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| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by Sista(f): 3:49am On Oct 15, 2006 |
@Maxwell No one twisted anything and you know it. Drusilla never mentioned that the white dude was duped, Why didn't she mention this in the first place ? She only mentioned half of the story to suit herself. Do you hear your self? You are saying that because he was duped it is acceptable that he said all of Nigeria should be nuked so that all Nigerians can be killed. Your so stupid. Why don't you just shut up. @somegirl And you still haven't told me why you brought up the whites in a thread that was about inter-tribal relationships in Nigeria. Are the whites now a tribe of Nigeria? I'm the angry person remember? I have an excuse, don't you see? You are supposed to be so understanding and all, so why would you attempt to provoke the situation? What you thought was, I was a black person who would stand for you telling me negative things about my people. I'm not like[b] Maxwell[/b], Babosisi, and Mamaput. I'm not a well trained Negroe who has been programmed to treat whitey nice even when whitey is clearly trying to make my life and the life of my people a living hell. You can't be white and talking to me about my own people because what we do is none of your business. Like I said, you were being tit for tat, not very becoming of a white person who claims to relate to black people. You assume that I'm not happy but you can't assume why I brought up white people in that topic? Your such an out of touch white girl. |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by maxell(f): 3:59am On Oct 15, 2006 |
Sista: Whatever. You can twist the issue however way you want. It is there for all to see. YOU ARE SUCH A HATEFUL WOMAN. YOU NEED TO LEAVE YOUR HATRED FOR WHITES ALONE AND SEEK DELIVERANCE FROM THE LORD |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by maxell(f): 4:06am On Oct 15, 2006 |
Bhola: SISTA, EVERYONE THAT COMES ON THIS THREAD SEES THAT YOUR LIFE IS FULL OF HATRED. THEY SEE HOW RACIST YOU ARE AND TRY TO PUT YOU IN THE RIGHT PATH, BUT YOU FAIL TO LISTEN. HOW CAN YOU STAY ON THIS FORUM WITH EVERYONE SEEING AND SAYING YOU ARE A RACIST WOMAN ? YOU ARE REALLY PITIFUL. YOU ARE SUCH A SCREWED UP PERSON. THERE IS NO HOPE FOR HAPPINESS IN YOUR LIFE UNLESS YOU GIVE UP YOUR EVIL WAYS. |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by Sista(f): 5:11am On Oct 15, 2006 |
@maxwell SISTA, EVERYONE THAT COMES ON THIS THREAD SEES THAT YOUR LIFE IS FULL OF HATRED. THEY SEE HOW RACIST YOU ARE AND TRY TO PUT YOU IN THE RIGHT PATH, BUT YOU FAIL TO LISTEN. If everyone sees that my life is full of hatred why do you have to keep saying that when you post about me. The oldest trick to fool people is to keep saying the same thing over rather than let a person see for their self, you form their views through subliminals. Shut up, why don't you? And they all see how you have become partime in donating your life to trying to prove this. Get a life and leave me alone. Let me continue my so called hatred, you can't stop me so why do you continue to try? Use your time for something else more useful like trying to add some new words to your vocabulary besides hateful, racist and you need deliverance. Please, leave me the hell alone. Why don't you? |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by Ms2: 5:12am On Oct 15, 2006 |
 i feel u i under stand wat ur going through |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by Drusilla(f): 6:51am On Oct 15, 2006 |
Maxwell, I am wondering where my apology is? You accused me of lying about there being such a thread and acccused me of taking it out of context. You were wrong on both counts. The thread exists and I mentioned when asking somebody to find it for me that it was about a man being cheated by a woman. So I mentioned context and the thread exists. Please do apologize, you mentioned the Lord. I do hope you are not going to be to prideful to apologize. Satan is the king of the children of pride. |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by mamaput(f): 8:50am On Oct 15, 2006 |
Sista: For A black and proud woman like you , the word Master should be poision . For some one preaching oneness you really gave it to us. ALL ANIMALS ARE EQUAL but some are more equal than others. If we are nice to someone that wants to drop a bomb ON us . Then there are Nigerians that will be nice to you. Maybe the kind that like sucking AA Asses the way i like sucking white ass.- You are worse than the white man that came to us in the good old days. They did not pretend to be our friend or tell us we are equal Yourare and angry black woman and you are starting to make mistakes. You are angery because thses people from the bush do not agree with you. YOU of all people |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by mamaput(f): 8:54am On Oct 15, 2006 |
Drusilla am not sure the man created a trend of his own or if he just butted in. But over your profeil you can read all your posts. If you remember about when this was , it will be easy for you because the posts are dated |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by somegirl(f): 11:04am On Oct 15, 2006 |
