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I see myself as a very cheerful person but I also happen to be temperamental. I laugh and joke a lot because I know I overreact when I get angry. Also my anger is not temporary, but I can hold a grudge for years and never look back when I make a decision.

When I get angry with people who never really meant anything to me, I just cut them off for good; to me they are an unnecessary source of stress.

When I get angry with people close to me, after I feel bad for the nasty things I say, but I'm too proud to apologize especially if they initiated everything.

A lot of things annoy me but I burst out when people lie at my face or behind my back or call me a liar. I could chop their heads off.

Yeah I also get physical. It doesn't matter how big the other person is, I just want to hit them. Plus slamming doors.

Any help?

Is it normal to like a guy but at the same time find him repulsive for the type of girls he has "played" with? I just think I could be seen as dating a guy who hanged out with any how girls who are nothing compared to me in looks, education or comportment?

And what if your mum knows about his runs? Wouldn't be extremely embarrassing and humiliating to have her narrate how he flirted with this chick and that other chick? I am sincerely concerned. Cuz I don't want to be thought as a desperado to eats some losers' left-over.

Am I acting childish or is there some sense in what I am saying?

yemivictor:
I actually did check your profile, and your home-town is of more concern to me as against your nationality! Perhaps when we get ahold of that information, we'd know how women from your home-town are faring in their marital homes, if any? Since u've made marriage some what distasteful to the womenfolk! _{Trust me, you do not want to pick a thread fight with me!}

What others decide to do in their marriage is none of my business
and i am not here to respond to the behaviour of girls from my hometown.
And please don't even try to use that tactics with me, cause I am not even going to defend them either.
You are free to abuse them as you like.
Abi na me ask them make they like money pass their dignity!!!

rosquare:
@ Nihil-ce-M
thanx and hope you'll learn a lesson or two
if you are wise.

Get your conceited yourself out of my sight.

Imagine people who barely know the meaning of the word, abusing of it like that.

blackgucci:
ah ah
never heard of him.

Never heard of

Giorgio Armani??

rosquare:
@ladies in the house
HOLD ON A MINUTE!!!
its like you are assuming that you are doing the
men folk a favour by learning how to cook,or
rather by cooking
jjjjjjeeeeeeezzzzzzz
its just like saying you keep your home clean
because of visitors.
this is a shoker to me.
so we still have ladies who detest cooking;and openly for
that matter, when guys are finding it a fun filled activity.
u need to come and watch me and my girl in the
kitchen one of these days.
she cooks with so much excitement, that i can't but join her
in the kitchen.don't want to be left out you know
haba??
by cooking, you are not doing good to anybody but
yourself.and if you don't cook then i'm sorry for you
because you are missing out.its fun and i mean lots and lots of fun.

Finally you have replied.
You see e don teyyy wey I see you for "who's on" trying to post a comment.
I was thinking you had abbandoned the pc to take a rest for how tedious the task was.
Well don sha.

As for your opinion, it is your opinion.

blackgucci:
is that really u?

Blackgucci, is that really you too?

I thought you were blackarmani!

the poster is truly retarded just like Hitler.

TOH stay away from him please.

Stupidity can be contagious.

Don1DeMaco:
u mean women don't choose who and when to marry??

didnt know that.

is that true

so please educate me how do they now get married?

Abeg as you carry your whala come, kindly carry am go. I nor fit debate with someone like you.

yemivictor:
With all due respect, where exactly are you from? I never knew that a woman marrying, was synonymous to a sheep being led to the slaughter-house!

I am from Nigeria, check profile!
You know that country where a woman can be bought,
thrown out of the house,
replaced by a younger one.
I am sure you know it. It is situated in the west of Africa, it shares border with Ghana.
Crack your head. I am sure it'll come up to your mind.

tboy1:
I know you scared the shit out of me when i saw your profile

That is the great queen Michelin89 for you!

tboy1:
I was only kiddin with you ooo

Ahahahhahahhahahahhaha!

To all:

You can scare people off without violence!

tboy1:
No i won't, until you agree to cook for your man, and whenever you're going to his place you have to carry food you've cooked from home

Look at my profile and check the script under my pics.

Hope u are smart enough to get my point.

Shio!

tboy1:
Madam, you're still on this issue.If you like don't cook 4 your man, like i said earlier there are other ladies outside who will do the cooking for you

For bleeping goodness sake, let me be.

[quote author=I-man link=topic=102592.msg1813104#msg1813104 date=1199270695]Leave am na,she is only a teenager and will eventually wisen up [/quote]Yes I'll wisen up enough to marry a man who hasn't made food his perogative for a good marriage.

davidylan:
don't bother going over this again, simply dump the girl and pick another one who appreciates you enough to take cooking seriously.

No one says a woman MUST cook herself to death to keep a man but it sends a message of how much you are willing to make your marriage work and how much you appreciate your man that you are willing to go that extra mile to get him that hot meal.
You may be surprised to end up with a man who is equally willing to do the cooking.

Many women who complain about cooking only do so to mask their laziness. A woman who can't and wont cook most likely can't keep a home, is dirty/untidy and lazy.

Man with issues, you are not invited and your opinion is not recquired!

yemivictor:
And you actually think women can handle the truth and don't have insecurities too! Better wake up girl, and stop living in a fool's paradise!

Sweetheart, while a man can choose when and who to marry, women aren't that lucky.
Afterall, you have got the choice!

@ almondjoy

Leave these mugus alone.
This topic has been discussed over and over again.
When they realize that have lost, they'll open up another thread
to make people spend energy in discussing again.

They are desperately looking for approval from other men and women.
But as usual they won't get any, because
village people never find their way to the internet.
And when they do it'll simply mean they have finally enlightened up.

