₦airaland Forum

Mumu08:
For crying out loud, what's Nigerian desperation on this Japa thing sef. Ahahaha. You even see them celebrating and bragging about getting Visa to go and constituting nuisance in another man's land. Some of them don't even have anything tangible to go and do there, but the peer pressure and the prestige that cones with "have u heard ABC has japa go UK and the begging that their family member will be begging them to show them the way, actually push some of them to this. You see some of them borrowing close to 100million just on this Japa matter. You now ask them wetin dey pursues them. Even if they have a triving business in Naija And nothing dey pursues, they'll Never believe they can be anything in life until they take their hard earned money go UK for study.

sadly, the only way that most will learn is after going to their Eldorado, and understanding 1st hand how tough life can be abroad (for some).
by the time proper cold weather, unemployment and/or cleanish dishes/toilets from morning til night for peanuts, illegal immigration and hunger catch them, thats when they will see the value of Nigeria and having family close by.
thats a valuable experience that many would cherish forever while many would regret.

you have to be strong minded in order to enjoy yourself with these same people... you just need self control and to not do the things that you are against.

just because people around you drink, doesnt mean you have to.
just because people around you smoke, doesnt mean you have to.
...and you can still have fun together.

i think you meant female E-FRIENDS...

guobe:
The economy is harsh you may not really blame them for running away from the country.Guy you may have 5 million naira in Nigeria before you get married and when you eventually get married within two years that money is gone and you go borrowing.I know what I am talking about.

abeg, dont blame the economy for foolish ignorant married people having children they cannot take care of, and subsequently abandoning these same children for 7 long years, while they go abroad (to possibly or not make it)!

are you now claiming that after 7 long years in the UK, its still the same old "Nigerian harsh economy" that makes these useless parents not come back for their children?!?!?1

Gloriagee:
May my paths never cross with anyone as insensitive as you. Peace

its called BEING REAL, and has nothing to do with being sensitive and/or emotional (about this issue)... like many of you women out there.
you'd rather a man be miserable for the rest of his life, with a "possibly" infertile woman, rather than finding an easy solution to their problems.
ok madam...
***spit on floor***

blame African/Nigerian society for that... so many broke legged useless married ignoramus quick to have children after marriage, even though they are not emotionally/physically/financially fit to care for these children the proper way.

i would also blame the foolish grandparents who accept to take care of these abandoned children... if it was me, i would not take care of these kids, even for one day. you had them, you take care of them! thats what BEING RESPONSIBLE tastes like.

Gloriagee:
Waoh, I marvel at your short sightedness. Heck, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. I have a problem with magnifying wat the husband desires above so many things like his ultimate well being, his conscience and his wife's feelings.
Its just 3 years and hes yet to explore the Ivf option.

Omg at some Nig men and the kind of well meaning advise you all dish out on this Nairaland. Walahhi, I am in shock...

you see, you again are focussing on the wrong things.... you are hellbent on making this "possibly" infertile wife happy, while i am just trying to give MY opinion on what the OP should do. but hey, we DONT have to have the same opinion on this subject. you have yours and i have mine.

see how you are quick to come up with irrelevant issues such as:
A) the feelings of the possibly" infertile wife (while disregarding the feelings of the husband) and/or B) their marriage being "only" 3 yrs old (while disregarding that it takes just a second to get someone pregnant) and/or C) them possibly wasting millions on IVF (while disregarding the fact that it would be WAY cheaper to simply get a new wife)

we understand that NO woman wants to be looked at as a failure but sometimes you have to accept the facts. in Nigeria, this woman (who cant give her husband children) is a failure.
dont shoot the messenger and blame Nigerian society for that mindset!

who wouldnt want to go back to their childhood?
- NO WORRIES IN THE WORLD
- FREE HOUSE WITH NO RENT/MORTGAGE
- FREE FOOD
- FUN TIME ALL DAY EVERYDAY
- NO RESPONSIBILITIES

KanwuliaExtra:
I say I have APC-INEC C-R-I-M-I-N-A-L-S!!!!!
Real YAHOO-YAHOO GANG O!
I am so thankful I am an older parent.
I have PLENTY OF TIME TO PLAY POLICE..✅[color=#006600][/color]

bro, you have to be James Bond with them kids today, because even if they are friends with a close neighbors children (and/or are nice to neighbors to get their passwords), then they can get access there. a friend put a keylogging tracker on his kids phone and knows exactly who hey are with, where they are and what they do on their hone ....at all times (which i believe is a bit too much)!

but then again, we did worse craziness when we were kids, just not on such a technological level.

nothing wrong with the act...it is just an easier way to get contacts with possible future (fukc)mates or even more. the issue is to understand (from the get go) that anyone can create a profile and put fake pictures in it and write fake nonsense about their imaginary self....so until you actually meet the real person face to face, dont believe anything they may write about themselves. dont waste too much time talking online and be quick to try to meet them in real life.
when you finally meet them, if for ANY REASON they are not the person they portrayed to be in their profile, RUUUUUN!

