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Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by Shuku: 10:25am On Mar 27, 2010
1) They have ojukokoro 2) They don't have itelorun 3) They had probably been waiting for Olorunsogo allthe while they were with you.
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by georgywest(m): 11:08am On Mar 27, 2010
@poster,guy u r saying d truth.Right nw we r on our endurance trek grooving.U need to see d way d so called married n engaged ladies removed their rings rocking.Dis only is just d begining
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by kenosky: 1:25pm On Mar 27, 2010
I guess NYSC brings out the beast in peeps!!!
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by martinosi: 4:20pm On Mar 27, 2010
Man this is soo true, as i have a friend  that had finished 2 years ahead of his girl-friend
and they did their traditional wedding december 2008, she went of to NYSC, they had planned
the church wedding in April and in Feb 2010 the girl called off the wedding *Damm*.
I had already bought my ticket to go to Nigeria for this *It Sucks* and the guy
was my a good friend since i was 14 years old!!! angry
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by borie4u(m): 7:12pm On Mar 27, 2010
I have read comment posted by several people but this is my own candid opinion.
For an ex corper that served in the core north(State not stated for obvous reasons)i realised that just as there are these realisation of relationships broken by NYSC there are some corpers that were very faithful to there spouse during NYSC.These corpers are just a fraction of the percentage of the other corpers who saw NYSC as the Opportunity to frolick and enjoy their Devil given opportunities.Even the so called Born again corpers werenot left out of these altrocities.Imagine a Music Director in NCCF,a  prominent Christain and those that kabush are not left out of the evil of fornication.
Mine was the case of someone smartin from betrayal from prevoius relationship to face the Devil in NYSC.I was the youngest in a Girls college with a ratio of 4 hot gals to a boy even in the coldest of weather. There was this particular gal that almost killed me.her boyfriend will come a long way to see her but assoon as he is on the next bus home she is already in bed.Several times i pleaded toend this evil deeds but since she cooks for me and refusal means i will have to feed on provisions i had to play ball.
I finally concluded that 99% of corpers return a changed person.Apart form this gal,there are times another gal in the same school will close her door on me wit threat that if i dont do her biddings then she will call the fiance of the other gal.What about the seduction of the yarinyas (Matured SS3 gals).
All in all this does not mean am weak but let God allows no man temptation than to deliver man from it.Constant perssuation and the likes of it can make a man do nasty things.To escape this temptation you either state your religion either as alhaja/Teblic or strict born again wit no time so socialise.Please let no man criticise me cos you were not in the same ship wit me.For those that maintained their rekationship i give kudos to you as i saw wit my naked eyes married ladycorpers who removed their rings right before my eyes when thay got to their PPA. To each one their own,
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by harakiri(m): 2:19am On Mar 28, 2010
@Post

What will be will be.Things like these are the norm in NYSC camps.I can also understand why most fingers are pointing towards the females. . .the main reason is because at that stage in their lives, majority of them are either in serious relationships,engaged or married.There are only a handful of uncommitted females in NYSC camp.The guys on the other hand still have their "lives ahead of them".

How ladies throw caution to the wind during this period baffles me.You'll see a lady who's married and probably has a kid. . .riding a younger man's cock all in the name of "freedom".You'll see a lady who has a hardworking guy somewhere getting involved with multiple partners.This is why a lot of guys CAN'T trust a woman for anything.They are totally unpredictable and as someone rightfully said. . .a person's character is defined when nobody is watching!
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by Nobody: 9:58am On Mar 28, 2010
I can't wait 2 go 4 my NYSC o.
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by oseiwe(m): 12:33pm On Mar 28, 2010
my own dat was so good went to camp for 3 wks and never came back. she even get d boldness to call me to say she'll come back after 1 yr. she didnt even come home for xmas!
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by Druss(m): 3:36pm On Mar 28, 2010
NYSC reflects the true mentality of the people. We have those whose sole aim is to enter NYSC and have intimacy. Simple!!

Some guys and girls look at it as a way to get free. There are some who stay faithful and there are some whom ,

To me it is an acid test for a relationship - if the guy or girl can go through it and nothing happens - then ,
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by Nobody: 1:04pm On Apr 06, 2010
But I think, not all the good girls would turn to bad ones when they gets to NYSC innit?.
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by mylove4him(f): 5:09pm On Apr 06, 2010
I quite agree with the poster but to every rule there is an exception. I neva dated anybody during my service year, I won't say the temptation was not there. It was but I made sure I tell my fiance every man coming my way. That was how I overcame it. I was posted to a village school, we were 2 girls 2 boys. my flatmate had already had a boyfriend from camp so she virtually goes to the guys house on thur n comes back on mon morning. "Loneliness wan kill me", especially when one of the guys won't let me be. Always coming to my room, I had to devise a means by always locking my door when it is night n pretend to be sleeping.

When he did not give up I packed my things to town to stay with my town girl I met in the camp, I usually took bike to teach everyday except my CD days. When I look back, I am grateful to God I didn't mess up. My fiance and I are still together.
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by boy1(m): 5:59pm On Apr 06, 2010
190:

cheeii i de fear o grin
kai!no talk am again!.  . .if she leave u,then it wasn't meant to be. . .haba!woman plenty na.
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by bjcole(m): 1:54pm On Apr 07, 2010
I guess a larger percentage of ladies misbehave during this period, reasons not far from those mentioned earlier, so if you date a girl that like partying or catching fun every now and then, or may be the one that drinks excessively, then you cant help it man, just take ur mind off it, she will catch her fun, shag as many guys as possible, and still come back to you, just rest ur mind or you go for an S.U girl, but realistically, that period is too little to judge ladies, they just behave according to the environment, they find themselves, whether a girl shag one or ten guys during her service year does not make her a bad girl or unfit for marriage.

