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What's the Bleep is "a b!tch from da crib"

bin gbagbo:
be a lady girl. , SMH

Be a man. BOY. SMH.

To all male readers,

Believe it or not there are submissive men in this world!  In India, a woman can marry multiple husbands and most time the woman is the one paying dowry to the husband's family to marry the man.  I have a friend who is Indian by birth and she shared to me that some households both spouses submit to each other and shares "head" role.  

Remember, Indian women seek out the men and pay the dowry and YET their husbands are the "head" and they are the "neck".  Guess what, some of these people are still MARRIED TODAY.  

Each MARRIAGE, ARRANGEMENT, AND RELATIONSHIP are individually different.  You can survey five couples and each of them will have different "lifestyles".  

Now since some chatters like to bring the Bible into the equation, the Bible speaks against intimate immorality such as adultery and fornication.  Guess what, some "religious" married couples are practicing open sex marriage, which means they can sleep with anyone as long as the spouse give permission.  Guess who enjoying it the most?   Ding! Ding!  Men.  Now these women are "submissive to no fault" and engaging into acts that are dangerous to themselves because their husbands want open sex marriage.   Some of these women protested against the thought but what can she do if her husband is determined to "fling" outside the marriage?   She can either join onboard or get left behind.  

The reason, I brought the concept into the equation is because people have this image in their head that ALL MARRIAGES ARE COOKIE CUTTER and that the best marriage is LED BY A MAN.  Why is it when some couples immigrate to America, Canada, or UK that they have marital issues within the first 90 days?  I am not saying all, but damn.  

Here a bone, successful marriages are contingent to those in personal and individualistic [/b]relationships.  Operative words: [b]PERSONAL AND INDIVIDUALISTIC.

I often hear other men compare their relationships with how other men are in their relationships. That's a sign of insecurity and confusion.  If a man is a leader in his relationship, why is he comparing his "leadership" with other men?  

That's why many men are stressed out, clocked out from society, and looking for that 20% because they do not share representation role with their women.  The neck supports the head and sometimes has solutions that the head may not otherwise think of.  It is good to be in a partner relationship than a dictatorship relationship.  

Listening to your partner and COMMUNICATING with your partner (male and female) isn't a sign of weakness, it is a sign of RESPECT, UNDERSTANDING, COMPASSION, and LOVE.  

Long read, I know!  

She is not into you. Better luck next time.

MarcAnthon:
Mrs Chima will eventually lead these poor single girls into a ditch! Seriously I think you should put a disclaimer on your advice that says something like " Follow this at your own risk! Seriously.  

Inked, don't mind that woman o. Check out these scenarios and tell me which is least desirable:

Why do you and other guys think I have that much power over girls on Nairaland?  Heffas don't listen to me many of the times and that's why they come online crying and ranting about the woes of their men.     I do not need to put a disclaimer anywhere, if what I am advising is meaty enough to bite then so be, but if it isn't meaty then they don't have to bite.  Free will.  

There is a difference if a guy watches sports all the time and DO NOT SPEND ANY TIME with his girl than a guy who watches sports on Sundays and cater to his girl the rest of the week.  Which one do you think I was referring to when I said ignore him in bed?  

Inkie, you are right!  A sensible woman will only bother her man/husband if something is SERIOUS.  Oga Chima watches his matches and I do not bother him, he bothers me!   I am sure the men will come and cuss me out, but I don't find nothing exciting about a bunch of men in tights kicking balls across the grass to the goal posts then again, that's porn for the men.  

Ladies, if your guy ignores you during sport time, ignore him during bed time.

Men are born cheaters.

[quote author=Inked_Nerd link=topic=839545.msg9911151#msg9911151 date=1325893590]
lol, because the OP who wrote this loves demonstrating that he has no brain.

Jiggaboo is an understatement. Coon is a more befitting word[/quote]I was being polite. I had few choice words but I am being monitored by moderators. Didn't want to hurt him further.

MsDarkSkin:
well if you're not good in bed. . .wouldn't you rather they pretend?

yes i know i am off topic.

Nothing is worse than a NEGRO WHO CAN'T Bleep to save his life.

kokoye:
do I detect anger?

Chima darling, we have some anger issues to discuss . .you are beginning to scare me.

I cant live with this.

It is part of the pre-intimacy. You have scratches on your back dear.

tellwisdom:
msheww chima, do you love me?? If you resist, i will smash your yansh

I am not into polyandry. Wish you well on your search! _{Don't take all of her money.}

EPITOME OF A LAME ARSE JIGGABOO.

