@LAX75
if a man OWNS his golddigging wifey then he can do with her as he pleases. thats what happen when women are SELLING themselves to rich men, they become PROPERTIES and can be used and abused as they wish!

ronkebp:

LMAO,   , YOU are funny, but una never hala!!!! Exactly ooooo!!!!!! you just hit the nail on the head, money = love for some, just so you know, so that you can 're-route' (if there is any word like that)

if money=love (to you) then i wish to send my condolences to the man who will hook up with you.
let analyze what you are saying for a minute: i gave you MONEY, you give me LOVE, so i am buying LOVE, meaning anyone who pays the right price can have your LOVE, in fact what you are saying is that you do not LOVE anyone, you are just in love with MONEY.
now i dont know about you but i am safe to say that NO MAN (in his right mind) would happily marry such a woman knowingly. . . . . . . .and if he does, i can already imagine how low he is going to treat you, since you will be his PROPERTY!!!!!!

@Shy One
i am sorry to say that IN THE DICTIONARY, an ashewo is a women who sells her body/company etc for monetary gain. i am just going by what the dictionary says about the act. you may not view yourself as an ashewo (and i understand that) but you sure do act like one!

if anyone expects to be paid in any way, in order to be with a man then she surely must be called an ashi!
now if you guys spend on the r/ship because you decide to do so then that's a different matter BUT if MONEY is NEEDED before you guys can have a god time then you fit the description.

now, my question to you is: if a man puts in your r/ship the exact same amount that YOU put in(not ONE Kobo more), would you still ask for more?!

@ MBJ

I do not in any way, shape or form act like an Ashawo

This is not a contract agreement - you cannot live for free - so you say this to me - do you not contribute financially to the welfare of your woman?  Are you kidding me?  And is it ti.t. for tat?

If it is ti.t. for tat - then he better put on sexy lingerie and start dancing, twirling his hips - cooking - cleaning - working a job - breastfeeding any child that we have - take time off work when the child is born and assisting as a childcare provider.

T.it. for Tat my azzz,  He better get his backside to the local university and pull down some educational degrees - eat my punni anytime I need a fix - smile and bow and kowtow to me in a SHARED LATERAL POSITION as head of house.

Now you can Equal Kobo that one - can you say - red, silky panties?  And please tell us - just how many do you own on behalf of the girlfriends we see posted on your profile?  Mr. Equality

Lax75:

Let me tell you what is really sad. I know someone who is married and has kept a mistress for almost a decade. He treats his wife like garbage. Besides almost killing her last year, he makes his wife take a taxi to work (he has 10 cars by the way), while he has bought a car for his mistress and even her mother! His wife literally has to "beg" him for money while he takes his mistress with him on his international business trips, flying first class everywhere and splurging on her.

Sad thing is that many of these women in naija would say this man is NOT stingy. I'm sure his mistress would even say he truly loves her because of all the money he splurges on her. The point I'm trying to make is that this is what things have come to in naija. Shame. Behind closed doors, these same chicks who men are splurging on are making fun of these men who "help them out financially" and calling them mugus behind their backs, while these men are busy thinking they are being  "REAL MEN."

That is horrible - just nauseating - I don't even know what to say. God help the people in this situation. I could not be his wife.

Shy-One:

@ MBJ

I do not in any way, shape or form act like an Ashawo

This is not a contract agreement - you cannot live for free - so you say this to me - do you not contribute financially to the welfare of your woman?  Are you kidding me?  And is it ti.t. for tat?

If it is ti.t. for tat - then he better put on sexy lingerie and start dancing, twirling his hips - cooking - cleaning - working a job - breastfeeding any child that we have - take time off work when the child is born and assisting as a childcare provider.

T.it. for Tat my azzz,  He better get his backside to the local university and pull down some educational degrees - eat my punni anytime I need a fix - smile and bow and kowtow to me in a SHARED LATERAL POSITION as head of house.

Now you can Equal Kobo that one - can you say - red, silky panties?  And please tell us - just how many do you own on behalf of the girlfriends we see posted on your profile?  Mr. Equality

Your fantasy is interesting though, would you do the same and eat up his sugar stick. Come on! That is not the bigger problem the bigger problem is love not those things you listed by trying to enslave your guy with what literary every donkey out there can do to you.

When are our girls going to be using their brain rather than their legs? You should have said, my legs are wide open can you help me with them!? A booty call can do better!

all4naija:

I am sorry for saying this. Our girls are professional liars when it comes to money. The first attempt is always the path to  endless demand for money.

