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Family › Re: Change These Mindset, they are Very Wrong. by NaeChris(op): 9:00pm On Apr 26, 2017

delishpot:
If the partners involved feel it's the best for their growing family why not? Like I said beforehand, it's not a bad thing if the partners decide to work to give the family the best but being a good wife does not mean the woman must go out to work for money that burden was placed upon the husband from creation. There are things a good wife can do to support her man but if she decides to work why not? The Bible loves such a woman so a man should not see it as a competition. I am happy that you agree with your woman about work just like the husband of the good wife did not feel intimidated with his wife's success. Many men today will cry blood if their wires did what that woman did in the Bible. They will say she is always focused on work and she bought land to expand her business Instead of giving the money to them. The good woman needs a good husband to prosper. I hope you learnt that lesson.

Yes but thats the way God pictures a wife to be; SUPPORTIVE in all RAMIFICATIONS not just in home chores.

Romance › Re: Who Go Marry Them? by NaeChris(op): 8:09am On Apr 26, 2017*

victorydgirl:
chris...how many you spoil?

I no spoil anybody o. Me wey no fit kill fly.

Romance › Re: Who Is Actually Broke? by NaeChris(op): 6:49am On Apr 26, 2017

simplyhonest:
when will threads castigating ladies be banned here....

They are the ones who instigates these so called ''castigation'' when they call most guys broke. Now this is the reaction to that.

Romance › Re: Who Is Actually Broke? by NaeChris(op): 10:56pm On Apr 25, 2017

EnigmaticEnigma:
you have to filter these chicks men

That kind thing na.

Romance › Who Is Actually Broke? by NaeChris(op): 10:52pm On Apr 25, 2017

I laugh each time i come across articles like ''say no to broke guys''. By some girls. Simple analysis who is really broke? Or should i say between guys and ladies who broke pas? Take a study of how most ladies see their guys. Some say ''i can't spend on a man'', some believe the man is responsible for their upkeep. Some say ''i can't marry a broke guy'', Some depend on multiple guys to make ends meet, yet they come on social media to protest ''say no to broke guys'' when majority of them their default mental setting is to depend on guys for virtually everything. The fact is that only broke ass babes pursue after ready made men. Kudos to ladies who have changed that setting. Men respect independent, respectfull confident women. I salute una.

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Romance › Re: Babes, Can You Date Guy Who Slept With Prostitute, Guys Can You Marry Ex Harlot? by NaeChris: 10:36pm On Apr 25, 2017

wordbank:
Everyone is a prostitute
Male, female, hermaphrodite, transgender

Your mummy nko? I hope she no follow.

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Romance › Who Go Marry Them? by NaeChris(op): 10:34pm On Apr 25, 2017

Someone asked '' all the girls wey una don spoil who go marry them''?
Answer.: Make them marry themselves.
Attitude is choice. If you spoil or you allow them spoil you, be it a guy or a girl it is at your own will.

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Family › Re: Change These Mindset, they are Very Wrong. by NaeChris(op): 10:02pm On Apr 25, 2017

delishpot:
Dem dey use the title collect more eyes for bank? My point is, it is not set on stone that the woman does all those. Not every woman can afford to buy land, leave home early morning etc. Those are things that depend on the . But every woman can garden, sew, make food, hair, wash etc to help the husband reduce monthly expenditure. A good wife can support in many ways. She can keep the home clean, kids and husband well cared for etc without buying g land bla bla bla. So, the duties of a wife does not strictly include her bringing money to the table.

Or are you supporting 'House Wifery'? Where a woman will sit at home doing only domestic chores? When her fellows are out there making money and assisting their men? No na. My wife go work o. Her purpose is beyond house wifery and making babies.

Family › Re: Change These Mindset, they are Very Wrong. by NaeChris(op): 9:58pm On Apr 25, 2017

delishpot:
Dem dey use the title collect more eyes for bank? My point is, it is not set on stone that the woman does all those. Not every woman can afford to buy land, leave home early morning etc. Those are things that depend on the . But every woman can garden, sew, make food, hair, wash etc to help the husband reduce monthly expenditure. A good wife can support in many ways. She can keep the home clean, kids and husband well cared for etc without buying g land bla bla bla. So, the duties of a wife does not strictly include her bringing money to the table.

