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lefulefu:
how will someone earning 15 to 30k be able to stay in a highly expensive city as abuja? Dats suicide nau. I fit understand if such a person has relations over there in abuja he or she can fall back on but to say u just living in abuja alone and earning 20k omo dat na suicide. No wonder most of the young ppl dey na gigolo or prostituition job dem dey do dere to suppliment wetin dem dey earn for their other job.

Bros you are missing something. Most ladies living in Gwarimpa are 70-80k earners. They share flat with each other with many staying like 2-3 in a room in the shared apartment. It's all about Packaging here. One of my neighbour packed from gwarimpa to my compound when her shared rent expired. A man rented an apartment, a self contain in Gwarimpa for 450k. So she took in someone (my neighbour) who pays 25k per month to her. When the rent expired, the man was no longer there and they had nowhere to go. Her salary couldn't even get her a gateman apartment in Gwarimpa.

Ignore those packaging, some of them are just living below their means. It's all packaging. So when they tell you they live anywhere around town, it's either shared apartment or they got a place rented for them by a man. One of my neighbour couldn't believe the real source of income of these ladies until last week friday, I drove the guy through Wuse 2 to Adetokumbo ademola crescent to front of Transcorp, pricing ladies for the fun of it. When you go out at night, you will see the reason some of these ladies package themselves.

You can survive in Abuja even earning 30k, the city has a way of placing you at your budget except you are doing other things

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
I never asked to be trusted.

You just did Nwanyi

Goldstar24:
it is

Lol, I see. Stay safe

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Aii

I don't trust you

Goldstar24:
lol
i am not
I saw the post and decided to give him my own advice

lol. This is not your main account

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
I was. No I wasn't an exception to be frank.

Cool, glad to get an honest response from you.

Undergraduates should be for undergraduates. It's very risky having anything to do with a student.

Goldstar24:
me? what did I do

For resurfacing online on this post makes me think you're OP's girlfriend.

Goldstar24:
forgive her but don't accept her back. you will see someone better

Should I forgive you?

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Not all.

Lol, I am telling you that the majority are. It's risky dating an undergraduate not in this dispensation of brain dead people. They are in school exploring themselves, cohabiting, and doing all sort of things for the fun of it. Thinking there are exceptions is funny. The low number of these exceptions are negligible and as such you can't make a conclusion with them.


Are you an undergraduate? Are you an exception?

Dating a student comes accompanied with similar experience(s).

Try as much as possible to avoid dating undergraduates. Leave undergraduate ladies for undergraduates. They will always break your heart with their sexual explorations guarded with lies that only the devil can tell.

NiyiRocks:
What do I type into google map to locate these spots? Road network in this place is crazy- high velocity roads fa. I turned learner driver all over in Abj just because of these highways.

For yellow page, it's pretty much easier to locate. Drive to Kubwa by NNPC filling station, take your right. Ask for yellow page. If you are not mobile then from NNPC filling station Kubwa, take a bike (N50) to yellow page. It's very popular

NiyiRocks:
What do I type into google map to locate these spots? Road network in this place is crazy- high velocity roads fa. I turned learner driver all over in Abj just because of these highways.

I'm still learning the road network too. It's very much complicated honestly.

The village is in Nassarawa, it's called Mekere. Located 15-20 minutes drive from Nassarawa State University.

Robnectar:
ehn ehn ehn lord nah abj u dey stay bros I hail oooo

Lol. I dey Kubwa boy side

lefulefu:
this na why i dey view guys wey dey nag and cry when they find out say their girlfriend dey do parttime runz.instead of crying why not just get ur free share from her then go out and get a serious dedicated girl

Gbam bros. Collect your three point and move on to another serious one.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Don't worry. The lord will crown your efforts soon. Be with someone who supports you and admonishes you when you wanna spend recklessly... Date. Someone who can put in a good word for you.

Thanks

lefulefu:
yes oo most girls involved in street job na mostly naive and submissive men dem get as boyfriends or fiancees.iyam talking of dose ladies wey dey do their own codedly o.

Some of them do it as second source of income. After all what those broke boys need is sex. So instead of giving to them and still remain broke, let me just do it for the fun of it.

So it's just for the money bro, they have someone on reserve.

lefulefu:
ehn na wao una jus dey fear abuja gehls

You won't understand broz. They are guys here that spend the money. To those guys, their income comes from above. In a day, they can unleash 50-80k. I mean normal guys not rich men ooo. These are the kind of people most of these ladies are looking for. So there's no need trying to go into something you already know you can't control.

It's better to flow their transactional way. Take her to the cinema, pool, hiking (never done this before though), and see such relationship end in praise.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
And you'll bring her to Abuja right? How sure are you she won't b carried away by the flashy cars and all?

Very funny dude. Just pray for a responsible lady that's all.

Yes nah. I will bring her to Abuja maybe after marriage. Whatever she does afterwards, she fully understands the risk.

You know most ladies believe they are single unless they are married. This mentality encourages oloshoism especially in Abuja. Ladies believe they are free to mingle even when it is clear they are in a relationship. The ones I have met in Abuja, I don't run the risk of asking if they are in relationship. The moment you do that, they already deciphered you are a novice and they play you. Keep the question to yourself and play along.

