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ayodeji1:
still available

Ayodeji, i have something better.
A Nissan Primera 2.0 engine power.
Manual
Alloy wheels
Power windows
Central lock
AC
Less than six months used in Naija and its for 500k but negotiable.

The car is quite clean and is owned by a nurse who just bought a babyboy for a change.
[b]
Anybody interested?

ezinne1212:
Are you saying it's only the woman that have difficulty adjusting their behaviour when married? Afterall, a lot of problems and so called nagging starts when men forget that all the late nights with the boys must stop, just like womens single behavior shinnigans are put to an end.  I will even go further by asking what you understand by being submissive to your Partner? ( just incase you didn't know that being submissive is a two way street)

Am trying to understand how a man should be submissive to his wife.
A marriage or relationship that involves two people where one is the man and the other a woman should have a dominant and a submissive partner.
However, submissive depends on how you look at it.
In the first instance; the man is the all knowing, all experienced,dominant gender with the protecting role in the family.
He is of sane mind, a level head and perfect tactician.
He has the temerics of taking charge and accepting responsibility for whatever decision he takes.
He informs his partner before taking those decisions and seeks her opinion at instances just to carry her along.
It is definately not a woman's business to fend for the family, she is only but an helper.
It is therefore not surprising what after-effects you get from involving a woman in the activities of the family.
You can read yinka4love's nairaland thread for futher understanding of this issue

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-343557.0.html

yinka4love

My dear Nairalanders, My husband gives me 15k housekeeping allowance and of which i spend double the amount on us i.e him,me n our baby boy.

Ujujoan

Is he daft? How can 15k be enof? I feel these days men just punish women purosely. It's one thing for himto admit it's not enough and appreciate you for playing your own part, but it's another thing for him to be stubbor about it!

Does he spend 15k on himself on a month

From all indications, Ujujoan isn't a career woman worthy of emulation.
She isn't near a helper for a man who is incapable of meeting his responsibilities as they fall due.
God forbid her for my linage.

I haven't said 15k is enough money for housekeeping for a month but Ezinne dear, where is the piety here.
A woman comes online to inform the world of what she gets for housekeeping allowance.
She gives her husband off to the world to rain curses on and paints him black in the eyes of fellow women not withstanding the use of nicknames.

A woman earns an education,she pursues a career and she gets married.
She now expects that every of her meals, housekeeping allowance,clothing and shelter should be single handedly catered for by a man, haba!
If our women are superbeings like you've always claimed why is yinka4love complaining about contributing to family upkeep.
I assure you, millions of other women are like Ujujoan and yinka4love they are misrepresentations of what i have in mind as the true African pearl.

Quote from: ezinne1212

Personally, when my female friends get married, i support them, but when less than 2 months later they come back re-thinking their commitment, i'm sad, things need to change.

It shows they were definately not ready for commitment.
When it dawns on a woman that she suddenly has to be submissive to a man and stop all her bickerings and late nights (in some cases) she feels betrayed.
She becomes downcast and blames it all on her husband.
Newly weds are meant to seek the face of the lord in the first few months of marriage because there lies temptation.
It's in the first years of marriage that issues crop up majorly and the marriage takes shape.
Trust,understanding,perseverence and prayers all come into play, even if you are swimming in money and comfort without these key items your marriage may be heading for the rocks.

I agree, but unfortunately you skipped over the part where men have stopped doing their duty which is to financially provide for the home. Relationships are partnerships, if one partner lets go, there's bound to be chaos leaving the other party to stabilize things. Was civilization responsible for women having to join the workforce to put food on the table and ensure that their kids got a good education?

@ Ezinne

Even in the days when our fore fathers provided all in the home.
Mothers were still responsible for key duties like house chores, cooking,feeding poultry and nursing babies.
That is after having helped with making yam heaps and kept the barns after harvest.
These days we see married ladies who sit at home watching TV,feeding fat on the sofa with house maids at their beck and call while Mr Macho does all the providing.

Partnership isn't about who brings home the booty, its about understanding where the ill wind is coming from and knowing how to adjust,advance or retreat.
Contributions should come from both parties be it in cash,kind words and advice or mere commitment to the single goal of succeeding at a venture.
This is where civilisation has failed to work for us.
The good women have by far gone into extinction, none of the awesome attributes you see in pious women are still existent.
It's really so scary you wonder what will become of those upcoming ones.
I fear for those that will have to make do with them, i don't envy them at all.

