Stupedinluv:
At 20, i have come to realise the joy and fulfilment in living life to the fullest. Coming from a noble home, i was not raised to be a man's stooge not to talk of an animal's. My worth was defined from the day i stepped into earth and has been shapened overtime. I was taught the right and the wrong. And that moral laws condone no breaker. If a woman must be condemned and despised for a crime, a man must by all means face the same. I believed this and i knew before God and men it was the truth. I didnt just believe, it became real to me and has influenced my judgement.

However, the society has flung half of this truth and has held on to a part because of how drunk in power it has become and the advantage this fist had fetched it.

We are aware now of this evil conditioning that a woman who sleeps around is a slut and should be desired less but a man who does same a stud and should be the craving of every woman. Many men have quietly nodded in agreement and a few mouthy ones have not failed to vocalise their agreement. And women? So many to the shame of dignity and womanhood have sang along with the men. And you wonder which would sacrifice her pride to make a stud!?

Because to make more studs we need more sluts. Can any of you women come out and offer yourself to a man who would dump you for another. If you cannot hold your peace and stupidity!

A stud is a man who is sexually attractive to so many women. So they say! but i see a stud as an animal who is unable to control its sexual desires, hates monogamous relationships and (therefore) deserves to be judged and condemned.


Women who say they are attracted to studs and hate inexperienced men need not only their heads examined but their consciences and should not take offence when they are called sluts. Cos only a slut or zombie would reason this way.


A stud has nothing tangible to offer except to toy with my emotion, cause me heart breaks and render me unproductive.

For every stud out there there are ten whores rendering my gender useless and subjecting me to prove myself as a woman of pride and esteem all the time. Nothanks.

I love you! God bless you

May it last!

Vyolet:

I never enter one chance o, my man happens to be one of those that still maintains marital sacredness, he has proven my thought about men wrong in most occasion but then maybe because we are still young, only time will tell.

Please, go on your knees to pray for him. Sometimes, it's beyond, "I want to be loyal to my wife" which has always been the heart cry of people like me...

Front Page Pls

Commissioner asked Senior Civil Servants To Sweep Model Schools?
The Commissioner for Education in Ogun State, Mrs. Modupe Mojota was alleged to have gotten to the Ministry on Tuesday, 26th of January, 2016 and instructed some Senior Servants within Grade Level 11, 12 and thereabout to go and sweep the Model Schools built by the administration of Governor Ibikunle Amosun. The Model Schools happened to be part of the 40 Projects meant to be commissioned by President Muhammadu Buhari to mark the 40th Anniversary of the State.
The Commissioner was seen telling the Senior Civil Servants to be fast and make sure they sweep it very clean. The Governor was also said to have entered the premises of the Model School and commended the Senior Civil Servants for sweeping the premises(probably unaware that status of the victims). This is obviously outside the duties and responsibilities of these workers and nothing but and oppression of the masses. I must say, "power intoxicates and absolute power intoxicates absolutely". The action of the Commissioner is nothing but the true definition of slavery! Imagine the wife of a Professor whose duty as defined by her terms of employment is purely administrative being taken to a model school to sweep the environment. It is my humble submission that this is a very bad way to celebrate Ogun State at 40. Yes! We are the Gateway State but we should not be the gateway to slavery, oppression and unfairness.
This is therefore a call to the Nigerian Labour Congress among other Action Groups to make the interest of such workers their priority and fight for them. The Commissioner should be made to apologise for that act is in no way humane.
Cc: lalasticlala, ishilove

NextGovernor:
Person thief 400 mil and they are requesting 600 mil altogether. Nawa ooo

Don't be ignorant bro. There are two separate cases against him; money laundering and destruction of evidence. Besides, they are to find sureties worth the amount to stand for him and not they they are to give the money. It's when he runs away they sureties will be arrested and made to pay the money.

coolzeal:
Any attack on Boko Haram is an attack on the North.. Muhammadu Buhari.

Buhari is a terrorist .. El Rufai.

The million dollar question is.. Who started Boko Haram and for what purpose?

but do you really think Buhari can be the sponsor of Boko Haram in North that is his backbone is any election?

