₦airaland Forum

Until one stab the other.

aribisala0:
it is a social class thing really. people from different classes are brought up differently that is the crux

I was raised to be independent and that a man is an addition to me and not a necessity. I guess that put me in the class of self taught and survival.

Thanks suga! You one of my favorites too!

kokoye:
what do you know about suya?

I aint talking about bbq 

You think all Americans are sheltered huh?  I blame dumb arse Sarah Palin.  Not all Americans think Africa is a country and can see Russia from Alaska. 

Some of us have international passports and stepped outside of our own culture.   

I know Mr. Chima likes it with that nassy Irish beer Henassyanddisgusting.

You hating on my picture?

That's how I got Jaybee and Koyoke.

So sad.

kokoye:
^^^

Kids listening to tales by moonlight from grandpa

you is jealous? 

Jealous of suya and moldy beach trips?  Yeah right!

bittatruth:
[color=#550077]Van vicker [/color]

Remove him from your post heffa!

jay bee:
^^^^
ehn ehen
So u been kidnapping that your gorgeous wife since uni days
u ought to be flogged

Poverty mentality is just a biiatch. How on earth can anyone try to justify a G/F making it an obligation for the b/f to support her financially when they ain't even married is beyond moi.

There are women in this world that do not ask men for money even after marriage.  Many of these women were taught to do for self and not run behind a man for support.  If a man wants to help you he will offer it without request nor force.

A woman shouldn't have to ask her man for anything even if they are just dating.  Real talk.

Oh well! MBJ, I tried!

I don tire ooo

I have to erase the history and cookies.  Can't have my baby browsing and seeing Van Vicker plastered all over the Internet.   

You know black men are JEALOUS CREATURES oooo

He is deeeelicious huh?

(getting on ground looking at Hottie Tima's claws)

Please don't hurt her! She is delirious! ABeg oooo

Oooh! I typed in Van Vicker and it rained heavens!

All I saw was rain of fine Van Vicker!

pendo89:
hehehe. I love it.
It's 2 day holiday here! too much free time

Did someone introduce you?

talina:
If you dont expect anything, then the door is open for people to be who they are. They can "dance" as Ive said.

By not expecting anything you see the true color of the individual you are standing in the amidst of. To me, expectations are like blinders. It prevents you from seeing what is in front of you and accepting the reality of what is not there. That's where most women get caught up in and have no idea what they have walked into.

Expecting is having a preconceived notion of what should be there instead of [b]what is [/b]there. 

talina:
@ Mrs Chima
                     I like what you are saying. Makes sense!

Thanks suga.   

Okay. I am guilty! I did it and that was cool!

Take a nap!

[quote author=Ileke-IdI link=topic=758147.msg9142682#msg9142682 date=1315976715][size=28pt]WASH PADS?

A boy made this thread, right?[/size][/quote]Unfortunately.

[quote author=Yoru_Igbo link=topic=757251.msg9141046#msg9141046 date=1315948139]In Nigeria we have only 2 marital status i.e. Married or Single so as far as most Nigerians are concern so long as they are not Married they are single not withstanding whether you have a girlfriend or not.

So the question should be why are you not in any relationship? I know some of my friends in Nigeria that have girl friendssss and yet they still call themselves SINGLE[/quote]In the old days, it was either Married or Unmarried. People changed it to single because it was not "politically correct".

When I wasn't dating, I was single.
When I was dating, I was single.
When I was engaged, I was single.
When I got married, I am not single.

People now use words like "involved". "complicated", "in between mates", "bootycallers". and "Frennies". Frennies are friends who are pretend married couples.

MRbrownJAY:
@Mrs C
if a woman comes with the right attitude then she can be helped but if anyone comes with the attitude that we see on this thread (aka we are dating so you MUST help me) then that's wrong.

if i listen to these posters carefully, they wouldnt even say THANK YOU, since it is our "duty" to take care of them. oh lawd!
people will never appreciate the gesture if you give it to them recklessly.

