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She is okay like this o... Anything more than this is a disaster about to happen

You see number 3 and 8 that is my own issue with some guys. Though those are not enough reason for me to snub, i just get bored.

RIP

All I can say is that: Don't let them see you finish, dem go finish your biscuit, dem go finish yourrrr sweettt.. Shakara Don end o

All I can say is that they look so much like their mom.

4reala:
Na wah to U o, no be u dey use her Firstly, U say you no want sex, U take style do aka gum form say transfer no work so DAT make she no collect ur money clean mouth, forgetting DAT na u dey invite her. Now she borrow money come, U find money impress her for chicken republic abi na shoprite. After una come back, girl say she wan sleep, U come see say opportunity come, u no see cushion or floor to lie down, u jump enter bed with her as ur john Thomas say make u no miss this opportunity.
U do all this finish, come they ask us wether she wan use u, just because she say she go like make u they holla her every day. Oga, na u they try to use her, because U don dey talk say u no trust her after u don chop her finish.

Exactly my point. The man is not ready for marriage. He is looking for bedmate, he doesn't know what it entails to be in a serious relationship.

Filomena:
There's this guy I met in school and there has been this connection between us. We have gradually become friends. I find myself staring at him most of the time and when he tries to catch me, I hide my face. I have also observed that he stares at me a lot too and smiles and then says hey to me.

We had a small talk in school too. I didn't know he stayed in campus too so one night when I was going out to read, I saw him, like I couldn't believe it because I thought I was not going to see him again after they declared the two weeks strike, till it was called off. So I was really shocked and happy when I saw him. Then he hugged me and I hugged him too and held him tight.

So he then asked if this was my room and I told him yes. He told me he just escorted his friend that just finished cooking for him. I felt bad hearing that because I felt they had something more. So he then asked me which church I'd be attending the following day, I told him and he said okay and told me good night. He didnt even ask for my phone number. I wonder why he didnt.

The other day he just saw me and didn't talk to me and i felt bad for that. So after that day I saw him and he was just busy staring at me and smiling and I wasn't really in the mood for that but I still stared back. He then told me hey and passed. He was with his friend and I greeted him too and passed.

So the last day I saw him, I was coming back from church and was hoping I'd see him again one last time before I travelled. Lo and behold, I saw him coming towards me with some of his friends. He then hugged me and we had a small chat. I was still hoping that he'd collect my number, still he didnt..

I dont know if he wants to have something with me or not since he's yet to ask for my number..

Please guys I need your thought on this cuz I really want to go into a relationship with him..
I want to know if he likes me or bidding his time or just playing around.

Thanks.

This anxiousness you have about him, all this questions you are asking this is exactly what he wants and you are already falling for it. The guy is chasing after you but taking is time until he knows you can't take it any longer and you have fallen for him big time. He will make his move, by then you are in deep shit. My question for you is: Are you ready to be in a relationship? Are you ready for all the emotional trauma e.t.c. Have a clear view of what you want, if not you will become a prey.

Bro I am telling you with my trust in God, you will not dropout. You will finish your final year well. He did it for me, He will also do it for you. That was the same feeling I had last year but I kept on pushing on and God did it I graduated this year. As long as you don't give up on God and life. Even this pandemic, I believe God has a purpose for it for your good.

I feel for you my brother. When I say I understand all what you are going through I mean I really do. This is all what I am going through in my home but with more addition. For your father he is just narcissistic, that trait is similar and he can't change. For your mum, please her health should be your priority right now. She needs to get well soon. Health is wealth. It is not like she does not know that she has to leave that marriage. She is afraid and scared, what she needs is financial support and help you know something that she can be doing that can fetch her money. Money beings confidence. She does not want to depend on her children when she knows they are still struggling themselves. Please be patient with her, show her more love, attention and care at this time she needs those more. Apart from her health issues,she is thinking too much. I know it is hard but you both need each other. Calmly make her to see reasons why she needs help. I pray God restores her health and help comes your way. It is well brother, be strong and prayerful. Better days ahead.

Rest in peace. I think this should be food poisoning. They should check their last phone call or last visitor. Then if there are any food remains that should be checked too. I pray for quick recovery for the boy, and he should be guided. As it is he is the only witness to all of this mishaps.

Powerintoxicate:
This is crazy. Now the lockdown has been relaxed. People will have to commute to work in Lagos and Abuja. Most people in these cities use public transport.