Yes, not necessarily the ones stated above, but she can do the ones she can based on her ability. Like i said, ''no matter how small...'' I like the word you used 'support' thats what am talking about. This support can come even financially. She is not supporting the man in the sense that the funds goes to the man's pocket for his personal use NO! but the funds goes to the family of which she too is a partaker.

Family › Re: Change These Mindset, they are Very Wrong. by NaeChris(op): 8:03pm On Apr 25, 2017

delishpot:
Did you read what I wrote since at all? Did the Bible make it a command? Go back and read if God made it a must for her to hand over her proceeds to her man.

I never said she should hand over her proceeds to her man, i said, she should CONTRIBUTE her quota to the FAMILY. She still have some left for herself.

Family › Re: Change These Mindset, they are Very Wrong. by NaeChris(op): 8:01pm On Apr 25, 2017

delishpot:
Did you read what I wrote since at all? Did the Bible make it a command? Go back and read if God made it a must for her to hand over her proceeds to her man.

When God call her a helpp meet, what does he have in mind? Moreover the passages i shared threw more light on how God wants a wife to be. Tell me, which woman will reject being or being called a virtuous woman?

Family › Re: Change These Mindset, they are Very Wrong. by NaeChris(op): 5:59pm On Apr 25, 2017

Moreover as a bible scholar, i am yet to find a place in the bible where men are supposed to handle domestic duties. IT IS FOR THE WIFE but like i said, its an opportunity , a chance for the man to completely win the heart of his wife. She will not joke with him. I mean he is assisting her in that area.

Family › Re: Change These Mindset, they are Very Wrong. by NaeChris(op): 5:13pm On Apr 25, 2017

delishpot:
I did not say it is bad. All I am saying is, if you say doing house chore is not ordained for men to do, why then does the woman have to be expected to financially support as part of her duties? It should also be viewed from the same angle as man doing chores. It is not compulsory but a nice gesture and romantic too. The woman was never quoted in the Bible to give her husband money. She makes her money, she out of goodwill cares for the family but it is never a law for women to go out to hassle. Just like a handy husband is a blessing to his family cos he fixes and does handy jobs around the home. His wife and kids are considered blessed and lucky, his neighbours love him for his support when they need his help, wives of not so ha dy men are envious of her because her home is always tended to, But it is not a law that all husbands must be handy.
A woman out of love and concern for her child, can decide to quit her job and stay home to care for the kids and God will not say she is ignoring her duty, but if a man decides to ignore his role of provider and sit at home even though his wife is at home doing the child care and taking care of the home, God would judge him for abandoning his role towards his family
Dont get me wrong, husbands and wives should do what they have to do to keep the family comfortable, but remembering g suitable religious texts when it suits and ignoring others when it doesn't shouldn't be the norm.

Ok let me ask you. What does the bible say about a virtuous woman. let me save us some time. Vs 14 says ''She is like MERCHANT ships; she brings her food from afar''.
(that means she is a business woman)
Vs 16 says ''She considers a field and buys it: with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard''.
(that is she is also a farmer)
Vs 24 says ''She makes fine linen and SELLS IT(that is she is a trader); and delivers girdle to her merchant. For more see PROVERBS 31 vs 10-28. The fact the you are a christian has made it easy for me sef.

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Family › Re: Change These Mindset, they are Very Wrong. by NaeChris(op): 1:08pm On Apr 25, 2017

delishpot:
Are you married? The things I listed there, don't they suggest help meet?

What is there in contributing 40% of her income? Thats if she is working or into business. Unless the man says she should not work, which i doubt if anyman could happily do that except for some conditions. Using an average civil servant as a case study, who earns N80K every month. Comot school fees, house rent, feeding and other things, how much remain? That is where the wife comes in with her contribution to ASSIST the man. Well everybody have their lives to live. My wife will contribute, no matter how small, na something. Ofcourse she says she will like to work, to my great joy.

Family › Re: Change These Mindset, they are Very Wrong. by NaeChris(op): 1:05pm On Apr 25, 2017

delishpot:
Are you married? The things I listed there, don't they suggest help meet?

