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Family / Re: Woman Marries 2 Men, Charged To Sharia Court by nic121: 10:25pm On May 07, 2016
Things dey happen for katsina
Politics / Re: I Budgeted N200 Billion For Roads Unlike Jonathan’s Paltry N18 Billion – Buhari by nic121: 9:05pm On May 06, 2016
GEJ shadow torments this PMB. we r observing
Politics / Re: Saraki’s Trial Will Now Hold Everyday, Says CCT by nic121: 1:23pm On Apr 18, 2016
This man should just resign. We have enough issues in the country as it is.
Romance / Re: Should I Worry About Her Size? by nic121: 5:56pm On Apr 10, 2016
sirhot:
Hmmm... Should I say I've fallen or I fell but then I have this friend I'm getting used to but she has a tendency of becoming very fat! I like her personality, her drive, her intelligence but her size worries me.

Her sisters are all fat and when I noticed this i started talking to her about reducing her weight which she has agreed and is currently working on it! I don't like fat girls but iI'm worried she might not be able to reduce much since it's somehow genetic. She was already getting big but has started reducing. But I'm still worried especially after child birth, she might explode!

Should I overlook this for the other good qualities of hers? Why can't i have everything in one package? Advice please.

If it is a huge problem to you, Pls let the girl go abeg. It is genetical she is fat. She should love herself that way. Not everyone is meant to be slim and not everyone is meant to be fat. Life is too short to make someone unhappy because she was born that way.

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Phones / Unboxing Lenovo A5000 by nic121: 5:01pm On Dec 17, 2015
I just got a Lenovo A5000 recently. Check it out on
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Programming / Re: I Want To Learn Programming. Which Language Should I Start With? by nic121: 9:07am On Nov 14, 2015
just dive. It is not like you are only going to stick to one for the rest of your programming life.

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Religion / Re: Words Mostly Used In Living Faith Church A.k.a Winners Chapel by nic121: 4:18pm On Jun 07, 2015
Take delivery
Destiny molding,highly inspirational service.

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Culture / Re: Common Beautiful Names From The Igbo Tribe by nic121: 6:14pm On Sep 16, 2014
[quote author=CharmO1]Iheomachukwu - good thing from God (that's mine)

Nkemakolam - my own is ready for me

Ihechimerem - what my God has done for me

Uzoamaka - the road is good (as in journey of life)

Chinonyerem - God stay with me

Chizomam - God keep saving me

Ugonna - Eagle/pride of father

Naetochukwu - keep praising God

Nneka - Mother is great

Nkemjika - What I have is greater

Obumneke - am I the giver?
grin grin
My family names. Proud to be Igbo #thatowerrilady[/quote
My name is Nkemakolam
Islam for Muslims / Re: Saudi-Arabia To Reduce Nigeria’s Hajj Slots by nic121: 3:52pm On Jun 14, 2013
Don't they have the middle eastern virus situation?
Education / Re: How Did You Carry Your School Bag Then? by nic121: 3:50pm On Jun 14, 2013
What of dragging the bag on the floor I did that in pry school it is not among the options given
Education / Re: Unilag Student Sold His Kidney To Graduate by nic121: 1:30pm On Feb 13, 2013
Nonsense guy. He cud have as well sold his soul to illuminati. All these first class guys with no street sense. How can ♏Ɣ lecturer as me for ♏Ɣ kidney when I was matriculating did I sign that I can lose any part of ♏Ɣ organ? With all his education he doesn't know his rights. I will so deal with that lecturer not only him, his family also. This story is fishy if u ® a gud student y the kidney donation. It makes no sense to me. Is this story authentic all the same the guy is stupid period.
Politics / Re: Gastric Byepass Surgery Gone Wrong: The True Cause Of Our First Lady's Illness by nic121: 4:39pm On Sep 24, 2012
no na dubai she come back thus d fainting before they flew her to germany
Politics / Gastric Byepass Surgery Gone Wrong: The True Cause Of Our First Lady's Illness by nic121: 6:53pm On Sep 23, 2012
According to a consultant assigned to the Madame Patience Jonathan, She said that the
patient had undergone some intestinanal
operations to keep her tummy firm- a process
she said led to poisioning and complications.
“The operations that were performed on Mrs
Jonathan led to a ruptured stomach and I think
that was the reason she was fainting and as well
having abdominal pains before she was brought here for treatment” The source said.
this just looks like a gastric
bypass surgery gone wrong. Wishing her speedy
recovery.