This is one of the educative articles people should read to be enlightened

Hmm

FastShipping:
Post pictures....

I have done that. Thank you.

aril:


Pictures of the house please.

Are you on bbm on on whatsapp. How can we communicate effectively. .

Yes, whatsapp is okay. Use the number in the post. I'll post pictures soon.

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How come we Nigerians are not feeling the impact of his work.



I only see a Boxer in Animal Farm

Now that we've noticed you, you can move on...

misspresident:


lol i was just joking, i was admitted on merit. check your name on the list.

Actually, I'm already a student. Just wanted to check for someone.

misspresident:


dear, i don't even know where i kept my sim oh, i've been searching for it. i am doing good hope u're also doing goooooooooooooooood?? congratulation to me i've been admitted in the 2nd list #team sociology hahahaha lol

my dear, please did they mention your course?

olatunji21:
Second list is out oo...

please how did you check? I need to check the DE list for my sister. She has been offered admission but we need to be sure she was given her course.

viviangist2:



http://www.dailytrust.com.ng/news/feature/prisons-better-than-our-hostels-oau-students/120709.html#qKg5CAoxBTfFOKLb.99

I'm happy I finally got a platform to voice out my opinion on this! Although I'm not a student of Obafemi Awolowo University but I pay a regular visit to the institution and I've always been overwhelmed by disappointment because of the deplorable state of the so-called Africa's most beautiful campus. With due respect, the Vice Chancellor, 'Professor?" Omole is a bad ambassador to his fellow Professors! In fact, he is a disgrace to ANYONE in the academic line!! Quote me anywhere!!! Come to think of it, the School authority is constructing a multi-billion Naira senate building and the hostel in which the students who will be administered from the senate building live in is not one I can recommend for my dog. If that is how best the Vice Chancellor can go about the administration of the school with the state of those hostels then, I dare say, a primary school headboy will perform better than the so-called professor! The question is this, what is he professing? Poverty? Dilapidation? Low standard of living? Misappropriation of funds? Misplaced priority? I strongly suggest that the excesses of these Vice Chancellors be checkmated and the EFCC(who themselves need to be checkmated) should take note rather than allow these 'educated-illiterates' hide under the shadow of being scholars. Most of their children school abroad and they treat the children of the masses like goats . How then are they better than the President and Governors? Yet, they will say they are going on ASUU strike!
Note that Professor Isaac Folorunso Adewole, the outgoing Vice Chancellor of my school, University of Ibadan is not better off. With all his acclaimed sagacity and competence, if he is in the medical line and our toilets and bathrooms are epitome of disease or what I can call death traps, what then is he professing in the medical line? Yet, we will exhaust our energy in class and during our private study on General Studies Courses related to health. I dare say it's sheer hypocrisy! With due respect, I expect nothing from him as the Health Minister because a person that didn't take serious the health of the university community and wants to manage the health of a whole nation is bound to fail! Why should the same Water Closets we use be the one our unborn children will use? Even the Bible says, he that is faithful in little shall be put in charge of more. Yes, he might have gotten the appointment by connection but I doubt if he can perform in that office by connection.
This is also a medium to send message to all in the academic line; Professors, Doctors etc. Make a difference! Be life savers!! Be the Change!!! Let the situation in which those in the academic line are enemies of progress be a thing of the past! Imagine! The former Dean of Student of University of Ibadan, Professor Alada said he can never allow his children to live in the hostels and which he did. That means he knows the hostels are totally in a bad shape and has the mindset that children of "whoever" should live there. Why can't he be the change?

firstEVA:
It happens, you were not up to her level then perhaps cos of your financial position. I am also very sure you look better now so no big deal.

Abegi! Only a microscopic few of the girls we have nowadays recognise prospect...Myopia is their problem!

