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Family / Re: How Would You Handle A Partner's Drastic Personality Change During Hard Times? by MrOpp(m): 3:37pm On Oct 31, 2023 |
Many individuals find themselves in unfortunate situations within marriage due to a lack of proper insight into structuring their families. Marriage is often described as a union, and this concept can be extended to financial matters. When you get married, it's as if you're entering into a partnership, but in this case, the partnership is limitless. This means that everything you own and will own as long as the marriage continues belongs to the family unit and not just to one individual. Both partners, husband and wife, pool their incomes periodically, typically on a monthly basis, into a joint account. From this joint account, financial discussions revolve around joint investments, properties, assets, and even businesses. It's advisable to maintain a joint account for general and household expenses, while each partner retains a single personal account. Allowances for personal expenses are disbursed from the joint account to individual accounts. All other assets, investments, and savings are considered family assets rather than individual ones. This approach ensures a unified financial front within the marriage. If couples structure their finances in this manner, issues such as one partner experiencing financial difficulties and the resulting strain on the relationship can be minimized. Within a marital partnership, there should be no concept of one partner being financially down; instead, it's a collective responsibility. Everything should be managed together, reinforcing the idea that "the two shall become one," as emphasized in the Bible. It is often claimed that women's affection for men is conditional, contingent on what they can provide. Some argue that women may leave when there's seemingly nothing more to gain. While there might be instances where this holds true, it's important to note that this perspective doesn't apply universally, especially within the context of marriage. Most women often prioritize their happiness in a relationship, they just want to be happy and comfortable, the responsibility lies with the man to possess a high level of financial intelligence and literacy. He should take the initiative to propose how the family's finances should be structured, explain this plan thoroughly to his wife, and help her understand that this approach benefits her and the entire family. Joint financial planning extends beyond just financial transparency, shared goals, reduced financial disputes, emergency preparedness, investments and savings. For instance, in the unfortunate event of legal issues, the impact is limited because neither party individually owns these assets; they are collectively owned by the family. If you're interested in receiving comprehensive marital counseling or financial advice, please don't hesitate to reach out to me. I am also a skilled and experienced content writer. Feel free to contact me to explore these services. I am here to provide you with valuable insights and support in various aspects of your life. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: What Would You Do If Your Partner Goes Out Against Your Wish!? by MrOpp(m): 1:02pm On Oct 09, 2023 |
Dear Opp, She is wrong. When she finally returns, punish her for disobeying you. As a man, you are to be the leader in your home. The moment you don't assume the position of leadership and allow your wife to behave the way she wants, she automatically becomes the leader, and your personality becomes unattractive to her. Men are natural leaders; women are not. You are supposed to protect your wife, but how can you protect someone who won't listen to your instructions? If you had a bodyguard, how could your bodyguard protect you if you don't listen to their instructions? You need to assume the position of a leader in your home, or else your home/marriage will fail, and you will be blamed. When I say 'punish her,' I don't mean literally, like beating her. Let her know that you are unhappy with her attitude. Talk to her using strong words. Kindly note that your wife was attracted to you because of your manly characteristics. The moment you give that up, you become a simp and immediately unattractive to her. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Crime / Re: I Think I Might Have A Case Of Money Laundering by MrOpp(m): 2:40pm On Oct 03, 2023 |
Nairaland1stson: This matter is straightforward. If she insists on a refund, wait for a minimum of 48 hours, then proceed to return the money to the same account it originated from. |
Romance / Re: In A Dilemma Right Now, Please Advise by MrOpp(m): 4:04pm On Sep 08, 2023 |
