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JCKA23:
Hmmmm better stop leaving on assumptions, its better for u to zero ur mind, all men are cheats no 1 wey no dey do, and its important for you to know that having a syd chick doesn't mean I m fucking her...

y side chick in the first place. Side chick wey u do prior to marriage, u still carry am enter marriage. sincerely speaking, some people don't deserve to be married at all. so baba Adeboye get side chick or pa kumuyi has a side chick too? It is a pity, don't try to console your self by justifying your actions cos at the end of the day, when u are old and trying to reminiscent over your life, then u will know the importance of living a straight forward life, I pray by then it will not be too late. Anyway, it is your life my brother and have got mine to live, cos at the end of the day, when death knocks, just as it knocks on Stephen keshi's door when it was least expected, u will not be there to answer for me. Have a blessed day, Mr side chick!

JCKA23:
My wife of 1year was seriously policing me, she always want to know what I m doing 24/7, there is no day that will pass bye without her checking my phone to see all my chats, calls and everything, @ times I will even sleep @ night leaving her with my phone constantly checking, despite all the advice from almost everybody to stay away from my phone

As a Man I have 1 or 2 side chicks that she discovered and fought them bitterly, She gave birth to a bouncing baby boy 3 months ago from the day she gave birth she has never make any attempt to check my phone.

What is her motive?

Is it the baby boy that kept her busy?

Is it the advice to stay away?

just 1year of marriage u don start to dey cheat, naim be say u go cheat for ever be that. It is a pity, please stop cheating on your wife, she trusted u to love her sincerely, please respect that trust and fear God who abhors adultery.

unpredictedone:
haba oga, may God deliver from your evil acts in jesus name...
can i get an amen?

amen jareeee!

Cutehector:
10 years is too much for me ha..



She will just be calling me Uncle instead of honey

Not much ore, I am a living witness to that age gap and so far so good, it's working perfectly in my favour. Marriage clocking 10 years soonest.

Chaaaaaiiiiii chaaiiiii chaiiiii!!!!!, women have turned to an object of play. Lord have mercy! Those ladies looks like toys in the hands of a child to those men. Still proud to be a virtuous woman tho.

kaylo31:
Hi Romancelndrs...i nid ur advice pls
I hav bin datin dis lady for a few years nw and i have made up my mind to marry her.Due to the nature of my work,i travel alot n we dont see as often as wen we started datin.I travelled for a job two weeks ago n after a few days we had a quarrel because of some posts i saw on her twitter abt anoda guy in her skool(she is doing her masters).She eventually apologised and we settled.Nw wen i got back,she came to my place n told.me she didnt feel loved,dat tings arent d way dey used to b wen we started dating and she wants tings to go back to nrmal.I admit dat i stopped doin sum of d tings i used to do mostly because i am barely around to spend tym wit her.Nw i am wrking hard to make her happy because i truly love her,but she isnt supporting me,she has stopped callin me all d pet names,wen i call she doesnt say she loves me etc....My fear is she has started seein sum1else bt she wont admit it...pls advise,wat do i do to win her love back? I am presently out of town again for anoda job...the problem is nt money

well, it takes two to make a relationship work and not all distance relationship fails, at least, I am a living testimony to what I have just said. U guys just have to be sincere to each other and when its only one party that is striving to keep the relationship a float, it becomes frustrating and eventually leads to the death of such relationship. When I was dating my guy,( for seven years and marriage is close to ten years now)who now is my hubby, he was far away in the south while I was in the east schooling but I bridged the gap by visiting him every two two weeks, mostly on weekends. of course, there will be ups and down in the relationship but u guys just have to make up your mind to be together for life. You know what, when my hubby met me then, after all the hello and hiiiiis, and after talking for about a month after our meeting, he told me straight that he wants to make me his wife and that he isn't interesting in dating but settling down with me for life, and haven search my inner most self to know if he is the type I can spend the rest of my life with, I accepted his proposal and the dating began. what am saying in summarily is that, distance usually does not destroy a relationship but the people involved. Go straight to the lady if you really want to marry her and propose to her, her reaction or answer will then determine your next move. Ask her if she is still in love with u so you don't keep wasting your time in an unfruitful relationship. Let me pause here, but make sure u get to talk to her seriously before thinking of letting go. sorry for my long epistle, just hoping I have made a common sense. Remember, no successful union without a commensurate sacrifice from both party. Pls forgive any grammatical blunder sighted in the course of reading.

