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keypad1,

You need to talk to your fiancée to reach a compromise because disagreeing on ordinary date does not bode well for your union. Y'all need to be on the same wavelength.

An example of a compromise: have the trad/engagement on a weekday, and the religious wedding also on a weekday. But the religious wedding should be in the pastor's/imam's office with only the couple and immediate family. Then go to a fine mamaput/restaurant for lunch.

If you and wiffie can't agree on finances at this early stage, then...

Exactly!

They stay in their own little bubble and expect others to stay ignorant

So sad.

DerMeister:
Ignorant, unexposed people, they haven't heard of food porn! Pls school these bozos!!

So sad that you only hang out with hungry girls that want you to spend the small change that you have.

Develop the bàlls to step up to a woman and you will see the difference.

A real woman will pay for dinner
A real woman will take you out (all expense paid)
A real woman has class
E.T.C
...a real man knows how to treat a woman.

At this point, good luck with everything...continue to go after hungry girls (for the small ego boost) or develop the bàlls to step up to a real woman.

damiosy:
Oya lie you paid for it?



You are evidently forming why tell us what you had did anyone ask you? osho free



Awoof dey run belle,disco with your lies

Rather unfortunate that you've only been to restaurants that only serve rice and chicken. Have you eaten baked alaska flambe? Or ordered chocolate piñata from Uncle Julio's?...and so on. Those were works of art. Yes, when things wow me, I pause to take pictures (to preserve the memories). I don't have to form to be seen as exposed or not broke or whatever the lingo.

Travel the world, expand your horizon. And yes, I do take pleasures in what life has to offer.

What you typed just showed how classless and uncultured you truly are.

kaziblake:
Why will you take pictures of food in a restaurant that one na village style

I disagree with #1. Taking pictures of food is not being broke. Also asking for a to go pack/container is a way of not wasting food. In your bid to not act broke, you end up coming across as an over sabi. Loosen up, enjoy life, it's not that complicated.

Vizkiz already 'schooled' you, so I won't waste time doing it.

Hypovolemic shock: (a life-threatening condition), is the loss of blood volume due to excessive bleeding or dehydration.

Sweat: to excrete perspiration through the pores in the skin as a reaction to heat, physical exertion, fever or fear.

Did I not type drink lots of water to avoid dehydration?

Next time, google the meaning of 'big words' before trying to 'school' someone else.

thatbiggirl:
Really? Google hypovolumic shock and get back to me

Sweating is your body regulating your body temperature. Better to sweat than to die.

nynyola101:
Drinking water makes some people sweat

Stay hydrated by drinking lots of water (not soft drinks) frequently even if you don't feel thirsty.

By staying hydrated, you will avoid having heat stroke. People have died ron heat stroke.

thatbiggirl:
So Nigeria or at least Lagos has been super hot this year. The sun is so intense and the heat us really killing me, so anyways when UNILAG decided to chase us home last month I was happy that at least there is generator at home. I will stay indoors and watch movies all day. But my enjoyment was cut short when the school said we should come and sign their yeye undertaken. Now am back in school and the heat is unbearable, the ceiling fan in my room is not working, my roommate just bought this new syinix standing fan and it has been helping us for weeks now. I heard one of my friends said she takes her bath 4 times a day cos of the heat!! So please give me tips on how you have been coping. Thanks y'all.

Ha ha...nicely done. Still, vasectomy is less invasive. Tubal ligation is a major surgery.

chriskosherbal:
wow so what happen to "what a man can do a woman can do better" huh

100%

Onegai:
How high are the chances that the apprentice the OP's brother was sleeping with is a member of her church choir or teaches in children's church and has a steady boyfriend

If you want to tell the wife, get a new sim and send her a detailed message. And also advice her to get tested. It's up to her to take action (or not).

Case closed .

Guys, biko, remove the thoughts of cheating from your mind. It is very disrespectful. And yes, some women have mastered the act of cheating that you will never have an inclination talk less of catching them.

Ha ha, this is funny. Some men are quick to claim 'head of household' when it's convenient. But when it comes to hard decisions, they want to stay in the background.

Men, lead by examples . Vasectomy is less invasive and will lesser risk for complication(s)

@ omaigala, you need to tell her what you know so that the healing can begin. If you don't, your resentment towards her will fester and grow. A saying from the elders: the lizard will have no where to hide if there are no cracks in the wall.

My 2 kobo.

You hit the nail on the head. Most peeps here are turning blind eye to this piece of info. If Tj was not the manager (or Tiwa was not forgiving), he would have been chilling in jail. He stole and lied. And yes, one can steal from ones spouse. My money is my money, your money is your money, our money is our money. If you steal my money, there might be terrible consequences.