For example:

babsjnr:
Oyinbo and asian gal are natural blessed with beauty nice hair. Black women no way everything is false. False make up false hair.I'm done with nigerian gal for ages I can't stand they attitude and they are d most bloody liar on earth.

I said this:
[quote author=Mrs, Chima link=topic=839545.msg9910019#msg9910019 date=1325879508]Many oyinbo chicks does these following:

Liposuction
Botox
Tanning
bosom augmentation
Arse implantation
Extension
Collagen injections
Lip injections
Plastic surgery
Dental corrections

Many Asian chicks does these following:

bosom augmentation
Skin bleaching
Eye-Crease reduction surgery
Extension
Arse implantation
Feet Molding
Diet Supplement therapy

I guess body alterations is the new natural huh?[/quote]His response:

babsjnr:
@ chima u are talking abt those oyinbo celebrities with fake tan and all dat excreta. Even in american where u live those black american celebrities do the same thing as well .lil kim, nicky minaj rihanna they bleach they skin with fake yansh

Pick one and stop changing stories when you can't come with a comeback!

kokoye:


can I laugh?

They say it not polite to laugh at window lickers, but if you can chuckle.

jay bee:
Baby c is so fyneeeeee. Where did u steal her from?

Don't be jealous boo.  You can have a cutie for nominal fee.   

MarcAnthon:
Nah that's old-fashioned. I conjure up their spirits and we have a one-on-one. Besides shouldn't you be afraid to send your signature stamp to a Nigerian? You know the possibilities of what can happen with that, don't you?

Not handwriting signature, signature stamp.  You know a stamp with personalized signature of an image or character?

Never mind.

The site's IQ decreased by 150%.

It is interesting to see black men with "gorgeous blue eyed and blonde hair chicks" and COME ONLINE BASHING black women.  Hmm. 

Who is driving Miss Daisy?

MarcAnthon:
That's a new philosophy. Let me contact Emerson and Thoreau and run this by them.

Let me email you my Signature stamp to attach to the memo. It is cute!

kokoye:
Dont forget who your dealing with. Come on now

You cant use your thighs to get my money

You like those cheeky thighs huh?

MarcAnthon:
Point of correction there : desperation breeds rashness and foolishness, so 'desperate' women (or even men) cannot be 'smart' by any stretch of imagination. 
By the way who is 'gold' and who is 'clay' Just asking.

@OP, May God mend your broken heart. Amen. I think you should go and get laid and let us all hear word!

You can be smart and desperate.  You make better decisions and choices on available options.  Does it matter who is gold and clay?

babsjnr:
Oyinbo and asian gal are natural blessed with beauty nice hair. Black women no way everything is false. False make up false hair.I'm done with nigerian gal for ages I can't stand they attitude and they are d  most bloody liar on earth.

Many oyinbo chicks does these following:

Liposuction
Botox
Tanning
bosom augmentation
Arse implantation
Extension
Collagen injections
Lip injections
Plastic surgery
Dental corrections

Many Asian chicks does these following:

bosom augmentation
Skin bleaching
Eye-Crease reduction surgery
Extension
Arse implantation
Feet Molding
Diet Supplement therapy

I guess body alterations is the new natural huh?

Repubocrat:
Better yet, they shouldn't even use any religious quotation as grounds for their opinion in a secular discussion.

That too but you know we got dopeheads on this site.

pendo89:
lol chima,I never knew you were a preacher lady. Allow me to add one about love. Love your wives as Christ loved the church and laid down his life for it.
How many men can take a bullet for their wives or love them the way christ does? 5/100.
And to the ladies with godless men,the same bible commands them to win them over to God through their good deeds (submission being part of it even if they men despise God and I think the same applies to the men.They need to treat their women well through deeds), not unnecessary preachings and fastings.

I have mentors that are heavily into the Word and often time I debate with them.      I am not religious but I am not atheist.  And it is sad that those who are "religious" doesn't even know the Bible they claimed to worship.  SMH. 

I was going to go deeper but didn't want to chase the demons away.        You raised an interesting point, they commands submissive woman but WON'T DIE FOR HER.  WTF.