It's not new to me that choice is the determinant of a successful marriage. Your choice, either right or wrong, determines the outcome you get. However, my concern has always been the factors that drive our choices. In the University, for example, if a guy proposes to a lady or even approaches a lady, it is not uncommon to find a battalion of friends and roommates among others determining the acceptability or otherwise of such a guy. Unfortunately, the requirements they assess such as his car, his looks etc sometimes makes the lady to fall for a camouflage and she suffers alone in the life contract. This is just the first stage before it come to the family stage which was well handle by Dr. Leke Alder as follows:
Listen Jil, what do YOU want? I know what everybody wants for you but what do YOU want? Everyone in your family has a matrimonial candidate for you. And so you’re torn between two gentlemen. Your mum of course has her own agenda, which does not necessarily align with your happiness. She’s thinking of what is good for the family fortune, and what is good for public relations, not what is good for you. Your sisters also have their own opinion. (Unfortunately your Dad has no opinion on their opinions). But neither your mum nor your sisters will be in the marriage with you. You will be alone. They will be in THEIR homes.If you marry a monster you will live with a monster. It’s as basic as that. But if you marry a good man then you live with a good man. It’s why you need to decide for yourself what you consider good for you, who you consider good for you. If you’re expecting others to decide whom to marry for you perhaps you’re not ready for marriage. Are these people going to be taking decisions for you in your home? Are you going to keep second-guessing your husband based on the opinions of your mother and sisters? The marriage won’t work! The locus of authority is outside the home. It’s external to the marriage. Your husband will resent your family in these circumstances. Your family is controlling his marriage. And that contradicts the principle of privity of contract between you, your spouse and God.

You ought to have a mind of your own. You can’t be double-minded. You’ll create instability in your marriage. A man of two minds, hesitating & irresolute is unstable, unreliable & uncertain about everything he thinks, feels, decides. However people want to craft a vision for your life, you ought at least to know what YOU want for yourself. No one can know the secret desires of your heart except your heart. The information is private and confidential. Who can know a man except the spirit of that man! In other words, there are things in the inner recesses of your heart no one can ever know except you. There are secret longings in your heart concerning marriage that only you can know. And the irony is that some of the things you want in marriage may be the very antithesis of your mum. The thing you desire most in marriage may just be, you don’t want to be like your mum in any way! So how can the same mum then be the one to make a choice of life partner for you, given her antecedents?

Marriage is not child’s play. It uses up a life. It processes itself through human life; it is not external to it. Marriage goes a very, very long way to determine your happiness. And your destiny. You’re bound to your partner. Marriage is not some Barbie doll stuff. It’s not something you toy with. You’re lucky you have two men desirous of marrying you. Most are praying for just one. They’re not spoilt for choice. When you know what you want then it’s easier to determine which of these men fit the bill. You can’t do it the other way round. You’ll then be trying to make your life fit the profiles of either of these men. Determine what you want and then see who fits the bill. The what ought to determine the who. If for example you want love, then you ought to ask, which of these men will love me and give me happiness – A or B? Thus the desires of your heart get to determine the choice of man you make.

As it is, you and your mother are working at cross-purposes. Her desires might even be based on a set of criteria you know nothing about – alien and historical criteria. She may be reacting to her missed opportunity in marriage, the kind of choice she wished she had made. Perhaps she wished she had married another man and so seeks to correct HER mistake in you. Parents sometimes do that. They seek to correct their mistakes in their child. And so they force their child in certain directions which don’t ordinarily make sense. Until you probe deeper. Some parents seek to redeem their lives through their children. Others seek to redeem the time. They seek to amend their mistakes and error through the marital choices of their children. And so they bring to bear a whole load of pressure on the child, trying to influence the choice of marriage partner.

The over-arching truth in all this however is that in one way or the other we’re all reacting to our pasts. A man from a wretched background who decides to get rich or die trying is reacting to his background. A woman without a loving mother who decides she’ll be a loving mother to her children is reacting to her background. A man whose father never cared much who then decides not to care for HIS children is reacting angrily to his background. And that is how issues in a family become generational, perpetuating themselves up the genetic tree. So we don’t know what your mum is reacting to. Only God knows. Unless she fesses up.