Well, I think they still need to learn to address things on their own rather than waiting on guys to take responsibilities for them. Some girls even made it clear on Nairaland they can not marry well educated guys without good jobs! If any girl is waiting for my hard earned cash to foot her bills you will wait till the second coming and, I say cry baby, if you could!

I understand what you are saying - I didn't see it like that - I saw the poster as just wanting help from the man in her life.

Shy-One:

That is horrible - just nauseating - I don't even know what to say.  God help the people in this situation.  I could not be his wife.

Well, its not second hand information. Him and his wife have 3 kids together. He helps his mistress out financially, last year he built her a N50 Million house in Abuja. I bet you his mistress, her friends and mother will never say this man is stingy. It's the mindset of the bulk of naija women.

all4naija:

Your fantasy is interesting though, would you do the same and eat up his sugar stick. Come on! That is not the bigger problem the bigger problem is love not those things you listed by trying to enslave your guy with what literary every donkey out there can do to you.

When are our girls going to be using their brain rather than their legs? You should have said, my legs are wide open can you help me with them!? A booty call can do better!

I would do it with a smile and to music of my choice in a heartbeat for him - he is my mate.

But on the other hand - you have misunderstood my post to MBJ who wants to know how equal the Kobo should be (I am assuming that Kobo is money).  I expect my man to make more money than me and also as we grow in the relationship - It is my role to help his money grow even larger as we work  more and more as a team.  It is obvious that physical love is the lesser of compatibility and sustainability in a relationship.

How well you work together, your similarities, your motivations, driving force, communication and commonalities - that is what keeps you together - sex is falls into all of that as well.

I was trying to make a point with MBJ to show that we are "not equal" - our "Kobo" is not equal - what we as women share with you willingly you cannot share with us as willingly because of our roles in the relationship - as the man - why shouldn't we expect gifts and money from you - since the man should not be the one dancing for the woman in a pair of silky red panties.  

Each of us brings different things to the table for the good of the relationship.

Does anyone not get my point here?

The-same set of women dating guys for their money are claiming they are better that AHSEWOs.

Tell me the difference between them.

Whether you Zap on a gold throne or a pit latrine…U still a f.u.c.king hoe.

Shy-One

Slaps the shitzzz out of Emmatok - back hands him twice - then judo-style drop kicks him out of the thread.

Leisurely sits down - delicately crosses ankles - pops popcorn in mouth - turns to another page 10 of Newport News as Cosmopolitan waits in line to be reviewed.

Shy-One:

Shy-One

Slaps the shitzzz out of Emmatok - back hands him twice - then judo-style drop kicks him out of the thread.

Leisurely sits down - delicately crosses ankles - pops popcorn in mouth - turns to another channel

Na me you dey give karate like that?

HMM make i no talk.  Cos my boys dey corner dey  wait for u.

ahahahahahaha

lololololololol

your boys? ahahahahahah

you too funny

Laxy
dis s d beginin of such woman who dont ask
c where it ended up wit er

Shy-One:

@ MBJ
I do not in any way, shape or form act like an Ashawo

this is what you earlier wrote:"
- If you are my man - your money better be coming my way or I move on - point blank period
- I have certain duties I will provide to you and as my man you have certain duties you provide to me.  It is that simple.
-My allowing you to lay claim to me in front of the world and all who are in it - just secured your position of my giving you my loyalty, my time, my talents - become yours on different levels.  In turn your presence in my life also becomes a joy and a benefit to me - part of your presence entails the wallet in your pocket.

This is not a contract agreement - you cannot live for free - so you say this to me - do you not contribute financially to the welfare of your woman?  Are you kidding me?  And is it ti.t. for tat?

i am contributing to MY welfare and sometimes my gf happens to be around. i certainly will not take care of a person needs simply because that person demands for it.
if i am hungry and my gf happens to be hungry too i will gladly pay for the meal, if SHE is hungry and i am not, then she will pay for her own damn meal!
if i feel that she deserves a gift, i will gladly spend on something nice, if she demands for one in order to be with me, i will NEVER buy it and that will be the end of this charade!

