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MsDarkSkin: I just noticed something common in the wives of the francophone countries.

https://www.nairaland.com/871883/african-presidents-wives-first-ladies#10203273

https://www.nairaland.com/871883/african-presidents-wives-first-ladies#10203557

https://www.nairaland.com/871883/african-presidents-wives-first-ladies#10208740

https://www.nairaland.com/871883/african-presidents-wives-first-ladies#10203422

damn shame.

They are all damn near pale yellow and white? You know damn well them Black men like that glow in dark coochies!

MsDarkSkin: lol they look like little ladies just having girl talk.
they are adorable.

Yes..they are adorable. That girl momma should have lotion her knees!

Blyss: Heeeeey, that's not nice! I thought you and I were supposed to be cool. What happened to you, why are you mad, Hone?

As long as you maintain as a dummy....I will always be mad.

Chrisette Michele


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n0SxWEI4qh0

She is known to wear natural hairstyles. She rocks them.

[quote author=Val.emodi]She engagd in distant relatnshp al tru ha 4yrz in d university.being faithful,shuning oda guys.only 4d guy 2come nd breakup wiv ha 4 no just reason..Mid tweenies,she has decided to treat al guys @pa until 1 pops d proposal tin. So my ?is,is multiple dating good.. Ow is d best way out[/quote]In my opinion....multiple dating is not bad because that is how people should date. If you are in an exclusive relationship I think that you should be engaged or married to the person otherwise it defeat the purpose of dating. Dating is a method to feel the waters and see who you are compatible with before getting "serious".

In my opinion....dating isn't a relationship.

kandiikane: ^you mean whip your horse hair.

You meant yours?

Oh my goodness.....Chrisette Michele is gawgeous! (That's how Chima says it )

I like the tower braids pic. Lovely.

Let me whip my hair.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y-MJEx5TxkQ

Blyss: Damn, so why I gotta be all that..just because you mad, Hone?

Because you are a dummy.

champs: Please moderator, hide Mrs chima's comments, it is senseless and insensitive to what we are trying to achieve on this thread. This is IVF support thread and it is very sensitive.If you are so interested in adoption, you don't have to break a sweat in creating new thread on "adoption",those that are interested will join you up there.Thanks.

Sending babydust and sticky vibes to all the TTC women.

Don't take it personal. It will be okay.

madam L: my sister is now an apostle of deciding fast ib these issues and facing fate early. another sister now thirty is also battling infertility but we have all learnt and the decision will be faster this time. she plans to adopt early and if the great one gives her biological kids she will also be very grateful. i experienced great grace. i had three but there are huge unintended gaps in between one kid and another and stopped birth at age thirty two.

I am glad that your sister accepted reality for what it is and didn't give up being a parent by accepting another option. She is doing a noble deed adopting and one less child is without a parent. My co-worker's sister tried IVF for five years before she decided to adopt fraternal twins. She is engaged to be married and they have recently gotten news from the surrogate mother (she is five months pregnant). They are having a boy! She found out that she wasn't able to conceive because of her weak uterus but she was able to produce eggs which was good news. She is a parent because she found other options that was available to her.

I hope your sister's adoption is speedy and successful.

MsDarkSkin: Smh....

chima dont even respond. I know you didnt mean any harm.

My co-worker finalized her adoption last week and we are throwing her a party at the office tomorrow and the baby is adorable!

[quote author=Mynd_44]The unfortunate thing is that even if you do all this and add yours, infact if you worship your husband like he is a god, men unfortunately are still human hence, they are subject to the flaw associated with being human like greed(wanting another woman), a massive ego (i am the man of this house, my word is law) and a host of others.
There is no manual on marriage as not two human(in this case, man) is the same you just have to make the laws on your marriage as you go along[/quote]That's true. I know women who did everything what dummy posted and many of them are divorced!

A woman can drink her husband's bath water...it is not going to stop him from taking a bath with another chick.
A woman can suck the skin off her husband's toes....it is not going to stop another woman from sucking his toes better.
A woman can look like a Goddess with perfect nyansh and teeth...it is not going to keep him from cheating.
A woman can clean her house and cook meals expertly...it is not going to stop him from going to another woman's house.
A woman can say honey, sweety, darling, baby, and king every five seconds...it is not going to stop him from calling a phone line ho.

Bottom line...there is no such thing as perfect marriage and two people aren't willing to [size=44pt]WORK TOGETHER.[/size]...the marriage is doomed.

[size=22pt]Nothing you can do to push a man/woman away if they really love you and nothing you can do to keep a man/woman if they don't want you. [/size]

Simple.

Castos: Mrs. Chima, i think u should read all and very well before saying ur selfish opinion.

A question isn't an opinion dumb app.

MsDarkSkin: no she would love me.

she would bite chima tho.

I would whoop that baby's arse!

Blyss: Why you mad, hone?

Dummies first.