Sista:somegirl: Tell me then, was anger your ONLY reason? |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by mamaput(f): 11:19am On Oct 15, 2006 |
Some girl If you are angry,rich,mad or pregnant you can do what you like. You can take your pick for reasons why Sista is what she is. Sometimes i have to tink of the good old Adlof when i read her posts only the other way round. GOd help us if she ever becomes the Ruler of a countery. Upps lets use an African not to offen her. Baba Idi Amin of Ugander |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by maxell(f): 12:43pm On Oct 15, 2006 |
Sista:  |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by maxell(f): 1:18pm On Oct 15, 2006 |
Sista: IN OTHER WORDS, ANY BLACK PERSON THAT IS NICE TO "WHITEY" IS A TRAINED NEGROE PROGRAMMED TO TREAT "WHITEY" NICE. CAN YOU READERS OF THIS THREAD BELIEVE THIS ? SISTA, YOUR LIFE DON PAFUKA. Sista: THIS WOMAN WAKES UP IN THE MORNING AND STARTS PREACHING HATRED TO WHITES. HOW IS SHE EVER GOING TO FIND HAPPINESS FROM WITHIN ? |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by mamaput(f): 1:33pm On Oct 15, 2006 |
Am sure she many just be on FBI most wanted list. |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by Uju4eva(f): 5:30pm On Oct 15, 2006 |
Okay right, everyone ignored me, |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by chinani(f): 6:06pm On Oct 15, 2006 |
For once I think Seun had a point with the location rule! @Maxell Why don't consider, if not concede, that you don't know everything about the Black experience which would include the Black American experience. I'm not saying I know "everything" either. I am saying that you do not know where Sista is coming from and while she has a very obvious agenda. . . Suddenly, so do you. Your agenda is to "win" against Sista. This goes to show that some African born black women are insecure towards us American born black women. i am sure it happes the other way around but we are talking about people like Babosisi. African born black women want to believe that theyare more intelligent and much more smarter than the AA woman and vise versa.https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-23185.384.html#msg660159 Sista, I've kept up w/ this post & read your every word including the story in the braiding shop. It's peculiar that you assume to know where the African woman was coming from. I call it an assumption b/c you have a very definite conclusion. Please, stop with the assumptions. As you stated, English is your 1st language. You were taught English by people (your parents) who also spoke English as their 1st language, people who think in English. Please understand that people who do not think in English or speak it as their 1st language sometimes say things differently and can be misunderstood in general or simply by those are not used to their speaking patterns. I'd like to point out that several of the people you assume of being white have African (Igbo) speech patterns & just so happen to write in English. Finally, of you, I ask the same thing I ask of Maxell. Stop assuming that you know everything about the Black experience which includes the African (Nigerian) experience. Several times you managed to miss what Nigerians were saying in their very-Nigerian way, so please stop this assumption and approach everything with an open mind. You too (Maxell & Sista) want to condemn each other and yet in each condemnation you convict yourselves of ignorance. |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by chinani(f): 6:16pm On Oct 15, 2006 |
@Uju Not ignoring you doll, but I don't know if I can "help" either.  https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-23185.384.html#msg659536 @Drusilla Thank you for stating your position so succinctly. I think it provides much clarity. However I take issue with your "sharing" comment. You said (and I'm paraphrasing) that Africans are just out for "me and mines" while A.As believe in sharing. Well I beg to differ. You should know that many people who come here come w/ other people's children just to give them an opportunity and send lots of money home. The money could go to a brother but just as likely to a aunt's second cousin's daughter. Meaning? Our concept of "me and mines" is broader than you may imagine. Furthermore, many people support the wider community. My aunt goes to her (Nigerian) high school reunions in ATL and they raise thousands (last time 40,000 USD) for a school that's now dilapidated that none of our relatives currently go to. Her & her classmates put their coins together instead of buying "me and mines" the new Jordan's or Escalade. I don't want to get into a "who is better" or "who is greedier" argument, but I think you should rethink this "point". |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by Sista(f): 7:07pm On Oct 15, 2006 |