If it is ti.t. for tat - then he better put on sexy lingerie and start dancing, twirling his hips - cooking - cleaning - working a job - breastfeeding any child that we have - take time off work when the child is born and assisting as a childcare provider.

even as a wife, we will sit down and evaluate if we need to spend on such extravagant gifs. i would gladly pay for the rent if she aint working but IF SHE DOES, then she will pay her own share! nobody is living off anyone else (like a parasite) in my world. people who dont contribute to shiit, dont value shiit!
whats wrong with dancing? bwaaaah! if you are turned on by me wearing sexy lingerie and its beneficial to our bedroom activities then i will surely DO. anyway, am i not the one who will pay for such lingerie?! lol!
are you now saying that caring for YOUR OWN kids should be reimbursed by your husband?! BWAAAAAAAAH!

T.it. for Tat my azzz,  He better get his backside to the local university and pull down some educational degrees - eat my punni anytime I need a fix - smile and bow and kowtow to me in a SHARED LATERAL POSITION as head of house.

a real man will do whatever you ask and MORE so long as it is done in a respectful manner.

Now you can Equal Kobo that one - can you say - red, silky panties?  And please tell us - just how many do you own on behalf of the girlfriends we see posted on your profile?  Mr. Equality

sista, you are starting to scare me oh!!!!! so the red panties that you are putting on (for the benefit of the se.xual happiness of this union) is something that you believe should be reimbursed!? i guess even having se.x should be reimbursed too as i am sure you are doing US MEN a favor, right?!

now i understand you better, what you are saying is that EVERYTHING you do in a r/ship, you do it because of your man and THEREFORE he should pay you for it. sorry but that is exactly the TRUE DEFINITION of ashewoism!

Shy-One:

I would do it with a smile and to music of my choice in a heartbeat for him - he is my mate.

But on the other hand - you have misunderstood my post to MBJ who wants to know how equal the Kobo should be (I am assuming that Kobo is money).  I expect my man to make more money than me and also as we grow in the relationship - It is my role to help his money grow even larger as we work  more and more as a team.  It is obvious that physical love is the lesser of compatibility and sustainability in a relationship.

How well you work together, your similarities, your motivations, driving force, communication and commonalities - that is what keeps you together - sex is falls into all of that as well.

I was trying to make a point with MBJ to show that we are "not equal" - our "Kobo" is not equal - what we as women share with you willingly you cannot share with us as willingly because of our roles in the relationship - as the man - why shouldn't we expect gifts and money from you - since the man should not be the one dancing for the woman in a pair of silky red panties.  

Each of us brings different things to the table for the good of the relationship.

Does anyone not get my point here?

There is nothing wrong with what you've said but you know most naija women will see this as demeaning yet expect to be showered with gifts. Question to Shy, do you think there is a difference, in terms of level of commitment between a husband and a boyfriend? Would you have the same level of commitment, expend the same energy towards both etc.? Just curious.

@op, please forget the yeye,have met lots like him,but now they are regreting,but since its that way,just learn to ask him,cause as you see you
are not doing yourself any good by not asking him, cause he will be taking a great advantage of  you,

^^^^ @ MBJ's researched term paper

God

help us all - what have I unleashed?

Ok so do I have any volunteers?

Who is going to bail me out of this one - MBJ - is now out for my jugular

let me read this he has formatted

Lord give me strength.

MBJ

Please come sit near me. You have ruptured my side.

@ MBJ and Lax

I need to take a break

I will be back - I need to eat before it gets too late

I will then take my nightly walk - I walk 2-3 times a day

Then I will read what you wrote and get back with you - it is almost 8:30 pm where I am and I need to get back from my walk at least by 10:30p and then I will give you both a response.

but in the interim - MBJ - you have wounded me - I am so mad at you - I am not an Ashewo or experiencing Ashewoism as you have put in your post that I have caught a few glimpses of,

you are going to pay for those words you have thrown at me.

Dyt:

Laxy
dis s d beginin of such woman who dont ask
c where it ended up wit er

I'm sorry I don't understand your English. Are you trying to say that man's wife is being physically abused (to the point where she was in a coma at the hospital) and cheated on because she didn't ask for money? What are you trying to say here please help me understand.

Mrs. C

I am going to bend that man in sooo many different positions

He will be unrecognizable. He won't be able to sit at anyone's side or at anyone's feet when I get done with him.

Well Laxy
d wife wz d Op wen courting
u grab now

@Shy One
oh yeah you have SISQO'd me (unleashed the dragon)
- how can you say that what you do in the bedroom is the reason why a man should spend on you?
it surely shows that what you do in the bedroom , you dont do it because you want to but because of the monetary gain. a women who cherish her r/ship will do ten times more than that and never ask for shiit but LOVE and RESPECT!

