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Supreme145:
There is this motion that giving birth to children is an achievement in this country. I see young guys in mid and late twenties rushing into marriage while they are barely standing on their feet. From someone that comes from a family of 10 I'm sure if my dad is given a second chance he won't give birth as much children again. Let me share some of my experiences as regards giving birth without proper planning or sustainable income.

I've a neighbor in my compound, he's 32 and in his final year in the university, I can hardly have decent conversation with him without hearing about how he wants to get married. I would always remind him that he's living in a one room apartment, still a student without a strong source of income, but he would counter me saying that he can always start small and grow with his wife. Moreover when he gives birth he would have an investment.

I've have another friend that was a classmate in secondary school, he graduated the year I got admission though he had some issues with his results. One day he called me that he's married and I was surprised, though he is an artisan into all those parapets and pop stuffs I know he wasn't financially buoyant enough to carry a family. The last time I visited him he was looking malnourished and unable to sort out his issues in school almost four years after because according to him any money that he gets already has a pending issue waiting for it. He's looking far older than his elder brother who's still single, he looks 38 when he's just 30. He consoled himself by telling me that even if he doesn't have money he already has two kids which he sees an investment and a great achievement. Meanwhile they are cramped into a single room apartment and none of the kids are enrolled in school.

Last week while we were training in the evening, an argument broke out between two young guys. I was just by the side observing what was happening, I kept hearing stuffs like....why you dey argue with that guy? you no know say na person father he be? that guy don born two children o abi you think say e easy to born, na big achievement be that o. Now this is a guy that is about 25 years and has no sustainable means of income, he works in peoples farms and other menial jobs to make ends meet.

My next door married neighbor has become a torn in my flesh, he's always borrowing from me without paying so it's obvious he's struggling financially, factor in the constant arguments with his wife due to shortage of funds all the time. I once asked him why rushed to get married without a good source of income and he bluntly told me that he had always been broke while he was single and still broke now that he's married the only difference is that he can boast of his kids as an achievement unlike when he was single that he had nothing to boast of.

I have no issues what so ever with how anyone choose to life their life but considering the economic condition of this country now bringing in kids without proper plans is not the way to go. If my dad had given birth to maybe 3 kids I'm sure he wouldn't be stressed out the way he is now and the resources used in training 8 kids would be better managed on just 3kids.

Personally I feel that one of the surest way to perpetual poverty as a young guy is to get married while struggling financially. Like one of the examples above, he cast aside his personal development and aspirations just to cater for his family. Supposing he's still single I'm sure he would have cleared he's outstanding school fees and maybe get his certificate.

Well since I'm still single and still struggling I don't judge anybody, every mallam to his kettle. As for me no marriage till I'm financially stable enough to afford at least 3 bedroom flat, a small car and substantial savings. It would be an abomination for me to bring a child into this world to pass through the kind of life I had growing up.

Op I agree with u. Proper planning and self development matters alot before marriage.

u will spend minimum of 10hrs to travel from Lagos to Umuahia. I travel twice in a year to Uyo Akwa ibom state from Lagos State, and I normally use minimum of 11hrs. I also pass through Umuahia before getting to Uyo. from Umuahia to Uyo is 1hr.

chillex8:
Hello cartalk family, I am planning a journey to the east this month.

Haven't chosen the date yet as i'm still observing security trends and first-hand experiences from people who have embarked on similar journey this month of December.

Ordinarily, I would have flown but e get as e be....


Although sometime ago (August/September) I completed similar trip to and fro without any hassle, but this time I am travelling with a sedan.

Will update as I gather more information and fix a travel date.


More details:

Vehicle- 2008 Honda civic 1.8L, 5speed A/T.
Estimated travel time- 12 hours.
Estimated travel distance- 580km.
No of occupants- 3.
Max speed- 120km/hr.

maynattion:
As far as Chelsea won't get Lille I'm cool.
Chelsea and Lille still?
Smh

Chelsea will face Bayern Munich this time.

UEFA officials are scam.

UEFA didn't try, why Psg vs Man utd? although I know man utd will progress to the quarter stage. United for life!

That is ur own believe and perspective. to me, I don't believe that kicking a stone mistakenly is a bad sign.

This is what usually happen to bias people, I don't pity u people because what is currently going on in Nigeria is being caused by the northerners.

Op, give her a a straight red card, move on, she doesn't deserve u. u can't trust or rely on Nigerian ladies.

Legalcriminal:
From anti-Messi to anti-Barca.

Anyway congratulations to us Barca fan or na congra wetin?

The sun will surely rise again

For me na to go buy PSG jersey now I can’t be happy seeing my team play with useless Arsenal and co

Barca and Arsenal are now football mate. congratulations!

I feel your girlfriend is possessed, always mind the class of ladies u date. when u end up marrying her as ur wife she will definitely still be having sex with her ex without u knowing. I will advice u to end everything u are doing with her and also change ur environment if possible.

African Queen happy birthday!

infra red things, I've used this particular phone but the problem was the battery, I remember then I use to have three batteries only for this phone.

Yahoo boys are looking for u.

two people( husband and wife)

yemi1504:
You can say that again especially at the last statement! They are considered boring and last option to marry when they have gone through their hoeing phase. Just saying it as it is. I just wonder how marriages will be in the near future with the women and very few wives are SMH.

exactly

Reno u are making sense.

imagine comparing u to her ex. Op Nigerian ladies don't worth all the sacrifice u have made so far, try to develop yourself and ur family first, with that there will be a return on investment. Most ladies in Nigeria don't like good men.

Gather some money and rent a one room apartment even if it's face me I face u for now so that u can continue with ur bike business. The bike business is better than the teaching job. I feel for those who earn below 50k per month in this current Nigeria economy.

Congratulations! I'm happy for u.

I'll settle entirely with another nationality because Nigerian ladies don't worth it.

this is Lai Mohammed.

I don't blame u, I blame those people who voted for Apc to rule Nigeria.

That is what our modern women are known for. Shameless people!

[quote author=Fedrick100 post=102280214]Lol
By this time of the night
Anyway no one have seen mine,if any girl ever see mine I’ll forever be shy anytime i see the girl [/qnuote] including ur girlfriend?

brosom:
I know u re one of these men.

But a little advice, u don't need to allow it happen to u before u can learn.

Learn from others to keep ur sanity in good state.

experience is the best teacher.

DareyFortified:
So Messi was not also a goal scoring machine and an assist maker despite winning Copa America?

all goals messi score last season including the ones in Copa America is not up to 80% of lewandowski goals.

to me, I don't think Messi deserve the award. Jorginho or lewandowski is the original owner of the award. Jorginho won Uefa nation cup and champions, while lewandowski has been known as a consistent goal scoring machine both in Germany and the rest of the world. Messi only won Copa America. Messi didn't deserve the award.

Noted.

congratulations to them! I wish them all the best.

United for life!

Nawaooo, some men can't control their penis.