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flowers4me:
Thanks but no thanks..i came on here to seek closure and a positive way forward but certainly not to get my mind derailed. Have a good day.

You don't constrain us to what you want. If you needed to hear exactly what you wanted, you should have contacted your pastor or parents. Last time I checked your first post, you were asking a question, and I have read people offer you what they think. Learnt be flexible over opinions.

supersystemsnig:
Well, i'm an hustler and haven't seen the need for a woman until now. However, i choose not to follow stereotypes but do determine my play as i go. I however, don't want to be crushed beneath the ill feelings of relationships. While i maintain a positive posture and clear head, and look into it with optimism, i don't want to be swayed or duped in anyway. I'm a core African man, and can't detect when i'm been fooled very fast.

The moment, i detect ill treatment, i retract, but in return i also don't treat people badly. We need to end the cycle of mistrust otherwise our actions would be what was conferred upon us and not what we truly desire to perform from the depth of our hearts.

You are still hustling, so you even have the time to learn these folks. When you will be stable, you will have many of them that handling them will become difficult.

tosyne2much:
Aside the unprotected sex, it beats my imagination why a 39 old lady will get entangled with a man who will impregnate her and will reject the pregnancy

She might want to be a sugar mummy. Who knows the condition surrounding the fvc.king in the first place. Most of this ladies aren't truthful in front end issues like this.

I am trying to understand the phrase I am not yet ready for a pregnancy . At age 39. tosyn, please do you understand?

supersystemsnig:
MrPhysics, don't kill me this afternoon abeg. But i know many guys who are not into it but they don't show it...They don't do any kind of sexual stuff, but, it depends sha, if the intimacy between both parties is really healthy, sexual relations can come in along the line...


But, once again let me laff at your comment abeg...

That's the point. But what do ladies do, they first want to handicap you from the beginning. They want to emotionally arrest you, and if you ask them what they have for you, they begin to tell you time, encouragement, advice, etc, and I ask, before she came, do I lack those things.


Seems, like you have not been taken advantage of before. When I used to be the type of person you described, I found out that I was deceiving myself. Most guys that are like that now, aren't in relationship.

When, sex is overhyped and I see nothing in it. I always believe in the purpose of all things. Relationship ought to be healthy, but the society and economic condition of this country makes relationship to be a game of interest.

supersystemsnig:
I believe you....

Lol. I visited a friend whose half of what he posts on facebook was about Christ. Preachings upon preaching, everyday he dishes it out. When I visited, I was surprised to know that the guy was a fuckative. For the three weeks I stayed with him, he smashed not less than 3 ladies almost twice. I just advised him to be sincere in everything he does. Me that was claiming bad boy saw I was even a very good guy. I had to even change from the bad to the good

tosyne2much:
I wonder what ladies of these days do that make them stay unmarried for so long, or I guess you were once "marriage is not for everyone" crew?

When my mom was 39 years, I was 19 years by then.

I just hope God will help you carry your cross ooo

If she is not ready for a child, she should have wore a female condom is the guy refused to wear. She was expecting to eat the cucumber and forgot that freedom after an unprotected sex is not guaranteed

neoapocalypse:
Where did you get this "fact" from ?

In science, you don't proof a theory right, you only prove it wrong.

Kindly do so.

supersystemsnig:

Wetin happen bros. I have actually examined and studied how the female child is trained. As soon as she begins to develop breast, she is taught to learn the skills to manipulate the so many smart guys that will be coming towards her. The guys themselves, takes fun from catching them young since they know the advanced ladies knows what they know too. So the whole circle is corrupt, thus, we must find a new way to do it, not deceiving our own selves.

flowers4me:
You kopt55 do not deserve the honour of getting an answer from me over your demeaning questions.

When sane people on here ask questions they would surely be given answers.

Take your bitterness and mischief out of here.

Well you should try to understand it from his own point of view. The society have changed virtually everything we know. From the cunning nature of women to the technicalities of men, the world have evolved and things are now seen through different reference frame. Those who once share same view realized they were deceived only to be preyed upon.