Please someone should educate me on this mother's day issue. is mothers day been celebrated every month now? Early last month Catholic church and some other churches celebrated their mothers day on sunday, so what is this mothers day am hearing again. Some one please enlighten me more on this cos am kind of confuse right now on this mothers day stuff.

I hope you are not another Saraki in the process. You are using the name of the lord to campaign and I hope u will remember this God a t the end of your political contest. Goodluck to you if your intentions are genuine but if otherwise, may you be voted out bombastically, because we are tired of having thief's in the helms of this nations affairs, enough is enough!

Toscoas2:
BUHARI is calming his people down because of a year anniversary. hmmmmmmm

Don't mind all this politicians, they are all deceivers!

Ay04z:
End time mummydirect

Habaaa...... Ayo, I no be end time person naw

Op you have a point there and I totally agrees with you but unfortunately, I was guilty of your topic but thanks be to God, we are married today and waxing stronger in God and in love. May God almighty have mercy on us and forgive us our sins, amen. Believe me you ladies, there is nothing so sweet to ones soul like marrying as a virgin, mehnnn......., hubby will be so much proud of you, ready to show you off to friends and family members at any given time and also respects you a lot, though not all men do appreciate it but honestly if u meet a guy who do, then you will understand what am saying (talking from experience) but this applies to ladies that are cultured and well brought up and not an arrogant virgins. God bless u op and us all, amen. Abeg mak una overlook any grammatical blunder sighted.

Nigerian guys are sex freak mehn......habaaa! kilode, see that one say him like make woman dey nak ham and him go dey dance for bed and I sure say that guy body don dey hot has him dey talk so. Funny clips though, you can't but laugh out loud. Thumps up to Nigerians for being real there.

ogorwyne:
Violence is neva the answer. If I were a guy in this situation, the babe should say her goodbyes o. This kinda woman, if u ever hurt her in marriage she will maim you, and later start regretting. They don't think straight in anger o.

Helloooooo, it isn't easy handling unfaithfulness in any relationship you know. Yes, she said all that in anger and of course over say things but nonetheless, the girl went too far. In as much as u guys are still dating, no need to fume, I would rather keep mute on hearing that my bf (not husband oooo) impregnated some one, carry out a silent investigation and if found to be true, save as much as i can get from the bobo, try another relationship that would be unknown to him and when I am done saving enough, I will tell him to his face and quit the relationship instead of fuming and killing one self over a guy who obviously isn't worth ones headache, just be mature and quit peacefully, that will leave the guy sober and fearful for the rest of his life. Ladies be wise! My humble take though.

Happy birthday to you sir, may his grace never cease in your life and ministry, amen. I rededicate my life to you oh lord, direct my everyday steps and thoughts and use me to your own glory, amen.

Abel202:
My sister, God bless you. Please continue to give your husband the other food in an overdose bases. You don't know what evil & complications you are preventing him from doing or bringing to your family by merely performing your normal wifey bedroom duties, chai you realy don't know. I wish my lovely wifey could also satisfy me as much. Unfortunately I know for sure she can't (unless something close to a miracle happens). So am trying to carry my cross with as much ease as I can manage under the circumstances, majorly focusing on her other really great attributes. Yea - May God Bless our marriages.

It is well with your home sir. Thanks a lot for your encouragement and I pray to God to grant you the miracle that you seek in your family, amen. Regards to the family.

Common, not a fair question to ask, let the past remain in the past please.

Curvinus:
RIP

Apparently he was refueling the generator while its engine was still running..... a costly mistake that has cost him his dear life and that of his daughters......Sounds like a case of whom the gods want to kill........Sad indeed.

Honestly, that was the mistake I made but I thank God Almighty for saving my life.