@Mamaput Maybe the kind that like sucking AA Asses the way i like sucking white ass. And this is exactly the problem that you have, you don't ever want to appear as though you are kissing an AA's ass, so you go out of your way to make sure the AA never thinks that she or he is better than you. You and Africans like you do this. The lady in the braid shop was doing this. @Chinani Please, stop with the assumptions. As you stated, English is your 1st language. You were taught English by people (your parents) who also spoke English as their 1st language, people who think in English. Please understand that people who do not think in English or speak it as their 1st language sometimes say things differently and can be misunderstood in general or simply by those are not used to their speaking patterns. Chinani, if you have been following this thread, you must have missed something. I wasn't assuming anything about the English language that Africans speak. Babyosisi made a comment on my misspelled words. She is an African woman who speaks her native tongue and she speaks English. Damn near everyday she makes sure to come to this thread and make comments about my being a racist. But, on one particular day, she said nothing about my being a racist and her being a racist comments of me, were reduced to making comments about my misspelled words. After telling Babyosisi that if she saw misspelled words in my post, that would be because I was to lazy to doubled check (spell check) and my grammar but that she should not get it twisted, English is my first language. What I told her was the truth, she can't tell a master how to do things in their own home, English is my first language sense child hood. If Igbo was my second language and I heard her say something in Igbo I thought was not correct, who the hell would I be to tell her she is wrong? When Igbo is her first language. Even if I did see that she had made a mistake, I would know there is a good reason for it. That was my point of the whole thing. My example of Babyosisi was the braid shop story, she reminds me of the African woman who owned the shop and now Mamaput does as well with her (kiss AA ass) comment. @Drusilla You were wrong on both counts. The thread exists and I mentioned when asking somebody to find it for me that it was about a man being cheated by a woman. Drusilla, good luck with getting Maxwell to recant, that girl twists stuff up all the time to make her points and that is why I call her stupid. Also, the proof that you supplied to give an example as to how Nigerians came to this mans aid, that proof was helpful to me and this girl has something personal against me so she will probably not recant due to that. Maxwell, She popped in on the discussion one day out the blue and started making comments as if she had been keeping up with this discussion. She came off as someone who was looking to show and prove how clever and intelligent she was, but she wasn't really interested in the topic it self, you see what I am saying? If you pay attention to her, her vocabulary is very limited and she knows these words really well hate, hateful, deliverance, and racist. Most of the time she won't even say a sentence without all or at least one of those words. This is why I just went on ahead and gave her the racist, hateful, and no want for deliverance, hate whitey speech but she was to blind to see what that was all about and she took that speech out of it's satirical context. So, I just gave up on her ability to comprehend. I'm not sure at this point if it is an inability on her behalf or if she does it on purpose, twist things that is. Probably a mixture of both. @Somegirl Tell me then, was anger your ONLY reason? What do you think? |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by mamaput(f): 7:09pm On Oct 15, 2006 |
So what you are saying in the long run are that some neggers are more equal than others? |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by mamaput(f): 7:15pm On Oct 15, 2006 |
My impression i have of AA is this. Uneducated un cultured. and the English that they claim as first language they cannot speak it well. Am not even sure they have a tradition so why should i kiss their Asses. All this God bless America and Micky mause for president stuff gets on my nerves. If a black man is making it you same person will call him an uncle Tom not so. |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by Sista(f): 7:20pm On Oct 15, 2006 |
@Mamput So what you are saying in the long run are that some neggers are more equal than others No, Negro is better than another Negro but whitey has shown us through subliminals that we are our own worst enemy and this has caused us to hate who we are because we can't trust each other. Results are we seek out whitey for guidance. The more closer we try to get to whitey or the more we try to please whitey, in our mind, we are doing better than other Negroes who we consider our enemy and this shows in how we treat each other. Our perceptions of each other is all screwed up. These thoughts is what makes one tribe think he is better than the other tribe and this is what makes one culture think it is better than another culture when we are all black and we all suffer, suffer at the hands of whitey. If you don't understand this, I don't know what to say. |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by somegirl(f): 7:22pm On Oct 15, 2006 |
Sista:somegirl: Should you not know the motivation behind your post better than me? |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by Nobody: 7:25pm On Oct 15, 2006 |
