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2buff:
Is this person sure she's married?
I'm beginning to think all this "Mrs" prefix ish is all just wishful thinking. 

What the bleep is you talking about?  Does it really MATTERS to you? 

The fact you all up in MY poo say a lot about what's going on in YOUR AREA.

Okay you all.  My partner want some attention.  _{sticking tongue out at r231 when I said partner}

Don't tear up the thread until I get back!

r231:
too small. . . . . my daughter is a princess

Then she will be just your princess.

[quote author=Shy-One link=topic=757157.msg9147796#msg9147796 date=1316024850]@ Chima

You are so sweet

But - my needs and my guy has nothing to do with my request

I am wanting some information from a culture standpoint as to what is an acceptable viewpoint from a "Nigerian Woman's Point of View"

Curiosity pure and simple

My guy and I have our own thing and from the posts I see on this thread - it must be very special - cause I see very few doing what we do.  I just want to get ideas of Nigeria before I arrive from a Woman's Point of View and What is seen as Natural and Second Nature for them according to how it is "taught"[/quote]Hmm okay.  Talk to the women in his family and ask for their opinions.  They may tell you something that expected of you if you chooses to marry your guy.  

Don't stress yourself too much.  Take baby steps.

r231:
she is not a NL member unfortunately

if she is i will be sleeping on the sofa everynite lol

but you can open a thread like that in family section

i am sure there is a lot of sensible wife and mothers on their that makes a lot of sense

as per the bride price thingy, i was talking about my daughter's

bride price depends on each family cus every family list is diff

You are going to milk your daughter's future husband for all he got.  I know you made a list when she was 2 years old.  Tell the truth.  

50 lbs of yams
20 lbs of Jasmine rice
40 goats
300 chickens
20 packs of Brazilian weave for the Mrs.
100 crates of assorted Lager
N200,000 in cash

Lax75:
only a loser of a guy would be with a broke @ss broad. broke broads turn me off. what do they have to offer? seriously. only a guy who can't deal with a real woman would be with a liability of a broke @ss broad. as i said earlier, i have no problem splurging on gifts, but for me to pick up the tab for her "responsibilities?" that's crazy. if she can't handle her obligations it shows a lack of responsibility and laziness somewhere. and that's not my problem. for a man who feels he is a man because some broke @ss broad is dependent on him? that makes him as much a loser as she is.

You are saying two different things.  First you are saying a woman that expect her man to take care of her then turned around and said a broke broad is lazy and cheap.  A broke board is a person who has no money so how can she be cheap?  

If a man picks with a broke broad knowing she doesn't have money then he can't complain about her being a liability.  You can tell who is broke and who is not.  

Now being broke has nothing to do with being lazy and cheap because cheap people keeps money and lazy people just mooch off other people.  But a broke broad HAS NO MONEY.  

You threw three to four different shit into one mixture.

I am going to answer to your black arse Lax.  Just wait a damn minute.

[quote author=Shy-One link=topic=757157.msg9147687#msg9147687 date=1316023889]@ r231

Hey R - I wasn't going to comment any longer until I read your last statement

While your wife is laying on top of you - will you ask your wife if she can open a thread telling us what is the eqtiquette of a Good Nigerian Wife?

I want to know what is considered a "Good Nigerian Wife" - regarding handling money, work, children, house work, sex - also what is this bride price you were talking about as well.

For us foreign women - so we have a better understanding of the culture.  She is nigerian, she is a wife and she is married to you so I would love to hear her point of view.

She can even title the thread R231's wife's point of view - that would be helpful - to us.

Thank you.[/quote]Shyone,  

Each Nigerian man is different.  There is no Nigerian man that think alike regardless if they were raised in the same "African culture" as r231 will say.  If that was the case all Nigerian men would have the same type of wives and lifestyle.  

To be a good wife to YOUR future husband is entirely up to what you feel you can contribute and meet his needs and vice versa.  

What r231 needs may not be what your guy needs.  Mrs. r231 can create a thread about her opinion of a good wife but would that be enough for YOUR GUY?  

Being yourself in a good way and open to making the marriage work is the key to being a good wife to any man regardless if he is African or not.

Lax75:
I repeat. Stay away from broke @ss broads. Find yourself REAL women. And guys, if you are going to help out a GIRLFRIEND who is in a financial bind, do it as though you are helping a fellow human being out. If she turns around and spites you tomorrow, know that the little you lost will be rewarded to you 10 fold. God never fails. Trust me on this one.

Broke @ss broads are broke because they are lazy, cheap, greedy (live beyond their means) and full of envy.

How you know a broad is broke because she is lazy and cheap?  Hell there are women with money that are lazy and cheap.  Each woman have a different reason why she is broke or lazy.  You made a generalized statement.

r231:
my wife is laying down on me

and i just showed her what you wrote

funny enough she is still laughing  

Hey Mrs. r231!! Get your husband! He been abusing me!

I will not divorce my husband because he is my friend's ex. I know who my friends have slept with or had a relationship with. We don't cross that line with each other and we respect each other relationships.

That's why you need to know what type of friends you have and who you bring your partners around.

If I was dating a man and I found out I would desist promptly.

It has been confirmed r231 is stingy.

Lax, you ain't been gone long enough for me to miss you. Now I was rolling my eyes because you told the men to leave those broke broads alone. You know damn well SOME men feel good when they have broke broads because it makes them feel good to be depended on.

Let keep it real.

[quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=756922.msg9147258#msg9147258 date=1316020294]Ok Mrs Chima. How times have u been dumped? dont lie [/quote]The same amount of chicks you bleeped from Nairaland. That should be easy to add up.

0 + 0 = 0

Maybe if you get a real live ashyho you wouldn't be worrying about me.