[url]wetindey2day.com/gastric-bypass-surgery-gone-wrongthe-true-cause-of-mrs-jonathans-ailment/[/url]
Family / Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by nic121: 5:23pm On Aug 23, 2012
This is an example

Politics / Re: Yorubas Are The Best In Accommodating Strangers In Nigeria - By Sam Omatseye by nic121: 9:49pm On May 12, 2012
i disagree i would say it is the benue peeps. I was stranded there twice and boy was I treated like a queen by strangers.
Literature/Writing Ads / Bloggers Needed For An Upcoming Blog by nic121: 1:48am On Apr 07, 2012
wetindey2day is an upcoming blog that provides information on the latest news in the world of entertainment, life and style, health, business, agriculture, and gossip. We seek bloggers to blog in the categories mentioned. If interested email wetindey2day@yahoo.com
Celebrities / Samantha Brick: Ten Out Of Ten Men Fancy Me (mo Gbono Felefele) by nic121: 10:34pm On Apr 06, 2012
‘Good looking woman’: But Samantha Brick says that her pleasing looks have been a mixed blessing, with many of her own sex becoming resentful, and have closed as many doors as they have opened

Throughout my adult life, I’ve regularly had bottles of bubbly or wine sent to my restaurant table by men I don’t know. Once, a well-dressed chap bought my train ticket when I was standing behind him in the queue, while there was another occasion when a charming gentleman paid my fare as I stepped out of a cab in Paris.

Another time, as I was walking through London’s Portobello Road market, I was tapped on the shoulder and presented with a beautiful bunch of flowers. Even bar tenders frequently shoo my credit card away when I try to settle my bill.

And whenever I’ve asked what I’ve done to deserve such treatment, the donors of these gifts have always said the same thing: my pleasing appearance and pretty smile made their day.



While I’m no Elle Macpherson, I’m tall, slim, blonde and, so I’m often told, a good-looking woman. I know how lucky I am. But there are downsides to being pretty — the main one being that other women hate me for no other reason than my lovely looks.

If you’re a woman reading this, I’d hazard that you’ve already formed your own opinion about me — and it won’t be very flattering. For while many doors have been opened (literally) as a result of my looks, just as many have been metaphorically slammed in my face — and usually by my own sex.

I’m not smug and I’m no flirt, yet over the years I’ve been dropped by countless friends who felt threatened if I was merely in the presence of their other halves. If their partners dared to actually talk to me, a sudden chill would descend on the room.

Taken: Samantha with her French husband Pascal Rubinat. Ten years her senior, he takes great pride in hearing other men declare that she’s a beautiful woman and always tells her to laugh off bitchy comments

And it is not just jealous wives who have frozen me out of their lives. Insecure female bosses have also barred me from promotions at work.

And most poignantly of all, not one girlfriend has ever asked me to be her bridesmaid.

You’d think we women would applaud each other for taking pride in our appearances.

I work at mine — I don’t drink or smoke, I work out, even when I don’t feel like it, and very rarely succumb to chocolate. Unfortunately women find nothing more annoying than someone else being the most attractive girl in a room.

Take last week, out walking the dogs a neighbour passed by in her car. I waved — she blatantly blanked me. Yet this is someone whose sons have stayed at my house, and who has been welcomed into my home on countless occasions.

I approached a mutual friend and discreetly enquired if I’d made a faux pas. It seems the only crime I’ve committed is not leaving the house with a bag over my head.She doesn’t like me, I discovered, because she views me as a threat. The friend pointed out she is shorter, heavier and older than me.