I don't share same view with you but that does not mean they aren't such people around. But when you see them, they may not attract you much, so first, what is the highest thing you can offer a man. If you hinge it on sex, then such can be bought with N500 - N2000 and someone like me sees such a person valueless. I can go into a no sex relationship but you must believe that it can happen at anytime, failure to do so is a complete no from me.

goingape3:
shut up with this God god things

didn't the bible said not to commit fornication

why will God bless this kind of sinful act?

this baby is not God sent but rather from the sinful act of it.

all this self-righteous hypocrite who know nothing about God will be giving advises.

useless.

He without sin should cast the first stone. You that is a saint, oya go and kill her

fvckme:
That your guy could have been prevented if his Mama used Condom

What of the op. If at age 39, and a lady, she still think she isn't ready for pregnancy, then she is of all women most foolish. And her father could have prevented her even through withdrawal method.

Both of them are foolish, and instead of OP to take advantage and have a baby she can call her own, she is looking for someone that will advise her to abort the baby. Large nippled ladies are senseless. Seems op is like that

Very soon mine will come out

babyfaceafrica:
All these detailers set,OP..finish your end and keep doing your husiness

Don't mind her. She can't pay the bills and tax outside. She will remain low at the echelon of life. She have started growing in Nigeria and instead of continuing, she wants to mess it up. Even Dangote is still in Nigeria

Florblu:
Yes,but please make sure you stay focus and don't throw away all you've learnt and the inbuilt morals

You guys think life is easy outside. Keep deceiving young ladies. She will go out and face racism which will push her into prostitution.

The world is fast changing, and you want her to remain low at the echelon of life. You heard her say she can wash plates outside, while that is good, the problem is that she will just be negligible in the food chain.

you could have encouraged her to keep doing what she is doing. Her base will soon expand and 40k will just be nothing

Confused977:
Good afternoon everyone here. I have been an ardent of this forum so, I felt it wouldn't be bad to bare my heart here as I know I'd surely get an advice that will make me see clearer. Please bear with me as I am not very perfect when it comes to expressing my self in writing. Pls pardon my write-up should you see it as too long. I just want to bare it all so one can know what to tell me. Thanks.
My Name is Amanda. I lost my parents when I was sixteen . I am from a family of five. I was about to sit for WAEC before the sudden demise of my parents. I had to drop out of school cus I couldn't pay bills and my older siblings were still struggling, so I got a job. I worked as a cleaner say for 2 years and I was able to save up something and enrolled for WAEC AND GCE and I passed. I tried my first admission it didn't so the second year someone told me to try a Polytechnic and fortunately I got admitted. I joined school but I kept working and I saved up some bucks and at the end of my ND at federal poly Auchi my G. P was 3.40 yes! I cried for joy.
I. T (Industrial Training) started and I felt it would make more sense If I could start something little within my environment. Since I knew a lot about female bags and wears I held on to the idea and started. My customer base grew as I went from department to department showing and convincing the "big girls" in school about my goods. I approached just anybody so long you female. I kept moving at that pace until I was heavily sought after. My room became my boutique.
Why I am confused now
All glory to God I have been able to establish a good relationship with people who sale to me on credit which allows me own varieties and sell more.
1. Not to exaggerate, I make a minimum of 40 to 45k a month as my own.
2. I ain't rich but I think I am comfortable for a young lady of my age. I will be 24 3rd October.
I focused more on my business and I didn't join my mates for the HND session. My reason was; after school now, I go carry certificate they Waka up and down. Make I kuku use this small money wey I don save use am run my business first as I thought school can wait. could I be wrong?

# I have a course mate who traveled overseas after our ND and she has been encouraging me to come over since I could afford the travel expenses (not to lie, I was considering this also which made me forget going back for my HND.)
Now my question is if you were me would you go back to school? I am of the opinion that schooling in Nigeria without a good back up could leave me frustrated after graduation. No job.
# if you were me would you just continue with your business and open up a shop or would you travel out, get a job and go to school there?
Pls advice Me as I would be turning 24 in no time and I am JUST CONFUSED I have the feeling that any decision I make at this point would either make or destroy me permanently. Pls help a sister
Should I go back to school? cus my dad always wanted me to get an education but I feel I should be able to know what works as times have changed.
Pls I am open to any form of advice. God bless.
Cc. Lalasticlala, seun or any mod. I'd appreciate if you can move it to the right section or where it could get a wider view. Thanks
Thorpido
Raine80 et all...
BiafranBushboy
Hakeem4
I can't really remember usernames

The world is fast changing, don't use the Nigerian scenario to predict the future. Go to school and thank me later

unohbethel:
If a majority of people oppose any law then it has to be a bad law.

