Even if the said colonial masters repay such amount, this Same man and his cohort of criminals will personalise the money, marry additional young trophy wives and enslave their own people. Just bunch of …….
Smartguyboy: The man have no right over the children because you pregnant someone and you the you are automatically owner of the kids without doing the right thing?
Someone should advise the man to go and pay her bride price if he want his kids back that tradition the lady will have no right to stop him.
Unless the lady refuse to let him pay the bride price then he can do whatever he want.
But come to think of it how can a man marry another man wife with 4 kids ?
You must be an idiot to think that money (bride price) is more relevant to biological DNA.
ebubeson: One of the killers of marriage is dating different wrong people before meeting the right partner. At this point, such a person may be so broken to the point that when the right partner comes, the feeling may be "adulterated" or "polluted" because of past hurts or frustrations. You were so loving, caring and faithful to the wrong partners while dating, now you have the right partner and you are probably rude, watchful and careless.. Lessons: It is better to wait and marry the right person without dating, than dating several people before marrying.
If you don’t date around before settling down, how would you know different behaviours, where to draw the line and establish your tolerance level or limit. You may be treated like trash and be used to it while considering it as normal due to lack of prior experiences with the opposite sex. First hand experience in relationships enables you to know people very well than relying on the fake display of affection or lies most couples portray superficially. As a guy man now, having dated some of the most beautiful, kindest and absolutely terrible girls/women, I can easily spot a trash from a distance and know when I’ve had enough and to end a toxic relationship. Experienced women could also easily save themselves and excuse themselves from deadly relationships/marriages when necessary.
Flows001: Moderators please push this to front page.
My first post on nairaland, so please pardon any error.
Good morning everyone, so let me just go straight to the point.
My elder sister has been dating this guy for more than a year now, she became pregnant months into the relationship and he begged her to keep the child, that he was going to marry her. So she did and about two months ago, she gave birth to a boy. Just like he said, he started making moves to marry her, she took him to see my uncle (because our dad is late), alongside with one of his brothers, they also went to see some of my aunties; as well as my Mum. So basically everyone knows them together in our extended family, as well as the street where my sister stays (she resides in Enugu State), because he usually goes to spend time with her and I must admit that he has been really nice to her and made sure she has been comfortable and never lacked anything. Along the line, my sister started suspecting that this her husband to be has been avoiding picking up strange numbers calling him, she asked him but he told her not to worry. Fast forward to earlier this week, she stumbled upon a text he received from one unsaved number, the text was begging him to allow the sender to atleast come visit him, apparently; this same guy was already married before and already had two grown children before he left the marriage for reasons which she didn't tell me, so his children have been making efforts to reach their father as their mother went to dump them with his brothers and went her way..
When my sister confronted him, he had to open up to her and apologised, stating that he wanted to start another life and couldn't tell her from the beginning because he didn't want to lose her..
Now my sister is in a dilemma, their traditional marriage was scheduled to hold by the end of this year and he has already started making efforts to officially pay her bride price. Her two options are: 1. Leave him and become a single mother at this young age (she's a student of NOUN and does business which he supported her to expand). 2. Stay with him and accommodate the children from his former wife.
Please advice 🙏🙏🙏
It’s your sister’s choice and whatever she wants in life. The most important person here is the innocent young champ involved. Single mothers are not plagues. Even porn stars on xvideo and so on get married. There are always men who are willing to take over. If her reason to stick with him is not out of love but to avoid single motherhood, then she will regret it later. Such dilemmas could be avoided if young women on the continent are trained to fend for themselves rather than always depending on men. Men must take the higher financial responsibilities for their children but the women should as well contribute their shares in this regard.
Italy is a tiny peninsula full of mountains and can’t contain all the millions of migrants crossing the Mediterranean Sea. They’ve really tried and accommodated millions of illegal immigrants over the last 4 decades.
[quote author=God1000 post=123347666]Congrats to them, but he should be careful with his white woman, he should not foolishly overdo things all in the name of love.