Gloriagee:
Waoh, to hell with what a woman he took vows to cherish and care for throughout the course of their marriage thinks.

Yeah, I could buy into that school of thought if she was troublesome or a bad partner but for a health issue which is outside her control, waoh, just wawu

again, take away your misplaced emotions from that matter and instead focus on what this husband DESIRES. nothing else!

truly, who cares what that "possibly" infertile woman thinks?! marriage here doesnt matter; wifey here doesnt matter...what matters is that IN NIGERIAN SOCIETY, a married man needs children (even better if male ones). now, you can sit here and pretend that having children is NO BIG DEAL IN MARRIAGE (and you would somehow be right if you lived in the west), but not in Africa.

in Africa, having children in marriage is a BIG DEAL.... 99.999% of African men get married to have children, and if you take children out of the equation, then majority of these African men wouldnt get married, to begin with. so getting a 2nd wife is a Better solution than divorcing the "possibly" infertile 1st wife

at least, let us all be HONEST here.....

Gerrard59:
For the love of whatever you worship, please don't modify your post.

bro i wont take it down.... let this be a reminder for him that he should stand for all the tribalistic insults he wrote on NL!

KanwuliaExtra:
Go to settings
Account
Wi-Fi user information

It is all there!
Anyone can work into your house and get that info by operating your TV!

1Sharon:
Probably a smart TV

i am safe to say that, on LG smart TVs, you cant as i didnt put accounts on any of the TVs at home (but will have to look into it, if THEY create a secret account on the TV).

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KanwuliaExtra:
If course!
4 grand kids.
My last 2 are teenagers!
The first 2 are out of the house.

bro you are extra tough on these kids, but i guess each and everyone knows the type of children they have, thus best suited to know what works for them.

KanwuliaExtra:
For boys, always LOCK YOUR FRIDGE!✅
You know f like to chop well well!

ah no, that i cannot do....so long as it aint junk food, let them eat bellyfull.... before they go to school and act like hungry begging kids during school meals.

KanwuliaExtra:
Come to find out you can obtain the Wi-Fi password FROM THE TV!
I changed password taya ke!

lol, you had me checking the TV right now and cant see how they could get the password from there...pls we are here to learn, tell/teach us more on the above in bold.

Hypnotise:
You need money to be happy simply because it solves like 80% of whatever problems.

most mentally poor people think like that... they will blame all their unhappiness on being poor, not knowing that being happy has nothing to do with money.

KanwuliaExtra:
Corrrrrect!

I will NEVER send dem to boarding school lai lai!

I go raid dem room carry dem phone for night.
OMO! Westin my eyes see dia ehn?
Even me for dis age konnot compete!

I just confiscated ALL PHONES JEJE and removed them from my family plan.

Then they graduated to stealing discarded phones or borrowed discarded phones from their classmates to tap into my Wi-Fi

APC - INEC C-R-I-M-I-N-A-L-S!!!!

Thank my Gad I am techno savvy!
I activated my parental control feature on my home network and disconnected ALL DEVICES I DID NOT RECOGNIZE.✅ Dem weak!

bwaaaaaah! changing the wifi password would have them lose their mind... but i learned the hard way that some smart pikin will connect cables directly unto the router for network, lol!
all in all, it is your home and you are the parent, so they must obey your rules or face the consequences.

take both parents out and spend 100k on a nice fancy location/outing/meal for them....

unless you come from a single parent family, both your parents deserve the exact same respect/love as BOTH OF THEM made you who you are today. if father needs help today, help him fully, same goes if mother needed help today.

are divorces banned on your side of the forrest?!

eglobalcafe:
Hello roommate, please I need advice on my marriage please, I should have ask this questions to people around me but I don't want them to use that against me later, that's why I prefer to come here and ask this question anonymously, please help me,

