₦airaland Forum

Coolcalmcollect:
I guess you fell from your moms back as a baby hence your slow thinking capacity.
I pity your fada, he must have been a chief simp to birth a mega simp as u

What you put up there shows your background. I rather pass and have healthy discussion with men, not boys and retards.

Mikehot:
maybe because it's a "disease isolation centre" that needs to be curtailed away from the populated environs.

It sure wasn't built overnight and they know why they chooses such location

You're right. That's HID Awolowo's hospital. It's a big hospital that has been neglected for many years. With this, it can be revived and turned to a standard hospital.

Biglittlelois:
He is under no obligation to be in the boy's life anymore, it's a choice he has to make on his own, and pls this not knowing what the future holds bs is becoming stale, seems most people use it as a manipulation tactic to force someone to do what they do not want to do, and I know what you mean by saying that is if the boy becomes successful, he'd loose out, but who cares, so freeking what if that happens, is it his fault that his mum was a cheat, instead, when the boy come of age and sees things logically as a man, he will appreciate Op for taking care of him as his son for 12 years.

So my advice is to divorce his wife, she should leave with her son, in fact, if I'm Op, I'll look for ways to find out who the real father is cos the boy deserves to know his real father.

Good. Your intervention is not complete ma'am. What about the welfare of the young girl putting into consideration the man's job?

Cleanworld:
I presume in this case that the real father doesn't even know any about it. that's women for you and to bust your bubbles 60% of Nigerian homes are in this situation. its pathetic.

keep safe

That's what have been saying. They have called me all sorts. Mad, foolish, etc. If only DNA can be done on all of us, we would be shocked.

Biglittlelois:
I'm trying to understand the kind of thought process you have for you to be able to type out all these, you say he should get a divorce and then tell him to love his wife and take the secret to his grave, why are you contradicting yourself?

Different options. He can choose from any. In every marriage, there are certain secrets couple live with till end. Some might not be able to keep such while some would. Different strokes for different folks.

It's a hard decision but don't use how pestering the issue is to take a decision. Even in divorce without any extra marital affairs, the kids bear the brunt.

What am trying to tell Op is that, he should consider the kids before he acts. Not because of today but tomorrow we all don't know. The future and happiness of the family lies in his decision.

Like the yoruba adage - Okun o kin wa ruru, ka wa ruru. It requires lots of wisdom and patience

What would you advise?

phockallmods:
He's not a nurse. He's a quack.

What makes you better off.

Ancientbeing:
He's 19 or there about. She's not telling me what i want to hear. She's 16
I dont know anymore

With that her resentment, lots have happened. Action speaks louder. However, to avoid being judgemental, find an elderly woman you think she can open up to.

Don't hand over but use wisdom to intiate the elderly into the issue. It shouldn't be as if you are reporting her. You need to know the extent of the damage so as to understand how to intervene and work on her psychology. It's very important. Minor though but she already know alot if not more than you. Use wisdom before action.

tensazangetsu20:
Use this downtown period to skill up and trust me you will enjoy Upwork.

I delved into Data Entry, web research and others. I do buy connect as well. However, I realized proposal is my problem. Some don't like reading epistles while others do. Can you share a sample of one your proposal? I can work around it to develop mine. I use a generic one which seems to be my low job

Ancientbeing:
I am very furious right now. I barged into my sis room and caught the foolish house boy inserting it forcefully into her. Yes!! He was forcing his disgusting manhood into my virgin sister. I trusted this goat but he has proven otherwise.


On a second thought, i am withholding his picture. I dont know what to do as my parents haven't heard about this yet. Damn! I dont even know how long this has been going on. For f*cks sake, she's a minor. Idiots are in this world indeed. Of all the girls out there, my sister?? I want to just destroy him now!!

How old is guy in question?

How long has he been in your house?

How old is the little girl? Asking to know if she can share what has been happening all these while. She would say the truth. From there, you can decide on what to do to the boy.

Lesson learnt. Trust nobody except yourself. The world has changed so much that the people we less expect to find in such situations, fall our hands. Handle with care and patience.

Make sure the little girl is safe henceforth. She has been exposed, so you need to try as much as possible to change her mind psychologically as soon as possible.

tensazangetsu20:
I don't know about Fiverr but on Upwork it honestly just comes down to writing good proposals. Most people write really shit proposals and you also have to send out a lot of proposals to get any jobs. Since I joined Upwork in January, I have sent out over a 100 proposals. I got around 12 responses but everything has slowed down now due to the virus. My present contracts were paused and upcoming interviews were suspended. If not for that, I should have been making at least 400k per month from April and I just joined ending of January. You also need to send a lot of proposals. You don't just send 2, 3 proposals and come crying that Upwork doesn't work. Just keep money to buy connects it's an investment. Even the top freelancers had a hard time starting.