I also want to add that submissive doesn't mean to yield to everything that is good AND bad. Use common sense Ladies, if the man that you are submitting is beating you or abusing your children, use your brain and un-submit! If you have a good man and doesn't have an issue with submitting him and it WORKS FOR YOUR MARRIAGE, GREAT! But, do not feel that in order to keep a man that you must REMAIN HIS SLAVE, no! You deserve to be HIS QUEEN and if he can't treat you like a QUEEN then he is not YOUR KING.

kokoye:
^^^

Oh, at times like that, I like the naughty factor.

and for some reason the only time she aint stubborn is when were doin the nasty . . I wonder why

She was mentally constructing her shopping list.

I blame many American women who have non-American people thinking that all American women or "Westerner" women are desperate and naive.

Smart and "desperate" women should aim for gold and not clay. Just saying.

What's despirate?

kokoye:
No I did not. I did it on purpose . .and I'm sure you read her response to that punk Bottom question of yours.

Now who's the fool now . . .fool?

Kiss MY ENTIRE AND WHOLE ARSE, MUGU!

[quote author=Inked_Nerd link=topic=840406.msg9909844#msg9909844 date=1325877453]
Ok, and my response was just a SIMPLE question.

No, I don't think he can be considered a single father. --an absent father yes, but not a single father. Him being an absent father could be in two forms though. He could be a father who is there financially but is not there physically or he could be an absent father who is neither there financially or physically. Since he is not the one who is taking care of this child primarily [if at all], I cannot [and will not] consider him a single father.

[/quote]You are right, I used an incorrect word. Absent father is appropriate and I agree with you.

Since a lot of chatters like to introduce the bible for their "evidence" and failed to read it in entirety.  A man leave his family and cleaved as one with his wife.  He is considered the head although without the neck, the head is dead.  

Please read the bold again.  It means the man is the representative of the family but must consider the feelings, thoughts, and actions of the family.  Now let getting back to submissiveness, the definition of submissive is to yield or to compromise but not to be dominated nor controlled.  

Many men today, who only reads the bible on three major holidays such as Christmas, Easter, and Passover failed to apply it to their life in totality.  The bible said a woman is to submit to her husband as he submits to God, why would a godless man requests a submissive woman when the bible specifically states that the man is to submit to God before he can even request a submissive woman?  

The bible practices are for believers and doers of the Word and not PART-TIME believers.  The bible mentioned nothing about manipulation nor "mugu" but definition states submissive is to yield or to compromise.  Now let get back to Genesis, a man leave his family and cleaved into his wife and BECAME ONE.  Decisions are made as one and the man is the representative of the family.  

Morale of this post is:  Don't introduce the Bible if you only open the bible twice a year.  Read it and understand it.

[quote author=Lord_Reed link=topic=838273.msg9909683#msg9909683 date=1325876005]@ThiefofHearts
Sorry to disappoint you.

@Mrs.C
Here comes the logic. Men and Women are different and have different roles. A submissive man (which implies both attitude and action) is a negation of his role as Husband and Leader. I am not saying he is to be bull headed and not listen to the wife but here is the difference between a submissive man and a humble man. A humble man realises that he is endowed with power to provide and protect so he bends it all to serve his wife and children while a submissive man thinks he has no power and acts like it.

@Inky
You are excused.

Elaborating further on the difference between Men and Women. Women naturally fit the submissive role because they are built mostly for defense while men are built for offense. I just saw a video of a young mother (real life story) who killed an intruder who had broken into her home, her reason - she had a lil baby. Motherly instincts are the best defensive instincts in the world both in man and animal. The female is supposed to protect the nest while the male goes a-hunting.

Before you go telling me about today's world lemme ask you this: when a baby is born who does the bosom feeding?[/quote]So why would a man wants a submissive woman who has no power and acts like she does? So in order for men to feel like they are in control they seek a powerless woman who knows nothing and incapable of doing nothing. That's an insult to "powerful" men. Men should be able to achieve any challenges that comes their way and not bitch about being self defeatist. (not saying you per se)

A cheap man posted!

[quote author=Inked_Nerd link=topic=840406.msg9909624#msg9909624 date=1325875487]
Well if neither of them are looking to have kids or want to have surgical procedures to prevent them from producing children then they'd better put a cap on it. And sadly, people can be very unfaithful these days so its not a bad idea to keep wearing condoms. I read somewhere on an African website of a woman wanting to ask her husband to wear a condom since she had prior knowledge of his infidelity [even though the husband didn't know she knew]. When she asked him, the husband beat the woman senseless even though he was the one who was tainting the marriage with his affairs. In the end, the woman said that she had no choice but to continue Being Intimate with her husband even though she knew there was a strong chance of her getting an STD or and STI.
[/quote]Wow! Koyoke wrap up!