mamaput: They often say it's wrong to generalise,by that I mean putting a group of people in a box and labelling them. Whether we like to admit it or not,Nigerians have a general impression of the average AA woman. Loud,mouthy,excessively masculine in character,the one who wears the pants in the house,wanting to shove her ideas no matter how stupid ,down the throat of the hearers. While most other women get married and move into their husbands house,the akata woman,marries the man and moves him in and can kick him out at will when it doesn't go her way. @ sista,we've had enough of you. On a simple thread such as this,you have fought back and forth with more than 6 or 7 people. It's all about you,you,you. Chinani did all she could to offer some credibility to your 'feelings' but I doubt if you'll even see it as such since you are so consumed in your own little self. Somegirl tried earlier to calm the demons within you but you barked her down in your usual ill mannered way. Many people here do not see your point the way you see it and never will. Most of us on this forum from my impression are Nigerians by birth who grew up with a great sense of self very different from what your pediatric brain might envisage a Nigerian or African to be or sound like hence your persistent attempt to educate and enlighten us. Great effort,but quite a load of crap in my opinion. We went to schools where our teachers and principals were people like us,our doctors in our hospitals looked like us and the policeman harrassing us also looked like us. We grew up knowing that we were capable of every and anything and had parents who not only told us that but showed it by example. We do not have the same inferiority complex that envelopes you and others who speak like you. In a nut shell we don't know what it is to labelled as inferior and to believe it. If you've taken time to read through any of my postings here,I doubt if I sound as one kissing up to anyone black or white. Being able to adapt into a work environment and make it work in your favor is not the same as 'kissing up'. It is called being a good employee,a lesson perhaps nobody ever taught you in life but now as a full blown adult,you are getting it free and I'm not even a relative. I will be very frank to say that you need to get off your slave mentality and begin to reason like a free born. Most Nigerians will never join your anti white campaign and that does not make you more black than we are. You are not us and we are not you so quit the useless lectures and grow up. People like you are the reason the parents of the one who started this thread warned against relationship with an AA young man. Your baggage is just too many and you have hunched greatly at the weight of its load such that you are no good to yourself or to anyone. Nothing coming from your mouth makes any bit of sense. You are of all women most miserable and you do have my utmost sympathy. |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by mamaput(f): 7:44pm On Oct 15, 2006 |
Many of us think they do not bother us and we do not bother them. White people sometimes get stupid on me. AA people also sometimes get stupid on me both have the same "we people you people attitude. But i cannot go hating all. This dose not make me an ass sucker. I have no reason to hate them all. Then maybe just like Babyosisi i am "free born". I grew up in an all black place my teachers (beating the shit out of me) were black. The police (wasting my time on the road) were black. I feel that if you stop talking about[b] the white man[/b] more people will listen to you. You sound like the Russian woman that lived nexed door to us . Her onlxy aim in life was to look what the others have and try to buy something better. Living above her standard and all. I always had to ask my self why she just could not look for her self why compare |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by Sista(f): 7:44pm On Oct 15, 2006 |
@Mamput My impression i have of AA is this. How can you speak of AA English skills? When you can't even speak English properly. Every time I see your English words they carry many flaws. I don't say anything because I can see what you are trying to say so the flaws don't concern me. Maybe you should try accepting what you understand and what you don't understand, try to learn. No need in me trying to show you your flaws, anyone who's first language is English can clearly see. [/quote] You are proving my point, Thank you. You said AA's are uncultured, your the one who is eluding that your culture is better than AA culture. All this God bless America and Micky mause for president stuff gets on my nerves. I agree with you on the Mickey mousing for president stuff but not all AA people Mickey mouse for the president. A black person who makes it is an uncle Tom if he makes it and forgets about those who pushed him to the top. Just because you made it don't mean you aint black no more. As long as you are black and black people are responsible for supporting you, you should always look out for them as well. There is no such thing as making it on your own. Hell, you couldn't even come into this world on your own if your Mama didn't push you out. Whitey would want us to think that though and that is why we have allowed our self to become individualized. I am sure you can think of many Africans in Africa who made it and they took from the ones who supported them instead of helping the ones who supported them to make it as well. Just look at the Nigerian government? Hope I spelled this right, look at Iddy Ahmin, from Uganda as well as many others. By the way Mamaput, I could have sworn I saw where you said you were a mixed child, how would you like it if Africans referred to you as not pure African? because both your parents are not African. I know for a fact that some Africans do not consider you to be pure African. I think you need to rethink the way you perceive AA's. |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by Sista(f): 7:54pm On Oct 15, 2006 |
