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Yes she should be told.

I am sure the poor lady doesn't even know this guy has blown it to the whole world that she has slept with his younger brother.

What a loser. Can't someone have privacy?

mamaput:
@ poster, the problem is with you and you alone.
you are the one that cannot get over it. If you cannot get over it forget it.
Do you want to spend the rest of your life reminding her about it.
I do not think that once you have married her that people will come to ask you what ever.
as for gossip people will always find something to say.

I have been telling him the same thing but he has been playing dumb and ignoring my posts. What an ass. he is only interested in reading what pleases him. He doesn't love that girl because if he did he wouldn't enjoy reading about how slutty she is for sleeping with his younger brother.

That guy makes me sick!

This story is not convincing to me at all.

Men who push you to put your life aside just to satisfy their selfish goals are better lost than found.

from the title:

1. You are the married one.

2. She is the subordinate.

From your post:

1. She is the married one

2. You are the subordinate.


Who are you and who is she?

This is a case of insecurity. i don't understand why a past relationship of someone should now become an instrument to judge her.

For goodness sake, this guy is just making me sick by making a fuss out of nothing.

When he was dating this girl didn't he know she had had a relationship with his younger brother? NO.

Now that he is ready to marry he is bring out stupid excuses.

@ poster

If you knew you were such an insecure person why did you go for her in the first place?

Don't tell me you didn't know about the "story" because i don't believe.

You are a big-time waster.

Geez, grow up!

Mad people.

So this thread still dey exist?

it's good to know you are having fun.

Please continue!

@ poster

Leave the poor girl alone. What is wrong if she had an encounter with you brother?

how was she supposed to know she would be involved with you in the future?

People like you really annoy me, making a noise about nothing.

Don't blame your lack of confidence on the poor lady.

She'll be better off without you!

Big brother is a stupid show.

me i nor see fine girls for there apart from Agbani, Bianca and Regina

spoilt:
and since when did his mother need his permission or consent to get pregnant?

So tomorrow, when I want to get pregnant, I have to seek my male children's approval because not only am I to be submissive to my husband, but to my own son?

Cheiiiiiiiiiii! Heaven go fall.

If na me be that woman, i for pour you kerosene and set you on fire.

NONSENSE!

britgirlee:
sinena, and nilhil, hummm
nilhil he is an attached man sweetheart,

Jealousy na bed thing!

ps would be nice to post yr view on this topic,

ohh sorry.

Well my opinion is very simple.

both parties have agree on it.

if that's the man's selfish need and not a plan made with the woman, then she would have all rights to spit fire on him whenever she gives him his "pay".

There is nothing worse than having a pain in the ass you have never planned of.

that's just my opinion.

On conclusion I'd say mutual accordance and communication are the keys to make this situation and every other to work.

Yaahhhhhhhhhhh!

Thank you!

Then I have a doubt: why do the adjectives "strong" and "independent" assume a negative connotation when they referred to women?

mamaput:
i cannot understand why people still hold on to the traditions of old.
women suffer under it but still bring up their sons and daughters by it.
It is my duty to see to it that my daughters have a better life.
And am bringing them um to be young strong independent women

That's what i can't understand myself.

We are caught in a very dangerous vicious cycle.

We always say "I'll never do such thing to my child" but then we find ourselves doing it.

This is what they call "generational curse"

tundebuki:
WHY IS IT THAT FIRST BORN IN THE FAMILY HAS MORE RESPONSIBILITY TO LOOK INTO BEFORE AND AFTER MARRIAGE .

It's not only the first born but every other family member that happens to be more successful than the rest.

I don't fancy people who make choices and later seek other's approval.

@ poster

From your post I can easily deduce you are afraid of being left alone with no support. You don't have to. it's better being off alone than to be with an asshole because everyday that passes, your self-esteem and your child's psychological growth are put at risk. As a mother you ought to make your child grow up in an enviroment with good examples of life.

This said, sit down amd think of the type of image you are giving your child.

I know you are very worried of your child's future and for this reason, every human being with his senses in the right place, would advice you to leave as soon as you can. A mother suffering from low-esteem is the worst that can ever happen to a child.

Sorry to say this, but that is the truth!

Phiniter:
What would you do if you find your mum cheating your father?
this is related to the post I posted last, "My Mum Is Still being Chased By Men"
But this is not related to me, but a friend

His mum got Pregnant a month after his father's Death and before his Burial,
He got to know about this and sent his mum packing to her fathers house.

In his shoes, What would you guys do

What nonsense is this and what right has a child got to chase his mother out of her house?

This can only happen in Nigeria.

Shio!

@ cute-ass

She means run as in "Only this man knows why he is not yet married and I am not interested in the reason as it might cause me some serious emotional and psychological trauma"

@ poster

People have the right to choose and if he has decided he is not ready to settle for less until he has met the right woman or to stay single for the rest of his life despite of his acclaimed success, that is his cup of tea!

Give the poor man a break!