I'm sorry to hear about the challenges you've faced in your relationship. It's clear that you've been through a lot, and this is a complex situation. I won't use insulting language because I believe in maintaining respectful and constructive communication. Here's my advice: Assess Your Feelings: Take some time to reflect on your own feelings. It's crucial to understand if you can genuinely forgive and trust her again. Consider whether you can move forward without holding onto resentment. Communication: Have an open and honest conversation with her. Discuss your feelings, concerns, and the impact her actions have had on the relationship. Ask her about her own perspective and intentions moving forward. Consider Counseling: If you're both willing to work on the relationship, couples counseling can be a valuable resource. A professional can help facilitate discussions and provide guidance on rebuilding trust. Set Boundaries: If you decide to give the relationship another chance, establish clear boundaries and expectations to prevent similar issues from arising in the future. Both partners need to be on the same page regarding what is acceptable behavior. Family and Friends: If you value their opinions, consider discussing the situation with family and friends who have been supportive. They can provide valuable insights and emotional support during this difficult time. Trust Your Instincts: Ultimately, the decision to forgive and continue the relationship or to move on is a deeply personal one. Trust your instincts and prioritize your own well-being and happiness. Remember that forgiveness is a personal choice, and it doesn't necessarily mean continuing the relationship. It's about finding peace within yourself and deciding what's best for your future. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Whose Name Should I Put On Papers Of The Car I Intend Buying For My Married Sis? by MrOpp(m): 4:11pm On Aug 25, 2023 |
Avoid using her maiden name in this context, as it could potentially create a significant issue. Even though her husband might not react strongly, the implications could be misunderstood. Considering that she is married, it's more appropriate to use her first name along with her husband's surname. This choice accurately reflects her marital status and respects her identity. During the registration process, FRSC will reference her name using her NIN. FRSC follows the name on your Identity card during vehicle registration. However, as an interim measure, it's recommended to procure the vehicle using her first name and her husband's surname. This approach takes into consideration the complexities of the registration process and ensures a smoother experience. By the way, you don't need to register the car, leave them to handle the registration process. Do you need the service of a professional content writer? Contact me on whatsapp 09081603112. |
Romance / Re: Things You Shouldn't Share With Your Partner No Matter What by MrOpp(m): 3:31pm On Aug 25, 2023 |
It's interesting to observe that many viewpoints are coming from individuals who might not have experienced the dynamics of marriage. Personally, my approach is different. I share every aspect of my life with my spouse, except for details about past relationships. This isn't because those details are hidden or held back deliberately; it's simply that they're not relevant to our shared goals and aspirations. If my partner were to express genuine interest in knowing, I'd have an open and honest conversation. In marriage, the concept of "you" transforms into a unified "we." Our assets, liabilities, decisions, and actions all contribute to the collective wellbeing of our family. Every choice has a ripple effect that impacts not only ourselves but our partner as well. So, if a mistake is made or an inappropriate action is taken, it's not just an individual's reputation that's at stake; it's our family's name that bears the consequences. This is why it seems only fair that the same principle applies to both the burdens and the benefits. The essence of marriage is partnership, a true and complete union. Holding back any part of ourselves, especially in areas as significant as finances, might suggest a lack of understanding about this partnership or a hesitation to be fully committed. Finances, with their potential to shape the course of a marriage, require utmost transparency. Complete disclosure isn't just about managing money effectively; it's about fostering trust, strengthening the bond, and demonstrating integrity. It's essential to clarify that this perspective pertains exclusively to married couples. In the dating phase or within boyfriend-girlfriend relationships, the dynamics are different. But when it comes to marriage, the philosophy of open communication and full disclosure can lay the foundation for a resilient, thriving, and harmonious partnership. After all, transparency in finance doesn't just facilitate planning; it builds an unshakable foundation for a relationship built on trust and mutual growth. Do you need the service of a professional content writer? Contact me on whatsapp 09081603112. |
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: My Most Important Job At 5000naira/month by MrOpp(m): 12:10pm On Aug 18, 2023 |
Tuesdays and Thursdays Guardian newspaper I have a similar story. Ajah, Lekki, VI 2009 - 2010 It can only be God. 3 Likes |