Don1DeMaco:
a caring man, hunhun
MUNGUN that is the short form
Xtics
1 Rich and very generous showers her with gifts
[b]2. infact generous is the key word, doesnt mind forgiving his wife several times for her sins like cheating on him both sexually and emotionally, some don't even mind her fooling around.[/b]3. Even if e sabi do understands that variety is the spice of life so e no dey vex
4. takes the woman and her finds out and spoils them, at least if she no tell u say u dey caring, her friends would tell her
5. he is at his girls beck and call, does the dishes, helps with her clothes, cleans her shoes,

e be like say i go stop for here make others contribute, if u need more input im at your service

but no 2 is very key because she go dey use u as example to all her friends "my man is so caring that even when he found out i was cheating on him he forgave me, and the next time i did it he still forgave me. i love him so much and he loves me too". then the friend sef go use u as example to her own man by saying the same. believe me a man can be more caring than that

You were not asked to give a subjective answer, so you don fail.
A woman knows a caring man and can distinguish him from a mungun.
Have you ever seen how a woman talks about a caring man when he is not there?
You'd think he is a god, but as for the mungun;
you'll think she is talking about a domestic animal.

A caring man is a caring man and can't be otherwise.
If a woman hasn't yet understood the meaning of that word, bad for her.
Her ignorance can't in anyway influence the meaning of that word.

tboy1:
Believe me there will be other women outside who will be willing to cook for him.

Ahahahhahahhaha!

If a man decides to cheat on me just because of food, then he is not worthy to be called a man.

I deal with real men, not with children.

ell77:
@top_kin - its ok, HAPPY NEW YEAR 2008! Why did you post twice?

In fact oo.

I replied in the other thread and the guy nor say make he go check.

Men can't handle the truth. They are so insecure.

As for me, I told my ex about my first boyfriend and wether he accepted it or not was his cup of tea.

Ewwwwwwwwwww!

Smelly mouth, I rebuke you in the name of my health.

Get romantic and help him brush his teeth.

Start with a: "Sweetheart, today I am at your service".

tboy1:
Why can't see learn how to cook

Because she can afford to have someone to do it for her.

Haba, na by force say she must learn how to cook?

clemcykul:
thanks for that, but i bliv am entitled to my opinions understand?
if u find them disgustn close your eyes and pretend u never saw them ok?
so much for a being antagonistic!

i don't think u understood my reply, serving a lady diner, washn her undies and blow drying hair, are very good and effective ways of showing love! as for dining in the kitchen is just a stroke of humour.

better go put on your humour cap. nonsense!

There are two topics on NL about washing your partner's undies.
If i go check and find out you don't agree,
be ready for my anger!

tboy1:
What if she's completed her education and has got a very good job but still cannot cook?

Got a very good job you said?

Simple: get a cook!

@ ellj na wa o

A man who cares is the one that simply cares.

He is caring because he cares for your need.

A caring man is the type that isn't afraid to tell you when you are wrong, because he cares.

ruescho:
Sorry, no nonsense or lack of knowledge.
About 80% of Naija-girls that come to Europe
get involved into prostitution!!!

When they come back home they are big girls,
but I always wonder if people[b] don't want to know[/b]
how they were making the money, [i]or if they just don't mind[/i]

In a land of poverty, who cares where money comes from.
Anyway 80% of which girls are u talking about?
There are so many ways to come to Europe so please calirfy in what way this 80% succeeded in entering abroad.

Na this kind boy go hook up with oyinbo to get papers.

@ poster

Did you say that in Nigeria women are respected?

Ahahhahahahhaha!!!!!!!!

I nor fit talk!

Boring African men.
Instead of you to advice your women to further their education or get their self busy with some kind of business
you are busy making noise about stupid things like food.
I wonder where her certificate as a cook will take her.
Oh sorry I forgot. She'll get a lovable husband who as soon as he finds a better cook, will dump her ass.
What a nice perspective.
*hissssssssss*
Get a life, jobless people!

Sweetheart we are not talking about mother/child or father/child relationship. We are talking about love between man and woman.
There is nothing you can say to hold your arguementation.
How can u love a woman and feel no passion for her?
Do you know what that means?
That yours is a simple affection she can find anywhere.
When you love someone, you can't resist holding, kissing and caressing that person.
Why do you think most marriages collapse these days?
It's simply because when there is no more attraction, there is not need to keep on going.
Passion is everything.

quinofhart:
well well well i read the first post on this topic and laughed, we blame everything on oyinbo so why can't some blame oyinbo for the alleged rise in divorces in Nigeria? lol

This is how i see it. if people are now getting divorced left right and centre they are finally waking up to the realization that they are in DEAD MARRIAGES. so many people marry for the hell of it in Naija, oh i want to be a Mrs! i need to spread my seed! my father needs to see grand children! and my favourite my friends are all married! hahahahaha!
when i was 23 all my friends were married(well my closest friends) 3 are separated now. 1 went AWOL after her divorce for shame.they used to say'' ah when are you marrying'' i said as soon as i find the right man, nothing scares me more than making a mistake with a life partner.

In Nigeria it is a joke that parents seem to be competing on who's child would wed next or who has the best, biggest wedding. Another thing i see brides with bumps as big as anything wearing white and taking vows in front of a priest , that shit kills me lol. there is no guarantee in life but at least make sure the odds are not against you for fecksake. Again if divorce is on the rise it is because all those show weddings are now crumbling before our very eyes

Preach on!

opuro:
na ban them take canterballance me like that o

And people dey tell me make i nor dey call the admin pshyco!!!!