It is hard to take, but it is the truth, whether ladies are in a serious relationship or married, a larger percentage of them tend to misbehave during service year ( i guess they are too emotional, so when they are too close to the opposite sex 4 too long, they tend 2 show affection, i have heard of ladies getting wet and ready for sex after just few emotional talks, how much more those long idle period in the cold).

For me o. she must be thru with her service, cos cant stand those shits of NYSC period.
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by 190: 2:33pm On Apr 07, 2010
^^

Good! Bookmarked!
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by boy1(m): 2:51pm On Apr 07, 2010
"whether a girl sleep with one or ten guys during her service year doesnot make her a bad girl or unfit 4 marriage."according to bjcole. . .

Abeg bjcole,go think your life over and over again. . .

@topic--most of d so-called Good Girls are not really Good. . .They have not been tempted "sufficiently."
This's a scenario where faithfulness,honesty and patience is tested. . .and they(women) will only come back to u if their new lovers rejects them or r not better than u. . .
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by martho(m): 3:04pm On Apr 07, 2010
@boy1--smart talk. . .those who survived it have clearly defined or know what "fidelity"is b4 they have even decided 2 marry each other.
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by no1madman(m): 10:07pm On Apr 09, 2010
Shuku:

1) They have ojukokoro 2) They don't have itelorun 3) They had probably been waiting for Olorunsogo allthe while they were with you.
grin grin
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by Enockia(m): 10:58pm On Apr 09, 2010
it is part of the oreinntation programme
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by sirt1(m): 5:37pm On Aug 30, 2010
Didn't know what to say. To me and from personal experience, NYSC was/is a shit and hd made a decision not to settle down or engage in any serious relationship with any lady that has not done with the scheme. During my time, the so called " holy sister" that do criticize me and my friend got screwed by one of my friends and the funny thing was that she was the " NCCF MAMA' in my local govt. My friend later dumped her for another lady (her friend). What a pathetic story.
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by sexylogan(m): 7:10pm On Aug 30, 2010
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by yme1(f): 7:21pm On Aug 30, 2010
NYSC didn't kill anything but DISTANCE did
in other word use the word distance and not NYSC tongue

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Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by MaxyBrown(m): 8:48pm On Aug 30, 2010
uhmmm, this thread is so timely.

Much as one may want to dislodge this claim, It seems true.

I am currently facing this same issue. My woman to whom I am engaged is serving at the moment and I can tell that to the extent you want to trust your partner she is facing a challenging time from prowling guys all over the place.

She's is a God fearing lady. She is also an attractive woman, no doubt. One cannot wish away the fact that men will be men-chasing after even married women.

My mindset is if after all the tempatation, the distance and all, if your woman still make it home to you, than you have a real deal. Anything contrary is not even worth it in the first palce.

So, if you say NYSC is a form of putting the commitment to test, under the rain and in the sun, you are not wrong
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by koolchicco: 2:32pm On Feb 21, 2011
@OP

shocked Does it shocked undecided
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by 190: 2:34pm On Feb 21, 2011
yea it does i witnessed it last year
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by koolchicco: 2:39pm On Feb 21, 2011
Are you also among the men they are cheating with? angry
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by sirt1(m): 2:42pm On Feb 21, 2011
190:

yea it does i witnessed it last year


Yes it does. I can say it that 95% of relationship crumble after that one year scheme. If u don't believe this, go and make ur research. Even those relationship that did not scatter were not spared of "batching"
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by 190: 5:19pm On Feb 21, 2011
true word i know how many women offered me punny last year in abuja just cos i knew the top people, wat nigerians gurls do during nysc is terrible, even durin the 3weeks camp they start fornicating, they sleep with demselves even in d bushes and abuja aristos troop in for women, may god help us young men from the hands of this women
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by koolchicco: 5:28pm On Feb 21, 2011
190:

true word i know how many women offered me punny last year in abuja just cos i knew the top people, wat nigerians gurls do during nysc is terrible, even durin the 3weeks camp they start fornicating, they sleep with demselves even in d bushes and abuja aristos troop in for women, may god help us young men from the hands of this women

190 190 190. How many times did I call you?! undecided
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by 190: 5:29pm On Feb 21, 2011
3 times what did i do shocked
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by WISEONE247(m): 7:10pm On Feb 21, 2011
sorry, eh, shit happens if it not met to be, it not met to be, life is too short to live. sorry to say the lady does care or will i say does see you as a potential candidate cos she willingly spent time with the other guy knowing full that you were at the other side so when the new one clicked, she pushed you out in the cold.
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by Beync(f): 8:34pm On Feb 21, 2011
This is very true. Some were caught fornicating late night in the mami market and the bush side. some even slept with those nysc officials and the army men who promised to post them to better PPA, unfortunately, most of them were disappointed at their posting after much promises.
Re: Why Does NYSC 'Kill' Relationships? by koolchicco: 9:57pm On Feb 21, 2011
Beync:

This is very true. Some were caught  fornicating late night in the mami market and the bush side. some even slept with those nysc officials and the  army men who promised to post them to better PPA, unfortunately, most of them were disappointed at their posting after much promises.

Where's Mami Market and are you presently serving too? undecided

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