Have you ever considered yourself say about thirty five years from now?
Old, tired and broke?
Have you thought of what would happen to your teeming number of dependents especially kids in school,extended family or real estate that requires regular maintenance?

I've been looking at the Nigerian situation closely and i don't think i like the available retirement plans at our disposal.
I like to consider the future whenever i take decisions that affect me and i haven't been quite happy lately considering the situation.

I am interested in finding a legitimate retirement plan that is not connected to the stock market. I already have an RSA and I just wonder if there is anything else available to limit risk from the stocks. I am also aware of forex ira's and bonds but Im looking for something truly unique.

Have you got any ideas you want to share?
What are your plans for retirement?

And just as men feel that women cry 'inferiority complex' when men claim that women take their careers to seriously, is they same way women feel that a man can't hack not having a 'superior' edge over a woman. Anyhow, it's life sha!

@ezinne1212
Yes, it's life sha!
But most of the ills of the world wouldn't arise if we soft peddal on women liberation and stick to conventional ways of doing things.
Until recently, doing laundry, cooking and house keping were the basic duties of the woman in the home.
Civilisation has changed all of it to the duties of househelps and nannies thus elevating/relegating the woman of the house to career status and madam in some homes.

Double standards.

WHAT?

Did you ever think they would beat the German team?
TALL DREAM.

I think it all depends girl in question. I hold two degrees in Engineering, not yet 25, and unless i tell you, you won't even guess that. My mum has always told me that a woman's best asset is her character. I personally don't like people who think or act like the world begins and ends with a degree. Good character has nothing to do with a degree, it's just something that you have or you don't. Guys need to be confident and secure in themselves though, and not scamper for 'safety' every time they see an educated girl.

@chienigma
Maybe you should tell us where you got the degrees before age 25 and where you are from.
I've not seen one humble female graduate in this part of the world.
Despite their partly fulfilled educational attainment, they go about bragging in all forms of manner, speaking and acting stupidly like they were born and bred in Europe.
Have you noticed the new style of speaking English,talking through the nose and stuff?

ezinne1212:
I wonder what other guys think of this statement and if they agree. Doesn't it reflect some kind of inferiority complex?

@ezinne1212
Why must every lady shout 'inferiority complex' at the mere mention of a woman's career and staying at home or the mention of 'money and responsibility?'
Haven't you seen ladies who work from home?
Am sure thats what the poster meant with his except i find one who shows she is really ready to stay indoors no matter her level of education
Besides, every man is entitled to his own opinion.

ezinne1212:
Interesting piece. We all have choices, and i don't think anyone should be condemned for not wanting someone with sagging breasts, or better pay, or staying clear of 'jobless undergraduates' or insecure individuals with 'mama issues'. Follow your gut, always! Afterall, you only have yourself to blame at the end of the day.

@ezinne1212

Same way i see it but at the end of the day it's as scary as hell.
Every right thinking man wants to be sure he isn't sharing thesame bed with the wrong woman or handing the responsibility of a household to the dictates of a career person who thinks more of her job than of her family.

Sagging breasts and better pay not withstanding, other issues will surely arise.
Issues you never imagined could come up or made provisions for at the start of the marriage.
Its simple logic that you need to take each day's situation as they arise and trash out issues together with understanding.
This days, our women aren't ready to join in taking that responsibility.
They prefer to do a solo parade of their wealth and leave Mr breadwinner to take charge of family running.

In my opinion, a well bred,well-groomed village girl is the in thing for a healthy home.

Taiwo is a childhood friend and we have alot in common, including our love for cars and good women.
He hasn't been himself lately and after serious probing, i was able to get him to tell me his worries.
The following is his story,his experience with his fiancee.
He is scared of going ahead with the wedding,


Well, I looked at her again from her head to the shoes on her feet (been doing alot of that lately).
Her hairdo seemed so artificial; I recall she used Indian hemp for months just to recover her fast balding head at a time.
What she had on surely couldn’t have been real hair, this must be attachment.
My eyes took in every detail carefully resting for a while on her chest, heavy breasted really but sagged when naked.
She was probably wearing two padded bras or could she have had an implant so soon?
I wonder if she's thesame lady i fell in love with in school and was crazy about.