Huh! May the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God rest in peace, amen. Let me use this opportunity to thank the almighty God, whose love for me is immeasurable, for saving me from a similar situation two weeks ago, though am still nursing the wounds and burns(got my two legs burnt with my right hand). I want to say 'Thank you LORD' for saving my life when my generator exploded while pouring fuel into it, may the name of the lord be forever glorified, Naira landers let's learn to be extremely careful when handling generator with fuel, honestly, you wouldn't wish your enemy this type of death. God bless us all. #ishallnotdiebutlive

crotonite:
OMG WTF says dat igbos ar d most talented tribe in nigeria
i am igbo, but i have always wished i was a yoruba.

Stop this tribe of a thing ,it won't help you in any way.

Huh! Hope the people he is ruling over have good shoes to wear?

naijathings:
Yes it is possible that there is something wrong. But what if the guy is not physically attractive just as some other females here were asking the OP.
is the lack of physical attraction enough to make a woman lose sexual appetite or not want to DO IT with her husband for one month or more ?

Physical attraction is not the problem here cos the woman must have accepted him the way he is prior to their marriage, hence physical attraction has no course here, the man should just study and understand his wife sexual strength and seek for an appropriate solutions, that is all. It happens like that, especially when the man is not all that romantic. The man should just be patient withe woman and assists her with some house chores, honestly, being a first time mother isn't a joke, mostly when there is no assistance.

Abel202:
When I read this, I started laughing in Swahili. I am now married for Ten years. From the first year, I unfortunately discovered that if you allow my wife she can stay without making love for a straight one year or even more. She is a lovely wife in every sense of the word, And I love and cherish her greatly, but as far as love making is concerned she is zero. Over the years, I have tried everything including all the funny advises am reading here. So if it's my kind of wife that the OP married, chai chai the OP is on a very loooong thing. If its my kind of wife then he will have to be able to source for alternative means of satisfying himself sometimes if he has to keep the home front and everyone happy lol. But it's still too early for the OP now. He still have to take some of the amusing advises I have read here and try it to see what it gives. But if it's my kind of wife iya iya you are on a very very long thing.[/b][b][b][/b]

Huh! oga you are trying, well if your wife is comfortable with that and you too are, good for you guys but I personally will rot in guilt not giving my hubby is other food even when it is glaring to me that he needs it. Anyway, I understand sha, I will be ten years soonest too in marriage, so I understand. Do u know during labor, due to the pain inherent in it, I usually and angrily too promise not to near hubby for six months after delivery but alas, just three weeks into delivery, he will stylishly and romantically lure me into giving him which I can never say no to, so you see why I say that something is wrong somewhere, judging from my own scenario though I understand the disparities in men's ability to control their sexual urge. Anyway, women should be careful in this aspect of marriage, in other for the devil not to gain entrance into their homes due to negligence. May God Bless our marriages, amen

Onegai:
Dude, you sound so.....gosh, what's the word...selfish. Yes. Selfish.

Plus you're most going to throw your marriage, peace of mind and happiness away, hurt your child irrevocably, scare your wife away in the near future. All the best, there are a lot of unhappy divorced naija man out there (i used to think they were all balling but strangely they all hate being single).

Seriously.

You didn't bother communicating with her, most likely didn't put any effort into romancing your woman, you're now sulking mentally and decided the best way to "punish" her is by cheating?

She doesn't want to sleep with you because she already is taking care of one small baby, she didn't realise she married another immature baby.

So something has cropped up in your marriage and instead of you to look for a good way to fix it, make your union strong, make society be impressed by your principled stand to keep to your vows and earn your wife's love and loyalty forever, you wrote this??

Mstchewwww.

You better go and get someone to come and carry that baby for a few hours. Then take your wife to a guesthouse and let her sleep for a bit, get your lust satisfied and THEN speak up about how you understand it's exhausting being a new mum and you're here for her but you didn't like being ignored whilst she lost herself in her role because you need her too and will always be willing to support and carry your weight around the house.

Or you can do whatever you want...

You made a lot of sense.

naijathings:
dear friend, let us be honest and reasonable.
this question is open to all the ladies who will ask this same question about attractiveness in relation to sex.