I've been thinking why european girls always go after our rich players
I think about 60-70 percent of African players in Europe are married to white girls
Man you are chatting shit here. Ask yourself how most of those Africans who pass through Libya to Europe as refugees and those who overstay their visas get documents. Your own African women will never sponsor your documentation for free and will use every little opportunity to milk you dry if you are the Mugu type. Most wouldn’t want anything to do with you if you are illegal but the white locals usually don’t care about your status or financial situation. These same white locals who marry or date the illegal African migrants support them both emotionally and financially to at least get Settled here. Majority of our African women will only dance to your tune when they are receiving money and gifts from you. All these footballers picking white wives should not be a surprise. Most of them were rejected by their fellow African women when they had nothing. So they wouldn’t be idiots to prioritise such women now that they are filthy rich.
cutecommend: As a Christian who fears God, is their any need to confess Adultery to your partner? Or should someone just pray to God for forgiveness and move on? Assuming a secret child is involved, should the Adultery still be confessed or should it be sealed after prayers of forgiveness have been offered to God? Confession to ones partner should be done after guidance from a good and mature Christian counselor.
Just let your partner know about it. If they accept it, that’s fine else just ask for a divorce and move on with your damn life while you find a way to compensate your hurting partner. Why are you people so attached to religion to the point of refusing to face realities and think 🤔? Staying married is not compulsory and if it doesn’t work out especially when one’s peace of mind is threatened, just let go of it. The only important individuals here are the young offsprings who need parental guidance and support. Enslaved slowpokes.
Man confronts his partner for taking out $300 from his money every week to send to her ex-boyfriend in prison
Well fools deserve this fate. How did he not know that unexplained $300 direct debits were being taken from his account. He just woke up from his dream.
The actual cost significantly depends on building transport infrastructure including roads, railway lines and underground metro systems (subways). Skyscrapers or high rise buildings do not cost that much unless the clients are more interested in luxury. Building a few skyscrapers (30 and above) can make cities look like these from above (drone shots). However, if the road infrastructure are poor, the street view may not be appealing. Examples include cities like New Delhi, Mumbai, Napoli, Luanda, Johannesburg, some parts of Manila and so on. Besides, quality of life is much more relevant than having skyscrapers everywhere (I can’t live in one). Imagine climbing up and going down using busy lifts just to go to work or anywhere each and every day. Skyscrapers become a necessity when there is insufficient land and the population is very high like in China and most Asian countries. This is why most people consider Dubai a fake city cuz the amount of buildings do not correspond to the very low population density. Though having some skyscrapers in the the downtowns (North America) or city centres/business districts (Europe) make them look modern, they are only necessary when the population is very high or growing exponentially (China for instance). Below are pictures from Napoli in Italy and the city has a mini skyline. This can easily be replicated anywhere in Nigeria provided that the governor in that area is serious minded.
xpiranza88: This modern days na him u they give person money to build house for u ....that's foolishness....there are a lot of companies that can do that for u neatly......with out stories that touches the heart.....
Due to lawlessness and ineffective implementation of laws in the country, anyone can easily fleece you including those so called companies you are talking about. These companies will even overcharge you for a project you would have spent far less to complete. They will as well buy poor materials and build under the guise of being professionals without any form of integrity, transparency and accountability. All the substandard infrastructure you see there were built by the same so called construction companies. The best thing to do is to either take a time off to go there yourself to supervise the procurement and actual construction process. Better still you can hire different middlemen to supervise your project while you are out there hustling. After all, you will be creating employment opportunities for people to ease the survival for the fittest lifestyle in the jungle.
Ransomware: Rule 1: Money and Family don't mix, like 2 dicks Rule 2: A Nigerian will scam you, the level of scam may differ according to conscience but they will scam you Rule 3: If you want to do something in Nigeria, do it yourself, all those in starch clothes circling you are not people they are vultures Rule 4: Never lend anyone in Nigeria money. If you want to help simply give them the money and forget about it Rule 5: Always know that all stories are exaggerated to get your sympathy and eventually fleece money from you. Rule 6: Please know that this is an accepted way of life in Nigeria, so crying and wailing will not solve the problem. even your father will tell you to forgive and go hustle some more
[quote author=IyaTola post=122550192][/quote]His lack of patience got him into the mess he is facing. It was a wrong move to go back there to see the kids without first seeking joint custody through the justice system. The law does not encourage allegations else every male in the UK will be in jail or have some kinda of criminal records for abuse allegations. In the Western world, once a legal relationship or marriage falls out, every subsequent action should have a legal backing with accumulated evidence. The African mentality does not work there.
booksbo0k: Sorry for the long write up my people, I need advice.