I am not married, but atleast i read books, i attend seminars, i listen to tapes etc. The word 'HELP' is a very broad term. It can take multiple forms. Help financially, help materially, help spiritually, help domestically and so on. She is the second in command. I suggest thats the reason why most(about 98% of homes suffer after the death of the man because the woman is probably not well equipped. She is/WAS not used to the man's duties or should i say SHE WAS NOT A GOOD ASSISTANT. She finds it hard to cope. In severe cases, the kids drop out of school and so on.

Family › Re: Change These Mindset, they are Very Wrong. by NaeChris(op): 11:23am On Apr 25, 2017

delishpot:
Are you married? Not live in lover o, not bf/gf o I mean married. No insult I tended, just to know where you are coming from.
Plus, financially supporting the home is not a duty given to women by default. Women can support by raising animals for eggs, wool, clothes and a garden for veggies and fruits. Women were never by default meant to go out there to raise money to feed the family. They could take care of husbands business and help the family prosper.

Let me ask you a question; What is the meaning of the word 'Help Meet'? Mind you it is a broad term. HELP can be in form of anything.

Romance › Re: I Tore The Ghanaians Boys Shirt Today by NaeChris: 11:18am On Apr 25, 2017

And so fucking what? Wetin concern us?

Crime › Re: Man Beaten For Slapping A Lady On The Street. Photos/Video by NaeChris: 10:29am On Apr 25, 2017

Them for remove all him teeth. Bastard.

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Family › Re: Change These Mindset, they are Very Wrong. by NaeChris(op): 11:28pm On Apr 24, 2017

eyinjuege:
There's nothing romantic about house chores. Nothing romantic about sweeping, washing n ironing clothes, washing plates, scrubbing floors, windows etc.
Nothing romantic about sweating like a pig going to the slaughter house.
But, since humans are not animals, and its inexcusable to live like a pig, house chores are just one of those things that have to be done

There is a way you can make it romantic. Mostly when you do it together with your partner.

Family › Re: Change These Mindset, they are Very Wrong. by NaeChris(op): 5:48pm On Apr 24, 2017

delishpot:
So why not state those up there? Why focus on the women aspect only? Plus seeing the husband doing chores as "romantic" but not seeing the woman's expectation of financial support as romantic but rather as a duty and expectation?

It is not romantic in the sense that it is their default duty given by God, yet they can make it romantic in a way. The points are apparently narrowed towards the female folks because it particularly concerns them more than the guys. Like i stated ''same applies to guys where necessary.

Family › Re: Change These Mindset, they are Very Wrong. by NaeChris(op): 5:34pm On Apr 24, 2017

delishpot:
As usual, no word for men on what to do in their marriages. Another 1000 thing to make your man happy thread. So, based on these facts can the woman have multiple dates? Since the man is not guaranteed to marry her, if she contributes to the family income, can she also ask the husband to contribute to chores?

I agree with two tho, a bf is not a woman's walking atm and hell no! any woman that slaps her man should be slaped in return(unless the man did something terrible ie she caught him in bed with someone or he used her name to defraud people etc then that slap is well deserved. If woman slap me I go slap back.

Ofcourse the man should help in house chores. It's romantic. For the multiple dates, he/she shouldn't but should ensure that he/she maintains that status of being the principal marriage candidiate. Try to make it to the finishing line.

Family › Change These Mindset, they are Very Wrong. by NaeChris(op): 5:11pm On Apr 24, 2017*

People, ladies in particular should change these relationship and marriage mindset. Below are some wrong notions that needs to be changed.