My problem is, I got married 3 years ago and me and my wife have been finding it difficult to get pregnant, we went to hospital and it's hormonal imbalance, we have tried and it's still not working and we were advised to come for IVF, which will cost me 1.5m,
Please note I b met my wife as a virgin.
I love my wife and I have never used this pregnancy issues against her like making her feel bad or insulting her, rather I have been the one talking her out of depression because of this child of a thing, am confused because am getting feed up, my mother said, na God they give person piking, and we should focus on herbs. But am getting fed up and my wife loves me so much, same to me but whenever I see my friends who are not even married shows their children or visits me I get weak and pained same as my wife. Am Confused and my mum always tell me this, do what you need to do at this your early age so you won't suffer when you're old so you have children to take care of you, am 35 and my wife is getting to 30 this year. My wife is so jealous, she said she's greedy when it's comes to her husband that she doesn't want to share me with anyone. And she said if I want to get another wife I should let her know so she can goto her father's house, I never told her I want to marry another woman but due to she can't give me children now makes her say all this . Please help me as I have the urge to impregnate another woman just because I need a child. Please those who are married help me. I wish to be patient with her till God bless us. But me and my wife not happy. We are doing well atleast conformable and she does not lack anything.

use your head wisely and stop focussing on what others want... ask yourself these simple questions: WHAT DO YOU WANT? and WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO TO ATTAIN IT?
if you believe that the solution to your problem is to get a 2nd wife, then by all means, get a 2nd wife and to hell with what wife #1 is saying.

KanwuliaExtra:
From ages 10 and above, children should not be spanked.

1. Children are prone to disobedient behaviors and are not fully developed cognitively to understand consequences of their actions.
Spanking children under 10 should be avoided and used only as a last resort for correcting bad behavior.

2. Children above 10 are naturally stubborn and will become immune to spanking having received spankings for the first 10 years of their lives.
They actually brace themselves for the spankings and damn the consequences.

3. Spanking should be stopped entirely when a child reaches teenage years. At this rebellious stage, you should be ready for WAR! Spanking is never the answer.

You constantly have to battle between trying to protect your young children and throwing in the towel. Many families have opted for sending their children to boarding schools or abroad to pass off the responsibilty to others to save the situation.

in this day and age, take away their fancy gadgets (phone/tablets/playstation etc) and/or take away their play time and instead punish them with house chores etc
sending a child to boarding school is BY FAR the worst move ever.

Katcall:
most of these gals online are beggars. They will asking for money from someone they've never met

just ignore these brokeass hungry begging biatches and move to the next girl...et voila!

all these yeye biatches who are making unknwn dudes Whatsapp official, while their own family doesnt even know who the bloke is.

poverty is real...some unfortunate biatches will even do the same for 5k, let alone 20k!

Katcall:
where can one get free sex like this

it all depends on how you look and if you know how to chat up women with funny interesting convos... but i would say, using Tinder is a good start!

Creamcrest:
I have deleted most of my tribalist comments just now sorry if it offends you.
I thought I was catching fun,not like I hate any tribe.
Kindly help me delete this post.

come on bro, after insulting people because of their tribes, you now want to pretend that you will like to date an Igbo lady?!?!? bloody hypocrite!

there is nothing funny (or cathcing fun) about insulting people on NL because of their tribe.

Prettyballer:
Thanks but i feel it getting too much i need to grow on other aspect of life till now i cant say maybe it because of this sex thing i havent concieve

good/satsifying sex is a very important part of a good marriage... you can grow other aspects of your marriage while still satisfying your husband. the fact that you are getting addicted to it, is another matter altogether. some women realize after (virgin) marriage that they are nymphos and cant be satisfied, therefore need sex ALL THE TIME.

here is a very important question: did you go to your husband's office because you wanted to satisfy HIM or YOURSELF?!

shaybebaby:
It depends on what use I have in mind for the broken glass.

whatever use you may have for it....if you accepted it to be broken, and bought it as such, then dont try to change it afterwards. most useless good for nothing men who get married, dont believe that they are useless... they only believe that you women are so desperate for a man that you are willing to marry any men, even a broken one.

Maybe it started it's life as a cup, but seeing as it's now broken, it would be sheer foolishness to keep treating it like a cup.

as i stated earlier....

MrBrownJay1:
LADIES LADIES LADIES!!!!
lets get something straight....women dont submit to men in marriage because we make all the money, you guys submit because thats what your CULTURE teaches you to do; because thats what you RELIGION teaches you to do; because thats what SOCIETY teaches you to do.
money has absolutely NOTHING to do with the issue of women submitting to men in marriage and/or men being the head of the family.

good anaconda don catch you... there is nothing wrong with you jor as sex is a dirty deed (even in marriage)!

you have turned into the dirty slut that your husband desires, well done!

enjoy the ride and hopefully the sex intensity remains the same forever.

probably got diagnosed with a deadly ailment... and therefore is preparing for the outcome. HOLY CHARLATAN!