The Catalans want a referendum and reject Madrid's laws. And riot police attempting to prevent any vote will only make the situation worse. I suspect this will seriously damage any trust the rest of Spain might have had for Rajoy the spanish prime minister.

i can see rubber bullets not live ammunition as obtained here in nigeria..

nigeria is really a jungle.

Go to Spain and tell them

The Spain's highest court have ruled the proposed Sunday referendum illegal.

Spain have since then arrested Catalonia leaders

To some people, Spain is a unity begging country. Lol.

nicolosam:
You are a dismal disappointment to your existence in earth and to your family for saying all these rubbish!

This kind hatred is what keeps people at a place for eternity. Bro, free your mind and enjoy life.

Malawian:
It might not be a lie o, I just went online now to search pictures of Buhari. How did that left ear lobe grow back?

And the sudanese man jubril spoke in UN? You are really very intelligent

obailala:
Quite baffling how a person could just open a whole thread to display foolishness.

Most times I just imagine if these people have a life outside nairaland. The way they masturbate on every thread about IPOb or Nigeria is just shameful.

This will be the saddest moment of some people right now

Evaberry:
I've been really depressed this past few weeks, I don't sleep at night, I barely eat, I'm withdrawn from people and conversations. all I can do is escape my thoughts and what I'm feeling.

The nightmares are back, after tasting a slice of happiness Im Now this sad and miserable, like I'm only permitted to be happy for a short while and after that everything comes crashing down. the suicidal feelings are back I find myself most evenings walking down to where the bridge is and just starring at the water while imagining myself struggling for breath as I drown. There's absolutely no one to talk to because either it will be taken as a joke,or I will be told I have no real problems and so no basis to get depressed, even if I call I will be made to feel like I'm disturbing him/her and I'm not the only who has problems

Everything is becoming a blur, I no longer care about anything or anyone. All I think about is dying.

You don't need to kill yourself. Life is very simple, conditions just got it complicated, I have chosen to forget about those stupid conditions and take like as simple as God made it to be. I live above worries, whether money comes or not, I have chosen to be happy and I remain positive. TO achieve this, I took away hatred in my life, I determined to be very sincere in dealing with people, I don't owe people, I don't keep emotional relationship, and I help people to be happy.

Most times, when I walk over a fly over, I imagine myself jumping over and crashing my head on those hard roads or cars running over me. Well, physics can help us with the answer to that. But I say to myself, do i deserve such a painful death? Thus far I have come in this life, I am more than that. I am bigger than that. So when I get home, I look at everything in my room, I look at what I have achieved, I think of people that always call me always to ask questions on how to make it on fiverr, I look at those facebook messages I have not responded to, I look at how beautiful God have created this world. I then look at those babies, who saw the nothingness of life and choose to smile always. When you lift them up, they smile, when you keep them down, they begin to cry; they just want to be up and smile. So I choose to be up.

You are smart, educated, mature, why keep talk to people who don't want to listen. Speak to yourself, educate yourself, see thus far you have come, look at those dreams of yours, and ask yourself if it worth it to quit. To me, it doesn't worth it. If there is anyone that will succeed, then it is me, it is you. We are the ones that deserve to live. Yes, we are the ones that deserve to live, and we will live. Don't give up, be happy

Guestlander:
You must be totally screwed up if you think you are making any sense here. Even the south Africans under apartheid never compare themselves to slaves.

How will there understand. Everyday, while I was in Kano, I see Igbos everywhere. I visited Kaduna, I saw Igbos everywhere, I came to Abuja, Igbos everywhere, I went to Lagos, Igbos everywhere. Igbos are hardworking people, who believes their own state will come one day. By going through the process of hatred to other regions simply because you want to make a point known to me isn't making sense. The reason that most south east leaders just watched how it unfolded and even had to fight against it.

prodigy24:
This is what I have been saying many of those guys are in Lagos. Especially Joe igbokwe. And mrphysics and several monikers here.

I don't know why you have to mention me. Where I am today, I did because I struggled to get there, I don't wait for a government to spoon feed me or anything. If Igbos are marginalized, why didn't you hold your senators responsible, your governors, you are with your enemies but the first line of attack is the federal government. Bro, I write on fiverr, I have a work, I earn my salary not from any Nigerian government.

