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The woman should take the case to court na, no long story. How will he abandon even his kids without even providing child support?

She should go to court so he can divorce if he wants to and start supporting his children financially.

Funny OP, you kissed another guy while u guys were fighting and ur here playing victim. You think you can just wipe the kiss off like that? Chai fear girls o.

The moment you have something to hide from your man, sister u have cheated already. Besides your best friend appreciates and values what you don't.

You cheated, He cheated. You can either suck it up and move on or just kuku leave him for another girl.

So on point Op, but nothing can be done. Nairaland (especially its romance forums) will always be riddled with ponyor-whipped male kids.

As for me, i dish back at anyone who talks smack. Female moniker or not. As long as your different, leave the others with their problem.

Romerocollins:
I know it sounds kinda hard to believe, I had a girl friend who we normally have intimacy almost 2times in a week, one-day she came to my place and I wanted sex as usual but she told me she is seeing her period and only if I can bleep through the anus,though I objected,.
Please any similar experience?

Kudos bro, it doesn't lack any glory in porn but when faced with that decision in real life, its to refuse sharp sharp!

SuperSuave:
kiss a man? He's gay as fvck, maybe he doesn't know it yet

Chai! Cmon hug; person no fit hug him guy again because some agbero like you are shouting gay upandan

Access Bank just paid Ekiti corpers.

Still nothing for UBA peeps yet.

Edit: UBA just paid me, thank you God

Alexis11:
The truth is..... Igbos are the group that fit the real definition of cowards perfectly in this country.

Then please educate me on what fearless & strong people like you have achieved

DanielsParker:
cowards.

Quite easy for an afonja ant hiding behind a torchlight Nokia phone to type.

What can anyone do when it's the nature of the government to suppress opposing views and kill those seeking for a referendum?

Daeylar:
If you're just stating your views then I agree,

If it's the 2nd option I have clearly stated many times that if the husband is the sole provider then the wife takes care of the home however if they are both providers then they will both take care of the home

Just stating my views and they align with yours. It can't be called a family if responsibilities aren't shared.

Daeylar:
My response to this is if the man wants support in financing for the family then he must support with the cooking, cleaning, doing house chores, taking care of the kids, that's the only way I will support equal or any type of financial help by the wife. My reason is this, many men see providing as their job and taking care of the home and kids as the job of the wives, so if the men want any form of support in their job, they must be willing to support in the job of the wife.
It's not fair nor right in any way to say that just because the wife is financially stable she must help financially yet the husband who is emotionally physically and moral stable leaves the cooking, house chores and care of the kids to the wife because he is a man and that is not what men do.
It can't be shared responsibility when it comes to finances but becomes the woman's job when it comes to care of the home and the kids, it's not acceptable,

50-50 all the way or nothing,

The wife brings money to support the family and the man cooks and cleans and takes care of the children not just when the woman is sick or unavailable but also when she is capable and available to do so, The man does it because it's the 50-50 rule.
Do you see my point?

ToZaraWithaZ sumed in up brilliantly on page 2. Both partners are adults and can agree on the type of lifestyle that works for them. I don't see anything wrong with a husband helping with chores and cooking, it's actually getting more common now.

Especially if both the husband and wife works. It'll be an uncomfortable relationship if the wife always have to deal with the stress of work then come back to tidy the home...then clearly her husband doesn't love her. So they could go with maids or share the responsibility.

But if the wife doesn't work, isn't willing to and would rather be a housewife, then it'll be quite unreasonable to expect the husband to take most of the responsibility when it comes to chores at home.

Daeylar:
You guys can't accuse some feminists of wanting to eat their cake and have it yet turn around and do the exact same thing,

If you want a 50/50 or whatever ratio where the wife joins her husband in providing for the family then you must also accept a 50/50 (or whatever agreed ratio) where the man joins in cooking, taking of the kids and doing of house chores, and I don't mean only when the woman is ill or when she is not available to do the chores. I mean even if the woman is around, the man still has to hold up his 50% or whatever ratio.

Or you stick to the traditional way where the man is the provider and the woman is the home maker.

50% everywhere or nothing.

Cc AlmiqhteeAllah what do you think?

If both the husband and wife works, a maid can be employed to take care of the home & nannies can take care of the kids.

If a wife is unemployed, i don't think a husband will have any issues providing for the family by himself.

The main question suggests that the wife has money, that is..if the husband and wife are both financially stable, is it right for only the husband to provide financing for the family? Definitely a big NO for me.

I blame some Nigerian Traditions. A man paying bride price for a girl is practically slavery (the parents are selling their daughter). The guy then feels entitled to anything and the wife must comply. The guy is tasked with providing and the wife becomes a mother and maid. If i could scrap primitive traditions like this, i will.

Badmanbay:
They might pay 15th of this month...

You want ppl to faint abi

You can just maintain your distance as politely as you're already doing or even more. She already has a boyfriend and hasn't known you long enough to be as close a friend as she's acting out.

So dey your lane, very soon the tori go enter her head and she will find her way.

All these ppl will be looking for mugu to fall into their trap.

Do you still sell? I need to buy a powerbank urgently

UBA bank Ekiti, nothing.

And they are doing Oct clearance this week without paying September allowee

CEEcey:


A husband that depends on his wife's money is a disgrace to men

My money is mine alone and I can only decide to give him if he asks

Besides isn't he suppose to be the head of the family
His money is ours.

C'mon go & siddan there!

A woman that is fully dependent on her husband is also a disgrace, na him born you?

My money will always be mine, but taking care of my family will always be top priority. While i also expect our family to be her financial priority as well.

May stingy & lazy women never be our portion, Amen!

iceybux:
ur shallow thinkin is beyound imagination... thats just a written law and not wah rapes means... pls google rape... it doesnt select a particular gender..

But that's what she's saying na! Did you read the post you quoted at all? Men CAN be raped as rape isn't limited to a particular gender.

Quartermain:
who else don receive alert... before I carry Waka go ATM oo... don't wanna be dissapointed oo

Don't go, you will be disappointed.

Badmanbay:
Sorry na debit alert

You can be crucified for that mistake o

Wrong thread, sorry

Another life taken as a result of rage..which way na?

Some Nigerians and showing off... Its like they themselves will not believe they are rich if they don't show off.

pinkyruledworld:
wch state are u?

Ekiti...want to relocate to Lagos

Is there anyone with sure relocation contact? Pm me.

The moment you're involved in something you know you can't tell your bf/husband/gf/wife about...its cheating.

Chatting
Phone calls
Dates

As long as it's something you know deep down in your heart that you can't tell your significant other, you're cheating.