[size=16pt]will you be able to stay away from sex with your husband for months and continually ignore the urge to have sex and walk around acting like you don't ever feel like banging, just because he is not physically attractive ?[/size]

To be honest with you here, I don't know how the woman is doing it, but sincerely speaking, no sane woman will be comfortable not making love to her man for a whole good one month!!!! no no no, something is wrong somewhere.

ajoo17:
Capital YES. Cheating is not part of man, it is as a result of sin. And sin is optional it is not compulsory to sin. It is a matter of choice. In less than 3 months time I will mark my 10th year wedding anniversary and to God be the glory I have not cheated for once. It has not even come across my mind. Why will I do that to my love, who has been given it to me any how: morning, afternoon and night with different styles, in the way I want it? What is the difference in the one I want to go and look for outside? Hole na hole. What is bad is bad, no two words for it. It is very possible not to cheat.

That is my Mannnnnnnnnnn!!!!!! Yippy!!!!!!!! I so much love you for this, God bless you, bless your wife, your children and all that you do in life, for respecting and honouring the sanctity of marriage, May Heavens favour you miraculously. Don't mind all this irresponsible and shameless men who have no atom of self control. Wetin ashewo or side chick get wey madam no get. Boob's na boobs, hole na hole, abi her own hole different from madam own. Tell your wife the style you want and she will gladly give it to you. Why eating
a public food with guilt after consumption when you can eat the same meal and perhaps even better at the comfort of your home, in a conducive and relax atmosphere without any sense of guilt after meal. Does it mean man no longer have control over his sexual desires? I hope all this cheating men will remember that women also have blood flowing in them, hence, if you desire faithfulness from your wife, you also must be faithful.

Michizzy:
You guys have no chill at all . She need advice not insults...
But she mumu o

u r damn funny, u self don follow insult her.

Michizzy:
You guys have no chill at all . She need advice not insults...
But she mumu o

u r damn funny, u self don follow insult her.

maxtrontips1:
Its the price of change!

Nothing comes easily

Don't sit and think everything will change OVERNIGHT.

This your NERC change isn't making any sense at all. Improve the power supply first and I will gladly pay, why increasing tariff when there is no improvement in the power supply? A bill of almost 4000 naira was brought for me alone, and I asks how come am to pay 4000 naira when I can hardly enjoy this light for at least three hours without it going off. I pray for a positive change, and may God grant us a sincere leaders, amen.

passionate88:
these are the major weapons the armed robbers operated with.


how come robbers with broken bottles, machetes, knives and 'others' opened fire on sighting the men of Nigerian police?, they couldn't even display the guns used by the criminals.


Some of those guys are juveniles, they shouldn't be made to go to jail rather take them to a remand home.

pray earnestly for you not to experience their visit, except you are one of them, then you will understand the pain they inflict on innocent people. Warri no get juvenile anything, those guys are demons in human form and should be treated as one.

feldido:
Do you know Esau lost the privilege of being an ancestor of Jesus cos of that act? Now playing with Bible accounts like that shows we don't appreciate sacred things because Esau knew very well what lies ahead being the first son of Isaac, Abrahams Son who through him the world will bless themselves, but he instead threw it away for a mere pot of Stew.

abeg, let us not be holier than the Pope, the guy is just trying to be lively, he meant no harm and don't be quick to condermn for only God knows his true worshipper.

Wickedness in the high places. With all the companies and businesses wey dem get, dem still wan acquire more by smuggling their unfit generation into govt parastatals to further milk the nation. Thieves in high places, e no go better for una wey no wan give ordinary Nigerians the opportunity to become rich, una wealth go crumble within a tinkling of an eye. Silly and selfish leaders, how can a country progress under this ungodly leaders. Wicked leaders, may sudden death be the portion of all wicked and selfish leaders in Nigeria, amen. I don talk my own because since wey I graduate, na God eyez I dey look, na him some stupid politicians go reserve job for their olodo children wey no fit compete with ordinary secondary school children, smhhhhhh to atiku, Ibe and the rest of them, I say Shame shame and shame to their family.