At 28 she already lacks the build of a maiden, not that she is one anyway.
At least I wasn’t the first that tasted from the pudding.
News has it that she dated most of the directors to get to the top of the marketing department of her office,i don't really listen to rumors.
I do know she was Professor Akinbogun's favorite student in her days at the University, i know she spent alot of time in his house.
It was understandable, his wife was away in the UK for years and he needed someone to help do the chores for him.
Even then we were yet to really start off as lovers.
It was her affection for the registrar that got me asking questions then and it almost brought our relationship to an end.
To think that she could cheat on me after all we'd been through or sleep with lecturers to earn good grades.

Although we’ve had our ups and downs in years past, I still owe a lot to her.
That I still love her is what I haven’t given much thought.
I have always longed for a working woman for a wife, who would help in meeting the demands of society and cater alongside me for the good things of life.
A woman that would support me like the biblical Eve to Adam, my missing rib.
Or how else would I conveniently make monthly payments for the lease on my Elantra or the mortgage of the posh apartment where I live?
She has really been supportive; life wouldn’t have been this easy without her many financial rewards.

She's a career woman, one who is vested with so much office responsibility?
Has a chauffeur driven official car at her disposal and a fat salary and allowances for effect?
It is sometimes appalling when i have to clear the dining table for her when she’s done having her meal and sometimes washing the dishes too since she has to answer one of her many official calls.
That i have to wait endlessly for her to come home from work since she is the centre of attraction in her office meetings.
At times she may not be so high and mighty in her place of work but the long hours would have had its toll on her you could turn out to a victim of her frustration.
Probably she has some male subordinates under her command and the use of strict tone and authoritative language has become her bane.
Now she accords me less respect than she used to, it’s not her fault really.
Reuben, her office assistant has shown in no small way that men could be very stupid at times and me the prey for it.

I've become so confused with her newfound ways and the past is haunting me too.
Would you still want to go ahead with the wedding kif you were in my shoes?
Do you think my hard earned income should be poured down the drain in paying for igniting a time bomb that will soon bring down the foundations of my home?
Shouldn’t i rather settle for a young undergraduate and sponsor her though school rather than this domineering fiancée who doesn’t mean well for me?
Or better still, a secondary school leaver who knows the intricacies of house care, food management and finances.

Do you have any similar experience you want to share?
Whats your opinion, do you think he’ll be a fool to think twice?

Taiwo is a childhood friend and we have alot in common, including our love for cars and good women.
He hasn't been himself lately and after serious probing, i was able to get him to tell me his worries.
The following is his story,his experience with his fiancee.
He is scared of going ahead with the wedding,


Well, I looked at her again from her head to the shoes on her feet (been doing alot of that lately).
Her hairdo seemed so artificial; I recall she used Indian hemp for months just to recover her fast balding head at a time.
What she had on surely couldn’t have been real hair, this must be attachment.
My eyes took in every detail carefully resting for a while on her chest, heavy breasted really but sagged when naked.
She was probably wearing two padded bras or could she have had an implant so soon?
I wonder if she's thesame lady i fell in love with in school and was crazy about.

At 28 she already lacks the build of a maiden, not that she is one anyway.
At least I wasn’t the first that tasted from the pudding.
News has it that she dated most of the directors to get to the top of the marketing department of her office,i don't really listen to rumors.
I do know she was Professor Akinbogun's favorite student in her days at the University, i know she spent alot of time in his house.
It was understandable, his wife was away in the UK for years and he needed someone to help do the chores for him.
Even then we were yet to really start off as lovers.
It was her affection for the registrar that got me asking questions then and it almost brought our relationship to an end.
To think that she could cheat on me after all we'd been through or sleep with lecturers to earn good grades.

Although we’ve had our ups and downs in years past, I still owe a lot to her.
That I still love her is what I haven’t given much thought.
I have always longed for a working woman for a wife, who would help in meeting the demands of society and cater alongside me for the good things of life.
A woman that would support me like the biblical Eve to Adam, my missing rib.
Or how else would I conveniently make monthly payments for the lease on my Elantra or the mortgage of the posh apartment where I live?
She has really been supportive; life wouldn’t have been this easy without her many financial rewards.

She's a career woman, one who is vested with so much office responsibility?
Has a chauffeur driven official car at her disposal and a fat salary and allowances for effect?
It is sometimes appalling when i have to clear the dining  table for her when she’s done having her meal and sometimes washing the dishes too since she has to answer one of her many official calls.
That i have to wait endlessly for her to come home from work since she is the centre of attraction in her office meetings.
At times she may not be so high and mighty in her place of work but the long hours would have had its toll on her you could turn out to a victim of her frustration.
Probably she has some male subordinates under her command and the use of strict tone and authoritative language has become her bane.
Now she accords me less respect than she used to, it’s not her fault really.
Reuben, her office assistant has shown in no small way that men could be very stupid at times and me the prey for it.