Blushing bride: Samantha on her wedding day, left, and right, at home with Pascal. She laments that not one of her girlfriends has ever asked her to be a bridesmaid – perhaps from fear of being overshadowed by her looks

And, according to our mutual friend, she is adamant that something could happen between her husband and me, ‘were the right circumstances in place’. Yet I’m happily married, and have been for the past four years.

This isn’t the first time such paranoia has gripped the women around me. In my early 20s, when I first started in television as a researcher, one female boss in her late 30s would regularly invite me over for dinner after a long day in the office.

I always accepted her invitation, as during office hours we got along famously. But one evening her partner was at home. We were all a couple of glasses of wine into the evening. Then he and I said we both liked the song we were listening to.

She laid into her bewildered partner for ‘fancying’ me, then turned on me, calling me unrepeatable names before ridiculing me for dying my hair and wearing lipstick. I declined any further invitations.

Therapist Marisa Peer, author of self-help guide Ultimate Confidence, says that women have always measured themselves against each other by their looks rather than achievements — and it can make the lives of the good-looking very difficult.

‘Many of my clients are models, yet people are always astounded when I explain they don’t have it easy,’ she says. If you are attractive other women think you lead a perfect life — which simply isn’t true.

Hard work: Samantha takes pride in her appearance. She works out – even when she doesn’t feel like it – she doesn’t drink, she doesn’t smoke… and rarely does she succumb to chocolate

‘They don’t realise you are just as vulnerable as they are. It’s hard when everyone resents you for your looks. Men think “what’s the point, she’s out of my league” and don’t ask you out. And women don’t want to hang out with someone more attractive than they are.’

I certainly found that out the hard way, particularly in the office.

One contract I accepted was blighted by a jealous female boss. It was the height of summer and I’d opted to wear knee length, cap-sleeved dresses. They were modest, yet pretty; more Kate Middleton than Katie Price.

But my boss pulled me into her office and informed me my dress style was distracting her male employees. I didn’t dare point out that there were other women in the office wearing similar attire.

Rather than argue, I worked out the rest of my contract wearing baggy, sombre-coloured trouser suits. It was clear that when you have a female boss, it’s best to let them shine, but when you have a male boss, it’s a different game: I have written in the Mail on how I have flirted to get ahead at work, something I’m sure many women do.

Women, however, are far more problematic. With one phenomenally tricky boss, I eventually managed to carve out a positive working relationship. But a year in, her attitude towards me changed; the deterioration began when she started to put on weight.

We were both employed by a big broadcasting company. One of our male UK chiefs recommended I take the company’s global leadership course, which meant doors would have opened for me around the world.

All I needed were two personal recommendations to be eligible. As everyone in the office agreed I was good at my job, I didn’t think this would be a problem.

But while the male executive signed the paperwork without hesitation, my immediate boss refused to sign. When I asked her right-hand woman why, she pulled me to one side and explained that my boss was jealous of me.

Forced out: While Samantha has previously admitted to flirting to get ahead at work, she also says jealous female bosses have made some jobs so unbearable she has been forced to leave

Things between us rapidly deteriorated. Whenever I wore something new she’d sneer at me in front of other colleagues that she was the star, not me.

Six months later I handed in my notice. Privately she begged me to stay, blaming the nasty comments on her hormones. She was in her early 40s and confided she was having marital problems. But by then I’d had enough.

I find that older women are the most hostile to beautiful women — perhaps because they feel their own bloom fading. Because my husband is ten years older than me, his social circle is that bit older too.

As a Frenchman, he takes great pride in hearing other men declare that I’m a beautiful woman and always tells me to laugh off bitchy comments from other women.

Yet I dread the inevitable sarky comments. ‘Here she comes. We’re in the village hall yet Sam’s dressed for the Albert Hall,’ was one I recently overheard. As a result I find dinner parties and social gatherings fraught and if I can’t wriggle out of them, then often dress down in jeans and a demure, albeit pretty, top.