My first son has been behaving somehow in our family, as if he's not part of this family... You and this boy can be in the same house but you might not set your eyes on him once for a whole day. He will be inside his room through out...
He has been telling me that he is currently working on going to rent his own place and live on his own and that if God helps him and he is able to achieve that, He will not have anything to do with our family again and that we will never set eyes on him ever again :[ ...
I would have not been bothered by such statement if it were coming from someone else, I would take it as a bluff. But this my son is someone that normally doesn't call people to check on them, not even us his parents..
When he was in his previous University before he dropped out, this boy can go for months, that is a whole semester stretch without calling anybody to know how you're doing, except you call him or maybe he wants to ask for money for something or school stuff....
We have five children and he is the first, the second and third children are away in University, he and the two last siblings are the only one's with us.. My husband refused him from going to University in a far place instead he gives him transport money to be going to his own University from home everyday...... He and his father don't even talk again except good morning greetings. He is only 21 ohh..
Let me give you guys small back story so that you can understand how all these things started.
My son graduated from secondary school (a boarding school) in 2017 at 16 years old... Initially, he said he wanted to study computer science as he said that was the course he loved and wanted to study. But my husband refused and persuaded him to study pharmacy because he worked at NAFDAC and he saw the way pharmacy graduates were living at his work place and the salary they were recieving. He and one of his chemist friend sweet talked him into going to study the course and I guess it was because he was young then and could not challenge his dad then that was why he gave in....
He wrote JAMB but he did not meet the cut of mark for pharmacy (but I later realised his score was good for computer science then)... No public University was willing to admit him for pharmacy then because his score was not good for the course but due to my husband love for the course and not wanting my son to lose admission that year , he decided to go the way of private University not minding their school fees...Long story cut short, my son got admitted into Madonna University where we were paying 1M naira every year.....After 3 years in the school and in 300L @18 years old, he began saying he was not interested in the school any longer, that he was tired of the course, that he's body is no longer in the school and blablabla that he wants to go and play football in Europe...
He came back for holiday during the beginning of covid and refused to go back to the school when they resumed, saying that he was only wasting our money by being in that school and he did not want to continue.....This got my husband really sad and angry....My son stayed home for almost two years doing nothing because my husband was adamant that if he would not go back to school, nothing for him, that all the money he has spent for school fees in that school can not be for waste that he can become a footballer after he graduates, saying no one can become a successful footballer without being a graduate, that it would later affect them in life...
But my son refused. I must confess, my son is extremely good at playing football. That was the talent i can confidently say that God personally gave to him from birth. Infact when he was graduating from secondary school, they gave him the award for the best graduating footballer and he was always the centre of attention anytime he plays at our church events. He friends used to call him "nima" then, I think...
I and my husband got tired of him staying at home for long so I went to meet with one pastor in our street who was based in the UK with his family but comes home sometimes for church related matters. I explained my son's situation to him and he offered to help my son travel out to chase his football career provided we have the funds for it. The man was secondary school class mates with "victor ikpe ekong" who was a former super eagles player but currently a pastor in Sweden. To my greatest surprise he called him on a WhatsApp video call in my presence and i was really surprised...He gave me the man's phone number to keep in contact and also scheduled a day to meet with my husband and have a discussion.. I told my son and he was very happy..I also told my husband and he was eager to meet with him at least, anything to solve my sons idleness at the time..
