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You'll find plenty of 'em here.

@ OP Sorry to hear about your loss !
Reg your question, I'd ask you to wait for a year, atleast. I do know a lot of people who have conceived much before completing an year after their CS, but most of them are suffering now from various ailments like back pain, hernia etc. So, keeping in mind your wife's health, it would be best to wait for an year. Also pls do change your doc if your wife is not happy with him/her. A good doctor can be more effective than drugs. I hope you come back soon to this forum to share your good news. God bless !

jennykadry:
Whoever mocks my testimony mocks God.

@ fstranger
LOL ! You got to give it to the girl dude, she is very passionate about this hunk and has even started a thread on him. Don't you think that is sweet?

Roki check your votes now

There Rokiatu, I've just voted for you ! O wow, my vote just helped you to reach a 50% ! R'ber to send the remains to Suzanne and Barbara Mori once you girls are through with him !

@jennykadri

Watch your tongue woman!
Unlike you, I DO NOT NEED THE HELP OF A PROXY ID TO SPEAK MY MIND OUT. Just because two people type from the same computer doesn’t mean they have to be one and the same! Use your head once in a while for thinking before blurting out what comes to your mind. It could do wonders!

Personally I have nothing to do with Edo men or Arab women and inter-racial marriages and hence I do not wish to get more involved in all of this drama and name calling. Leave me alone and utilize your sniffing capabilities to uncover the OP as suddenly her English and many other things have improved.

@OP
You are 26 and they still report you to your mom? What exactly is being reported? Don't they want you to get a wife and life?
Please, next time they come up with a decision or suggestion, express your disinterest, atleast subtly if you cannot be harsh. And make sure you discuss important things with your mom, including this predicament, before someone else gets a chance to report you. First hand info is much better in any case.

rokiatu:
When I was 14, I was a face person. You know the cutie types?

Now that I am ------- well I wouldn't say my age.

I like the manly type. Hot body, strong masculine face (ex, Arjun Rampal Hrithik Roshan etc)

LOL, here we go again, Hrithik Roshan; Arjun Rampal; John Abraham ; Salman Khan

@OP

So many cultures all over the world do not support a woman acting as a bread winner or even sharing expense with the man. But Nigerians don't believe that way.

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-609290.0.html

Check out this thread and pay attention to the fourth category. That sums it up. It has nothing to do with a tribe or a state or even religion. Hope your doubts have been cleared.

@ Topic, leave her ASAP and run for your life. Also thank god you did not have anything to do with her risking your health and life !

Ouch ! Does he r'ber cursing your mom ?

fubiluv:
[b.
Or better still get the job for him first b4 he moves.
If she is so desperate, then she should make it faster, [/b].

Exactly !

sammie one:
i told her i wanted a lay off but she always want me around her.i like her and i wish we are dating but she want just friendship. i want to move on and get a fresh relationship. for instance,just today i told her that i want to go out with my new girlfriend(i lied sha) but she nade sure i didnt leave her from 12 oclock to 7,30pm. she said she still have right over me.i think its very good to avoid her.

See, you've got your answer !

In that case the step-mom/dad being older, should understand the sentiments of the kids and try to find a place in their heart instead of going down to their level and making a mountain out of a molehill . Side by side, the kids should be given a very strict warning to respect their dad/mom.

^^ No no, I think you got me wrong. I wasn't being rude. I just wanted OP to find out from people who never had any chance of getting a DNA test done, yet believed and raised the many kids they had without questioning their paternity et al. I do believe women cheated then too but things were not discussed at lengths like now. Itz just that we have a lot of forums and stuff where these things are discussed a lot forcing people to think infidelity is on an increase.

OP, why don't you ask your father and grandfather ?

@ Topic
18

Take up some sort of part-time employment, till you get that dream job.

@ Topic

If you plan to hire a womb to avoid the "headche that comes with marriage", then I'd suggest you don't get married at all, talkless of having kids.
But if you badly want to have kids and cannot due to medical conditions, then it is something acceptable.

OP,
I have to agree to your side of the argument. These social networking sites are being used by majority  for reconnecting with long lost friends and relatives. As is the case with every technology, it is indeed sad to see that this medium is also being misused.