I've become so confused with her newfound ways and the past is haunting me too.
Would you still want to go ahead with the wedding kif you were in my shoes?
Do you think my hard earned income should be poured down the drain in paying for igniting a time bomb that will soon bring down the foundations of my home?
Shouldn’t i rather settle for a young undergraduate and sponsor her though school rather than this domineering fiancée who doesn’t mean well for me?
Or better still, a secondary school leaver who knows the intricacies of house care, food management and finances.

Do you have any similar experience you want to share?
Whats your opinion, do you think he’ll be a fool to think twice?

Dora used to be like a role model to me when she was in NAFDAC, but since she took up this appointment, I think I'm looking for a new model.

@ oge4real
Ever imagined anyone would want you as role model?

I happen to have a couple of designs. You'll need to specify your requirements though. Post an e-mail so I can 4ward some to u.

@ kaypinchy
My ad is sahy_88@yahoo.com
I'll appreciate samples of drawings from you.
I actually have a twin twobedroom semi detached bungalow in mind.

palermo:
Professor Rebrander, dat money to much ohh, even ordinary filters no reach dat amount, be careful professor, as 1 day bush meat go catch ur hunter

Agreed that the money is too much but what amount do you suggest will rightly offset the upgrading?

When we open our mouths to decry situations and rain insults on people, we should also be ready to make suggestions that will help in making things right.
If anybody has been able to do a feasibility study as to the difference between the value of the contract and the N8.2B in question then there won't be a need to either doubt Dora's innocence or her involvement in the shaddy deal

What we should instead be saying is where was Dora Akuliyi when a contract worth N8.2b was awarded to foreign nationals.
Why the contract didn't meet up with the timing and
How come she didn't recall the name of the firm handling a contract of so much importance and of such a huge amount under her care.

One thing we all should know is that she is only a square peg in round hole; ministers in Nigeria are not just there for political reasons they actually make use of information provided to them by the people on ground (civil servant) in this case those are the people in the NTA, especially the Director General. He is suppose to be in position to know that Standard Definition can never be upgraded to High Definition; although she will get all the fire at the end because she relied solely on the information provided to her by the criminals in the ministry instead of doing her own ground work.
It is the DG of the NTA and those who acted as middle guys that the EFCC should invite immidiately for questionning as that will revil so many things

What determines who is a square peg in a round hole?
Is it a degree earned after four or five years academic sojourn in a higher institution or the ability to deliver with a "can do attitude"?
Margaret Thatcher of England was Prime minister for the whole of eleven years and she studied Chemistry in the University.

So we agree that journalism isn't Dora's specialisation, why crucify her then?
Besides, as Minister of Information she is not restricted to keeping an eye on the NTA.
She also has responsibilities like rebranding Nigeria which hasn't really earned accolades from Nigerians despite its importance.
The civil servants under her administartion should also answer to the accusations of fraud in the N8.2b

to be honest, i blame u.
Why would you leave your laptop and bag in the hand of a security man? I dont think that was very smart at all.

nyways best of luck getting it back,

Same question i asked myself initially.
But imagine with the security door not allowing me access with my laptop strapped over my shoulder and the cabinet not big enough to contain my laptop all i had left was a security man who unfortunately is a Nigerian.
Do you know i had to also remove my pair of safety shoes that day before i could enter the bank?
Imagine my situation now!

I wonder what that bank derives from being so shaddy.
Remember they only just reduced their minimum required balance for savings account opening.
Their interest rates are by far alarming too.
Not to talk of the ripping you experience when you visit their outlets if you're not careful.

Intercontinental bank has opened a new outlet and the major service there is ripping off unsuspecting customers of their valuables.
This one is actually BLUE INTERCONTINENTAL MICRO FINANCE BANK and is situated at 188 Herbert Macauley Way,Ebute Metta, Lagos.
A subsidiary of your very Intercontinental bank.

I was there on 28th of July to open an account, i handed my bag containing a laptop and vital documents to the securityman on duty since it couldn't go into the cabinet provided.
When i came out of the bank my bag was nowhere to be found, the securityman could not give any explanation as to the where about of my laptop.
The management of the bank couldn't conduct a thorough investigation to ascertain the cause of the incident and get hold of the culprit.