1. Believing that the lady or guy you are dating must end up with you in marriage: Everybody is single until the person and his/her partner has fulfilled the mariage rites. Now let me shock you, that you are his fiancee does not mean you have succeeded, you are still on probation, you can be dropped if anything goes wrong. Same applies to the guys.
HE/SHE SHOULD MAINTAIN HIS/HER STATUS AS THE PRINCIPAL MARRIAGE CANDIDIATE AND MAKE IT TO THE FINISH LINE.
2. The manner at which most unmarried ladies demand from their men: I see no reason why most unmarried ladies will demand from their men as if it's their responsibilty. Am not saying the bros shouldn't give, but let that be at his will. Not until you come down from altar. Guys let your main spending be on your wife. Not a lady that could leave you at anytime.
3. Believing that it's their husband's responsibility to carry the financial burden of the family: Every (married) woman should always contribute her own financial quota to the family depending on how they share it. Unless she is not working. For me, the man should contribute 60% and the woman 40%. SIMILARLY MEN SHOULD JOIN IN HOME CHORES IT IS ROMANTIC. Most ladies usually the single ones believe it's men's sole responsibility to make all the contributions. Why are you a help meet (biblically)?.
4. Assualt in relationships for women is JUST OK: Most ladies believe it's just right to assualt(usually slap) their men and it's also a crime for the men to do thesame, calling them cowards, beasts, animals etc. If so, then women that raise their hands on their men are equally beasts, witches, animals and what have you. See, do to anyone what you want them to do to you. I see the reason why domestic violence or relationship violence has refused to be eradicated for decades. Respect na reciprocal. If you hit, them hit you back no vex. ADD YOURS.

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Romance › Re: Man Tries A Machine That Simulates The Pain Women Feel During Labour... by NaeChris: 3:44pm On Apr 24, 2017

Nothing dey inside.

Crime › Re: Lady Pours Acid On Her Ex-Boyfriend In Akwa Ibom For Dumping Her (Pics) by NaeChris: 1:21pm On Apr 23, 2017

Note taken.

Family › Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by NaeChris: 3:22pm On Apr 22, 2017

tosyne2much:
Most Nigerian men feel intimidated and they don't like to see women top them or excel more than them in all ramifications. This is very evident in our tertiary institutions and even place of work, etc

I think most men suffer from insecurity issues when their wives earn more than they do, and this is due to the fact that most ladies throw their obedience and humility to the wind the moment they earn more than their men

However, it's not that men who don't want their wives to be richer than then are enemy of progress, it's just that they don't want their ego to be shattered

It makes the man feel INSECURE about his headship not INTIMIDATION. We all know that when a woman if financially more stable than her husband, the man or the marriage is sitting on a keg of gun powder BASED ON HOW WOMEN BEHAVE WHEN MONEY ENTER THEIR HAND. Its not bad afterall if she get money pas, but its her reaction. Many homes have been broken as a result.

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Family › Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by NaeChris: 3:21pm On Apr 22, 2017

tosyne2much:
Most Nigerian men feel intimidated and they don't like to see women top them or excel more than them in all ramifications. This is very evident in our tertiary institutions and even place of work, etc

I think most men suffer from insecurity issues when their wives earn more than they do, and this is due to the fact that most ladies throw their obedience and humility to the wind the moment they earn more than their men

However, it's not that men who don't want their wives to be richer than then are enemy of progress, it's just that they don't want their ego to be shattered

Romance › Re: Somebody HELP I Think My Fiancee Is Planning Something Dangerous Against Me!!!!! by NaeChris: 2:53pm On Apr 22, 2017

If i say me sef no dey fear i dey lie.

Crime › Re: Girl Brutalized For Sleeping With Her Married Boss (photos) by NaeChris: 2:45pm On Apr 22, 2017

Mjshexy:
Ladies will always be at the receiving end, why didn't she go fight her hubby with her gang of friends & naked him instead. Silly things

Can they beat him? Talk of unclading him.

Education › Re: FUTO Students To Resume After 3 Months + At Home by NaeChris: 10:00pm On Apr 20, 2017

Eze Francis is a bastard, a criminal. All he is doing is to frustrate the students to avoid being brought out under the spotlight again.

Romance › Re: What Has A Lady Said To You After Sex?(the First Time You Had It). by NaeChris: 5:36pm On Apr 20, 2017

midehi2:
I always say 'bad boy

That means my guy too much na.

Romance › Re: Height Or Complexion Which Comes First For You. by NaeChris: 10:41pm On Apr 19, 2017

See them. How many of una tall sef?

Romance › Re: What Getting Married As A Virgin Does Not Guarantee by NaeChris: 10:36pm On Apr 19, 2017

corpersforum:
Getting married as a Virgin has been laced with so many lies and fictions. Unfortunately many bought into these lies and became confused when things are not working as they ought for them.

