₦airaland Forum

kiddaz:
As a man nothing beats personal experience. At that you will have a direction and know what you want. She's using ta very outdated format for the OP and he's swallowing it. In fact he's hooked on it...All in the name of marriage and I'm a nice man, many men will kpai early, suffer and live in bondage till they leave this earth. Omor how some una dey reason sef? She's already in charge as you sold your soul for nothing. You dey even plan wedding for August with whom you never know
You go suffer well well. Marry her ooh

No mind the guy, he forgot that gender has no mercy on the person they want to use, their emotions will always come first

Majdddd:
At the end what if she's not a virgin

She is not a virgin she has admitted that she was raped, their normal way to fool innocent guy. Always claiming rape victims just to cover their bad ways, same way the two ladies I met claimed rape victims, format that has cast long time ago is what majority of them are still using

spiceadole:
This is one of the reasons I always picked my bills whenever I went out with my then boyfriend, now husband.

When I wasn't buoyant enough for such outings,I declined and stayed away...and he never pushed because intention was clear from the start.

Imagine being insulted and embarrassed over food and entertainment that I could afford or avoid simply because a man paid.

Women are really going through a lot.

Men are also going through alot, most women take advantage when it comes to dating just because majority of them have this entitlement mentality, in a civilised world, both split the bills.

El Rufai charges be like Ogive graph that has no end until this regime is over

People will always say " you can't eat your cake and have it", you guys lamentation is just beginning

Bananapill:
Women with excessive mood swings usually leaves the men confused every time and it becomes hard for the men to know how to treat them. It makes men burn out.
Now that you notice early, move on from her. Just keep your sensitivity high and you will discern the right one.

Let me tell you how I got married to my wife. Before I met her, I was colleague with the elder sister. She's quite a talkative but when she speaks I discovered she talks more about her Christian home. Not just Christian home,both mum and dad are prayerful and guides them well. And they are a very happy home. That's all I needed because she's well behaved and intelligent despite being a talker. I moved in to scoop the younger sister and my home is beautiful.

When choosing a partner, ensure she's from a home where you will be accepted as a son and not son-in-law. I'm a son in my inlaw's home and a brother to my wife's siblings.

Thanks for this advice, I really appreciate it

So some of them knows that it is infectious full that place

Bananapill:
My advice is, don't look too hard or too far, because the wife material is usually closer than you think.
Listen more than talking when you are with female friends or colleagues, you will hear the statement of a wife material. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.
Na so I take find my wife.

What advice can you give to me, I have this lady naturally she is sound but her mood swings is extremely 3 much, even my friend has advice me not to try to have anything with her because of her mood swings

Breaker001:
I can connect you to one decent lady. Very homely; everything you would a wife should be. You will thank me later... after 10 years.
But my only fear is that I don't know you personally. Such a good lady should not fall into the hands of a wrong husband. I know her because she my wife's sister.

I'm interested

Okoroawusa:
Before Igbos learn politics e go tey... aswear

Weldon, you that your people knows politics, how has it benefited you guys if not hardship

Op is hired man to use tribalism as a weapon to discredit opposite party. Just continue

How Labour party take get 12 billions, you guys should stop telling lies

akingangan:
The question is, would a Yoruba or Igbo man be deep inside the forest in Sokoto

Our Southern politicians are the cause of this nonsense, what stop Tinubu from setting up a law that will ensure that cattle grazing is prohibited and make them start ranching in their area rather they will dance to their tune in order to win elections

This man be confused man, what happened to Yoruba nation

Sonnobax15:

The funniest thing is that I usually find it funny when I see ladies who are already in their 30's still doing shakara for men . They'll still be setting standards that musr be met by men . Someone who should be hustling to get herself a man of her own cuz she's already close to signing MoU with menopause