Nothing serious

lefulefu:
who no like good thing
even ladies wey dey do proffesional runz job always want to settle with a decent and caring guy wen time don reach 4 dem to settle down.

They have boy friend and a caring one at that. I pity guys shaa. Lol.

lefulefu:
so u guys in abuja how una dey take cope getting a serious girlfriend over there? dat my guy doing sugerboy business in abuja say god forbid he settles with an abuja babe.says wen im wan settle down na non abuja babe im go settle down with.

Bro, for me nah non Abuja babe ooo. It's less risky.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
That question is now the norm among guys o. It's irritating. I don't even need to ask such question, simple interaction and observation and I'll pick that up.

I see. But not always. One asked me where I work, I told her Mr. Bigg's restaurant. That was how it ended

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
So broke girls should be attracting sugar daddies? Be careful though, I heard some rich people exchange destinys of gullible to make themselves richer.

@ the emboldened, ladies are already doing that. It's a forgone conclusion, no longer debatable.

To others:
Lol, akuko mike ejiagha

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
But peeps be marrying every weekend here. With this mindset, you'll keep attracting the money hungry ones.

Sure. Compare the marriage rate to the population of those between age 25-35; you'd probably get 0.005% marriage conversion rate/marriageable age of the population.

Like I said, the cool and calm ones are so small that they seem to be negligible.


How will a hungry/broke boys like me attract a broke lady too. I should be attracting sugar mummies

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
I've not even gotten to 30 yet sef but then if it's so, e no matter. Everyone gats old

Direct psychology. Nice try too.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Lol. How about u guess?

You are between 31- 33 years. You mentioned it on one thread like that.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Na to flog ur English teacher.

Yes. She should be arrested ASAP.

Let me just take it that you frown at sex outside marriage. Going a bit further, I want to believe you don't indulge in it.

Robnectar:
shiiiit mehn u boast my head..... most abj girls save their bfs contacts with where they working.....
like, Segun NNPC
Michael NTA
emeka FINANCE
tunde carpenter

For easy remembrance.


It's a business transaction here. If you meet any new babe for Abuja, the first question she will ask you is "where are you working". She's not interested in what you do in your workplace. If your response isn't among the names on her Next Level list, then she has no business with you. However, you might be shocked to meet same babe along Adetokumbo Ademola Crescent by 9pm today.

Robnectar:
hhhhhhh nice1 mehn..... some babes can't form sagio Ramos on dis topic..... [b]Most abj babes on NL would rather ignore dis threa[/b]d





if u notice am bcox they know say una dey open their yansh

Thats the best thing so to do. Ignoring the threat because it exposes the truth is better than being Sagio Ramos on a topic that is as naked as the sky.

Ever imagined how every babe in Abuja knows a guy working in NNPC towers, FIRS, NCC, Aso Villa, CBN, etc. lol. All of them have a connection. I pay my due respect to them all shaa.

oglalasioux:
You look foolish, as a man, to be talking about love to an Abuja woman. She expects you to understand she's in it for the money. ..including married women. No one talks about love here.

There is no love here bro. I met one the other day, to think that I don't even imagine relationship with her makes me wonder what I take Abuja ladies for. You can't be thinking love for someone who is probably controlling about 10 different magas. So if you have the money, shove the love aside and spend few of it for what you want.

I am beginning to imagine that most Abuja guys are into LDR, because that way, you have someone you can give about 45% trust.

Falling in love with an Abuja babe is like falling in love with a lady who is going for NYSC- there are in for exploration not heart matters.

Robnectar:
eh eh her own Suleja fit dey Kenya

Lol. Or Tungemajen

victorian:
My dear , the society won't allow us breathe in peace and live our lives . Also family too will also butt in with their mentalities.

Have dated a younger guy before and I regretted it at the end. There are certain crucial decisions the younger guy is meant to take as a man but cos of his age and his exposure . I will be hearing , my dad said. My mum said . my aunty said , you are kind of older , left to me as a guy I don't really care but when it comes to parents putting their foot down, Victorian am so so sorry and its breaking my heart saying this but it seems my dad is pessimistic about the age difference and tribe .
While my mum is even like over her dead body .

Have heard such excuses way back , when I was still naive and foolishly in love . I won't fall for such traps anymore . Experience is the best teacher .

You are better off with ladies in their 20s. And I'm better off with my age bracket kind of guys .

Thank me later

I can relate with this though. I believe there is a certain decision a man would want to make and then he realizes that he can't do this alone. There will always be room for consultation. No man wants to make a decision that won't augur well with the parents. Irrespective of how strong he is, it will affect him psychologically. Imagine he settles down with you against the wish of the parents, how would he feel knowing you're not accepted by those that forms his inner most circle.

So many things affects the judgement of a man. I like your decision though, as long as it works for you.

Robnectar:
better hide ur face and stop pretentiousness
abi ur own abj dey Angola

I told her we were talking about suleja since she was claiming not to know or even relate at all