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FamilyRe: Typical Differences Between An American Family And A Nigerian Family in pictures by Neverquit(f): 6:31am On Sep 20, 2016
Pictures will make it better grin
CultureRe: Why Ugbo People Don’t Marry Ladies Fair In Complexion –oba Olugbo Of Ugbo (pic) by Neverquit(f): 1:34pm On Sep 17, 2016
Very confused oba
FamilyRe: Am Confused : My Baby Mother Disappears With Our Baby. by Neverquit(f): 12:01am On Sep 14, 2016
Do.Not.Marry.Her until you see a genuine change (I highly doubt it).

That being said, demand for a DNA test. Stop all forms of financial assistance until you do a DNA test from your own reliable doctor/center (so that she won't be able to tamper with the result).

If she refuses, move on. If the child is really yours, she will come looking for you in the future.

mickool:
Thank u Ma. The problem too is that she has boasted several times that if I don't marry her I will never be the father of the baby. Am told too that the mother ask her to change the baby surname, my name to her father's name. They are delta igbor of heigbouring agbor near Benin. and I was told that when u don't pay Bride price of they girls u cannot claims be the father of the child.
FamilyRe: Am Confused : My Baby Mother Disappears With Our Baby. by Neverquit(f): 10:19pm On Sep 13, 2016
1) Do DNA
2) Confirm that she is really in Italy
3) Do not marry her
4) If the child is yours, carter for your child, but do not be manipulated
5) Next time use protection
FamilyRe: Should I Call My Uncle by Neverquit(f): 11:13pm On Sep 10, 2016
Parents sef no owe their pikin anything. Lots of parents that do not care about their children. For those of us that has caring parents, please be grateful.

Nobody owes you anything (parents inclusive) in this world.

We need to be more grateful and stop this entitlement nonsense. As tearoses said, this is one of the reasons peeps in the abroad (@ home sef), distance themselves from their relatives.

Fesomu, please change. Call your uncle and genuinely show appreciation. Assist him whenever you can. Who knows, he might even hook you up with juicy employment or business.

cococandy:
It's one thing to say or think that the 3k is small. It's another to actually have a figure you expect from him. Like 100k-300k. Dude seriously?

The only people who owe you a thing in this world are your parents. And that is only until you're 18. After then whatever they do for you is a bonus for which you should be immensely grateful.

People pls.
FamilyRe: My brother is driving me nut - How Should I Handle This Family Issue? by Neverquit(f): 10:18pm On Sep 09, 2016
robedu,

You don try. You need to send him packing ASAP...before you do:
Call a family meeting to let them know everything that happened. Those peeps will tell you that you shld keep helping that blood is thicker blah blah blah. Tell them to help him if they are that concerned...just watch how they will start grumbling.

The purpose of the meeting is to let your family know so in case your brother harms you.

After the meeting, kick him out and change your locks.

Like someone said earlier, the moment you stop enabling him, he will hurt you...so please be wise and act swiftly.
CelebritiesRe: Bidemi Kosoko: "I Don't Need Any Extra Attachment For My Breasts Or Bum" by Neverquit(f): 2:32pm On Aug 23, 2016
S.M.H

link2ok:
You have eyes ooooh... I hope I win this Olympic gold medal for Nigeria in swimming. grin
CelebritiesRe: Bidemi Kosoko: "I Don't Need Any Extra Attachment For My Breasts Or Bum" by Neverquit(f): 2:29pm On Aug 23, 2016
Lol

In a way, I don't blame her though. She's in an industry that values the physical over the intellectual...so she has to look the part for her market to sell.

Still better than her going for brazilian butt lift or implants. Her foreign colleagues also do all sort of ish. Truly sad that women subject themselves to all sort of ish to be termed 'sexy'.

We women should take pride in what God gave us. If una have small boobs and butt, wear clothes that accentuates your features.


francotorti:
Its very obvious for some of us dat has eyes and can see.
Mehn! i pray our Nigerian men wont be deceive wit physical outlook because all na washhhh lipsrsealed
CelebritiesRe: Bidemi Kosoko: "I Don't Need Any Extra Attachment For My Breasts Or Bum" by Neverquit(f): 2:19pm On Aug 23, 2016
3 gbosa!

mamawin:
Enough of all these Padded butt stories jare. Guys in the house, if you are getting married to that lady because of her big butt, you need to think twice. Girls have found out you prefer those that's why they re going the extra mile. asset today, liability in old age
CelebritiesRe: Bidemi Kosoko: "I Don't Need Any Extra Attachment For My Breasts Or Bum" by Neverquit(f): 2:17pm On Aug 23, 2016
grin

Howyeh:
chai!....aiye ooo
CelebritiesRe: Bidemi Kosoko: "I Don't Need Any Extra Attachment For My Breasts Or Bum" by Neverquit(f): 2:31am On Aug 23, 2016
She's wearing butt pad though. Look closely at the fourth pose.

