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supersystemsnig:
God help our search...

Amen.
Lalasticlala, seun, mynd44

MhizzAJ:
It is only a foolish slay queen that will just be exercising a man's joystick

The real slay queens are a combination of beauty and brains and they get married on time..most of them are not social media freak and by the way ve seen countless unmarried good girls

Talk the one way u know oo

Even the foolish ones are getting wiser these days...try them and see how they will make a mess of ur life

Congrats to d groom and bride

You are partially correct. They are now changing strategies and using a formula that gets guys to propose

supersystemsnig:
If 2020 is the time, then 1-2 years of cultivating a relationship aint bad...

Lol. Alright, I will start searching

L3G3ND:
slay ke queen ke.. I am in my father's bungalow o

Lol. Alright. Just don't feel too comfortable there

madridguy:
Slay queens are just to exercise joystick, no right thinker will marry them. When it comes to marriage, guys prefer a good girl with her head on her shoulder just like this our bride.
Very decent looking.

Lol, I have to agree with you on that. When it comes to marriage, no man want to share his story on nairaland seeking for advice on how to handle them

supersystemsnig:
They look good together...Congrats brov.

Thank you boss. You know as it dey be. Seems like its vision 2020

pocohantas:
Aunty Tiwa, Aunty Tonto and Aunty Toke wey know fashion nko?

HML to them.
OP, when be your own?

When you have refused to reply my PM. You are holding the time table. Dear Pocohantas, when will you say I do

Sholaqe:
the wife must be attending deeper life.

Ayam not understanding. So someone can't go completely go natural without being affiliated with deeper life

L3G3ND:
funny thing is that I have never seen a pre-wedding picture of a typical slay Queen. .. guys maka

Maybe you will be the first slay queen that we will see her prewedding pictures

He is someone I respect so much and I have looked forward to 20th October.

Lalasticlala, seun, mynd44 what do you have to say.

When you know what you want, you just can't hold yourself untill you get it and own it. Henry, a gentle nairalander, have found the love of his life. It happens once, and the time is 20th and 22nd October.

The Enugu based nairalander who knows exactly what he wants, has finally seen it. One good thing about him is his high taste for a decent lady. On Friday 20th October, the traditional wedding will take place, while on Sunday 22nd October, the White wedding will be done

Hey guys, this my brother @henrymoore010 has finally escaped being single as he ties the knot with his lovely wife to be. The date remains October 20th, 2017. Save the date and pray for them.

supersystemsnig:
Interesting. I kinda relate with you in many ways. i.e. I have a crazy taste, tag me with 1000 ladies and i may not find more than 12 attractive. Anyways, the future is key and we ought to start beginning processes into that future. I aint sex-starved as
well, many times, i go months without even thinking about it, damn the hustle bro... Anyways, we should not ignore our needs, and pay attention to our lives..Life is short...

As for me, i can't dream of myself paying for sex, or having random chicks, abeg....Don't want holyspirit trouble...Trying to top my anointing not to drain it...Let's hope we get it right.I agree at money can connect one with right about " seemingly interested " classy chic, not even one follows this mantra of money, but attaining some success, attending conferences etc would be a big boost to any working class guy...Damn, i int through with hustling yet...Sit in front of a PC over 12 hours daily...Sucks...Can't wait to have a life...

Lol. These ladies don't want cool guys like us. So many of them want to be manhandled. They want it rough, hard, and if you claim holy spirit filled to them, then they will take advantage of it to announce no sex before marriage while they go about satisfying themselves somewhere with flimsy excuses.

Sitting infront of PC all through the day isn't easy. Most times I come to the family section to encourage those who wants to give up in life. I don't visit the romance section because to me kids are all over there creating 10 useless threads per second.

I have been more than 4 months without sex and I haven't died. Yet I am not sex starved. I believe there are lots of guys who can go more and more without it and I am willing to do so. Money gives me orgasm and I always pray for it to come in abundance. Also, I don't believe God rewards us with the goods we have done.

Lets continue the hustle bro. Very soon you will see a thread on nairaland frontpage of how a broke guy is not supposed to have an erection. Some of these ladies that their brothers and even fathers don't earn above 100k will come and make noise as though they receive 200k per month. Some of us who sometimes depending on the hustle and blessing of God receives more than that still see ourself as broke niggas.

So the hustle continues while we diligently pray for God's blessing and favour

supersystemsnig:
Well said. Sex is like a commodity to me one can buy at a market. It depends on the individual's choice. If a lady is a virgin, there's no problem in a no-sex relationship at the start, as both parties build emotional bond, it will be tested.

