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I cant do it o not with my job, i wont be able to keep up i will have to use both breast milk and formula

Poster are you perfect? What you have listed here is not a big deal as far as I am concerned, you better learn to be patient and do not beat that woman. If you marry someone else whats the guarantee that it will be better

sorry o! whats wrong with a woman going for night vigil at a church? Have you people not been to redeem or mfm? are women not there for night vigil Hmm my husband is truly an angel..........some men sef

OMG these comments have killed me. So there are actually husbands who won't let their wives go to the gym!!! Then my husband must be a saint, I dont even need to ask him if I can join a gym I just go ahead and do it and I know he won't have a problem with it because he knows the woman he married. How insecure can some men be besides he goes to the gym himself so he can't say i should not go. SMH. As for him not letting you work where you want, the truth is that working in a hotel is a bit funny especially here in Nigeria but i suspect that OP doesnt really have a problem with her husband saying no, she has a problem with the way it was said. There is a difference between babe congrats on getting a job but are you sure a hotel is the best place? You know all sorts of people go there bla bla bla, he needs to reason with her and not just say no!! end of story, she is not a child after all, he also needs to state the reasons why he doesnt want her to work at a salon and not necessarily in an authoritative way, he should state his case and let her state her case and both parties should come to a mutual understanding. I think this is more of a respect thing than anything else. Nobody wants to be dictated to at the end of the day and no matter how small or young a person is there should be some level of respect. I dont know where you have gone wrong OP but its clear your man doesnt respect you. WHich is why i always say a woman should be financially independent before she gets married. ANd for those saying if she was not going to the gym before why is she going now, maybe she gained weight. OP you dont need to go to a field to work out, take a walk around your estate or compound and watch what you eat

Juzzybabe:
She bears his name, so definitely one day I will have to answer to her on her paternity. If he truely cared, he would have settled his family after marriage. He left for Dubai 2 weeks after wedding. He returned in 2015 for roughly 3months where I was his beating sand while pregnant. That was all I got from the marriage I signed for. his mother ran our union and fed her son with lies. Do you really think it will be wise for me to leave my kid with such people? What have I done wrong to have another woman raise a child I labour 8hours and still got a cut for? I only wish to raise her into the woman I will beat my chest and be proud of. His intentions of custody is to hurt me, he doesn't deserve her. Remember the woman in the bible who slept on her child and exchange her dead baby for the woman with the living baby and asked the king to split the baby into two cuz she knew the child is not rightfully hers?? God intervene. He will stand by me and I will succeed.

I cannot believe your husband is at it again!!! Babe whatever you do please keep that girl safe! Its only you that can take care of her and protect her the way a mother should. If i were you i would avoid going to Nigeria for now at least till the girl is grown and act like you are not aware of the law suit or act through a lawyer but do not go home o! this nigeria where police can be bribed to do anything. Most importantly pray! Pray that he finds a new wife so he can forget about you

VickyHills:
GH: I'm an expectant mother. I need help with baby items.

PH: MTN recharge card of 500

Location: Lagos

Pls send me a PM with your details

Nawa o some of these responses are appalling I swear women have suffered. My dear if you feel he is not being supportive then pls support yourself. Every woman needs to have a means of income no matter how small. If he is violent pls leave before he kills you

TayeJiboluwa:
Concerning your first dream, pls email me, I cant reply that here. I already said, mail me sensitive dreams. tcrojem@gmail.com
I dont know if you have a child physically for your husband or not, but the dream means you're going to get pregnant. Dont allow suspicion or fear make you think another woman will get pregnant for your husband. It will not happen. Fear and anxiety about another woman may affect you, just have faith. This dream is as a result of fear.

Thank you. I will email you shortly

Pls help me interpret this dream. I was in a house with my husband looked like a new house and we had plenty of my money and a woman came in saying that she was not pregnant for my husband. I still had not had a baby for him. I told her If she thinks she will come and live in the house and be comfortable she should think again bc everything we have was financed by me. I was very hurt in the dream that my husband betrayed me but surprisingly I was not angry. The dream was quite vivid

Pls help interprete this dream my mom had. She saw a dead family friend who told her that there is something her mother (my moms mother) hid in her house. So in the dream my mom went to her mothers house and opened the door and a little girl was inside and she said her name is Joy. Then my mom told her to come with her that she will take care of her.