But even these ploys don’t always work. Take last summer and a birthday party I attended with my husband. At one point the host, who was celebrating his 50th, decided he wanted a photo with all the women guests. Positioning us, the photographer suggested I stand immediately to his right for the shot.

Another woman I barely knew pushed me out of the way, shouting it wasn’t fair on all the other women if I was dominating the snap. I was devastated and burst into tears. On my own in the loos one woman privately consoled me — well out of ear-shot of her girlfriends.

So now I’m 41 and probably one of very few women entering her fifth decade welcoming the decline of my looks. I can’t wait for the wrinkles and the grey hair that will help me blend into the background.

Perhaps then the sisterhood will finally stop judging me so harshly on what I look like, and instead accept me for who I am.

http://wetindey2day./2012/04/06/samantha-brick-ten-out-of-ten-men-fancy-me-mo-gbono-fele-3-2/
Music/Radio / Tonto And Tuface Making Out On Stage by nic121: 7:49pm On Mar 27, 2012
Tonto is at it again making out with 2facebaba on stage with only her underwear. I dont know if 2face wore boxers only.

Celebrities / Re: Mercy Johnson Is Pregnant! by nic121: 10:52am On Mar 17, 2012
Fancatype: But if she is pregnant. I think she not the first person or last
Thank u. Haba it is her life.
Nairaland / General / Re: "Nairaland 2.0" Is Live! Any Questions Or Feedback? by nic121: 5:08pm On Mar 11, 2012
i dont like this it holds no swag on the computer. The appearance suit mobile
Phones / Re: The Price Of Samsung Galaxy Pro And Galaxy Y Duos by nic121: 3:07pm On Mar 06, 2012
thanks
Phones / The Price Of Samsung Galaxy Pro And Galaxy Y Duos by nic121: 1:51pm On Mar 01, 2012
hellow nairalanders does anyone know the price of samsung galaxy y pro and galaxy y duos?
Webmasters / Re: My New Online Job And Business Blog! Please Comment. by nic121: 3:01pm On Feb 18, 2012
Nairaland / General / Re: Should The Govt Ban Planking In Nigeria?: Vote by nic121: 5:54pm On Jul 04, 2011
Go and plank on the express
Fashion / Re: Best Skin Lightening/toning Soap by nic121: 5:50pm On Jul 04, 2011
I used to be fair bur now im like brown skinned or should i say sun kissed lol. Im not worried about that. I dont believe in harming my skin with all these chemicals.
NYSC / Re: Guys Posted To Boko Haram States On Nysc - Please Register Here For Network. by nic121: 7:07pm On Jul 01, 2011
it is like our leaders like to immortalize unneccessarily.
Literature / Re: Poem - Ignorant Choice by nic121: 2:19pm On Jun 20, 2011
Hey thanks for the reply.
Literature / Poem - Ignorant Choice by nic121: 1:55pm On Jun 19, 2011
Politics / Re: Imo State Guber: Rochas Okorocha Has Won! by nic121: 2:19pm On Apr 27, 2011
Im so happy. A new dawn has come for us.
Jokes Etc / Re: Igbo And Yoruba Man by nic121: 2:06pm On Dec 02, 2010
what do you mean?! are you trying to tell me that igbos are ungrateful.
Politics / Re: Say No To 'NAIJA' - Akunyili by nic121: 7:30am On Nov 17, 2010
now this is getting to far. She should make a thorough research of the meaning of naija. It does not connote negativity, instead it connotes patriotism, solidarity, perseverance e.t.c. you dont just announce to the media whatever you think is right. This is really getting me pissed. She should rebrand the name Nigeria before going to naija that is where it all started from
Crime / Re: 17-year-old Peace Asukwo Commits Suicide Over Disagreement With Yoruba Boyfriend by nic121: 10:47pm On Nov 14, 2010
this is murder how many girls will commit sucide just because the boyfriend broke up with her cmon the guy killed her simple

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