Another thing is the kind of skills you possess. Some skills are totally useless especially for a Nigerian freelancer. Writing is one of them. Most westerners will always give their writing jobs to native English speakers and most writing jobs pay shit. 5 dollars for 3000 words. 10 dollars per month to write a lot of shit articles. I am in the digital marketing niche but I am trying to learn more skills especially in programming. The best jobs are in programming. At any given moment, there are three times more web development jobs posted than there are digital marketing jobs. If you doubt me you can use the advanced feature to check. Besides, web development is just one aspect of programming there's app development, AI, machine learning, data science, business enterprise software development alongside other IT fields which are less competitive and have jobs paying in the hundreds to thousands of dollars.

To succeed on Upwork, just get the right skill and make sure you are good at it. Keep at least 50000 for buying connects to send out proposals. The more proposals you send, the higher your chances of getting jobs.

Thank you so much for the insight. God bless

Anonime1105:
@ bolded For real bro, for real cos giving up is a no no.

How did you get your token and account verified on upwork

Working ni o. My profile is 2yrs old. After you get some work, you would be asked to verify your account. ID and video call.

Anonime1105:
Why is it so hard for Nigerians to get gigs on Fiverr and upwork

Seriously, it's a big question. I have stopped working on Fiveer. Still on Upwork though. I realized, if you have a token on Upwork, get verified and stay online, getting gigs is little bit fair than Fiveer.

Hustle just have to continue

Leebeedo:
Writing your NCLEX soon when you didn't school in USA. Keep fooling yourself and your kind on nairaland.

That is where you goofed. Despite your place of abode and academic qualifications, you don't know they sit for NCLEX outside USA? Now, I doubt your Nursing profession. They sit for it in Phillipines and South Africa. Google is your best friend.

najib632:
you're mad.

Be civil in your response and always make sure you read properly before you respond to comments. It will safe you a lot of bad energy.

With your age, marriage is not in your to do list. When you get married, you will not be myopic in handling issues.

The best advice anyone can give is to divorce. It was an option I gave but there is a price to pay. If he accepts as well, there is a price to pay. It's either happiness for himself or for the kids or for both. Whichever he decides, he would be the one to face the consequences.

You can see why I said, marriage is meant for matured minds.

Let's assist each other during this stay at home and stay safe era.

If you know any freelancing site,kindly share. I would start with few

Upwork

Fiveer

LatinHire

Peopleperhour

Add yours.

Learning the Steps for future use

WES Verification (2 - 3 months)

IELTS

Brb

Uyi168:
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The part where u said is his destiny is what I don't get.......
The marriage is already gone...

Probably to you, the marriage is gone. Marriage entails lots of patience. Sometimes, it is not the way you see things that you handle them especially when kids are involved. It takes a lot of patience and communication.

If our parent told us their experiences in marriage, you would never close your mouth. They endured lots of things. Hiccups in marriage emanates in different forms. Just prayerful

Uyi168:
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Take is as his destiny...
Wtf does that mean?

What would you advice? . The last resort is divorce. Will that solve the problem? It will to a certain stage but if you put the welfare of the kids into consideration, the man has no choice than to let go. It is difficult, I know. The emotional trauma is enough for the boy in the nearest future.

The woman as well would need to re-trace her steps to ascertain the present location of the father. She may not even know. We can't judge her because we have not heard her own side of the story. That alone is psychological trauma for her.

The man would also be affected till he dies because, anything he thinks about it, he gets worried and disturbed.

At this stage, maturity sets in. This issue is not for the faint hearted at all.

See, life is very funny. Let me narrate a scenario. A guy impregnates a lady and refused to take responsibility. The lady at that stage is scared of abortion. She would have to find a way out. As a guy who happens to his fiance, she explains such to you, would you give her money to abort or you take responsibility or break up. Remember, you love her dearly, ready for marriage and this 6 happens.

Some guys would take responsibility while some would let her abort and some would break up.

Biggie225:
It doesn't make sense,,..stay at home doing nothing...African man lacks creativity...why should we always copy white people and their madness.....it doesn't make sense.sit at home is there master plan just to destroy Africa...

Sure, it will. No preparation for the downtrodden. I trust Nigerians, by Wednesday, you start seeing pressure on the government else, yawa go dey.

Emaprince:
I tire

If I was in his shoes, many things will be disturbing me. Like when she was busy opening her legs for another man while I was hustling to pay our bills...then think of the fact that she was so irresponsible enough to get bleeped by another man without condom. This shows she has no regards whatsoever for the marriage. She is very stupid as far as I am concerned.

I have a big problem with married folks who goes about sleeping around without protection.

And for a married woman? She is totally useless...because it could result to pregnancy.

How can you be in one mans house and be getting pregnant for another. She is a w.hore

Note : The lady was not married when she conceived. It was a long distance relationship that caused the havoc. Though, that is not an excuse.

AududuNine11:
I am not understanding anything you have narrated. It's not adding up.

