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Dear op,

Do you think we reached this level of bribery/corruption in Nigeria overnight? No, it took several years.

Bribery starts from non-obligatory thank yous then later 'graduates' to compulsory ones. So, that boss was actually wise to not even entertain that idea. I pray that boss gets back on his feet very soon. That company just lost one of the few honest peeps left in Nigeria.

Dear Kaira333,
You need an attitude adjustment. Only you will have issues with your mil (to the extent of calling her annoying ) to total strangers. Na wa o.

I have < 300 posts.

vizkiz:
lol, but why you no vote now?

Guy, waterproof makeup plenty for market

vizkiz:
Any lady who thinks she can impress me on a first date by "putting on make-up" should be ready to go back home disappointed.

And if you manage to fool me on the first date, be ready to join me in a beach the next date we are going for a swim

That is how you will marry the girl and you later realise you don carry watin pass you and na these kind girls no dey gree break-up for relationship

@ chyjio,

1) Don't move back home
2) Take a crash cooking course from your mom (probably over a slow weekend).
3) Learn to cook the basics...how to boil egg, rice, yam...simple chicken/fish stew etc.
4) Don't have a girlfriend until you're ready for a mutually benefiting partnership.

The End

I'm all about marrying your bestfriend whether rich or poor or with potentials. Because lots of people dey with potentials, and the potential didn't 'turn' to wealth.

So, if una no want frustration to kill you while waiting for the 'miracle', just marry your best friend.

Also, men have been known to dump their wives for younger ladies after pepper don rest.

1000 likes!

Yieldings:
Your suggestion of having a joint account as well as your own personal account is reasonable and the only option you should accept...People can suddenly change but some of these habits are always there from the onset but one may overlook them for one reason or the other.

@ shideovlai,

Most men usually forget the following passages:

Ephesians 5:21
Instructions for Christian Households
21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Ephesians 5:25
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

Madam, your husband is trying to be cunning. He is already showing the traits. Please don't fall for it to avoid stories that touch.

That being said, you can agree to a joint account (but still have a personal account), where you both contribute (monthly) a specific percentage (or amount if he doesn't have a stable income). Have all manners of restrictions on that account because I believe (I may be wrong) that he wants to have unrestricted access to your money. Also don't pre-sign any checks.

Please be wise. If you have strong faith in Christ, ask him for wisdom and guidance.

Why didn't they ask each other about their genotype? So what were they discussing during courtship? Very irresponsible.

Anyway, it has happened. If they genuinely love each other, they should stay together. They can adopt and/or do what Dyt suggested.

Scenario 1: parents are AS, they had four kids... 3 AA, 1 AS
Scenario 2: parents as AS, they also had four kids...all SS

Please, don't follow that logic about the 2nd child having a low probability of not being SS. Huge gamble that may or may not pay off.

Tell your friends to get proper education/info about the Sickle Cell.

P.S: For the singles (and soon to be married) biko ask your partner about his/her genotype to avoid stories that touch.

@ MarryMeee,

Let those quoting Bible verse take her in. Right? Utter nonsense...so easy to ask someone else to keep enduring/tolerating ish, when they are not ready to do the same.

Your situation is very dicey. You are only human. If she continues with her destructive behavior, it will get to a stage that you might beat her and THAT might create more problems for you.

So, biko, send that girl back ASAP (or send her to one of those quoting the Bible). You can still contribute to her schooling.

BUT
If you're still feeling altruistic, you can dig deeper or employ a child psychologist to find out the root of her behavior.

Religion, the opium of the masses.

Islam: The Emir's daughters are not using hijab. The older daughters are yet to be married off to men older than their father. Etc.

Christianity: Ooni (and his entourage) wearing cap inside church. Also reserving seats for them inside church. Etc.

#sad

Fear the turtle

NigerianSHA:
Our universities are better And you can get tons of scholarships and the girls are down to fvck.

Even if your lecturer is racist, he dare not fvck around with your grades.

PROUD TERRAPIN.

Yo,
I clicked on the link to vote. I clicked the green thumbs up button but my vote didn't register. Do I have to register? I only saw nominee registration.

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Ezinwa120, this is the best advice.

Sanchase:
If you have the financial ability to cater for her health in future go ahead cos certainly her health will deteriorate at some point, if not let her be and allow her take her chances with other people.

One man's food is another man's poison and vice versa. Do not dis virgin her o hehe as that's her pride and her asset. She could meet a person whose family will welcome, support her condition wholeheartedly and finance her transplant when the time come. Don't let her miss that opportunity and die like a chicken.

Don't start something you cannot finish, when her health deteriorates all your siblings will remind you of the past. Let the girl chose her path but support her in any way you can.

Omg! It's been ages since I heard/read 'his head is not correct'

fem29:
I seriously think there is something wrong with this man. Either he is a troll or his head is not correct

Those are sunglasses and not water goggles. ...their own form of 'water goggles'...

vizkiz:
baby, those aiint sunglasses, they are water-glasses. Lol mumu people

No wonder why the white men still think Africans are still living in caves

Ha ha...you guys have zero chill...

Having a will is not only about sharing of assets. It can also be about anything. The asset sharing part can start immediate you acquire your first tangible asset and amend yearly/periodically.