Castos: I do w0nder if the
destinati0n of the j0urney 2
motherhood of s0me ladies makes
them 2 f0rget the r0ute of which
the j0urney began! What d0 I mean? I have seen
many married ladies here with the
complaint that their husbands is
cheating on them despite having
one or tw0 kid(s) f0r him!
S0me c0mplain of their husbands n0t spending time with them at
h0me or taking them out, s0me
that their marriage is still fresh but
their husband are n0 l0nger
sh0wing the l0ve he pr0mised
them! Now lets go d0wn t0 business, I
believe that bef0re b0th of y0u
g0t married s0mething in y0u
attracted him by dating y0u and
also motivated him in getting
married t0 y0u but unf0rtunately y0u all0wed that weap0n of l0ve
y0u had on him t0 die! Ok, when
you both were still dating, y0u
were fixin and keeping your nails
so clean and attractive, y0u
changes y0ur haird0 and even have a style which he cherishes s0
much that whenever he sees it on
y0u, 0h God, he can't resist y0u,
y0u wear a nice perfume that he
feels like eating y0u up whenever
he is ar0und y0u, y0u do sents him lovely text msgs every night
bef0re he g0es t0 bed which
made him to find y0u irresistable
and ended up making y0u his
wife because he believes it will
c0ntinue like that as l0ng as y0u b0th are together! But
immediately after marriage y0u
all0wed these things to die in y0u,
so tell me, why w0n't he cheat on
y0u by g0ing after those girls that
still p0ssess these things! Husbands cheat on their wieves
because they are n0 l0nger the
person they use to be bef0re they
g0t married! How can he n0t cheat 0n y0u
when y0u have bec0me a liability
to him that he even feels ashame
t0 bring his friends/c0lleagues
h0me! T0 make y0ur marriage a heaven
made 0n earth y0u have to play
your part as a g00d wife and n0t
leaving everytin to him al0ne (a
tree cann0t make a f0rest) be that
l0vely, seductive, attractive, hard- working and caring girlfriend he
use t0 kn0w bef0re! *Its alarming h0w s0me ladies
after getting married and having
0ne or tw0 kid(s), they turn
themselves int0 0ld grannys! They
leave their hair unkept like a
w0man wh0se husband died, ties wrapper from m0rning till night,
leaves their breast with n0 bra,
leaves their nails unkept and
w0rst still, breast-feed their babies
all day with0ut taking a single
bath and sleeps afterwards! Tell me why would your husband
spends time with y0u or why
w0n't he cheat on you by having
an affair outside since y0u have
made y0urself unattractive t0 him!
These are ladies wh0 husbands takes their secretary t0 dinner
parties instead of them! *Its als0 the fault of a lady wh0
lays 0n a bed like a gh0st in the
m0rning and f0rg0t that her
husband will eat bef0re g0ing t0
w0rk! C'm0n, take y0ur ass outta
that bed and go fix s0mething f0r breakfast f0r him, 0nce y0ur
husband is up preparing himself
f0r w0rk, y0u have to be awake
also and even help him in dressing
up, if he d0esn't like eating bef0re
g0ing to w0rk, just prepare him a cup of h0t tea or c0ffee! *If y0u are n0t a w0rking class
lady, beg him t0 set up a lucrative
business f0r y0u s0 that y0u can
be supp0rt t00, d0n't just stay at
h0me to eat and sleep because the
result might be 0besity and a l0t of men hates such! *If y0u have a maid/h0use help,
d0n't turn her int0 y0ur husband's
sec0nd wife by all0wing her do all
y0ur husband's meal, men are
easily turn off by the attitude of
such ladies because it 0nly sh0w h0w lazy y0u are! *D0 remember h0w y0u sends
him r0mantic text msgs when y0u
b0th were still dating! S0,
whenever he is out t0 w0rk, just
send him one or two l0ve msgs
telling him h0w much he means t0 y0u and make sure it c0mes fr0m
the depth of y0ur heart! *D0n't be a nagging wife, always
appreciate him, dress in a way he
can't resist y0u, keep the h0use
clean, play with him, always make
his f00d ready bef0re he c0mes
back fr0m w0rk and also do welc0me his family with open
arms! *S0me ladies immediately after
marriage they call their husband
by their names or the name of any
of their kids! Oh N0, its n0t so!
Thats n0t romantic, he is still the
guy y0u dated so c0ntinue with the pet names! *D0n't compare y0ur husband
with other men, be c0ntented with
what he has g0t and d0n't wish 2
be Mrs J0hn c0s her husband g0t
her a new car, be y0urself! *Ladies, once in a while take y0ur
husband and kid(s) out! D0n't
wait untill he d0es that, like
saturdays take them out to a
l0vely and quiet place and have
fun! Y0u can even drive the car y0urself, let him be your wife that
day while y0u being the husband!
Make it more romantic! Spend
y0ur m0ney on y0ur husband ! Make all these and m0re y0ur
weap0n of love and y0ur
husband will never think of
cheating on y0u! *Ladies make
y0urselves Presentable s0 that
y0u can be Ad0rable in the eyes of y0ur husbands*

I read the first sentence and the rest was a blur. Do you know how to be a good husband

MsDarkSkin: If you know anyone who exhibits all or some of those....

Stay far and find ways to get them out of your lives.
Like I said, I have this link saved in my phone.

Anyone I meet will be put to the test and those I know, I evaluate them on that criteria.