My initial response to you was based on the assumption that you have been onboarded and have gotten instructions to start answering questions.

"Assumption"

That was where you got it wrong initially. You did not understand my post, instead of you to ask for more elaboration, you abused me just because you thought I once asked a question that deserves such response.

AududuNine11:
If I'm not mistaken, were you the person who complained about not receiving payment for Feb, whom I asked to contact LatinHire?

What was the feedback?

I find your case puzzling...

How did you come about the questions you were answering which certainly are not questions from the content tool?

Read up. I have never asked any question here before except this. Now, you see why you have to be patient when responding to avoid mistaken identity and also learn.

How is why I asked the question

Good the court are not in process. Good, you also have patience to ask on how to handle it perfectly. I appreciate that in you. You are manly.

Now, to the solution. It's going to be a hard one. I don't know how you can handle what am about to advise but with your patience and manly stand, I think you would be able.

Op, this life, we are faced with different tribulations. Yours will differ from mine. To be frank, you went too far and now you have to be bold enough to face the consequence. It's just like couples checking each other's phone. They will definitely see something they never planned. Either get depressed or break up.

You have two options but before you take any, let the children in question be your first reason to decide

The first option is, tell your wife and seek for divorce. If you divorce, your daughter would live separately which is a problem to you because rarely would have the chance to train her.

Second, take it as your destiny. The greatest secret you will take down to your grave. Accept fate, forgive and move on as if nothing happened. It's easy said than done but that's the truth. We all have secrets and this should be added to yours. Love your wife as well.

AududuNine11:
WHy did you refrain from using the awkward words? You call my reply tantrums, okay. SO you can blow big grammar but cannot comprehend simple statements written in English, black and white, in the training manual given to you?

It is not as if any of your intended awkward words mean anything to me... You can go ahead and make a fool of yourself...

You failed to read properly and ask cogent questions hence, my thought to let it pass but since you insist, read below.

Now, let me bring you up to speed. I stumbled on this group, followed and decided to give a shot. On the front page, I saw LH which I applied and after the promised 10days, I got no response. I read through comments and realized they were not recruiting. I let go till they respond.

Perusing further, I saw brainly, applied and realized I was just answering questions and tackling challenges without any form of payment. Googled and realized, I can't earn on brainly. That spur me to ask the question here which you answered with frustration.

I ain't stealing your work. It's a free world. I work on other freelancing sites as well. Just spreading my tentacles. Hope you got the message now?

AududuNine11:
na because of people like una LatinHire don send us another warning email again just this evening... Lol

Yes, go ahead. Complete the challenge

Read your comment again, you'd see how your brain is observing social distancing from you...

Chebi latinHire was discovered and controlled by me, that is why you should keep banking on me to "show you way" on how to answer questions. Na people like you go copy person Matric number join during exam... Lol... Wait for a big clown to "show you way"...

Sometimes, person need to reply some persons according to their folly... This is not the first time the dude would come here and be convulsing upandan like say anybody owe am anything...

I would have you awkward words on you but I wouldn't. Let it pass. I asked simple question and you resulted in tantrums.

Please, I want to ask, must I complete the challenges on brainly before my account details is requested.? I can't find any account information on the site. Please, enlighten. Thanks

This people should use this money to complete the Lagos - Ibadan expressway and other ongoing projects.

Give us a data bank like other nations.

Build standard hospital in the six go-political zones.

All these donations would be misused and siphoned again. Same old shit.

Casalindal:
So I got this mail today and since the monika doesn’t not got the balls to share, she reached out to me to help out... if you got any useful advice you could drop them as she will be reading thank you

Hi casalinda, please help keep me anonymous for reason personal to me as got families here. So I got married to this lovely man from Ogun state at first it was beautiful and our union was peaceful until I got pregnant and it seem that was the beginning of my DOOM. 5month into my pregnancy I had contraction which was unusual and it eventually cause me losing my child, 3days after this my husband started misbehaving and blame the whole process on me and blame me for not saving our baby life it make it seem I was the one controlling the narrative. Things got bad that within a week my husband filed for a divorce which it was finally granted and I lost everything I mean totally everything. I don’t know what to make out of myself as I have resulted into hating men and especially Yoruba men I am losing my mind and I am confused. Please help me post this I dnt know where else to go or what else I should do

Who granted the divorce and where?

What type of marriage was it?

Where did they get married?

How old are the couple?

What's their religion?..

If the fellow can answer the questions here, there is still a way out.

OdefaGirl:
We are not here to drag who takes the lead or not.....let there be healing in the land.


I have one question that begs for answer(s),
Would a survivor of Covid 19 be infected again if exposed to the virus?

It's bi-phasic. According to researchers, virus don't die. I wonder the treatment given to these people.

Dolarman:
Social Work and Community Development at both Undergraduate and Post Graduate.

I thought you specialize at post-graduate level. Your alma-mata, pls