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| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by Sista(f): 8:05pm On Oct 15, 2006 |
@ Somegirl Should you not know the motivation behind your post better than me? I know my motives behind why I said what I said but I'm not going to tell you what my motives were if my telling you is the only way you will tell me why you brought up the fights between the Yuroba, Igbo and the Hausa? You see, to me, you being a white person, you have no excuse for bringing that up unless you are trying to keep black people as seeing each other as their own worst enemy. You love or like black people and you consider them as human yet, you let little ole me provoke you to mention that black people fight each other? Everytime I ask you why you brought up the fights between the Igbo, Yuroba and the Hausa, you come back is to ask me why did I bring up white people? So, you brought up black people fighting each other because I brought up white people doing (black people) wrong. You really love us don't you  Why would you do that when as a white person, those fights are not your business. How are you helping African people by receiving all of their acceptance of you, as you bring up the bad things they do to each other? I don't get it. |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by mamaput(f): 8:06pm On Oct 15, 2006 |
I am mixed : too black to be white too white to be black, And not even my best friends are colour blind. So manybe i will hate all and love only the mixed race. |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by Sista(f): 8:18pm On Oct 15, 2006 |
@mamaput I am mixed : too black to be white too white to be black, Just because you are a mixed child does not mean that your thoughts have to be all mixed up. What you need to do is deal with the truth and the truth shall set you free. The truth is not mixed up. Look at Drusilla, she is also mixed, but that woman tells the truth and she accepts the truth for what it is, the truth. Because she knows the truth, although she is a mixed woman, she don't let her thoughts become mixed up. You accept her as she is or you don't accept her at all but she is going to tell the truth. She don't dislike her white family members and she don't dislike her black family members but liking your family members has nothing to do with this. The love you have for your family cannot be tampered with if the love is true. Now, the truth can be focused on once your love is straight. The truth is, white people are responsible for what Colored people of the world suffer. That don't mean all white people but all white people do benefit from being white. I don't know if you understand this but this is all I can say about this matter. |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by somegirl(f): 8:32pm On Oct 15, 2006 |
I brought it up because it was a thread about a Nigerian inter-tribal relationship and because the Hausa, Yoruba and Igbo are Nigerian ethnicities (or tribes). Just because I would prefer them to be united does not mean that I don't see that SOME of them despise people that are not from their own ethnicity and that some more of them would like to separate from Nigeria. If somebody wants to have an inter-tribal relationship in Nigeria, s/he should be aware that some people might critic him/her, insult him/her or worse for that relationship. Knowing that, s/he can make an informed decision, either to break up or be together with the person s/he loves no matter from which tribe that other person is. Like I said before, I have a Yoruba friend who is married to an Igbo since around 15-20 years. I think it is great when it works out like that! @topic: Same goes for relationships involving and African and an African (American) person. People who love each other should not be discouraged just on base of their different backgrounds. Sista, you've said that a white person can't understand blacks and that a white person should not get involved in black people's affairs. Can a black person understand whites and would it be ok for him/her to get involved in white people's affairs? |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by Drusilla(f): 8:35pm On Oct 15, 2006 |