The pastor came to my our house on several occasions and discussed with my husband. My husband kept telling the pastor, saying he would like my son to be going to school while chasing his football career at the same time, a feat which pastor let us know would be difficult as one has to be dropped for the other. Unfortunately, my husband changed he's mind and said he was no longer interested in the whole footballer thing. He said he knew that my son wanted to become a footballer only because of girls. That he, my son knew that if he becomes a footballer, all the girls would like him, that that was the only reason he wanted to become a footballer, and that if football was his true destiny, he doesn't need to travel out for it to manifest, that he can be in Nigeria and make it from here.....That was how that chapter close like that. Pastor left for England few months after.....
After years of my son staying at home, my husband got tired. One night, he hired some Street thugs to come take my son away and beat him up...my son stayed with them for 2 weeks. When he returned, he said he was ready to go back to school. But my husband told him he won't be going back to any private University again. My son wrote jamb again to study computer science and was admitted into COOU. but my said he would not allow him go to any University that is not in the same state we are residing. Now the problem here was that all the public schools in the state we are staying will not accept you to study computer science unless you did chemistry in jamb. And my son did not do chemistry in jamb because he is not good in chemistry. If he was to study in the same state we were staying, he had to settle for another course, which he did...Now another problem arose. My husband refused to rent an apartment for my son around the school because the school is considerably far from our house, instead he decided to be giving him money (2000) everyday as transport fare to be going from home. This did not sit down well with my the boy and he again, said he was no longer interested in schooling again sef that he can't be going such far distance from home to the school everyday to study a Course he does not even like siting that it would be stressful and affect his academics and that it was unwise to be paying 60k a year as school fees while you spend 2k everyday as transport..My husband got angry and called on our estate CSO to come pick him up. They beat him so badly in public that when he got back home later in the evening, I went to check him in his room, his buttocks and back where scarred and red with huge marks...
Ever since, he has been going to the school from home and he has become very distant from us especially his dad. They don't talk again in the same house except "good morning sir"...
My son has turned into something else. He can stay indoors from morning till night. I would have said he has started keeping bad company but he does not even have a single friend, not one..Nobody calls him, and he doesn't call anybody...I have five children and he is the first. The second and third already gained admission this year in a private University and are in school currently, so he and he's last two siblings are the only one's with us now..
Why I'm writing this is because I'm scared..I'm beginning to fear that my son might commit suicide, he's beginning to show that kind of attitude.. And the plans he have to leave us forever to go and stay alone, I don't like it ohhhh...
Nairalanders please I need your advice.
Indeed Nigeria is a complete jungle. How is it possible that your foolish husband can hire thugs to physically abuse and brutalised your son. The first step to solve this matter is to get the ape arrested. The audacity of your husband to even think of forcing another human being to pursue a course he prefers. This only happens in lawless kingdoms and not this so called country. Mtchew.
ozalogbo: I am the first child of my mother, and I have two younger male siblings. I am doing well financially. My wife is the last of four children in her family. My dad died when I was still in the university, and this affected my mum.
However, as she aged, her health waned. She was a retired teacher. My brothers are not in the country. Both of them are in Europe. I wanted to have my mother stay with me in her later years because of her health and loneliness but my wife did not want it.
Whenever she was ill and I brought her home to be with us, my wife was usually hostile, especially if my mum had stayed beyond a week. She did not hid her disapproval, and this caused problems in the marriage. People advised that I should send my mum away and pay someone to live with her and take care of her. They said that marriage was between a man and his wife, not between a man, his wife, and his mother. I did and peace returned. Eventually my mum passed on after a few years.
Along the line, my father in law also died. And down the line, my mother in law's health began to deteriorate. We live in the same town. Among my wife's siblings she is the only one doing quite well. Now there are suggestions that the mother should come and live with us so that my wife can give her proper care. I believe that her living with us and seeing her grandchildren will help her. And indeed i have no problem accepting her, but when i remember the treatment my wife gave to my mum, there is a strong revulsion, in fact, anger in me. I shared with a friend, and he advised i forgive my wife, but the revulsion is so strong that i would feel cheated if i agreed.
What do you guys think. She reminded me then that marriage was between a man and his wife only. Shouldn't this also apply to my wife now?