1. GETTING MARRIED AS A VIRGIN DOES NOT MEAN YOU ARE SEXUALLY PURE.
The bible talk of purity of the body, the soul and the spirit , the body can be touched without tell tale marks, the soul can be so corrupted with evil imagination and the spirit not connected to God. Sexual purity goes beyond an intact hymen...what about the hymen of your mind?

2. GETTING MARRIED AS A VIRGIN DOES NOT MEAN YOUR MARRIAGE WILL LAST
The longevity of a marriage is a function of many things that your virginity has no say about. Death, Divorce, Diseases, Disorder, Even the character of your spouse and yours has a say in how long your marriage will be.

3. GETTING MARRIED AS A VIRGIN DOES NOT MEAN YOU WON'T BE BARREN
fruitfulness is a fuction of you and your spouse reproductive capacities and even beyond that, barrenness has many root causes that goes beyond the couple's control.

4. GETTING MARRIED AS A VIRGIN DOES NOT MEAN YOUR HUSBAND WON'T CHEAT ON YOU
If a man is not disciplined, he will cheat on you regardless of your virginity status before marriage. Your virginity can't correct covetousness and lust in a man's life.

5. GETTING MARRIED AS A VIRGIN DOES NOT MEAN YOUR HUSBAND WILL LOVE YOU.
It takes more than your virginity to be loved, you have your own part to play and he has his. Besides, if a man is not trained or working on loving you, your virginity won't help out. A Man will love you if he choose to and the basis on which he makes that choice is beyond the fact that he met you as a Virgin.

6. GETTING MARRIED AS A VIRGIN DOES NOT MEAN GOD WILL ANSWER YOUR PRAYERS IN MARRIAGE
God answers our prayers on the basis of his goodness not ours. Your virginity is not a bargaining chip before God, he answers prayers according to his will not according to your virginity.

7. GETTING MARRIED AS A VIRGIN DOES NOT MEAN YOU WILL HAVE PEACE IN YOUR HOME
Peace in your home is a function of how you and your husband choose to respond and resolve conflict, it's a function of how much you and your spouse want the prince of peace to reign. It's a fuction of your triumph over the spirit of strife or the devil over your home.

8. GETTING MARRIED AS A VIRGIN DOES NOT GUARANTEE YOU WILL GIVE BIRTH TO GODLY CHILDREN
godly children are a product of training, discipline, prayers, hardwork and God's favour. Your children can't be godly just because you as their father or mother is got married as a Virgin. Your lifestyle in marriage is as an important factor in determining the kind of kids you will raise. Besides, many good people are raised by parents who are not virgin when they got married.

9. GETTING MARRIED AS A VIRGIN DOES NOT AUTOMATICALLY ATTRACTS GOD FAVOUR
God's favour is recieved on the basis of his goodness, our preparation ànd wisdom. It has nothing to with wether we are Virgin or not when we got married. Mary was not the only pure Virgin in Israel at her time but God decided to choose her, Rahab was a prostitute with a well known office yet she was in Jesus' genealogy, so it is on the basis of his sovereignty

10. As much as I canvass for sexual purity among young people, I cannot but mention the fact that God loves those who are not virgin, he wants them to live their lives according to his Dictate and he loves them just as if they have never lost their virginity.
He is not pleased with those who look down on them for by so doing they make themselves righteous by their own doing.

BY ALL MEANS ABSTAIN FROM SEXUAL SIN

DEVELOP YOUR CHARACTER OR ELSE YOUR VIRGINITY WON'T COUNT FOR ANYTHING TANGIBLE.

REMAIN A VIRGIN FOR PREMARITAL SEX CARRIES ONLY RISK AND REGRETS

STOP RUBBING YOUR VIRGINITY ON OUR FACE.....there are other virtues a man and woman must have, have them and don't be foolish to think being a virgin is all that God wants from you, he wants you to surrender all your being to him let him have a say on your life.

Don't be like the foolish virgins be a wise one that has the EXTRA OIL (something beyond the virginity)

[Source: http://www.corpersforum.com/sexuality/what-getting-married-as-a-virgin-does-not-guarantee/]

OP go and nyash down. Anti Virgin.

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