- how can you say that caring for your own kids is the reason why your man should spend on you?!
a married man should wisely spend on his FAMILY, like most do. et voila!

but pls dont get me wrong, i am just stating a fact here, just like you would call me crazy if i ACT Crazy, or call me brave if i ACT brave. would you not?!

@Mrs C
pls dont take these chica's side because what they are "claiming" surely is foul!

Dyt:

Well Laxy
d wife wz d Op wen courting
u grab now

Sure, which one are you in the picture? If you are the chick with the eyelid makeup, you actually look like my cousin.

Ur cousin must b a fyn chic o
bt dats my frnd

Dyt:

your cousin must b a fyn chic o
bt dats my frnd

Lol. It runs in the family (fyness) Ok so I take it you are the one next to her then?

If 2 people who love each other,respect each other,and respect themselves, are in a relationship, I would think the money issue would be a balance of self sufficiency AND give and take. Just take it as it comes, like a dance. And if they are married, then bigger matters could be discussed.

^^^^
I usually admire your views on love matters! That's the simple truth! But, most of our girls task you or else you would become irresponsible man, incapable of anything as a guy, stingy, all sort of slur words! From a distance and the following days I know who is my girl! I don't just jump into a  girl because she is a girl but for the reason she has love and  understanding!

seedord247:

TosinVille why you dey lieeee


You are too ugly brooo. just don't let me upload your pics here.

The last time they ask tortoise that why are you so Ugly like this . . ,   He said I thank God that am still better than TosinVille that was produce with the use of Oven.

                         

*thinks to self*

if money is the only thing on a woman's mind then she deserves to be teased.

if you are in need financially then by all means he should help or if he feels like giving you a gift that is also fine
but to count on being spoiled is the downfall of the women in my generation.

Mr, Cork:

but why are black women so stingy with punnnnny? Do they hate the black people?  

no we they just hate YOUR black azz.

MRbrownJAY:

@LAX75
if a man OWNS his golddigging wifey then he can do with her as he pleases. thats what happen when women are SELLING themselves to rich men, they become PROPERTIES and can be used and abused as they wish!

if money=love (to you) then i wish to send my condolences to the man who will hook up with you.
let analyze what you are saying for a minute: i gave you MONEY, you give me LOVE, so i am buying LOVE, meaning anyone who pays the right price can have your LOVE, in fact what you are saying is that you do not LOVE anyone, you are just in love with MONEY.
now i dont know about you but i am safe to say that NO MAN (in his right mind) would happily marry such a woman knowingly. . . . . . . .and if he does, i can already imagine how low he is going to treat you, since you will be his PROPERTY!!!!!!
@Shy One
i am sorry to say that IN THE DICTIONARY, an ashewo is a women who sells her body/company etc for monetary gain. i am just going by what the dictionary says about the act. you may not view yourself as an ashewo (and i understand that) but you sure do act like one!

if anyone expects to be paid in any way, in order to be with a man then she surely must be called an ashi!
now if you guys spend on the r/ship because you decide to do so then that's a different matter BUT if MONEY is NEEDED before you guys can have a god time then you fit the description.

now, my question to you is: if a man puts in your r/ship the exact same amount that YOU put in(not ONE Kobo more), would you still ask for more?!  

MBJ, just logged on to reply to your post, if you did not read the humour in my post, then too bad for you. you do not know me neither do i know you, this is a forum and we are allowed to air/type our opinions, if you do not like it, then stick to other peoples comment, but to drag my personality or relationship into your write-up, is not wise, i would rather you stuck to what the topic is all about. If you must know, am married, to a man if he has the world, he is ready to give it to me,and am ready to give mine because he deserves it. am not married to a stingy, looser that does not know his responsiblities, no one is forcing your azzes to provide for them,or do you see any woman now, especially in our generation, folding their arms and babysitting at home? no! now, because we know what most of you are,' empty tins'that derive pleasure in making women, play things. if you do not have the dough, fine we understand that! but for you to come on the forum and pour your frustration on my post, naaa!!!

^^ i didnt think for ONE MINUTE that you where joking so i responded to the woman you PORTRAYED to be. . . . . . . . . . . . . BUT since you are now saying that it was all a joke then i guess what i wrote wasnt meant for "you".

yes, this is a faceless forum and therefore you should expect everyone to reply to what you write on here. remember: some teenagers may also read this and believe that the way to go in life is to sell themselves off to the highest bidder who "throws money around".

again, i will only judge and categorize you as who you claim to be.

ewwww @ stingy men

I want a man who would split his salary with me 50/50