In another dream my mom was in her moms house and she looked outside the window to see her mom digging up a skull of a small child

Glow kit for 8k? Aunty why are you selling fake

sasko:
Almost all women in the corporate organisation have more than one sexual partner


it became necessary if she ever needs promotion or some other favours from her superiors


Don't even mention those in career you are compels to alternate btw day and night shift
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but women na chop and clean mouth

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This is the dumbest thing I've ever read

Hmmm I experienced this before I got married it took 21 days night vigil to get rid of them, MFM type prayers

But OP you are very funny you seem to care about what other people think of you. You better find how you will get money for your machine or better still rent one. You clearly can't depend on that man for anything and he knows he is at your mercy. Why you decided to get married without having a steady means of income is a mystery to me

holocron:
Madam, u have no problems. Your husband loves and cares for you. Give him his private space. Stay off his phones and stop snooping around him. Eavesdroppers never hear good of themselves. You are 7 months pregnant, and such can hardly satisfy the sexual needs of your virile husband. At least condoms confirm that he practices safe sex, and nothing is lost. Things will normalize when you are fit again. Create a conducive atmosphere in your home and watch your marriage flourish. Stop making your home a hell on this earth.

So pregnancy means the man should cheat abu? Poster pls ignore this advice. Sometimes people don't appreciate what they have till they lose it. Your husband does not want to buy your machine bc he knows it will make you financially dependent and you can choose to walk out anytime. If you won't mind working for someone for sometime as a tailor pls send me a private msg

fpeter:
Do you mind explaining Atkins?

In a nut shell is high protein and veg/fruit. zero carbs unless it is complex carbs and lots of water at least 3 liters a day. I have done it before and within a month i dropped a dress size ( I did it because i gained some weight when I was on some fertility drugs in the past). I have also started doing dance exercise that targets the abs. Its more about eating clean than losing weight bc I dont really have weight to lose

fpeter:
Abeg which one is Atkins? as for Keto just google it or search for the groups on FB, you'll understand better.

I know what Keto is which is why I said Atkins is similar and thats what I am sticking to

mummykyrti:
adiahaakwaibom1 not only are we cycle buddies but also we think alike, was meant to visit a trado-massage lady this cycle but hubby said I should finish English treatment first, incase after d test my gynea recommends drugs 4 me, that I can't mix English and trad, hence my wait...I heard those women( the genuine ones o) can discover things modern med(scan) might not detect.

mamas if eventually I go, once I know d place I can recommend it....its in lag tho

Please can I have the persons details

Adiahaakwaibom1:
I had a similar experience this cycle. Took 100mg of clomid & was "wet" most of d cycle but a day b4 my strange exp on d settee after bd w DH; l noticed he was all covered with whitish stuff ( so 4 d tmi); l was really embrassed cos he teased me a lot abt it. I am praying more now 4 a sticky one cos I have realised am issue isn't really b4 or ovulation but after ovulation.


In dealing wit infections esp recurrent types ; it's better to follow it up aggressively. So both u & DH must run a culture test ; then based on d sensitivity result report; an appropriate antibiotic (s) wud be recommended . Check older pages of d trend; there r unlimited successful infos on dis topic.


Choi... This just made my day . But babe u get mind oh


I will advise u give traditional means a try, as u have tried most conventional methods without success. Esp with those mamas dat treat wit herbs & also massage d region.

@ Curvilicious
Curvy mama, easy. Most mamas don talk am already ; just try 2 ignore d boy but maintain ur stance Abt ur pot or if u get "morale"; you can use missing ribs style. Another thing l believe is causing this palava is cos u r @ home. So my dear; find something doing no matter how small; so when every body waka commot 4 morning; you sef go follow join & all of una go still return 4 d same house as una leave am ( concerning him not helping wit house chores).

I am seriously considering the traditional method but to be honest I do not know where to go to or where to start from

Adiahaakwaibom1:
My waka story this morning ;
I went with DH 2 a newly recommended trado woman dis morning. She specialises with infertility issues amongst couples & has been doing it 4 a long time. When we got there; she told me 2 lie down & massaged my belly 4 a long time ; asking me 2 change positions in btw. During her examination; she touched a spot slightly off 2 my left & d pain l experienced was out of this world. She then told me that neither ovulation/ conception was d problem but instead it's implantation.
I asked her why & she said l had a little fibroid that was @ a strategic position . In which whenever l conceive, d baby finds it hard 2 implant cos d region wasn't accommodative.
I told her l have conducted numerous scans but haven't seen fibroids of recent,she then said that its size might be negligible so it might not be seen yet on scan.
She recommended herbal treatment for 3 months with weekly pelvic massage & charged 40k for it. Maybe d way I kept my face that's why she surprisingly said that lf l felt she wasnt genuine l shouldnt pay her till after d treatment period( in which she positively believed l wud have conceived b4 then). She also advised l start d treatment on d lst day of my next cycle if this cycle is not successful.
Na so my waka this morning happen..( somewhere in my heart; l believe her diagnosis. Cos most cycles that l feel "this is it" r always elongated & during that period l have severe cramping Abi Na "biting " sensations that never cease till I start bleeding). Am just praying this should be my last bus stop 4 ttcing waka if this current cycle is not successful.
# Sorry4dlongpost

Pls is the lady in Lagos? if she is can I get her contact details

fpeter:
You're welcome to the group. I pray your stay is short with results.
I heard KETO diet works for PCOS and helps with fertility. Try your
best to relax, exercising is good for you. God bless you.