It's nobody's business if you pad your butt or boobs, but don't deny it...better just stay silent.
FamilyRe: My Friend Is In A Fix by Neverquit(f): 9:52pm On Aug 11, 2016
Your fiancée did what was best for her. You have an unforgiving spirit and like to oppress those deemed under you. So because of allegedly stealing a piece of cloth, you want the person to be lynched? Why not go after the politicians milking this country dry? Or your liver never reach? S.M.H.

You are not yet matured for marriage.
FamilyRe: When Your In-laws Behave This Way, What Will You Do? Advice Pls by Neverquit(f): 9:31pm On Aug 11, 2016
Why did you wait this long to demand for your car? Or you were demanding but she still didn't return it?

At this point, your mil (and wife) already see you as a weakling. Only drastic steps can get you that car back. The best and swift thing to do is have her arrested. Yes it's harsh, but wicked people don't deserve mercy. The longer you delay, the less money you will get from the sale. So act NOW.

If your wife disagrees, she does not want your progress. If care is not taken, she can leave you when things gets really tough for you.

My opinion

JCKA23:
We got married a year ago we have a son that is a year old, I m a civil servant same as my wife, we live in Lagos where house rent is not very expensive but can chop deep in to an average civil servants income..

We started with one car on our 6 month of marriage some one blessed us with another car...

All my plan was that I will sell 1 and build a small room and parlour in a nearby family peace of land I inherited...

Before that could be done the My Mother inlaws came that I should give her one of the cars she's going somewhere I thought its something that won't pass 1 week its now 10months

I became very crazy and angry when I discover that this month even the money for day care I couldn't pay because of house rent and the Lady is not even talking about bringing back the car + my wife is not helping matters she won't talk to her Mother to bring the car back.

if I talk she will say this is her mother how do I want her to do.

meanwhile I told her that my own parents can never do that and she knows they won't.



pls help me out... what should I dohuh?
EducationRe: UNICAL Student, Adaeze Nnamani Dies After A Party by Neverquit(f): 9:35pm On Aug 03, 2016
undecided

Ritualists are real!

If you go do runs, go and get 'cooked' to avoid stories that touch.
FamilyRe: If Na You Wetin You Go Do? #mypalmchatexperience by Neverquit(f):
EllaNkay, if you're going to help, help at a distance

They will not appreciate whatever you do, so don't bend over backwards for them. They still have a sense of entitlement. Also try to not let her stay/live with you.

If you must, collect her CV and submit to relevant positions.

Even though we shouldn't repay evil with evil, one has to be wise when dealing with evil people.
CareerRe: My MD Slapped Me, Please I Need Your Advice by Neverquit(f): 2:18pm On Aug 02, 2016
You have to go back unless you have other source(s) of income.

That being said, try asking for few things i.e. increase in pay, break time, etc. Try not to be greedy though. Still keep in mind that you need other sources of income so that you can leave that place.

Abuse in the work place is rampant in Nigeria. cry

lenposh:
My MD Has Done The Worst, Please I Need Your Advise


My name is Sewa, I work in an hotel at Iyana Ipaja as a bar supervisor. Am a graduate of Lapostech (HND). I work 24 hours because of the nature of my job and its a day off and on, meanwhile mine has been 3 days on and one day off because I make more money than others. Before I got to this hotel as a staff, they make lesser than I make now. Per day, my target is 100k but I make 130k at worst because we have club in the hotel as well.
It happened on friday when a customer wanted to buy a wine and I was eating before the customer came in, I was still chewing my meat when the customer came in and I tried to attend to the customer with the meet in my mouth because I do not want to delay him. In that process, my Managing Director came in and slapped me 2times in the presence of customers and even guys that were making wooing me, his reason was that I attended to a customer while eating. We not have break time in this my place of work o.
He slapped me and I worked away to continue my work but I want to revenge. I do not want my silence to be in vain.
My manager has been begging me not to resign because I dropped my resignation letter that day. He is begging me to come back.
What would you do if you were in my shoes?
FamilyRe: 10 Great Marriage Proposal Ideas That Will Have Your Girl Screaming YES!! by Neverquit(f): 10:02pm On Aug 01, 2016
grin grin grin grin kiss

Ishilove:
Candle lie dinner ko, rechargeable lantern dinner ni.

Mscheeeeeew
RomanceRe: If Your Girl Said She Was A Boy - What Will You Do? by Neverquit(f): 2:21am On Jul 31, 2016
Not in all cases o...if you google am, you go fear. Look at the ones that became models or beauty queens. Mehn, berra ask for original birth certificate and baby pictures. grin

rawpadgin:
one thing about transgenders is, u always know what they were before they went under the knife

look @ Caitlyn Jenner is still look like Bruce Jenner grin

what about those fuglee naija transgenders, they are all still looking like men
FamilyRe: Why Should A Mother Teach Her Girl Child This? Family Indulgence by Neverquit(f):
lipsrsealed


Parental methods differ from one family to the other.