Asper personal relationship and romance, let's see what happens. It's harder than hustle itself. Just wanna look past it...But been a very selective person, it sometimes make it difficult to connect with people. I'm too sure, like me you won't connect with just about any lady...I think it's important to attain some level of success though, or see it closely and keep/start/build a relationship. It helps keep things in perspective. To think i turned down quit a few ladies before now.. Above all, love is key jare, we need ladies with passion and love not the ones that'll strip one of peace. May God help us.

Well, I tend to have a very high taste for ladies. My needs and requirement is smart and technical anyway. Lol. Because I am not sex starved or in a haste to be in a relationship, I can stay comfortably without one just like I am. Not that I don't have people that supply food as at when due, you know what I mean. I understood the purpose of life at a very tender age. Because of that, I have grown to be mentally and emotionally stable that I know what I want at every point in time.

That being said, a lady can't use that Phrase no sex till marriage as a pillar in a relationship that I am involved. That sentence is a weak one and only works for men that don't want to be sincere.

Like I said before, the formular now is more money. Sex can be bought. I might decide to spend money on even a classic lady and sleep with her. Everything is about money this days. Just dispense the money and you have almost any lady of any class this days

poik:
In as much as I am celibate and would have no business with a woman's body until the nuptials are tied, that shouldn't be the only attraction in the mix. I look out for character, compatibility, and life ideals. I will try my best by Gods grace not to be in the bandwagon of men who contribute to ladies' body count, but what I need is more than sex and its affiliate things, even though its equally important. Sex won't train my kids and instil good values in them, for example

This ladies will increase their body count behind you. If she must do it, then you are the one she should do it with not pretend to be holy beside you and turn a prostitute behind you.

Seems like you are still below 25 bro. Its time you wake up to the reality on ground and don't want to fall a victim

supersystemsnig:
I share the same experience. We were handed down the doctrine of hustle at all cost and leave relationship completely out of it. We became cold and isolated, especially by working in front of a PC, trying to know the next trend and tap into the flow...looking back, i feel, it was right, but cultivating a friendship/relationship alongside hustle was better....After many years, the coldness just left my heart... but it took time...

I hope we get it right

and concerning the lady, you guys are spot on, some relationships could start as a no-sex from the start, but if intimacy is built, the buyer would wanna know what he's buying sometimes...At times if trust is established, it could yield different results. Different strokes for different folks, let people fix issues based on what works best for them. I don't even think i qualify to give anyone a relationship pep-talk...it's not my strongest area

Lol. You are already giving it the best shot.

The above narration was rightly said. We were all forced to forget relationship and look for money. Now, the money is just trickling in and the need for relationship is rising. The once you like will want to deceive you, and play with your emotions. Most times it seems like its a waste of time building emotional trust with ladies. This days, I do not see myself to even have the strength to engage in that, so I just try to enjoy my money by myself, while praying that the ones that will love genuinely will come.

I don't buy into a no sex relationship especially when the lady raises it up from the beginning. Why would such a thing come to her mind is there is no reason behind it. First she may be trying to hide her virginity or sexual relationships. Second, she might not be healthy to indulge in it. If sex builds up a relationship, so why would she want us to keep it away. Don't get me wrong, my point is that for her to have raised it and emphasized on it, then something is behind it. Trust me, its not religious reasons

After they will be claiming sex is a sin

tosyne2much:
And na some men go carry crates of soft drinks and tubers of yam to these one's parents oooo?

I dey tell you bro

supersystemsnig:
So how are you re-balancing hustle and relationships at the moment? How is it working for you?

I am working and earning well. Secondly, I am freelancing too and earning well. For now, I am kind of stable and pray to always be. Currently, I find it hard getting a good lady. Relocated to Abuja of recent and since then, I haven't had time for relationships. Heard every lady here in Abuja wants to milk one out. Lol. I have also gotten so many offers from old time friends. You know when people know you are balanced, feeding yourself with no problem, living on your own with a comfortable apartment, they want to associate with you. Lol. It's natural for ladies to do so. Some of these advances is what I am much careful dealing with. They are also other back end reasons which are personal to me.

For now, I stay in my room, comfortable and thanking God for thus far He has brought me, and I am sure God will do more.

Let me pack here.

@Op, Good work. Also, you are describing things away from the usual form hence most persons who are not into reading literary works may find it hard.

Say it as it is

supersystemsnig:
If i could, i'll have it. May God push us to the place of stability, peace and comfort. I'm an hustler and won't honestly know. I can't argue against anyone's views, but i also believe the lady has a right to her choice and should not come under any form of attack.

Everyone have the right to what they believe. I just responded because the topic was a question. I was in the office and it was all lunch time.

God has already placed us in His plan. He mustn't think for us.

She has the right to what she believes but shouldn't complain when most people she met isn't in tandem with what she believes. If she complains, then people can complain too. I am not a cyber bully, I don't insult people, I only air my view over issues.

the truth which you have failed to establish is that there is no basis for wanting a no sex relationship. I don't care what people believe before they get married, I can go for a no sex if I choose. It's all my choice. What I care is the reason for taking such stand. If he can't convince us, but rather wants us to think out her reasons, then we might just be speculating and assuming.