Politics / Opinion: What A Biden/trump Win Will Mean For Nigeria by MrOpp(m): 10:23am On Nov 06, 2020 |
Over the past few days I have witness in utter dismay and despair how most Nigerians publicly declare their support for the reelection of Donald Trump. I even heard they was a peaceful match by some churches in Nigeria in support of Trump reelection. I think this support is fueled by ignorance, hypocrisy, religious sentiment and racial bias and stereotypes, without asking the basic question, which is, What will a Biden/Trump win mean for Nigeria, Africa and the world? I have asked most Trump Nigeria supporter why they choose to support Trump and the only answer I get is 'because Trump is pro-Christian, therefore, will promote Christian values and norms in the United States and the world'. Fact check: Is Donald Trump a Christian or is he pro-Christian and even if he is, does Christianity define a better leader? Donald Trump over the years have been accused severally of immorality, tax evasion, racism, hatred for others, sexual abuse, lies, cheating, vile comments. The Holy Bible which is the Christian's sacred scripture condemn any form of cheating, sexual immorality, hatred, including sexual abuse, lies, vile talk. Therefore, I wonder why Trump's Nigeria supporters believed Mr. Trump is a Christian and therefore will promote Christian values when Trump has consistently proven to be anti-Christ (against Christ teachings) What will a Trump win mean for Nigeria and the World? 1. Trump Immigration Policy Reform: The RAISE Act seeks to reduce levels of legal immigration to the United States by 50% by halving the number of green cards issued. In 2018 Migrant remittance to Nigeria equaled $25billion representing 6% of our GDP with a Trump win legal immigration will continue to suffer and migrant remittance will continue to decline which is bad for Nigerians and Nigeria economy. 2. The Paris Agreement: The United States recently pulled out from the Paris Climate Change agreement. The withdrawal reduces other countries emission space and raises the emission costs, and refusal to contribute to climate change aid makes it more difficult for developing countries (like Nigeria) to migrate and adapt to climate change. Note: The Trump administration has other policies/ proposed policies that stand to have major negative impact on the world, Africa and Nigeria. What will a Biden win mean for Nigeria, Africa and the World? 1. Biden Energy Plan: Biden has proposed to ban fracking and focus on alternative energy because of the impact fracking has on the climate. This plan will reduce the supply of oil since the US will stop producing which might lead to increased in price which is good for Nigeria economy since our economy is still largely dependent on crude oil 2. Immigration Policy: Biden immigration policies promise to be more friendly as compare to Trump's stringent policy which will definitely increase migrant remittance, as earlier stated migrant remittance contribute between 5-10% of our GDP. Finally, about 90% of blacks which Nigerans should consider their brothers/sister living in the United States voted against Donald Trump, this alone should tell you they are more comfortable and will prosper more with Biden as president. It is worthy to note that, Biden is a man with one wife, a Christian, have never been accused of immorality, sexual abuse, tax evasion, lies, cheating, he is not a racist, he doesn't use vile words or make vile comments. I believe this makes Biden a more practical Christian. With these common knowledge Nigerians & Africans should know that, a Biden win will be more beneficial for Nigeria, Nigerians, Africa and the world This post is my personal opinion. 1 Like
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Religion / Re: Salvation Is Free by MrOpp(m): 12:50pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
Dear AntiChristian, knowing God and what He represents require years of painstaking study, determination, patience etc. As an accountant and finance professional, it took me 4years in the university, 4years studying with ACCA and will require an average of another 4years studying to be a CFA Charterholder, the years of study & experience prove i have relevant education, skill and experience in the accounting and finance field. This analogy also apply to knowing God. You need to painstakingly study, with patience and determination as you grow, you will have understanding of who God really represent. Cheers AntiChristian: |
Religion / Re: Salvation Is Free by MrOpp(m): 11:43am On Jul 05, 2020 |
You choose what to believe, I have a responsibility to tell you the truth. Cheers. AntiChristian: |