Rolling eyes at Lax.

That's nothing new about black men cheating. Tell something we don't know.

kokoye:
l[i]esbia[/i]n alert!!!

Jealous.

Screaming in bold is not going to change the fact that many of these wives are treated like children. 

Come here r231  _{Where is my flowered wife beater?}

r231:
jus cus you pay bride price dont mean your wife will be a housewife or something

I can't tell.  The way many of African men treat their wives like children and many of the wives put up with it in the name of African culture. Hmm.

Hey each to their own.

rokiatu:
Ok here's my short list.

In no particular order.

Chima, I luv you wifey but I can not share you.

Darkskin, luv you girl.

Atreides respect babe. I missed fighting with you over Hrithik. Please come around.

Odunnu cool and sweet girl. But get it into your head, I do not like born2phuck.

Tima, right back at you girl.

Keep it up or we will have the family meeting.

[quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=759690.msg9146518#msg9146518 date=1316014056]***I hope Mrs Chima & Ebonyvibe will not start hatin on Nayah. They be jealous ****[/quote]I have nothing against Nayah nor I am those catty chicks.

I am sure Nayah is a lovely person outside of NL.

r231:
you need to check the size of their balls as well

cus they don't have one thats why they are crying all arnd NL

all i have to say is when you get married,

tell your husband to change his name to your and move into your house

I am not into dictatorship nor have to boss anyone around to feel like human.  I believe in equal partnership and making informed decisions with my partner that may affect us both.

I didn't married my boss.   

r231:
cus he has traded his brain to ABOKI for a COOLER and his family bck home are trying to locate ABOKI to get it bck


dat happens everywhere not just in Africa. . . . . . dey do more killing in US dan Nigeria anyways


thats the whole point, I get the final say in everything


All you have to do is open a thread and ask all sensible African woman their role in their various matrimonial homes. . . . .

I am sure they will gladly tell you

SIMPLE

Of course you would say all the killings are done in America and let not forget them poor people in Africa getting burned alive over some damn potatoes.  SMH.  I am sure all those "jungle justices" aren't making to the national news.   

Again, YOUR RELATIONSHIP isn't the epitome of all relationships.  I don't need to ask African women who is the head in THEIR relationship.  All I have to do is collect all the posts made by men crying their wives and girlfriends making them feel less of a man and BOSSING THEM AROUND.  Great African culture!   

By the way, if you had to pay a price to get a wife then why wouldn't she let you be the head of household? If I didn't have anywhere to go hell I would "kiss" arse too.

[quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=758314.msg9146370#msg9146370 date=1316013133]If Mrs Chima ever knocks on my door, I will move to another village (no oofense) [/quote]I wouldn't even come near your village. I would rather set a fire to it with you in it.

r231:
you still not getting it. . . . . we Africans have a culture and we value it too

all relationships are diff so as marriages BUT regardless MAN IS STILL THE HEAD OF THE FAMILY

My wife will not/NEVER make a decision without consulting me

even African woman that makes more money than their husband still respect them and still understand that their husband is the HEAD

You said that Africans value their culture then why is my coworker's husband is at HOME cleaning and cooking while she is working?  That don't sound like a head of household Negro to me nor African culture.  

So much for African cultures that many Africans can't stop killing each other for a simple disagreement on what should be an African culture not.  You have African Muslims and Christians killing each other over religion but Africans suppose to value culture.  Hmm.  That's a great way to value the culture by genocide. 

Who said anything about your wife making decisions without you?  She isn't suppose to make decisions without you and you shouldn't make decisions without her.  Duh.  

It still doesn't change the fact that all relationships aren't the same.  As I said if you are the head of household as you claimed then you shouldn't have any problems doing everything.

Simple as that.

I have my snitches.

kokoye:
Woman with a male status, why are you replying my question with another?

All you know about suya is that Mr likes it.  Have you eaten it yourself?

Share the experience if you have . . .and I'm allowed to poke holes in your story 

Jealous of my male status?      Poke holes in all you want.  Keep assuming what you don't know about me.   

LMAO@Koyoke talking like suya are some rare treasures.

You are a minute man. All she has to do is bend over and you are done.

r231:
It does not matter how you look at it. . . . .

THE MAN IS THE HEAD OF THE FAMILY. . . . . . and i am sure 99% of of woman here knows dat SIMPLE

That's where you are wrong.  There are women who do not mind her husband being the boss while she just sit back but there are women who know she is equal to her husband and therefore the consensus is equal.  

If that how YOUR RELATIONSHIP roll that on YOU.  All relationships are different and the ones that are successful are the ones that works for THEM.  

And since YOU ARE THE BOSS the madam shouldn't want for nothing nor do anything. Everything falls on you even the housework.

rokiatu:
Wives?

Typo.

aribisala0:
absolute rubbish show me the biblical basis. certainly most of the women farming aand trading in nigeria are women in the south so i don't know where you get your AFRICAN reference

Are you talking to me?

jay bee:
Not a most but at least understandable from an African man's or biblical point of view. The man is meant to be the head of the household alas providing all sort of support if and when needed.

I disagree with you Jaybee.

A man alone isn't meant to provide.  Since we are going to use the bible the woman is supposed to be the help mate which means a partner to a man.  So if she is a partner to a man then the man can't be the head.  If the man is the head then the woman isn't equal to the man. Just saying. 

A wife is not a baby therefore she is to put in her own weight as well.  As I said a man will give if he chooses to without request or force.  If the man is forced to give then it is not support. 

Going back to the bible, "if a man doesn't work, he doesn't eat". When the bible uses "man" to describe a person it mean the woman too.

I don't like it when my wives are fighting.

Where is my pikins?