How will social distancing and proper sanitizing work in a crowded danfo or brt? And for those in Abuja how will you take your cabs or along where four passengers are jammed at the back?

Nigeria is not ready certainly for this . Pray there's no explosion of cases after one week

Enh that is what Nigerians want o, abeg no complaints this time. Some are saying this coronavirus is not real, now they will see with their own eyes. At least the lockdown will be relaxed people should know how they will distance themselves now. I just tire

bluebay:
Sir, I commend you for voicing out. It’s take a great courage to to so sir. Respect to you .
I have read and I so much understand your story and I will go straight to the point here. Sir, this situation you going through won’t end well either for you or her for you are already loosing it and you’ve been affected mentally, emotionally and it’s really dangerous for you. I will advice you at the moment to take a bold step of or reclaiming back your House in the hard way sir. Either you send her to spend sometime with her parents and which ever of your child chooses to leave with her, let them go and cut every funding channeled to them. OR, you move out for interval of 3-5 months and take the 2 youngest kids with you and get them a care giver . As for your wife, cut the funding and if after 3-5months she didn’t get to her right senses, sir move ahead. You deserve the best in life .

To you this is an advice..... Ridiculous. If any man should try this in his home he will completely destroy it totally. Don't think with your balls think with your brain. A father or a mother has a responsible to his or her child. Whatever issues he has with his wife should not be taken on the children. This is between him and his wife. A loving father can easily win the heart of his children. He should just be patient and keep on loving his children later on they realize it. Children are not tools for parent they are human beings too they have a mind of their own, with time things will become clear

bukatyne:
@Paul8000:

There are two issues:

1. You do not have a good relationship with your wife

2. You do not have a good relationship with your kids: you were not involved in their upbringing. The last two like you because they are young and unaware of their surroundings. As soon as their mom can influence them, you will lose them also.

A. First, you address the kids individually as follows:
1. Engage them as adults. Tell them you love them, care for them etc. and as their father, they have to respect and obey you in return. If your life is a reflection of your religion, you should make a parallel between you as a father and God/Allah as our father.

2. Tell them that you are not perfect and would have tussle with their mother however, it is not in their place to support their mother (except you are endangering her life) and they should always respect you.

3. Understand their peculiar challenges and address them.

B. Engage your wife and allow her air any grievance she has. You mentioned she told the kids you cheated, did you?
Address the grievance one after the other and also tell her your own grievance.

Thereafter, tell her that you both MUST have a joint agreement on discipline and training for the kids. If she has any reservations on what you do, she should address it with you in private. Ditto you too. Tell her to also stop discussing your shortcomings with the kids. She should address you, in private.

Then you gather your family together and address them. Lay down ground rules and create family bonding times through meals and prayers.

You also need to live a life of example and honor to your kids especially.

It is very shameful for you the husband of the home to be sitting cowardly in the car because you have a bitter wife (which may be your doing) and unruly children.

I have two threads: one on fatherhood and another on husbandhood.

Goodluck Mr. Paul

you said my thought. I wish he can heed to this candid advice of yours, one he is a father, secondly he is a husband. This two relationship should be addressed separately.

Christthesaviour:
Hello guys,

We have been on lockdown for some weeks now, because of this evil pandemic ravagin' the world not just nigeria only,

My questions are:

1) If this lockdown should continue, how are schools going to open since we don't have an online system?

2) Will this not lead to a massive dropout from schools, due to poverty, insecurity and unseriousness?

3) All the parent in the house, how have you made sure your child is academically active despite not going to school?

4) Do you think this lockdown is the best and only solution?

Nigerians share your view.

The most important thing here should be how we all will come out alive from this pandemic. When that happens all other things will fall in place. As far there life, there is hope. This shouldn't be your bone of contention right now because definitely things will change.

NaijaMutant:
Only a cheating husband won't be happy about having more time for his family


What's the essence of having a family in the first place

So true o

Rotjijatau:
This corona break has given room for creativity, this is what my kid brother constructed using car tires.

Wow.... Bravo

Freddyjimoh:
https://www.sunnewsonline.com/lagos-pegs-entry-age-into-jss1-at-12-years/

Very good news.

[quote author=christm386 post=87845626]Igbo boys too dey cute, traveling with my nigga, i need to go stay with mama, shit is getting scary[ u guys are very cute ]