₦airaland Forum

meobizy:
Male Nairalanders love penis. Leave them to suck each other off. It’s so bad that males hide as females for attention.

Lol. You’re even one of them.

Militant1:
I will try to be brief and straight to the point.

My wife stays up late (11pm -12 am) every blessed day.... That's the problem.

We live in Lagos and have 2kids, 3yo and 8 months. My wife was working before but left the job when she gave birth. There is a job waiting for her when the baby is 1y6mnths, therefore she is a stay at home mom.

We live on the mainland but I work on the island so I live home as early as five. In our house we have all the amenities you can think of; 24 hrs light (NEPA plus inverter), running water, gas, 2 washing machines etc to make a home 95percent comfortable but my wife can't seem to cope and it started when we had one child.

She doesn't wash my clothes, my office shirts and suits are given to dry cleaner to arrange while my other laundry I do myself every weekend with the washing machine.

When I get home by 7pm or 8, that's when she now starts rushing to bath the kids and prepare dinner, so we eat by 9 or 10. Before the kids play play and play, by 11pm we are still awake. Sometimes I go to bed by midnight and have to wake up by 4am to go to work again. It's impacting on my health and my work. She will sleep by 12 am and wake up by 8 or 9am the following day.

I have tried to beg and appeal to her. If I eat out and come home to just sleep, she go dey vex. If I just come home shower and sleep the kids who have passed their bedtime will be playing and when madam is ready to sleep they won't agree to sleep. She will beat them, guess who they will come crying to- daddy that just started sleeping and has to wake by 4am, I will now pet and pet till 2am before kids sleep.. I have advised her that kids have a bedtime(8pm). When I man up and off the tv by 9pm and tell everyone to go to bed, she says I am disrespecting her. She reports me to her mum.

Worse still our sex life is horrible... We have sex like once in 2 month.. At 35 I am in my sex prime and can Bleep everyday but she doesn't seem to care about me because she is always tired am I pity her so I don't demand sex so much.

I fully understand stay at home is not easy and I help her when.

I tried to create a schedule for her.

Wake up by 6am
By 7 she suppose don clean finish
By 8 breakfast should be ready for her, kids
9-10am bath herself and the kids
10-12 do any other stuff in the house
12-3pm rest, watch movies, chill
3-5pm... Do whatever she likes
5pm boil water and bath the kids
6pm she don bathe and bath kids
7pm... Food don done... Everything dey freezer
8pm we eat
By 9 everyone goes to bed and we knack 1hr

I throw the trash every day
Na me dey go market buy foodstuff
On weekends I clean the house
I wash my all my clothes
I provide all the finance in the house
I satisfy her on the bed when we naka. She begs me that she's tired
I buy her gifts, drop 3k for her everyday
Why should we have a house help when she is a stat at home mum (for now)

So what's the problem..


Mothers, are my demands too much?
Mothers, please when do you close your kitchen and go to bed?
Are you still awake by 11pm every blessed day.
Am I crazy?

Please advice me.

I have begged her, pleaded, shouted, done everything. Sometimes I intentionally come home late (10-11pm) thinking that the kids have gone to bed but my first child will be watching cartoon.

Please advice me. I am going crazy, Lagos is stressful

WomenNotWorthIt:
Should men still help women in any way or should they help fellow men instead ?

Not that many years ago, you would hear terms like white knight, knight in shining armor, men helping a damsel in distress where men go out of their way to help women they perceive to be in trouble or in distress.

But was it all worth it and do today's women deserve situations where men deny themselves and bend over backwards tust to help a woman even if it means displeasing themselves in the process.

Personally with the gutter mouths that today's women carry around coupled with them being nastier than the devil, I will NEVER help any woman again especially financially and it gladdened my heart last week when I saw a woman trying to fix her car door window wind up mechanism and no man offered to help her which would not have been the case some years ago.

If I see a woman being slaughtered, I will cross over to the other side of the window and mind my own business 'cos today's women do not deserve to be helped in any way as they are backstabbers, ingrate, ruinous, evil hearted, scheming, lying, cheating and above all their minds plot evil against men every second and all their waking hours are spent thinking how to bring some man down somewhere.

So welcome to the new world where men will look after themselves first before even acknowledging that a woman is in need.

Women in any kind of need deserve to be ignored by men. These ungrateful cheats are not worth the trouble.