Thank you for your response I am on a diet similar to it which is the Atkins diet. But I am making it a lifestyle change. though its not like i'm fat so I hope i wont end up looking too skinny with it sha

Hello Every one and happy new year. I have been lurking on this page for sometime and I decided to post for the first time. I have been TTCing for 4 years now this is my 5th year and I have done the clomid route without success and have had 2 failed IVF cycles. At this point I dont know what do do again. I tried clomid for 4 cycles in september last year without success. My husband isnt very open to adoption so I am not really sure what to do anymore. This year I have decided to exercise more and work out as I was diagnosed with PCOS.If anyone has any suggestions or ideas I am very open to them

Sorry o but judging by the way you are responding to people here, it seems you have an attitude problem and I'm sure your brothers wife can sense it too which is why she treats you that way

Still waiting

Dear Prophet,
Please what can you say about me?

sorepco:
[b]My hubby is the kind that likes FULL time respect; greet me when you wake up in the morning, great me when I come back from work, (yes wiv[/b]es please greet your hubbys oo) am heading somewhere with this please dont judge me yet, don't go out without telling me, don't put your hands in my pocket, what are you looking for, don't talk .

Why are gurls of today so childish and immature? Whats there in saying good morning? U c y its not advisable to marry a woman older than u? U senior am she cant greet..what if na she senior u? Common good morning!! If na me ur husband i go de sarcastically greet u every time.

U seem to be the over pampered..notice me...cant cook kinda lady. By what means necessary no try antagonise the mum or sis or u either become 2nd wife or ex mrs.
Na ur arrogance go lead u axtray. Y go 2 his pocket? What did keep there...my wife does not go to my pocket. So wen money started disappearing i knew the maid was at work...she even had the nerves to be buying all her classmates a treat at school on mondays and fridays!!

I have been married almost 5 years and I can count the number of times my husband and I say good morning or welcome or good night. Life is not that serious. My husband is 7 years my senior. I put my hands in his pocket all the time and he goes into my bag too. So how does that translate to arrogance, to each their own abeg

6 months but I never did exclusive

bunbit123:
Only a true loving mother will tell you that there's no home without violence. A wise woman endures and overcome.

Abeg my parents home does not have violence and neither does mine. Don't come and deceive people here. Domestic abuse is not normal

quit the relationship. You guys are not married yet! Its one thing for him to cheat but to cheat with your sister thats disgusting. And as for your sister keep her at arms length

Hey Hun, I followed your story from the beginning and I am happy to know you are safe. Honestly if you were my sister I would not advice you to file for a divorce. This does not mean I am asking you to go back. You have been through alot and I think the scars are still fresh, I think you should focus on your job and child for now. If he calls you fine, pick up his calls and honour him as the father of your child, you can even communicate with him via email and give him updates on the progress of the child as a good mother should. If he is not interested in the marriage again he will file for divorce, after all he was the one that asked you to marry him not the other way around. You are out of the stressful environment which is good. My advice is that you sit down and be looking but don't disclose your whereabouts to anyone o

I guess mine is ok but I'm not close to her bc my husband doesn't encourage it. He barely tolerates her sef I sometimes don't like the way he treats her but he says it's because she has her excesses and if you give her an inch she will take several miles. But I call her every now and then and buy her things. My husband is close to my mom though

I dont know why you guys are jumping down her throat. You dont know what happened with the neighbour that led to the quarrel, the husband should have asked her and its very normal for neighbours to quarrel especially if you have nosey neighbours that cant mind their business. If she was stranded he should have at least empathized with her if he didnt have money to send to her for him to start shouting is wrong the man seems like an impatient person. There is no reason why she cannot ask how long the mom is staying for, i ask my husband that when his people come to stay so i can make proper arrangements after all I am the one that buys food in the house so i need to know how many mouths i will be feeding and for how long. Even if i am not the one buying food, and i dont contribute financially someone is going to be in my personal space i need to know for how long so i can prepare my mind. When my people are coming i inform my husband and i let him know for how long. Marriage is not a master slave relationship where one person barks orders at the other and the other person is supposed to take it and not say anything or offer a contrary opinion. A true leader carries everyone along and strives to get the buy in of all affected parties and if they cant agree they reach some form of compromise. So pls leave her alone. Madam I feel your pain. I think your husband might be under alot of pressure, try and find something doing to relieve him of some of the financial burden he has