Their expectations and entitlement of thinking that the world must do them a favour won't allow them to think right. Gender that found it hard to admit that they are wrong, you can see how op is blaming men for ladies that are above 30 years, that is how majority of them reason, always sitting on the fence looking for someone to blame for their shortcomings........ They forgot that the world is fast changing, the earlier they realise that men are loosing interest on that thing called marriage as a result of the way most ladies act the better for them

Let them continue deceiving their selves, same way they said Buhari rescued Nigeria from collapsing, now it is Tinubu that rescue us

Na Jesus- native doctor some of our ladies will end up marrying. The annoying part is that if you see this same people making this demand, you will feel pity for them.... Imagine one short engine too was making demand saying she wants a God fearing man with small ashawo vibe.

Globad:
Who be dem wey go RING am?

Hope say you know the election process in Nigeria now. It's not easy to RING or call.

Are you talking about the Nigeria I know, you saw how the whole brv or whatsoever it was called was shot down during the last presidential election.

Don't worry, I go click later

My brother the thing tire me too, same thing I'm facing. I just lock up. Sometimes she will use mog

Refinedbeing:
Northerners really did moved to ADC while SE NDC.

2027, it will be APC vs ADC in the north and APC vs NDC in the south. Cool.

Election wey dem go still rig

I still don't believe this your story, you can't be earning up to 1m for the last three years with what you said that you are not the extravagant type and yet your saving is 3m, it is either your matter is spiritual or there is something you are not telling us, beside your child is 8 months old. It is either you are living an extravagant lifestyle but you sees it as a normal live.

I will advice you cut down your expenses and try to have a fixed amount you save monthly, you just have to discipline yourself in that area

We are still waiting

Mr man don't answer that question, she is settling a rule for you which is what you are going to face throughout the marriage time, ask her whether she is a virgin and see how she will ghost you or start claiming victim of rape

eldoradoxx:
Am even surprised people are not okay with her questions. I would want my daughters to ask their future suitors these questions and resolve them before bringing them to my house. This is a question from a lady that has focus and direction about marriage. She does not want to settle with an 'anyhow" person. Kudos to her.

Asking such questions won't stop a marriage that is bound to failed. Majority of ladies will go silent when you asked them such questions including the lady that asked this question. The problem with most ladies is that when you want to take them serious, they take you for granted but you will see such lady running to men that care less of them to the point of opening their legs for such men

This one is called flawless victory, see gap

b2strike:
Forgiving and accepting her is an extra layer for a solid marriage. She is truly remorseful, hence the fear and lies. She's a good lady. Go ahead, have time with her, sleep with her, impregnate her before marriage.

Remorseful in what way, assuming someone didn't open up, do you think she would open upto the guy and the worst is that the guy would have married her without knowing that his marriage was built on lies

Fiscus105:
Wen u are looking for what is not *most* important, they will keep playing your head like talking drum.

Which one is more important between VIRTUES and VIRGINITY? For me, I will choose VIRTUES

The last time I checked, several women that husband met with virgin, sleep with countless men after first sex with husband.
I know 2 personally.

When they deceiving a man, a rational thinker won't deceive himself.

Are you trying to discredit virginity, this kind of talk makes some ladies to start living a wayward lifestyle at the end they will start looking for an innocent guy to deceive, just this op shared. I will still say it, virginity is the pride and honour of a lady that kept herself for her husband to be.

God just wanted to expose those policemen, who knows how many innocent people they have killed. I think there should be a capital punishment for officers that committed such crime.

Ibrahim1985:
1 for the whole country is very bad.
Nigeria need more than 2 refineries. If it was bad business? Why did Dangote enter the oil business?

He was not properly informed, there is an article I read where his friends warned him not into such investment and he felt like regretting why he invested in such business, the questions you would have asked yourself is that what happened to the two refineries we have as a country. One of the country that has crude recognised in the whole world don't have a working refinery

My own is why will the church be allowing non virgin to wear white during wedding, they forgot that white represent purity, that has been the symbol