Tell your cousin that if a woman has such a trait, she will cheat- with or without the help of a social network. Centuries ago, wives who were covered from head to toe, never allowed to go out on their own, never even allowed to talk to outsiders have cheated on their husbands ! Which site is to be blamed in those cases ?

Bottom line, being a housewife should not stop someone from joining these sites, provided her intentions are right.

Having said that, I'd suggest she uses only family pics or pics with kids. Women in general should also make sure you accept only friend requests from people you know very well -just to keep those wolves at bay.

@OP

I wish you had involved your husband a bit more in taking care of the kids inorder to make him realise that raising kids is no child's play. Taking care of babies can be a pleasure, a demanding one. Wish your husband had been a bit more understanding instead of using that as an excuse to pounce on the next available female.
Are you working? How strong are you financially? If you are stable enough to support yourself and the kids, then I'd suggest you move out and start spending some time away from him. The distance should make him realise what he had been risking all this while and also it could help you to take a clear decision. Also please do something to that dipping self-esteem. If you dont work on it, no one else will.

Since you've been married for 3 years with 2 kids, I assume they are both very very young. Please bear in mind that little minds can be like sponge and all the things they hear, see and feel now would have an impact in their adult life too. So whatever you and their father decide, make sure it is in the best interest of the kids.

@ OP
Do you know in countries like India , woman's family makes the payment. And no be small money o! Millions and above ! Plus houses and other valuables on top of the cash payment is also paid.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/programmes/crossing_continents/3071963.stm

Recently I even read a story where the family failed to complete the payment of the agreed amount and the woman was tortured to death by the man's family. If you feel the woman is being sold here, do you think they are selling the man in those countries!!!

Bear Not even one, I'm a vegetarian

Mybe you should ask your wife to return the 20k taken from him and keep him at an arm's distance. She could prolly inform someone from her/your family to be on the safe side too.
You, on the other hand should just call him rightaway and pretend as if you know nothing about this and tell him that you are more than happy and feels blessed to have an uncle like him and that god will repay him for all the GOOD DEEDS he is bestowing upon you and your family (I hope his conscience kills him that very moment, if he has any)

190:
[color=deeppink]why would her phone not get busy when shes receiving important calls from men
Never trust a woman
Its in the koran!! [/color]

She may be in another relationship or she may not be. You should have had a word with her before concluding anything. Any sane person in her shoes would have thought that you wanted to call it quits. Imagine, if she had been really talking to a friend and she gets your text , isn't it only natural to think that way? You should obviously meet up with the woman and explain your reasons for doing so.

Btw, it was very childish to conclude that she could have been cheating on you just coz her phone was constantly busy !

@OP
ROFL , you are a damn funny man o!!!
So kiss is the code word for doing something good to a woman, eh?  So a kiss on the lips means doing something good on her lips? wow !

OP, my friend, everybody understands your motive for kissing your mom. But do you really want to"PLANT A KISS ON HER LIPS" Can't you manage with her cheek, forehead, hand etc ??

Do you have the urge to kiss only women? Have you for once thought about the hardships your dad went through to raise you ? Abeg, isn't this sufficient to plant a kiss on his lips too  ?

chinedumo:
A pleasant looking lady walks past you
but your eyes is glued to her lips
freshly painted

is this sufficient to plant a kiss on those lips?

Yes; provided you are ready for that slap she plants on your cheeks

chinedumo:
One Morning you feel the urge to be nice to your WOG(wife or girlfriend)
she is busy with kitchen work
aroma is rich and sweet

is this sufficient to plant kiss on those lips?

Errmmm, Yes

chinedumo:
you notice the weight your mother has been yet to discard
since your birth
coupled with other stressful child related activities that have taken a toll on her beauty

can you plant a thank you kiss on her lips?

Wait a minute , let me get this right- You want to kiss your mom on her lips ?? For whatBecause she has not discarded the weight after your birth and other stressful child related activities

@ OP

Howmuch ever you forgive this woman, there would be nagging thought behind your mind about every single thing she does in future. Somebody who could cover up a lie for 6 years is not an impulsive liar, but a calculating conniving one. I bet she would have borrowed quite a lot from you during all those years at school !!