead showing off to oppress you. To be honest I have nothing against him but I don't just feel comfortable attending the party.. I haven't made up my mind yet though..

Pls advise

1. Mirror by Justin Timberlake
2. Somebody I used to know by Goyte ft Kimbra
3. Symphony by Clean bandit ft Zara Larsson
4. I was here by Beyonce
5. The greatest by Sia

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