Sex is nothing and the least a lady can offer me. If someone thinks it's the ultimate, then she is valueless and worthless

Some people are funny. Which kind technology cloned buhari?

supersystemsnig:
I honestly have no issues with the thread. I told you i was an hustler and most times don't have time..

Same with me anyway. We are just trying to say the truth as it is. Truth is defined in political science as the state of things that exist

supersystemsnig:
Not 97%. No referendum took place.

Boos, its 97%. The implication is that 97 out of every 100 men go into a sexual relationship.

Stop trying to be insincere, you may sound this way just to please some persons but deep down within you, you know that majority of the guys opt out of a no sex relationship. Just like I have said before, men have been configured that way by the manipulation of women who thinks that every guy mus be milked dry or nothing. Then guys also, think that every lady must be slept with or nothing.

KOPT55:
Your sound so naive.

When I speak, I speak for the majority of men out there. Indeed there are men who are asexual as they come, but you must agree with me that the vast majority of men are highly sexual beings.

There nothing like ideology in what I have stated up there. Sex is an important biological imperative for men and any attempt by a woman -- who is also a highly sexual being -- to deny him of this within a relationship must be resisted because more often than not, the man loses out.

You sound smart, book smart. Learn to be wise and see further than your nose.

You are being real. And of a truth, you speaking the mind of majority of men. 97% of men are of the same opinion with you.

supersystemsnig:
That's true. I'm trying to avoid this now. So i'm now out...

Lol. I stopped visiting Romance section because most persons there are mostly undergraduates and secondary school students. All they talk they is sex this and sex that. Something that N500 can buy is what people are killing themselves over. Instead of understanding themselves and looking for a way to get their life focused.

I will advise you, don't live women to chase money, else, you will use money to chase the one you like afterwards. Some of us did that and now have chosen to make more of that money since what ladies knows is a a no sex relationship while they have nothing in return to offer you save their long list of needs that need to be met

flowers4me:
Thanks but no thanks..i came on here to seek closure and a positive way forward but certainly not to get my mind derailed. Have a good day.

You don't constrain us to what you want. If you needed to hear exactly what you wanted, you should have contacted your pastor or parents. Last time I checked your first post, you were asking a question, and I have read people offer you what they think. Learnt be flexible over opinions.

supersystemsnig:
Well, i'm an hustler and haven't seen the need for a woman until now. However, i choose not to follow stereotypes but do determine my play as i go. I however, don't want to be crushed beneath the ill feelings of relationships. While i maintain a positive posture and clear head, and look into it with optimism, i don't want to be swayed or duped in anyway. I'm a core African man, and can't detect when i'm been fooled very fast.

The moment, i detect ill treatment, i retract, but in return i also don't treat people badly. We need to end the cycle of mistrust otherwise our actions would be what was conferred upon us and not what we truly desire to perform from the depth of our hearts.

You are still hustling, so you even have the time to learn these folks. When you will be stable, you will have many of them that handling them will become difficult.

tosyne2much:
Aside the unprotected sex, it beats my imagination why a 39 old lady will get entangled with a man who will impregnate her and will reject the pregnancy

She might want to be a sugar mummy. Who knows the condition surrounding the fvc.king in the first place. Most of this ladies aren't truthful in front end issues like this.

I am trying to understand the phrase I am not yet ready for a pregnancy . At age 39. tosyn, please do you understand?

supersystemsnig:
MrPhysics, don't kill me this afternoon abeg. But i know many guys who are not into it but they don't show it...They don't do any kind of sexual stuff, but, it depends sha, if the intimacy between both parties is really healthy, sexual relations can come in along the line...


But, once again let me laff at your comment abeg...

That's the point. But what do ladies do, they first want to handicap you from the beginning. They want to emotionally arrest you, and if you ask them what they have for you, they begin to tell you time, encouragement, advice, etc, and I ask, before she came, do I lack those things.


Seems, like you have not been taken advantage of before. When I used to be the type of person you described, I found out that I was deceiving myself. Most guys that are like that now, aren't in relationship.

When, sex is overhyped and I see nothing in it. I always believe in the purpose of all things. Relationship ought to be healthy, but the society and economic condition of this country makes relationship to be a game of interest.

supersystemsnig:
I believe you....

Lol. I visited a friend whose half of what he posts on facebook was about Christ. Preachings upon preaching, everyday he dishes it out. When I visited, I was surprised to know that the guy was a fuckative. For the three weeks I stayed with him, he smashed not less than 3 ladies almost twice. I just advised him to be sincere in everything he does. Me that was claiming bad boy saw I was even a very good guy. I had to even change from the bad to the good