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| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by Orikinla(m): 4:43pm On Dec 12, 2011 |
pendo89: My heart breaks when I see the miserable plight of poverty-stricken couples on my house to house calls and on the streets. For the sake of the women who bear the awesome pains of pregnancies and the children who end up malnourished and poorly educated, I will never encourage financially incapable couples to marry for their own sake. [size=28pt] Don't marry, because others are getting married!Marriage is not a competition.[/size] |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by pendo89(f): 5:02pm On Dec 12, 2011 |
Orikinla: correct on that last point. But still, you cannot deny the poor the freedom of association.Everybody needs a companion whether rich or poor. Every society in the world has its own challenges but life must continue.If things do not change with this generation, probably they would with the next but we cannot stop propagating because the goverment is not doing its work! That is not the best approach. Blame the systems in place not the people.For heavens sake, I will not stop getting married because there are no schools or roads, No way, because I do not build them.I can only voice concern,work hard and try to do the best for my family in the midst of poverty and challenge. The only problem I see is when people become content with the prevailing pathetic conditions and do nothing about them. That is the cancer. Those yet to be born poor kids are the future generation who will carry the nation into the next century because orinkila will not be here in the next 60 years, but those poor kids you are giving up hope on will be.And who knows how things will be then? Do your part but always know that you are not the saviour.There will never be an OKAY time for any nation of the world. Infact the more advanced the greater the challenge. |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by Nobody: 5:31pm On Dec 12, 2011 |
all dis story una dey yarn here na for jst one simple question,wit a simple answer: FREE SEX 4 guys cos dats d only tin dey live for n FINANCIAL SECURITY for d ladies cos dat is wat we love most!  n all oda tins like kids r added unto it!!  1 Like |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by Goldieluks: 5:58pm On Dec 12, 2011 |
Orikinla: And what are you waiting for? Hope you no go go grave single and with all these wasted knowledge? |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by bekay911(f): 6:14pm On Dec 12, 2011 |
kimberluge:rule numba 1: avoid generalization. Its wat u lyk nt we. Pls dnt say dis out n loud again. Free ur bf if u no say na because of financial security u com hold am tight n also na free sex go make man marry u unless u dnt place any worth n value on ursef. Its unfair dat u dnt value his fwendship n companionship or maybe u dnt av one. Any of d above just change ur mindset |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by Orikinla(m): 6:38pm On Dec 12, 2011 |
Goldieluks: Of course, we are having four beautiful children Then we will adopt three orphans soon. You can see her here http://africanbeauty..com/2011/08/rosalina-from-nigeria-with-love.html Satisfied. |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by muyoto: 10:38pm On Dec 12, 2011 |
a lot nauseating responses here. Take this scenario: A woman is soo poor she couldn't even pay the bill for her last delivery at the local midwifery. it was eventually done by a kind hearted individual, not related to the lady. and guess what? the same woman is pregnant again. . .with the SIXTH CHILD!!.  we are not even talking of what schools those poor children will attend, what food they will eat, etc is it too much to ask that intending parents make plans for their children  why bring those priceless creatures into a life of suffering? Isn't that SADISMShould poor people be denied the opportunity of procreating? [size=15pt]EMPHATICALLY YES!!!!!!![/size]!  why not make sure you are at least [i]reasonably [/i]comfortable before bringing those precious, defenseless, beautiful gifts of God into the world? Or you are waiting for government to help you raise your family? Or waiting for God to rain manna from heaven? @Orinkinla I'm with you 100%. These dimwits castigating you for bringing to the fore a very cruicial issue are obvoulsy leaving in planet Mars. nonsense!! |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by MrsChima1(f): 11:11pm On Dec 12, 2011 |
There are married couples with NO CHILDREN. There are married couples who are traditionally married. There are married couples who are married through law. There are married couples who are gay. There are married couples who are interracial. There are married couples who has children. There are married couples who are not religious nor spiritual. There are married couples who are religious or spiritual. There are old married couples. There are young married couples. There are same race married couples. There are wealthy married couples. There are broke married couples. There are educated married couples. There are uneducated married couples. There are married couples with different political views. There are long distance married couples. There are online married couples. There are traveling married couples. There are military married couples. There are married couples with disabilities. There are married couple that is human and animal. So again, each couple have their own IMPORTANT REASONS to be married. 1 Like |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by Jenifa1: 3:57am On Dec 13, 2011 |
