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OP

Be creative and use your imagination.  Do not let others plan your proposal for you and use the dynamic of your relationship with the chick in person and create the proposal off of that. 

If she ask you did you have any help with this proposal, what would you say?  No? 

It is a proposal not an exam. You go all out and she say no, what's next?

debosky:
I'm not going to get into the definition of insanity, but no one gets put in a padded cell for abusing their partners. If they are truly insane, then they are not responsible for their actions - I am sure you don't think abusers can be absolved of responsibility of their actions. .

If you are speaking of Nigeria then you are right.

debosky:
Y'all are cracking me up. . . .so people have been gathering divorce stats by tribe?

TOH & DK oye ki  emo pe awon alakori po gan nibiyi. Eyin ti e n'da won lohun lotun fun won loro so.

I guess only Igbo and Yoruba have access to the divorce records.  

debosky:
There's a big difference - the payments are a measure of the man's ability to take care of the daughter and not a case of selling the daughter.

As for 'sanity' don't bet on it - if the man himself was abusing the girl's mother and deems that as normal, why would he remove his daughter? He will simply regard it as a normal part of marriage. Abusers aren't necessarily insane, they just hold a different worldview.

Sane as in not delusional and psychotic fathers would not subject their daughters in an abusive relationship and if the fathers are abusers themselves then they wouldn't be classified as "sane" because what is the point of abusing someone that you supposedly love?

Sane fathers are protective by nature and if they have to die to protect their wives and daughters regardless if bride price were paid or not they will not let another man harm their family.  

Abusers are usually powerless and use physical tactic to "control" their weaker vessels and that is INSANITY.  Abuse of any kind is wrong and you do not need a bride price to determine if a man can take care of a woman or not.  Even if the man can take care of a woman doesn't mean she (wife) has to be a liability.  

As I stated bride price of any amount doesn't determine whether the wife would be a good compatibility to the husband as someone on this thread stated divorce has nothing to do with tribe but with incompatibility of two people.

ThiefOfHearts:
You are of neither tribe, so why get in the middle of a tribal argument?

abi o. with machete. Plenty dead Igbo wives in ATL and Texas. ask and Ill provide proof. shio.

This tribalistic bullshit is getting old.   Igbo and Yoruba aren't the only chatters on NL.  

Nayah:
It does already! go on politics and sub section "ethnic, racism" t[b]his kind of thread is so sad[/b]

Exactly. Someone told me I shouldn't voice my opinions about the fuckery of tribalism because I am not Nigerian.

I guess I have to be Nigerian in order to voice my opinions about tribalistic bullshit.

Blazing88:
IGBO WOMEN VE BEEN BOUGHT INTO D MARRIAGE! SO NO GOING BACK, DATS Y EVEN IF DR HUSBAND IS KILLING THEM DEY MUST STAY THERE.
YORUBA WOMEN AINT BOUGHT, BRIDE PRICE ISNT AN ISSUE. SO IF THE HUSBAND IS MISBEHAVING,THE PARENTS OF D LADY WLD WELCOME HER HOME INSTEAD OF LEAVING HER IN D MARRIAGE TO SUFFER.SO DAT EXPLAINS THE DIVORCE RATE. N YORUBA WOMEN R INDEPENDENT, STRONG N HARDWORKING.THEY WORK N BRING MONEY HOME TO SUPPORT D HUSBAND N HER KIDS. UNLIKE D IGBO WOMEN DAT STAY @ HOME PLAYING THE HOUSEWIFE WAITING FOR HUSBAND TO GIVE HER MONEY TO COOK SOUP N MAKE HAIR!

You can make hair?  

ThiefOfHearts:
Not exactly sure why you're getting in the middle of this when you're not even Nigerian, Miss Chima

Yea no SANE father would but that's how THEY operate. Many people look down on Yoruba parents for not sending a child back to a tragic marriage. They've even mentioned it on this very thread so excuse me, my comments arent coming from the sky. I know what Im talking about and Ive seen it

Getting in the middle of what?