It seems that you have been a Simp all along for even considering the thought of allowing her mother to live with you guys.
[quote author=shantti post=121124401]I know with the advent of the wokeness culture, what makes Africa African is beginning to be shoved aside. Africa used to have values and norms which they upholds to the highest level. Sex education didn't used to be for children and it worked so fine.
Our contemporary society maybe trying to educate children on matters surrounding sex but I think they are going to far, it should be a very gradual step, with more knowledge added at different stages in life. Not just exposing everything in two shakes of a dog's tail.
I came across this, do u all think it's too heavy for kids[/quote
It’s better kids (13 years and above) are taught about sex and its consequences so that their ignorance does not lead them to unwanted teenage pregnancies and STDs. Most Africans are just hypocrites. We tend to act holy but at the end of the day teenage pregnancies are more rampant in our societies compared to the societies in which sex is considered a normal thing. We keep doing the same thing over and over again and the results we get are still negative.
Nbote: If they didn't do you think they'll invite them to come and perform? Last Last was nominated for a Grammy, Rema went to Number 1 on billboards and Tems just won a Grammy. If the Americans didn't understand, how did they manage those achievements?
They don’t understand pidgin English my guy unless an African takes his time to explain the lyrics to them. They only hear few bits of words here and there. Even fresh out of Africa immigrants with deep accents are hardly understood how much more “ I dey do, wetin u go do, I sabbi” and the rest. They only like the rhythms and melodies and go with them. I myself, I’m an African and hardly understand some of the words in their songs.
Obeying your fellow homo sapien in what sense? When you are inside his church, he is in authority and needs to be regarded but he has no damn right or power to dictate for you unless you are his slave. There is no sense in worshipping an abled person who feeds off you. Without your tithes and offerings, they won’t be able to survive hunger. It’s only an slowpoke who doesn’t know that he’s God’s image (God of the earth) and that you are in authority over the earth. Mtchew.
[quote author=Fineman2 post=120866895]So I met this lady 2 weeks ago in school, she came for her project work.
She showed a lot of interest during our conversation which made me to collect her number, thereafter we continued chatting on WhatsApp and calling
She later said she will be coming to school and I told her to let me know so that I will meet her in school because I live very close to our school, infact I invited her to my place but she later postponed it and said she won't be coming again and said I should visit her instead.
I wasn't prepared for such outing that day so I told her to wait till Sunday and she agreed, we continued chatting on WhatsApp till yesterday Sunday morning, she called me early in the morning to inquire if I will still visit her and I said yes, she said by 12pm because she will first go to church.
When it was 11:30, I called her and she asked if I had left home and I told her very soon, she now said I should call her once I get to a particular location and give the phone to bike man so that she will give us the direction to her place.
I left home 12:10 pm, got to the location, negotiated with okada man, called her number but she didn't pick, I called the second time, she didn't answer so I thought maybe she wasn't with her phone.
I waited for her to call back but she didn't, after waiting for awhile without reaching her, I told the bike man to carry another passenger.
The last time I called her, she switched off her phone, I returned back to my house.
She hasn't called to offer any explanation after 20 hours and I'm just surprised.
Here is my question for ladies on this forum, is what she did okay? What do you think made her to behave that way?
I'm not the type that run after ladies up and down, I hardly do such thing, I've avoided women for most part of my life and such ugly experience will surely affect the way I relate with them anywhere I find myself.
You are new in the game lol. When we tell you guys to date around and Bleep as many as possible to get the required experience, you opt for celibacy. Now, you see how your brain has been twisted and turned into a confusion mode. You ain’t seen nothing yet. Only fools take these ones to heart . Two can play that mind game tho.
This guy should have known better and called off the match after the Russian-Ukraine war escalated. How do you fight a bulldog coming out of war. He will use all his anger, frustration, desperation and eagerness to beat the shit out of you to the point you will even forget your name. It is well with AJ’ soul.
Politics › Re: Ned Nwoko Demands $5 Trillion Reparations, Apology From Colonial Masters by Noaim: 1:44pm On Aug 19, 2023