Orikinla: so is that your wife or your daughter? and your comments on this thread are extremely hypocritical considering your lifestyle. Who are you to judge a poor man with 5 kids. when you yourself a rich man is busy sleeping about with the poor men's young daughters on college campuses? you are contributing to the ruin of families you talk about. in fact, your moral crime is greater. your comments remind me of "A Modest Proposal" by Jon Swift. read it here: http://art-bin.com/art/omodest.html it's satire (in case you didn't catch on). |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by Renike(f): 4:28am On Dec 13, 2011 |
most important reason, companionship, someone to spoil and take care of (yes, I'm a woman), etc |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by fushi: 11:06am On Dec 13, 2011 |
For storytelling. |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by kakaG: 11:11am On Dec 13, 2011 |
Marriage is typically a serious issue and should be discussed with respect. For me, I had too much fun when I was a teenager to the point of no return and now, women and the whole marriage thing is not just interesting to me anymore. Anyway, the most important reason is all you have mentioned put together. |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by fushi: 11:29am On Dec 13, 2011 |
Its for Love. Love is a beautiful thing. |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by Elemcat: 7:27pm On Dec 13, 2011 |
Marry a person that you Love. For Companionship, Love ect. |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by pinkrex(m): 7:50pm On Dec 13, 2011 |
Orikinla is a perfect eloquent lair  |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by kokofo: 8:24pm On Dec 13, 2011 |
Reason to marry him would be because I am crazy about him. |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by claremont(m): 8:30pm On Dec 13, 2011 |
The thing I find most interesting amongst the aforementioned replies is that all the reasons to get married can still be enjoyed outside the marriage institution. That's the reason why some scholars actually posit that marriage is turning into an archaic institution, the ratio of unmarried partnerships as compared to married couples is fast increasing. I could be wrong, but I am yet to hear any reasonable argument about something that can be gained solely from being in a marriage. |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by iDo3: 9:00pm On Dec 13, 2011 |
Claremont - well said! Those that desire it can marry - it should be a free world to do as you will - just don't disturb others. All people are needed, poor, rich, married, single the world would probably not exist without variety. Those that have no children will take care of the excess children from the poor ;-) It balances life. I will take care of my relatives children if I have none. Such is life. |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by nwanioma(f): 9:31pm On Dec 13, 2011 |
I really don't know! I see alot of people suffering in the name of marriage, no doubt there are the happy ones too sha! Used to think it was kid but them are a lot of stress oh! Anyway maybe when i find my husband i will know why i want to get married! |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by Nobody: 10:52pm On Dec 13, 2011 |
I made this comment on a very similar thread, a while ago! Still applicable though! Marriage brings into existence the family unit, the family circle. You can not truly start a family if you are not married. It is also designed to form a permanent bond of union between man and woman, that they might be mutually helpful to each other. Getting married makes your spouse the closest relative, friend, confidant you can ever have on earth, unless of course you want to keep lying to yourself. When a man and woman live together in love and confidence, they could enjoy great happiness, with or without children, and because it is meant to be a permanent bond, (till death do us part) people really committed to making their marriages work, would look for a way of solving any catastrophe that could arise, instead of hightailing, or looking for a cheap excuse, to bail themselves out of the marriage. A sense of commitment brings a sense of security. I dont want to say that children are the sole purpose of marriage, cos sometimes, people end up not having children, and they are still happy in the relationship.(very rare though). But children born under the marital arrangement have a better chance of being taken care of, as opposed to those born out of wedlock, where there was no prior commitment. We'll reduce the rate of bastards if children were more often than not, born within the confines of marriage. . . If you dont respect the institution of marriage, or dont understand the semantics of marriage, you have no business getting married. Getting married on the excuse of companionship alone, free sex, free laundry, free house maid, and all those nonsense some idiots are fond of saying, is just a pitiably childish approach to the institution. Marriage gives a woman a sense of security, and a sense of being accountable to someone. If you really want to be independent, and all that crappy singsong about independence, pls happily remain single. But once you get married, you have come under the law of your husband. . . You become accountable to him, and him alone! There's no excuse for infidelity/extra marital affairs. . . In my opinion, it's better to remain unmarried and have your freedom, than get married and complain of Subjugation, denial of freedom, belching wife or crying baby! It's arrant nonsense! Remain unmarried and enjoy your promiscuity and wanton gallivanting! Marriage has no space for such! If you really dont understand the semantics of marriage or the rationale behind it, you have NO BUSINESS whatsoever, getting married and subjecting your wife to unnecessary heartaches! 1 Like |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by Yacoco: 11:03pm On Dec 13, 2011 |