I think the 4.5mil deal was beginning of the end for them. Spending the money was not the issue, stealing and lying about it was the main ish. Now combine that with all sorts of ish that continued to happen, they were bound to self destruct.

Communication is the key (easier said than done, but it is). If we stop communicating with our spouses (not just talking o), and continue to absorb the wrongs we feel is being done to us, we might eventually implode and destroy everything in our path.

Lots of lessons to be learnt from this unfortunate saga.

deasy:
According to Tiwa's words on Pulsetv...Tunji got a 4million deal for a show she is to perform. Tunji didn't inform her, he had collected the money and he didn't transfer the 4M into the company's account.
Tiwa called the event/show planner to know what's up with pay...to her surprise, she was told Tunji had collected 4M, meanwhile Tunji told her the show is for 3Million.
Tunji never transfer the 4M into the company account and Tiwa did the show for free.

Tiwa had to sack him as his manager because he stole from his own her(his wife).

Thank you for this comment

He threw the first punch. What do you except her to do when he put her brand in jeopardy?

Tiwa is a strong woman and won't take it lying down. If more people in abusive relationships acted like Tiwa (by not keeping quite), the abusers (and potential abusers) will have a rethink.

pcguru1:
Story tee billz brought the issue to light, and Tiwa had to explain it all. The husband is an idiot and brought it all on himself

@ KingOfAmebo

There's an adage that says: if on the road to revenge, dig two graves. He forgot that Tiwa also knows his secrets.

He threw the first punch, he should be able to live with the consequences.

And No, Tiwa does not have any case to answer. He was the instigator, she acted in self defense.

She didn't share any personal details. The guy received an award, so all what she shared is probably in his bio.

You are absolutely right. The hypocrisy is rather unfortunate. I remember when Ray Rice punched his girlfriend in the elevator, peeps were calling for his head (the girlfriend was not even pressing charges o), asking for lifetime ban from football, but nothing happened to Solange.

Men, if you are going through spousal abuse, please stop enduring. Leave o before una case ends up like the guy that was stabbed in the neck by 'dearest' wiffie.

raumdeuter:
Does the law or public opinion believe a man and a woman can fight? If a woman slaps you 50 times and he replies with 2, You are crucified and your career ruined

When Solange was beating JayZ who was obviously much stronger assuming he as much as sent just one blow her way would anyone remember the number of blows she landed on him?

The only thing acceptable when a woman and a man have physical altercation is for the man to either run away, If its in a place he can't run, he has to wait and take all the beatings until the woman is satisfied, Like Solange which everyone laughed at

Most people that are tagged wife beater do you think during the fight, the woman didnt throw a blow? When Rihanna and Chris Brown issue happened do you think Rihanna was just sitting their in her angelic ways taking the blows and not throwing hers back?

Its the hypocrisy the world have to live with right now. In the west now, Women believe its their right to beat a man without any repercussions

And the funny thing is a woman who believes a man has no right to touch her regardless of how much she hits him, watch her son getting beaten by another girl and she would be the first to say why didnt he punch her back

If he had taken the video to show the parents as evidence (some parents sabi get denial), then delete immediately, that would have been better. It would have also taken care of the kids going somewhere else to continue. But no, he took the video and posted it online. That's a really sick thing to do.

Mayflowa:
But character is ingrained. If he stopped them, are you sure they won't go to a safer place. Distributing hover is illegal and insult to us all

It is very shameless and disgusting for an adult to record these kids. The responsible thing would be to stop them and report them to their parents.

And FYI, distributing underage pòrn is illegal.

This generation is something else. Peeps will rather take out their phones to take pictures than correct (or render an helping hand.

You have been noticed

lodscott:
keep lying till you become a liability

Interesting analogy.

Go out more, talk to more people, in short, explore the world around you to know what is happening

missvera:
Am I the only one that believe these stories were cooked by OP?

You are very fortunate.

Last2comment:
Am I the only guy whose heart has never been broken....

Ha ha

Yes, it goes both ways. Ladies and gents should not let a heartbreak change who they are though. Some of the guys I spoke with already changed for the worst

Abbeyunique2:
Oya as if i knew that there would be a counter thread.
well as i said b4, it goes both ways. whether man, woman or transgender, a heartbreaker is a heartbreaker.

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btw, that Matthew is a real G, that's how act when you see a hoe.

I have been very fortunate to have genuine male friends that confide me. Ladies, I will encourage you to have real male friends NOT friend-zoned male friends (there is a HUGE difference, but that is a thread for another day).

I will share few of the experiences my friends had in the hands of women .