Chinani, I conceed your point. You can meet many selfish African Americans as well. However, you must understand that we meet more people who seem to think that they go shyte differently than others go shyte because they have an edu-mud-cation. It is a well known unspoken rule among AA that you do not mention the immizerated peasants in Nigeria because the business class will shun you. My friend thrills me with many stories of secretly having to go to the villages and help them improve because he could not do his oil business with Nigerians if they knew that he was really an American Communist (rich man who comes from Shell oil family) who wanted all the African people especially the peasants to get on their feet. This is strange to us as Americans first of all because as you know, in America the class system is considered dead. You can start in the worst class and end in the best class, regardless of education. People who speak too well are even teased among whites as being pompous and hoity toity and using 50 dollar words when a 50 cent word would have done. This is also strange to us as African Americans because we have picked up the pieces of complete strangers- blacks beaten, hung, on trial or some other terrible thing. So we look out for each other. Also as Christians as most Americans are, the idea of doing as any Continental African knows is done, stepping over dead bodies, stepping over lepers, officials beating people for no reason, etc is strange to us. In our mind we must all be the good samaritan that Jesus talked about this is why white and black americans stop for each other and help each other. Even if racist, we still help each other. Because that is our christian duty. So there seems to be some difference in attitude and I do not mean to walk over African American selfishness it's there but it works out differently, sounds differently and seems different. I am aware though that it could be my cultural misunderstanding of what people mean when they refer to their fellow Nigerians as uneducated or lower classs or not worthy of help. Forgive me if it is just my misunderstanding. Please explain. |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by somegirl(f): 8:43pm On Oct 15, 2006 |
Mamaput, für mich bist du beides, aber wenn du mir entgegnen würdest, du seist "schwarz" oder "weiß" (eines von beiden aber nicht das andere), dann würde deine Meinung mehr wiegen. Jedenfalls würde ich dir nie sagen "du bist nicht ---". Greetings to Germany, my dear. |
| Re: What Is Wrong With Dating Or Marrying An African American Man? by Sista(f): 8:54pm On Oct 15, 2006 |
@Somegirl I brought it up because it was a thread about a Nigerian inter-tribal relationship and because the Hausa, Yoruba and Igbo are Nigerian ethnicities (or tribes). Just because I would prefer them to be united does not mean that I don't see that SOME of them despise people that are not from their own ethnicity and that some more of them would like to separate from Nigeria. If somebody wants to have an inter-tribal relationship in Nigeria, s/he should be aware that some people might critic him/her, insult him/her or worse for that relationship. Knowing that, s/he can make an informed decision, either to break up or be together with the person s/he loves no matter from which tribe that other person is. Like I said before, I have a Yoruba friend who is married to an Igbo since around 15-20 years. I think it is great when it works out like that! Thank your for finally answering my question. However, I don't see how making me realize that we fight each other is going to help black people. My point is the source of African people fighting each other is due to white people. That is why I provided you with the link which I don't think you looked at and I gave you an insert from that link to show you what I was talking about. However I don't think you read it because if you did, you would have opened your mind to seeing where I was coming from. I will provide that insert again, here it is. Proof: The British practiced indirect rule in Nigeria as they had in much of the rest of their colonial states. The Ibo were early opponents to British rule. However, they took advantage of missionaries to become educated and many converted to Christianity, especially Catholicism. They were then selected by the British to fill low-level civil service and business positions, and military posts. Favoritism by the British led to further conflict with other groups when the Ibo were placed in authority positions in the north and southwest. Divide and Conquer and Rule in Disguise. If our people could only realize this. http://www.cidcm.umd.edu/inscr/mar/assessment.asp?groupId=47503 Sista, you've said that a white person can't understand blacks and that a white person should not get involved in black people's affairs. Can a black person understand whites and would it be ok for him/her to get involved in white people's affairs? As a rule, black people don't get into the affairs of white people. Even if white people ask us for our advice, we try to lead them into making their own decisions. History shows that white people have blamed black people for the decisons white people make. It's called the fall guy syndrome. Modified: Somegirl, I have a sneakin feeling that someone furnished you with the reply you gave to me for why you brought up those fights, it took you long enough to finally tell me why. Did Mamaput help you because I now see that after you responded to me, you said something to her in what looks like some type of European language. In fact, I'm going to copy what you said to mamaput and have it intepreted. |
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