Personally, everything is wrong with the child. The mother is trying too hard to turn her into an adult:
1) A child that young should have nothing to do with using attachment to do braids that tiny.
2) That shorts (and i use the word loosely...looks more like underwear) is highly inappropriate to wear out in public (or to take pictures and post)...by any age bracket.

No matter how much you want to agree or disagree; you are addressed the way you dress.

Train up your child in the way s/he should go, and when s/he's grown, s/he won't depart from it.

Decent dressing habit starts from early childhood.

Anyway, na her child. She should be ready to bear any consequences that might result from her actions or inaction.
FashionRe: Men, Beware, Fake 'Big Tips' Is Now In Town (pics) by Neverquit(f): 3:34pm On Jul 29, 2016
undecided

Those things were made for women that had mastectomy.
FamilyRe: Alarming Trend I Observed In Kid Channels by Neverquit(f): 3:15pm On Jul 27, 2016
Nigerians can be funny sometimes. Even if the links were directed to his blog, should it matter? Clicking on a link that directs one to informative content should not be a problem. Also, whats the big deal in clicking and helping someone else's hustle?

S.M.H

Back to the topic, one has to screen every tv show, books etc before allowing access to children. It's been known (and proven) that 'catching them while young' is the most effective way to spread any agenda.
FamilyRe: Should She Accept The New Roommate Or Balance The Old One by Neverquit(f): 6:50pm On Jul 20, 2016
onyekachee, also, if the roomie already moved out, please tell your friend to change the locks pending the time the issue gets resolved.

Below are some tips:
1) If the roomie wants to bring in her own friend, your friend has to vet her before she moves in
2) Your friend looks for a roomie herself...no matter how long that takes.

Again, please tell her to change the locks.
FamilyRe: RE: She Slept In The Kitchen And Won My Heart.... Is A Fiction by Neverquit(f): 6:35pm On Jul 20, 2016
There are still lessons to learn from that story. When you stay in an abusive marriage/relationship, more often than not, the trauma has/have negative effect on the child(ren).
LiteratureRe: She Slept In The Kitchen And Won My Heart - Chukwuba Chiluba by Neverquit(f): 6:09am On Jul 17, 2016
WOMEN (and some men), this is the result of staying in abusive marriage.

The guy is truly demented. How can you watch while the person you love (or claim to love) sleeps on a cold bare ground while you sleep comfortably in a bed? Or disrespect her in public?

We women too should have self respect.
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FamilyRe: How Do We Tackle Bullying In Our Secondary Schools? by Neverquit(f): 2:21pm On Jul 16, 2016
Hello

DESNAT:
lol,kinda funny... hello dear
FamilyRe: Child Naming: Who Should Name The Baby? by Neverquit(f): 1:41am On Jul 15, 2016
Any family member or close friends can send in names. Here's what my parents did: dad gave us our official first names, mum gave us our official middle names. Official refers to the names on the birth certificate.

I believe the above method is fair.
RomanceRe: Was He Right To Have Raped Her? by Neverquit(f): 2:45pm On Jul 14, 2016
There is NO justification for ràpe. That being said, the girl was very foolish. The guy should also be in jail.
FamilyRe: How Do We Tackle Bullying In Our Secondary Schools? by Neverquit(f): 6:20am On Jul 14, 2016
Yes, he can start gym @ jss1...if not, then martial arts class.

GloryIsaac:
Woah! shocked , you dont expect a JS1 start gyming at this stage, right?
FamilyRe: How Do We Tackle Bullying In Our Secondary Schools? by Neverquit(f): 1:27am On Jul 14, 2016
GloryIsaac, if he does not confide in you, sign him up for martial arts or enroll him in a gym/boxing ring.

The above suggestions will help in building and boosting his self esteem and confidence.
FamilyRe: Wedding Palava by Neverquit(f): 12:51am On Jul 14, 2016
I have observed that if the bride and groom have different ideas about the wedding/traditional ceremony, that marriage is doomed from the beginning.

snowytee, you guys need to agree about finances. Trust me, na she go shout if una start to drink garri after wedding o. If she insists, be ready to move on (yes that sounds harsh). Because if you succumb (without guaranteed outside help), the likelihood of regretting it is very high.

If you can't persuade your fiancée, it doesn't bode well for your marriage. Stick to your original budget. If she still says no, biko tell her that you will have to move on. If she truly loves you, she will be willing to reach a compromise.

Many men fell for that trap and they still regret their decisions. Some have even started to take out the frustration on the wife. If at this point, she'll rather do a 'notice me' ceremony rather than plan with you on how to build a house (or other investments), then FLEE. She might end up being a type of wife that will buy expensive aso ebi just to appear rich.

Even if you have the money, it is not advisable to spend it on a days' event. Rather, pour it on something that has healthy ROI.

Please, be wise.

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