For Security. |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by Yacoco: 11:09pm On Dec 13, 2011 |
For Happiness, Peace, Security, Money etc |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by RuuDie(m): 12:27pm On Dec 15, 2011 |
Now I can understand why most of us are very upset with Orikinla, his choice of words have done him very little favors here. . . . . .in his defence, a man of his exposure (according to what he has disclosed anyway) must have seen or experienced enough to be this distressed, hence his outbursts - we are all humans afterall and prone to our own little flaws every now and then, so I believe he can be pardoned or certain of his vitriolic comments overlooked. With that said, as much as folks here abhor; Orikinla does present some valid, sensible, un-ignorable points. . . . .look beyond the choice of words and you might see. why marry if you are still going to be unfaithful? why marry if you cannot fend for the family? why marry if you cannot effectively communicate in a civil manner? why marry if you cannot compromise? why marry if you cannot coexist? I think the one defining reason why anyone would get married is because they are ready. . . . .'ready' in every sense conceivable; be it financial, physical, physiological, mental, spiritual! It is true that not all problems of this nation stem from 'failed' or 'wrong' marriages, but if we have to be honest with ourselves, a fair majority of them have their roots from there and we see it around us everyday. |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by Loveaflame(m): 1:01pm On Dec 15, 2011 |
What an interesting question! This is the most important question someone must ask himself or herself before going into this institution you can never graduate from. Your personal conviction of why you want to get married will go a long way in helping face all the marital crisis you will ever face because it is FOR BETTER FOR WORSE. My reason for going into marriage is to have someone that will complement my strength,help my weakness and together we can achieve great things together,fulfilling our God given purpose on earth. This has nothing to do with the status of the person,her physical appearance,her level of education or even the background.Someone that we can both grow up together learning from all our mistakes and still move on with the MARITAL LOVESHIP. That is my major reason all other things are secondary.That is why with all what we have faced in the marriage we are still together as strong as ever and even growing stronger. Some of family folks even accused her of using charm on me.WHY? i DID NOT GIVE ANY OF THEM A LEG IN MY HOME TO COME CAUSE WAHALA.Besides they have not seen us quarrel one day for them to come and settle. 1 Like |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by purplekayc(m): 6:58pm On Dec 15, 2011 |
Friendship |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by gee2(m): 5:20am On Dec 16, 2011 |
companionship / helpmate jare, d only purpose dat makes sense, every other thing comes after |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by yinkavelli(m): 10:52am On Dec 16, 2011 |
the importance of marriage cannot be over emphasized, as a matter of fact, God was the one who created it and knew why, he knows whats best for us so definitely its a must. one just has to choose carefully. |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by Damilorlah(m): 1:17pm On Dec 16, 2011 |
Different people get married for different reason: some people married because of money, profession,other marry because of what they can gain. Hardly can u see anybody that married base on luv. And if d money is not forthcoming, and d job is lost, since luv which is suppose to be d fundamental factor is not there,then, divorce is set to take its seat. This marriage is for better for all for worst on your own. Also, people see marriage today not as a union, but as a contract / deal between two people which are mostly parasitic . U see, d issue of marriage can only be handle maturity. Similarly, coz relationship that is not built on decency,not honesty, not commitment not hardwork but money and pleasure should not end up in marriage because its long term effect would be catastrophic. I think d most important reason should be luv .luv should be d basis of our marriage on which other things are attach. |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by ayemko: 12:37pm On Mar 19, 2013 |
marriage should be based on love, companionship and all the other things are secondary. MARRIAGE BRINGS SECURITY, because your spouse is your best friend flesh of your flesh and bone of your bone.after God the most important perosn in your life is your spouse. mARRIGE IS a great instittion. 1 Like |
| Re: What Are The Most Important Reasons For You To Get Married? by Orikinla(m): 1:36pm On Mar 20, 2013 |
To have a help mate and confidant for life. 1 Like |
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