I have to be Nigerian to speak about sane fathers? WTF.

splitnaija:
That's how to be a Good Girl Woman in Africa

So sad.

ThiefOfHearts:
omar, you hit the nail on the head. Na greed dey do them.

People complain that a Yoruba father will readily take his daughter back if the marriage becomes unbearable. THANK YOU LORD FOR CARING YORUBA FATHERS. That dont think they should push their children back into a snake pit just because they dont want to return dowry. Awon elebi oshi. They can watch the daughter be slapped with a hammer but she'll still be asked to "manage and pray to statute of Mary for strength". Rather a dead daughter than to be a "disgrace of the village"

Rubbish

Tribe or not, no sane father will thrust their daughters back in the hands of an abuser especially if they are aware of the abuse.  No amount of bride price ensure happy marriages.  It's sad daughters have to be sold in order to be a wife and people have issues with ashyhoes.  What's the difference?  

SAFO:
Grabs popcorn

Good Girl

I have seen the movies as well and some of the scenes were unthinkable.

2buff:
It wouldn't fit you thick arse anyway

Here, have a sample of my tasty marinated nuts.

Ayowumie:
And those that are divorce is purely based on incompartibility and the 'opening of eye' that "love is no longer blind"

Now that is FACT.  When you know better, you do better.  

[size=22pt]OH MY FUCKING GOODNESS! ENOUGH ALREADY![/size]

Damn you Yoruba women for hurting these men so bad!

Fine! (rolling prom dress and throwing it in the fire)

No women nor men exempt from an arsewhooping.

Nayah:
^lol

I see you blushing and giddy. Do I hear NL wedding bells ringing?

(blowing dust and cobwebs off high school prom dress)

Nayah:
^^ maybe you're right my sister, for the thread itself I couldn't say very much about it because I know more Ibos than yorubas and actually I'm not in the "Igbo/Yorubas' everyday life" to make any point but the thing is you should be very careful here when you talk about any tribe cause it could easily derail

As for poster, maybe then environmen and education are different from both tribes or divorces consequences are less taken in account among Yorubas, but seriously I really think it's very subjective and it depends on several elements

I agree tribalism=cyber war.

Nayah:
but you're right normally we could be able to discuss things without passion but it's not very common here

That's because too many chatters are suffering from "It's true because I said so"  syndrome/disorder.  Different opinions and viewpoints are offered and emotional chatters get offended and defensive over written words that has no value over their lives which are the reason for most derailment.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Some people think the ring should remain with the woman even though the wedding didn't go through.  Sentimental reason mostly.  [/color]

I hear you and I believe when a gift is offered and accepted then it belong to the person.  There is nothing stated anywhere that if marriage doesn't happen, the ring must go back.  In that case, everything that were given should be returned including sex and kisses. 

Now you see how dumb that sound?  Exactly. 

It may be sentimental for some folks but it just tacky to ask for a gift back just because it didn't work out or you are mad at the person.  Some women will return the ring because they want nothing to do with the ring or the person.

3RNEST:
>> What did u see?

A big booger on your nose.

See what?

[quote author=Ileke-IdI link=topic=774748.msg9284750#msg9284750 date=1317869580]Why dnt Nigerians read, for real?

Even one paragraph is too much for you guys. No wonder why some ppl either have receding logical skills or none at all.

Reading is good for the mind. Plz read.

@Post

Thank you for teaching our men. Simple cuddling Naija men no fit do o
Chaiii, I feel sorry for our ladies.
Even kiss them no fit do, dem fit chop pesin's lips off. Talkless of withstanding their decaying mouth odor.[/quote] Keep it real!

[quote author=Ileke-IdI link=topic=774678.msg9284757#msg9284757 date=1317869740]At first, your threads were 1/10 funny.

Now they just have the same boring pattern. Give up already. [/quote]1/10th funny? You are too kind!