A financial institution where money and other valuables are meant to be kept safely, more like the hunter being hunted by the bush meat.
What a shame,am going public about this, i'll blow my head off.
Someone better hold me now.
I NEED A LAWYER FAST!

hedgesfun:
However, I will blame you in some part as I do not expect you to leave the scene that day without your bad and am very sure if you had taken it so seriously, the management would have sorted it out that day

I sure would have stayed to get my laptop that day, i would really have disrupted the day's business to prove i'm not in anyway a gentleman.
Except that i have a career that demands alot of my time and presence.
The management of the bank proved unworthy with the way they went about the issue.
Courtesy was second to zero, efficiency and swiftness in response was terrible.
The Auditor was so dull and detached you'd think he stole the laptop.
The security man in question seemed like the owner of the bank,you could easily see insubordination at it's peak.
If i had stayed till the next day the management that handled the issue would not have come up with anything tangible, it is very typical, nothing good can come out of hell.

Know exactly whom u handed ur laptop to and stand firm that u personally handed it to him in for safekeeping.
A good lawyer should be able to argue that valuables kept at owners risk was not conspicuosly displayed
by the security man to ur knowledge.Better still,u were not availed the opportunity of keeping ur laptop in a box and the keys held by u.

I know who i handed the bag to but because he seemed so high and aloof in the presence of his superiors nothing was done.
He was so busy collecting money to keep bags in his security post and left mine outside.
I wonder why he didn't ask for a tip, at least it would have saved me the trouble of loosing my laptop.

In my usual attempts at ensuring steady flow of income for my pocket despite the financial meltdown,i  stepped into a micro-finance bank to seek support for my new business idea.
I'd obtained the application forms the previous week,on submission however, on the 28th of July 2009.
I went with vital documents including my HP laptop all enclosed in my laptop bag.

At the bank gate, No. 188 Herbert Macauley way, Ebute Metta, Lagos.
I'd handed over my bag to the security man on duty since my bag could not go into the cabinet provided.
After several more form filling sessions which took me about an hour,i went for my bag in order to retire for home.
To my dismay my bag was nowhere to be found, the security man could not give a good explanation as to the movement of my bag and laptop.

The management of the bank have since been unable to conduct sensible investigation as to the whereabout of my laptop and offered to give me a call if need be.
I wonder how money put in the hands of a financial institution can be thought safe when both the customers and their valuables are "at their own risk".
I have since not heard from the bank and i decided to take my case to my court of law - NAIRALAND.
I implore all Nigerians to avoid[b] BLUE INTERCONTINENTAL micro finance BANK[/b] like a plaque,one of their major business is ripping unsuspecting Nigerians of their valuables.

So, after all the arms and ammunition that went into the conflict in the Niger delta , the innocent people who lost their lives and homes and the precious man hours of off shore oil marketers in the oil rich zone.
All we can come up with is a round table discussion in form of amnesty for militants.
This isn't my idea of dialogue, it is irrational and it won't yield good results in the long run.

What about installing Oracle on Vista?

quote author=daragrams link=topic=290656.msg4132099#msg4132099 date=1246666764]
what a shame on ogun state
[quote][/quote]You're sure something is wrong with the gateway state.
And Yar adua was there to flag off the secretariat project.[
Anyway,like birds flock together.

My first kiss was the talk of the town for days cos it really made me grow feathers.
However, my best kiss ever was one i got during my NYSC days.
It wasn't from a fellow corp member, instead it was one of the locals out there in Bagudo LGA where i served.
I can't ever forget it.
Talk about getting something where you least expect it.
These days, i guess our busy lifestyles has removed the innocence from our ability to show passion.

The slogan, Eko o ni baje (Lagos shall not come to ruin) made popular by Gov Raji Fashola has sure come to stay.
However, how has Lagos state fared so far under the Fashola administration despite the Mega city agenda?
Do you think Tunde has done enough to put Lagos state on track to achieve the much talked about mega city status?
Lets hear your views.

It's the people who work in a particular place that make the job fun or not fun.
Jobs are jobs, they're generally work, and nobody wants to work really. But the nature of the people you work with can really make work suck big time.


@ajanlekoko
I agree with you there.
But if you're in a setting where you intend staying to build a career then you need to make the people around you understand what you stand for.
While you're at it, be assertive and command respect.
Carry people along and be sure you know what you're doing.

dented memories all!

This frequent change of names/hands.
Maybe there is something in it for someone somewhere.

This frequent change of names/hands.
Maybe there is something in it for someone somewhere.