I made my first will at 21. It had stuff like: who to pull the plug, whether I want to donate my organs for science (if involved in an accident), whether I wanted to be buried or cremated etc.

aLgoridim:
Good evening Nairalanders,

Please , kindly share your opinion about the right age to write a will.

Thanks!

Continue to monitor his whatsapp messages and observe his responses. Is he encouraging them, is he making plans to meet up, or is he only flirting. Also pay close attention to him. E.g. Is he using a new cologne (or just started using one), his behavior in general.

Answers to those questions might help you deduce whether he is cheating.

If after sleuthing and he is proven guilty, you have to be wise in how you confront him (if you even confront him). Also, if he is innocent, you can let him know that you're uncomfortable with his online behavior with women.

Saddenedsoul:
He doesn't give out his phone, and his job requires he travels at least once every quarter

Life can sometimes be unfair. ...she should look into adopting one or more kids.

*shsss*

MrDoGood:
I'm suspecting you.........

Different strokes...

Hubby and I both have unrestricted access. In my opinion, having unrestricted access to your spouse's phone is the best (unless it's a work phone).

airsaylongcon:
This is where every woman begins to get it wrong. The fact that a man is married to a woman doesn't mean certain things aren't sacrosanct. It may be his relationship with his mum or with his phone. I lock my phone and haven't got a problem with my lady going through it. She however must seek AND obtain my consent to do so

Locking ones phone after getting married is wrong. One shouldn't keep secrets from ones spouse.

Two become one? Right? Locking or unlocking ones phone should NOT even be an issue.

airsaylongcon:
How does locking his phone have any significance here? It's "his" phone not "their" phone.

I have been rather fortunate to hear the male's perspective. Both genders have horror stories...quite sad.

Cutehector:
lmao... I liked dat ur thread abt horrible things ladies hav done to guys. it's really a pity. Lol. Loving a girl wholeheartedly and she doesn't see it

BabaO2:
rookie

Ha ha

Imagine, none of 'them' raised up the major ish about reporting the hubby to the cops for further investigation (or arrest).

Wiffie can get customized magun that will be activitated when the guy is about to do it ...I need to stop... today na Sunday.

Cutehector:
gives her high five. dnt mind all these oda people dat will b writing crap dat putting magun insyd her is wrong.


So when d man was busy _raping her, it was right na. Yeye people.


Thank God u reason with me

*High five*

Cutehector:




I think she should just bring bak d househelp and plant magun insyd her.


So that we shall see who is the rat.

Red flag #1. I don't understand the logic behind married couples locking their phones (or not telling their better half the unlock code). He might not be doing anything...yet.

As I said earlier, what will you do if your suspicions are proven right? Don't assume that he's cheating. Be wise.

You should also read this post:

lovaleenny:
What will you do? Shout and scream at the man?invite everyone into the home who will beg you?d man sef go beg...den you will do shakara for one month or more and probably say you will leave him and he should stop seeing the girl...den everyone one will beg you not to leave the home for anoda woman and dt men cheat all the time and you'll believe and move on with your life. If yua lucky he won't do it to your face if you aren't.
.well?

Truth is i will do nothing...coz no matter the tantrums,and d outbursts that will ensue it will not take back the disrespect,disloyalty,infidelity and the fact that he chose the sidechick over you...so I'll do nothing,say nothing,react to nothing,not gonna call anybody and I'll move on with my life before i let one misely man called "horseband" give me sleepless nights over his own transgressions. If my silence doesn't make him have a rethink then it'll be time to plan my exit.

Honestly life is too short to allow someone hold the key to your happiness and peace of mind abeg

Saddenedsoul:
He doesn't give out his phone, and his job requires he travels at least once every quarter

How did he reply to those messages? Is he coming home late? Or always traveling for business? Etc.

Don't be angry @ him because he's innocent until proven guilty. Also, does he lock his phone? You know your man, study him and go with your intuition.

Saddenedsoul:
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I don't know how to go about getting evidence, what I screw everything up

Saddenedsoul, you have to get concrete evidence before confronting him.

After getting evidence (if any), you have to decide what to do with it. What if after confronting him and he continues or he becomes more discrete? So, be wise on how you handle the situation.

My advice to ladies of marriageable age: if you are dating that guy for more than 1 year (and you see a future with him), you need to start discussing the future. If he sees you as overbearing or pushy (etc.), he might not be that into you. You need to start talking to your legs to waka o (also be prayerful to meet your best friend/soul mate.

The talk is just to table any obstacle that might be in the way...to know the road map...in order to avoid stories that touch after 5+ years of dating.

@ legalspice, how is your man handling the whole ish? Have you picked a date, or is he stalling. If he's stalling, don't be surprised if he breaks up with you and marries that igbo girl after only 2 months of the breakup.

luccicouture, my 2 kobo: you won't be a burden if you move in with your parents. You can start sewing immediately. You can even build a nest egg while waiting for your son's arrival. Your mum too can babysit.

Then you can later move out to an apartment. Converting a room in the new apartment to your workshop will enable you to be with your son 24/7.

Your husband is already frustrated with life. Don't allow him to cut yours short.