Religion / Re: Salvation Is Free by MrOpp(m): 11:31am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Like I wrote earlier, there have been misconception about God's identity for quite a long time, Jesus definition of who God is clearly show that God never commanded the Isrealite to massacre people as recorded in the old testament, for instance, God told Moses to go to Pharoad and tell Pharoad to let my people go, Moses went to Pharoad and told Pharoad that God say he should let his people go [/b]so they can sacrifice to Him in the Wilderness[b]. That wasn't the message from God. Through Jesus we now know that many events in the old testament attributed to God wasn't actually from God. How do you differentiate what God said and what he didn't say & what God did and what He didn't do? By knowing God's true identity, when you know God's real identity, you can easily differentiate what was God and what wasn't and can't be God. Cheers. AntiChristian: 1 Like |
Religion / Re: Salvation Is Free by MrOpp(m): 11:11am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Dear Antichristian, God is a good God, He is our saviour, our healer, He is gracious, He is love, God does not have dual personality, He is not good sometimes and bad sometimes, He does not hate sometimes and love sometimes, God never change, He is constantly conatant. The Bible says every good and perfect gift comes from the Lord, again, the devil come to steal, kill and destroy but Christ came that we may have life. The attribute of the devil is to steal, kill and destroy and God's attribute is to save. It will interest you to know that God has never kill before, He doesn't kill, as a matter of fact, He does not have the capacity to kill. How do I know this? Jesus Christ is the express image of God, what Christ did not do, God does not do as well. One of the reasons Christ came was to correct the wrong perception humans had about God. Humans attributed many of what they don't understand to God, therefore, God sent Christ to correct such impression and define His true identity. That's why in the mount of transfiguration Elijah, Moses appeared, when the disciples when to build an alter for the three of them, Elijah & Moses disappear and a voice from heaven says "This is my beloved son, listen to Him" meaning whatever Jesus says about who God is supersedes every other previous writing. God is absolutely good, His mission from before time begin is to save and He has never change. You can't message me if you require more explanation. Cheers. AntiChristian: |
Religion / Re: Salvation Is Free by MrOpp(m): 10:57am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Salvation is not free, on the contrary it's very expensive, we couldn't pay for it. The cost of salvation was too high & mankind could not pay. Christ paid the price on behlaf of mankind. 1 Like |
Career / Re: Which Income Level Do You Belong? by MrOpp(m): 9:59pm On May 17, 2020 |
I completely disagree with this report. If less than 150k is poor, then nobody is poor in Nigeria. No family earns less than 150k yearly. Osnami: |
Career / Re: Which Income Level Do You Belong? by MrOpp(m): 9:56pm On May 17, 2020 |
The figures there is annually (yearly) not monthly. Zico5: 1 Like 1 Share |
Family / Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by MrOpp(m): 8:59pm On May 14, 2020 |
How can I like this comment 10x? Thank you. The way people think amazes me. Nobody said money is not important, but money should not determine how you treat people. How can people be hammering on money as if, everything about life depends on it? God! Obingene: 1 Like |
Family / Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by MrOpp(m): 2:33pm On May 12, 2020 |
Comments on this thread stinks of ignorance! So may kids on this forum. My dear MzJayY I want you to know that your husband might have his own issues but i will only address yours. 1. Understand that your husband might also be spending all his earnings on the kids school fee and accommodation and also has no saving, as a married man myself with 3 kids i will tell you that School fee and Accommodation is the 2nd and 3rd highest cost in my household, taking as much as 70% of my earning. cos it seems one of the major issue here is because you spend all you earn on your home. 2. You need to understand that marriage has issues, your case seems similar to mine, only that i am the husband and am not like your husband. Marriage is like partnership both of your got married, we most times use the word "he married me" that is actually wrong , the correct word is "WE got married"so if you have no savings, your husband is not the problem, you are spending your earnings on YOUR home. increase your earning or live below your means. You can achieve this only when you and our husband draw up a budget from whatever both of you are earning. The budget should be the household budget stating clearly all your projected inflow and expenses. 3. Always apologizing to your husband is nothing, it doesn't matter who is wrong or right, if he doesn't want to apologies, you go ahead and apologies, doing so doesn't mean you are the foolish one, it only mean you are the courageous one in the relationship. You also mention your husband don't appreciate you for your contributions. Well, who appreciates him for his contributions? Don't expect appreciation for taking care of your responsibilities. It's the responsibilities of the Husband and the Wife to cater for their home. & that is what you are doing. 4. Your marriage is still workable whoever is advising you contrary to this is an enemy or is simply ignorant, your marriage can become happy again and your financially life can turn around only when you decide to work together. Financial success and happiness in marriage require plan, frugality, persistence, understanding etc. You can send me a private message if you need help. Cheers. MizJaY: 1 Like |