Secondly, I hate politics, and I hate how politicians are going about it. Everyone except you believes Kanu went about it the wrong way.

You forgot how you insulted me the last time I thought you were reasonable enough to engage on a discussion? You forgot the stupid things that got you banned you did? If this is the kind of Biafra IPOB is leading us to, then I won't pray for it to come. Since I can't be in the minority that will have a different opinion and still lives in peace.

I think its good to mind your business and forget about politics. Everyday i come to nairaland, I am in the business section not romance section. I would appreciate not being mentioned again. I respect your opinion, kindly respect mine

Fingerprinter:
I'm kul like that jare. Perhaps, I could consider working with the guy sha

Great.
OP don't miss this opportunity. Send him a pm

Fingerprinter:
You write, and you are still looking for job. Continue.
Dust your laptop and he'd over to fiverr or any of those freelancing websites and help yourself.

Lol. The guy is good. You can try him out when you want to outsource work. Wish he was the one handling my writing, he would have appreciated it more than the other person.

Hope you are good

Aeker:
Yes, boss. You can contact me whenever. I'd PM you my phone number so we can communicate via WhatsApp. Thanks.

I have steady power supply, sharp, and responsive laptop, and enjoy internet connection 24/7. I doubt there'd be any issue with those.

Thanks.

Great. I will check you up in a short time.

Aeker:
True talk, and thanks for the tips, bro.

My case is even worse. I'm the first of six. So there's no one to turn to. But that doesn't deter me at all.

However, I'm not based in Lagos. That notwithstanding, I'll explore the second option.

Thanks.

Anytime I have a writing work do I contact you? I mean do you have your laptop and where to get power to work?

wman:
https://www.nairaland.com/2947212/exclusive-how-make-level-2

https://www.nairaland.com/1833989/how-make-1000-month-writing

https://www.nairaland.com/2390751/how-make-up-500k-every

https://www.nairaland.com/2594236/elance.com-upwork.com-other-freelancing-site

You are a good writer. You can make at least $500 monthly freelancing at home.

Read through the pages I pasted for more info. All you need is there. You don't need to pay a dime to anyone.

This is the best advice you have offered in this thread. Every other advice is trash and mouth action.
I was once very active on nairaland, opening thread and writing things that made front page but never gave me money. I never visited the business section, and I missed a lot. last year December, I visited the business section and it was all glory.

From what I got there, I have earned 150k - 240k a month from fiverr. Aside my salary that is above 100k, while sitting down in the office, my fiverr gig gives me money. Everyone in the office knows I earn much from fiverr, adding to my salary, I earn more than most persons there. The experience was worth it. All I needed to secure the job was samples of fiverr works and my analytical thinking skills.


When you conduct a due diligence study of most persons here shouting no job especially on ladies, you see them being most active in the romance section. Some of them shouting no work yet they can write, give them book to write, they feel you have killed them.

My fiverr client on Sunday told me that I don't know how hard it is to make $25 in US, I had to screenshot it to show those thinking that Nigeria is a grave. $25 is just N7k.

Let me just stop here. Thank you for showing him the way. only few will take it.

The other day, I referred someone to business section and he called me in the office that someone gave him a work about N40k work. I think he's been busy with that work.

Jarus:
He needs wisdom here. Going behind his direct manager to talk to the MD on an issue his boss is meant to spearhead may backfire.

Depending on the organization. Like I said, issues regarding to payment or promotion are not done by the manager. He may suggest and his suggestion will be giving upper hand. I work under a manager and I can't talk to him on issues about payment. Infact he won't even talk about that. If I have such problem, I will go to the HR office and discuss. I think this is the official thing to do

teneeorlah:
From working experience, i am pretty sure even ur MD supports that Manager's action. Its a new trend and some of my friends have complained of such to me.

The fact is they love what u doing buh they dnt want to upgrade ur package, and i am very sure they dnt want u to leave, so the oga patapata(MD) acknowledges ur effort but immediate oga(manager) comes up with stupid excuses.

My Advise
Have a chat with the MD but be very wise and careful so it doesnt seem like u are reporting the Manager.

In some organization, the HR department is know as People, Culture, and warfare. They are the ones he should be talking to. If it is an organization that he has access to the MD, he should go straight to him and lay his complain without even talking about the manager or any other experience he had regarding his complain