MRbrownJAY:
@Mrs C
if a woman comes with the right attitude then she can be helped but if anyone comes with the attitude that we see on this thread (aka we are dating so you MUST help me) then that's wrong.

if i listen to these posters carefully, they wouldnt even say THANK YOU, since it is our "duty" to take care of them. oh lawd!
people will never appreciate the gesture if you give it to them recklessly.

As  you know I am a feminist and I UNDER no circumstances expect a man to do anything for me.  That was the whole purpose of the feminist movement originally before it became discombobulated was to give women equal opportunity to earn livings WITHOUT depending on their husbands and have rights to their children AFTER DIVORCE. 

As I stated in my previous post, women are doing too much for so little.  Instead of focusing on the wrong thing such as having a man and what he has she should be focusing on what she can do for herself.  God forbid and something happen to Mr. Chima, I can survive on my own because of the "attitude" as you call it is no one is expected to give you anything and if they give thank them. 

When I was dating, I didn't settle for just one guy.  I had fun dating male friends and it was easier that way.  No expectations and no one is tied down.  I have noticed women get caught up with having a man that they lose themselves in the process.  This is the motto that many of the women in my family used and encourage others to use, "Never expect anything then you won't be disappointed". 

talina:
I agree with this point. Its kind of the basis of the issue. When only DATING, helping each other out is a give and take thing, NOT an obligation. Especially if the person can help themselves. Helping someone must come from truly wanting to. I wouldnt want to be an obligation or burden to anyone. I would want my guy to be aware and wise to what is going on and act accordingly.And I would do the same.

That is how MOST men operate.  If they feel a woman is a burden they will replace her quick in so few words sorry so many words MBJ have expressed that.  The time have changed and what used to work in the PAST isn't working TODAY. 

Women need to make do for themselves and their men should be an addition to their life not an necessity.  That is where many women messed up and I have so many stories of women who have not focus on SELF and lost everything because of a man.  I am not saying a man is to blame however the focus was in the wrong place. 

Women nowadays do too much for so little and wonder why MOST boys are the way they are.

Just saying.

lefulefu:
Imagine the horrible smell that will come out from the pant worn by a nigerian girl.It would be worse than the smell of rotten eggs .I still remember that movie Domittila pt 2 were Charles Okafor was busy having a fling with his step dauther's friend in his office and almost got caught by his wife.He hid the babe's pant that he pulled frm her when he was doing her and put it in his trouser pocket and when his wife left he used the pant to wipe his face thinking the pant was his hanky and immediatley the smell frm the pant passed his nose the bobo almost fainted .I really laugh hard wen i watch dat scene

You are doing excellent. Keep confessing. We will find the root of your problems sooner than we thought!

r231:
husband is the head of the house my friend

that doesn't change the fact that they are partners/couple

what planet are you from

I am from the Planet Earth and a man is the head because a book told you so?   

They are giving away airline tickets to Planet Earth FREE.  Take one.

You all some long winded mofos.

Just like men of the East can "replace" women, the women of the West can "replace" men. 

Just like SAFO said anybody can get bleeped.  People nowadays do not value themselves and the only thing a woman can give a man is punny and the only thing a man can give a woman is Joystick. 

After that what is left?  Exactly.

You do know not all women posters are Nigerian right?

Just saying.

Excuse me? Head of the house? They are partners not boss and employee.

lovedgal:
MBJ,

I AM NOT THAT TYPE OF GIRLWHO WOULD EVEN LET HIM CONTINUE just because he helps once and when I really need the help,  I have a conscience and will not use my man as an atm machine.

@DYT and r321,
I asked him and he changed the subject smoothly so I rest my case

Now that you have asked him and he indirectly confirmed your allegations. What are your next course of actions?

Are YOU okay with him being stingy?

Moderators, Can I do a death threat? Pretty please?

pendo89:
Interesting to see nigerian men claiming to like petite ladies yet I see them worshipping and praising extra large here everyday.
what changed?

Gendo, Crooks date anybody and men that genuinely like the girls are most likely to stick almost all to their culture. From age to Bring home to Momma material.