Romance / Re: What's That Secret You Are Hiding From The Person You Are Dating Right Now? by MrOpp(m): 10:15am On Apr 13, 2020 |
What do u think will happen after? Trust me, you will live the rest of your life regretting this. Achz: 8 Likes |
Religion / Re: Why Some Are Scared of Becoming Born Again Christians Or Going To Heaven by MrOpp(m): 10:55am On Nov 24, 2019 |
EternalBeing:Sinners have no life to give Jesus, as a sinner, you are already dead, Jesus is life, as a sinner, you invite Jesus to give you life. |
Family / Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by MrOpp(m): 4:51pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
My brother, A lot of people here are inexperience, therefore, know the advise you take. It is completely improper for a married woman to have very close male friends who can even refer to her as "my love". whoever says that is alright is either inexperience or ignorant. Marriage require lots of sacrifice from both partners, always put yourself in your partner's shoe. Ask yourself "if my partner behaves this way or relate with opposite sex this way, will I be comfortable? and if the answer is no, know that acting/behaving that way will hurt your partner as well. Married people should know that when u have decide to get married, there are lot of lifestyle that require adjustment. There are dressing that's not fitting for married people, for instance a married man sagging his trousers, a married woman dressing inappropriately is completely wrong. people should understanding that you must not dress inappropriately before you look hot and sexy. you can dress appropriately and still be hot and sexy. Tbh, so many people in marriage today has no business being married, either there are not ready or there are not matured enough. Note that the maturity am referring to is not age. I mean mental maturity. Marriage require lots of mental maturity. Those things she is doing, she is way pass that lifestyle, she is now a woman, kids are looking up to her as role model. I will suggest you sit her down and school her, if she is teachable and she has the ability to unlearn, teach her with love I believe she will see reason to change her ways for good and know she is a married woman. 1 Like |
Technology Market / Re: Sold Sold Samsung Galaxy S7 USA Used by MrOpp(m): 10:59am On Mar 12, 2019 |
What's your location? |
Education / Re: What Are Those Courses That Are Still Good To Study In Nigeria? by MrOpp(m): 9:12am On Feb 14, 2019 |
iceboy4752:STEM ( Science Technology Engineering and Mathematic) any course from the list is fine. Personally Medicine and Engineering will be top in the list. |
Properties / Urgently Need An Apartment In Port Harcourt by MrOpp(m): 10:24am On Dec 25, 2018 |
Hello NLanders, I urgently need a place to stay in PortHarcourt, am looking at renting a decent self contain around Woji, YKC, Alcon, Woji Estate, Trans-Woji, Slaughter and it's environs. I can also share a decent flat if located around same area. My budget is 150k yearly. Office resumes 3rd Jan, therefore, I need the apartment between today & 2nd January. Lalasticalala, kindly help move this to fp, I need more NLanders to see this. |
Phones / Re: The Xiaomi Thread. by MrOpp(m): 11:37am On Dec 13, 2018 |
Ifedith:Can I get the bolded today in Port Harcourt? |
Career / Re: Help! My Boss Is Taking Credit For My Work by MrOpp(m): 5:26pm On Nov 29, 2018 |
ShamsBarack:Well its not my first job its my third job in 8yrs. & yes its in the line of my chosen career. Though its the first coy where office politic is so fierce. Many thanks for taking time to contribute. |
Career / Re: Help! My Boss Is Taking Credit For My Work by MrOpp(m): 5:23pm On Nov 29, 2018 |
osuofia2:I absolutely agree with you. Thanks for your contribution |
Career / Re: Help! My Boss Is Taking Credit For My Work by MrOpp(m): 5:22pm On Nov 29, 2018 |
Wtfork:Thanks for your contribution |
Career / Re: Help! My Boss Is Taking Credit For My Work by MrOpp(m): 5:22pm On Nov 29, 2018 |
Agbaletu:thanks |
Career / Re: Help! My Boss Is Taking Credit For My Work by MrOpp(m): 5:19pm On Nov 29, 2018 |
samuelchimmy:Thanks for taking time to contribute. |
Career / Re: Help! My Boss Is Taking Credit For My Work by MrOpp(m): 5:18pm On Nov 29, 2018 |
BellaV:I completely agree with you. the boded is key. Thanks for your contribution |
Career / Re: Help! My Boss Is Taking Credit For My Work by MrOpp(m): 5:16pm On Nov 29, 2018 |
nastyesco:Lots of good advise indeed, thanks for your contribution |
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