I’m just saying don’t let your mother’s issues determine your future. Make an independent decision on your marital choice. If anything goes wrong in the marriage, you can’t hold anyone responsible, even if you can. That’s the standard life demands. Life holds you responsible for your life, even if others can be blamed. It won’t matter who advised you wrongly on your choice of marriage partner when you suffer marital trauma. The damage is done, the consequences are staring you and only you in the face. You pay the price! The critical point at which you prevent horror in marriage is the point at which you make a choice. Any other thing after that point is damage control. It’s why YOU need to take your own decisions. That is taking responsibility for the outcome of your life. Then you can’t blame anyone, and you can’t say someone misled you. Sit down; determine what you want, and who you want. It’s your marriage after all!

Your mentor, LA

© Leke Alder | talk2me@lekealder.com
YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED!!!

cc lalasticlala

Vibra:
I think something happened between her and crush....or maybe she think she has pushed you far away from her too much

Probably...because I still can't understand what warranted the visit. If I had known I would have pretended not to be at home. It caught me unaware.

ezugegere:
What happened is that she told her mom about u. Her mom like u too but wanted to know the kind of family u came from, to know if she could release her to u. What happens next depends on their judgment of your family.

I guess she has told her mum about me over 3years ago even before I asked her out. This is because on our matriculation day I saw her and she introduced me to her mum. Her mum just mentioned where I came from in form of a question.

Adelz:
yeah!!!! maybe this one fights only romantic warfares!!!!!

popweezy:
don't worry, dat girl iz already yourz

popweezy:
E be lyk say d pastor don see vision say na u be her future huzband..

Lool....this bro dey funny.

yilly:
my dear, introduction don happen! B expecting ur dowry delivery soon.

if I hear, she has a bf. I just feel she did that to hurt my feelings the more.

popweezy:
pastor haz surely engaged in diz matter...hope u know wat I mean??

hehe! Pastor ehn? For where? Lool

HomieQuan:
She probably told her momc about u, nd nw d momc wan mo una marry

I'm met her mum even before I asked her out and don't forget I said her sister came to write post-jamb

Richy4:
How was it that i don't feel anything for you suddenly turned to Where is your house address all my family are coming for a visit?

Exactly what I don't understand.

Johnnoah1st:
@op some girls can be plain stupiid, so she may just feel like introducing u to her mum just as friend and nothing attached.

I've met her mum before. I met her on out matriculation day and once at my faculty.

Wizzz:
Where is episode 2?

Bros, this is no joke o

There was this female friend of mine I so much loved. Both of us are in the same institution and she resides in the state where we school. In fact, she happens to be the only one I've ever opened my mouth to tell "I love you". Chai! Omo! I love this girl!! This girl no gree o. At a point, it was as if her friends were even mocking me. I was even thinking she was playing hard to get but by the time it was getting to the point she was saying stuffs like "you can't force me", "what if there's someone else out there", "I don't feel anything for you and all", I just decided to stay on my lane. I can't imagine going into a relationship with someone that doesn't love me, talkless of marrying her. So, I later discovered that there was a guy she was interested in and I think, not sure though, they were in a relationship so, I just stayed off. Since then, it was more off casual greetings and even the chats were just greetings.
Some days ago, I just woke up and after my quiet time, I saw a message on BBM sent by the girl. She asked me where my house is and I tried to describe. She gave the phone to her mum to listen to the description, to the driver for clarification and before I knew what was happening, she said they were in our area. I was even trying to tell her to get a bikeman to lead them but she was so confident that they will get there. Before I knew what was happening, she said they were in from of our house. I opened the gate just to see her mum's official car. Hehe! Still looking like a dream? "But I've woken up", I said to myself.
I greeted them and led them into the house. I introduced them to my mum and my sister and we all chatted. It was there they mentioned the fact that her younger sister came to write exam in one of the tertiary institutions in my area and that she said she wanted to say hi to me. But I'm still finding it difficult to understand the whole thing that happened. She wanted to say hi to me? For what? We will surely see in school. The funniest thing was that her mother collected my mum's number when they were leaving. It's just funny!

redgem:



Lol....... Come and finish

the stuff refused to upload