REMEMBER AND KEEP IN MIND, Not everyone suffering from psychosis will look like this...
https://0.tqn.com/d/crime/1/0/h/D/manson1a.jpg

That's true.

agiboma: Mrs Chima ooo,i had to go back a few pages to see where the anger was coming from. Well madame i must say that statement Camry highlighted is what has fueled the fire here. On a ttc thread, where people spending tens of thousands of dollars to have children and you write this my sister as a mother you could have done better ooo. This is not the place for such a statement and thats the truth. Then rubbing your kids in the face of these folks saying you'l exchange them. I know its a joke but man, it was in bad taste again. I guess you have never battled infertility so you dont know the mental anguish that is involved in this process. Personally i have been their, I now have a son who is the love of my life and pregnant again. But this took over 7 years of trying befor i could have called myself a mother. So do i understand where the people on this thread is coming from yes i do all to well. I was even contepmlating ivf, was about to start teh process then i found out i was pregnant with my son. Look i dont want to bash you and i am a firm beleiver in adoption but their is a time and place to make that recommendation and i dont think this thread is the appropriate place.
Infertility sensitivity training for Mrs. chima Complete

Thank goodness adoption is still an option.

MsDarkSkin:

Lol. I guess i just need to find a teacher.
They need an online african version of rosetta stone

My husband is teaching me and he is getting on my nerves.

The letters combination is a bit tricky but once you get to the sound of it...then it begin to make sense. I also notice if you speak it with the accent...it is easier.....

I like the dance.

Fulaman198: That is because Nigerians have forgotten that their roots are the bush and would like to be as American as possible.

Nigerians in Nigeria forgotten their roots

Well...you can attest to that...you are Nigerian living in Nigeria....

Beetle: 10 Things You Should Not Say to a Friend Experiencing Infertility
1. Pregnant yet? If your friend is pregnant, she'll tell you when she's ready. Don't keep asking her how it's going. Let her tell you in her own time.
2. It could be worse. To a couple who wants children, it really can't be worse.
3. Haven't you done enough? It is up to your friend to determine when enough is enough.
4. Focus on the other parts of your life. This is really tough for a woman with infertility problems to do. For some women, her desire for a child becomes her life.
5. Think of all the fun things you can do if you don't have children. If the couple didn't want children, they would not be going to the trouble they are to have them.
6. How much is this costing you? This is none of your business!
7. Are you sure you chose the best doctor? Don't question your friend's medical choice unless she asks your opinion.
8. Just relax. Infertility is a medical condition, not a psychological one.
9. You can always adopt. The couple already knows this. They are going through the expense and trouble of infertility treatments because that is the path they have chosen. At some point they may consider adoption, but not now.
10. When my friend couldn't get pregnant... Your friend doesn't need to hear what worked for other people. Her efforts to conceive are hers alone.

Mrs Chima (ITK) pls read no 9 and digest it slowly. It should probably serve as your dinner tonight

I have read what you said and you didn't say anything I didn't know. No thanks...I will not have number 9 for dinner.

Thank goodness adoption is an option.

Beetle: Mrs Chima,

You make me laugh!!! You're so funny. Will you go round to a disabled person saying not everyone is meant to see/walk /talk or do whatever they cannot do. You're so insensitive, you don't go round posting on a TTC thread about stuff like that. It's up to the individual/couple to do whatever is best suited to them. if couples want to adopt then it's their choice not your place to tell them. Pls keep your silly opinion to yourself.

You can imagine this silly woman going to a couple who just lost their child and saying - not everyone is meant to have a child in her squeaky voice. Are you God? I hate it when people think they know a lot and sit on their high horse because they think they have it all and she is now using the reality card.

No...I am not God and never said I was but the truth hurts I see. You haven't made your point..it is typical....it will be okay boo boo.

Blyss: What is up with you and and your negativity to this very well know fact of significant Igbo descent among the Black-American population? Is it some self indulging desire of yours to be in connection to your Yoruba spouse' ethnic affiliation? In the past on here and on other sites I and others have posted so much proof of the extensive Igbo/BA ethnic affiliation, that the information stretch for multiple pages at a time.

Why are you catching feelings

I know Nigerians are like please STFU bush niggas you are embarrassing us.

camrygmail: Mrs Chima,

I am happy you responded. i calmly reject your stance and I say again your statement does not apply to everyone.

Oh yes! you have right to your opinion and so do I (like i stated before). what I choose to know as the truth may differ from what you chose to know as the truth. I would be a tyrant to impose my truth on EVERYONE that being said. i have a right to say and post that i don't support Mrs Chima Opinion and trust me I am not in anyway beign defensive or selective.

Good luck to you.
Camry...

To the other ladies on their TTC journey. I pray God proves Himself in your lives.

Whatever....suit yourself. You are right...the truth and reality isn't for everyone. Noted.

Let move it on people.

Did that baby throw a peace sign?

Where is my belt?

Sybellah: Money&Food na the ideal life!

https://sphotos-a.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-snc7/s720x720/579902_451419064902844_1973002714_n.jpg

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Someone said on this site that to tell an authentic Igbo child/baby watch their expression when you flash money.