You can say it's a counter thread to: https://www.nairaland.com/3051283/girls-share-horrible-things-guys

1) Jide
Jide admits that he was 'in the world'. He did somethings that he was not proud off. But he told me that he never led a girl on nor cheated on her. So he decided to 'leave the world' and become celibate. So he got a girlfriend and began that journey. The girl was truthful about not being a virgin though and agreed to become celibate with him. He noticed the girl uploading different pictures. She said they were her brother, uncles, cousins etc. He wasn't fooled though, but gave her the benefit of the doubt. So few months into the relationship, his friends started telling him stories about how the girl was cheating on him. He didn't believe them until they showed him multiple evidence . He was really devastated because after the girl got used, she will come back to him crying (and make up stories), about how people were evil. He will then console her (imagine). So after the revelation, he and his friends went to buy condoms (in bulk ) and had marathon s..with her. He broke up with her afterwards. He still stayed celibate though...

2) Eze
Eze fell deeply in love. He was so in love that his friends felt irritated . He was even ready to propose. He thought the girl was also in love. She already unofficially met his family. He came across series of Whatsapp messages on his girl's phone. Asked her about them. She said it was a guy disturbing her. He believed her. So one day, he saw the guy in a joint (the guy's picture was on his Whatsapp profile). He walked over to talk to the guy. So the convo led to realizing that the girl was playing them both . She also lied to the other guy that Eze was just a guy disturbing her for a relationship . So guys being guys (instead of fighting like we ladies), they decided to keep sleeping with her. Mehn, after each session, they will then hang out and tell each other about what happened . They later broke up with her after few months.

3) Ali
Ali was also in love. He already proposed to his girlfriend (and she said yes). So one day, his girlfriend said she was traveling (for the weekend) to another state for a wedding. Later that day, her best-friend called him telling him all the dirty secrets. Initially he didn't believe her. He thought she was lieing (hoping to steal him or break them up). So she asked him to meet up somewhere that she had to show him something. So after meeting up, she directed him to a street that he was really familiar with (Ghen Ghen), got to a house he was familiar with ( ), So they parked a few yards away from the house. Few minutes later, he saw his fiancee (that was meant to be out of town) in his bestfriend's car ( ), he still didn't believe it. So his girl's best-friend asked him to chill for few minutes before going in. Fortunately (or unfortunately for his best-friend), he has a spare key to his apartment (for emergency reasons). So he used his spare key to 'surprise' them. What he met was so heartbreaking. The girl's best-friend had to drive back because he was disoriented. He even contemplated committing suicide

4) Omoba
Omoba is a gentle soul. He sees the best in everybody. He met a beautiful 'decent' girl. When she showed him some amazing bedmatics, he was heads over heels in love . The girl was honest about her past. Said she saw the error in her ways. He believed her. His friends cautioned him not too. They had the perfect relationship. His friends started to tell him that she wasn't faithful, he didn't believe them. Said it was not recent activities but the ones in the past . She got pregnant. Omoba was excited. He told everybody . He asked the girl to marry him, she said NO . He begged her (mehn that was so sad), she was adamant. Few days later, she came back saying she aborted the pregnancy (ah!). He still wanted to marry her. She later broke up with him. He called and called and called, begging and begging. Still the girl no gree o. So his friends had to do an intervention on him ( ). He later got sane after few weeks. Few months after, the girl came back begging...i'll gist you guys about his reaction another day (Hint: it was epic)

5) Matthew
Matthew was a struggling graduate. He also fell in love. They were talking marriage and babies. He asked her to marry him, she said NO. That he was not yet buoyant to support a family. He was sad, but that gave him the encouragement to strive real hard. He asked her to be patient, she agreed. Few months after, he was invited to a wedding ( ...you guys already know what follows). The happy bride was his girlfriend (and already unofficially met their respective families). He was SHOCKED. He almost fainted. What he did was epic. He walked up to the couple to congratulate them. When the bride saw him coming she was , he smiled. He turned to the groom and said "Sarah is an interesting girl. Have fun unraveling her many layers". The groom had a confused look on his face. He then hugged the bride, and left (He ate and drank before leaving though). Fortunately, he is now doing extremely well...ladies, patience sometimes can be rewarding.

6) Share yours...

Instead of baby wipes, use water every time you visit the loo. Only use tissue paper if you don't have access to water. Using water keeps you fresh all day long.

If after doing the above (plus op's tips) and you still have nasty smell, you can use a pH balance wash (not douche) to restore, balance, or maintain healthy pH level .

Greed (eat their cake and have it) and selfishness (not caring the feelings you hurt).

The guy with the book is a comedian. He did it on purpose with several dust jackets (with weird titles). He even filmed the whole ish.

I dey o...dollar is very 'expensive'

Tallesty1:
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I am protected

How r u jaree.

Ha ha

Naa...mine will be used for self-defense or protecting others.

Tallesty1:
I knew that a messiah would come Sunday.


*sings praises*

But wait...... Is a Grand Master in Krav Maga not worse than a blue belter in kunfu?

This sounds like jumping from frying pan to prying fan