Graduate2015:
Sorry this is going to be lengthy. I dont know how to shorten this.
I'm married for 16yrs but I cannot say that I have enjoyed my marriage. My husband is lovely when in a good mood but worst during his bad mood. His mood goes up and down but he thinks he doesn't have a problem. I think he has a bipolar and I've always mentioned to him that his behaviour seems like that but he never acknowledges it. Two yrs ago it got worse and we ended in couples therapy. During this period he revealed to me that while in the uni that he goes through period of sadness and the thing affected his grades anytime he experiences that mood during exam. I encouraged him to see a doctor and the doctor gave him antidepressant but he only used it for two weeks and stopped, saying he doesnt need that. But what he doesnt realise is that his period of sadness did not only happen in uni but its currently happening in his marriage. Our marriage is Iike a roller coaster. He finds problem but never suggests or initiate or even action solutions when suggested. He believes that every problem we have in our marriage is my fault ..
During his sad moments he eats unhealthy food, orders food everyday and says i make him sad and that i have caused him to gain weight. He suffers from diabetes and hypertension but he orders ice cream, chocolate smoothies during our silent period time. I've asked him for a separation but he refused. He calls me a wicked woman, that I make his life hell, that he will kill me one day. All this outburst just because u said something like can u clean up that plate u left in the sitting room(even though there was never a problem just before u ask). He uses visitors toilet but has never cleaned it. I have asked him several times not to use it. No other person at home uses it. Every morning I check and clean the toilet because he always leaves it unflushed.
He works almost everyday and provides for the family. I also work but since having our last child I only work on his day off which is once a week or twice because my son cannot stay in daycare due to his disability. He only goes to work, comes back, eat and watches tv. He detaches himself in family involvement while i run around with our children. He basically provides everything at home but he asks for my support when the need arises such as investments, I bring money for house or land deposits to support him or school fees. We have many houses. Our last duplex in Nigeria. He did foundation and stopped because he was building a house here. So I took over the building and finished he only continued from interior deco.
He doesn't help around the house, in short he messes it up and when I ask for it to be cleaned he gets really angry and can call me names. Because of my son's disability therapists comes to our house every day but he doesn't care if they meet his socks, belts and used plates in the sitting room because he leaves them there and rushes to work next day. He also doesn't delegate or ask our older kids to do any chores. He also doesn't involve in training them or in homework. He is a chronic porn addict and for the past few months he has stopped having sex with me. The last two we had in April I initiated it so I don't initiate anymore. He said anytime he ask for sex I always turn him down. But the fact is that he works everyday, sometimes nights. We.dont sleep in the same room because he snores and have sleep apnoe yet he is still not seeking any medical help. I end up staying awake the whole night if we sleep together not only does his snoring disturbs me but he also goes secs without breathing which scares me. He stays in the sitting room watching TV and comes to my room to demand sex around 4/5am which I can't do at that time. I suggested we watch TV in my room at night and have sex before sleep but he won't do it.
He also doesn't communicate his mind but end up using passive aggression to communicate. He gives silent treatment and I used to ask what was the problem as I sometimes don't even know what the problem was. Sometimes it's something I said which he could have told me off immediately. I dont ask what the problem is anymore because ive asked him to always communicate but still the same silent treatment. He can just burst into anger even with little issue. Right now I know he has some resentment and animosity towards me because of not being able to express his feelings. I buy everything in our house because he doesn't take charge or in control and always likes to be led. I think after all this yrs he is now feeling like he has lost control and i sense low self esteem even though his career is in the top highest paid job in the world. Our marriage has been like two weeks of good mood, then two weeks of silent treatment. He avoids discussing any problem and keep saying that there is no point discussing it because it will not bear any fruit that I will not change. Anything I dont do doesn't happen in our marriage. He takes responsibility of our car insurance but its not until I got into accident that I found out he hasn't paid our car insurance for a yr or two. Even our house didn't have house insurance since 2020 until i found out in April this year and immediately paid for it. He basically takes no responsibility for anything and its getting worse. It's like having a child but then u cant correct them because they can beat u up. I have a friend that her husband works all the time too but cleans their home on his day off. He also buys gadget like robotic cleaner to ease her suffering. I basically buy everything in my house. He doesn't have initiative except when investing in property, that's only place he takes leads, oh we should buy a house or land but this happens once a yr or more. It's not something you do everytime. He doesn't even know how to use a washing machine. I had to teach him when I was going away and this man damaged all his white designer clothes because he washed different colours together and also used cleaning bleach to wash clothes and my children kept saying how could he not know because they can use the machine.. I also pay for his clothes to be ironed. I don't know how he sees me as an evil person because he calls me that during quarrell.
His behaviour makes me so sad because we live overseas where is no help or family support. I'm always tired and he doesn't care. I stay awake at night with our son and he doesn't come out to help even with his cries he sleeps through it all. I don't think I can continue like this because he doesn't realise the problem. He thinks he helps around but I'm being ungrateful. I don't mind if he can own up and confess that he wants to be a traditional man but he will never confess but his actions tells me otherwise. His good part is that he gives me access to his money may be that's because I can use it to be running the house and remove that responsibility from him. He also buys me expensive things like range rover, gucci but my love language is not material stuff but hands on man because I believe I can afford that myself.

Baronthecelebri:
Women are useless

Rozross:
This is why I’m still afraid to start dating, I don’t want to end up with a mistake of a man, the dangerous part is that these men will so disguise and pretend till you fall into their trap. Imagine a man trying to run from his wife and kids to Canada , very heartbreaking. Madam please try everything possible to stop him from running and make sure you involve the authorities and his family, he must be responsible by force.

Blessedmercy8:
My twins husband warned her to stop watching the show.

Blessedmercy8:
I seriously don't know what you gain watching this TV program if youre truly a Christian.

Should you be feeding your souls with such craps? Like really??

Watch this very short video.

https://www.facebook.com/reel/736111934117649?fs=e&s=cl&flite=scwspnss&mibextid=287BMF39jioiPNbE

Bradford111:
My girlfriend just broke up with me for no reason she was supposed to visit me today but couldn't make it only for me to wake up to this text

Sweetvie:
I feel you
But you guys are always generalizing it
Especially on nland here
That's y i do tell guys to date girl of same caliber not the one that see u as atm
Imagine following girls that doesn't work or making little money and you expect her not to alws ask for money? Are you there for decoration? No!
Or guys that date girls of 20-23 wat do you expect? They're not financial anything
They see guys as way for getting money of course
Most of them are still in school they need money!
Follow girls of ur caliber, working class... Not one's that still need their mom to buy them pant

KanwuliaExtra:
“Ka Anyi Wulia” = Kanwulia

“Let us all Rejoice” - EXTRA.

My mom is Igbo. That is my Igbo name.✅

JJuanMiguel:
Useless girl
Most ask this kinda question so that they can start planning on other people's money. Don't be surprised if she's doesn't earn anything.

hammer567:
IN ANOTHER 8 YEARS TIME, IJAW WILL RULE.


URHOBO WONT LET OKOWA HAND TO IJAW NOW.

KanwuliaExtra:
Nope.
Edo state no ni.

KanwuliaExtra:
They should go and rule Ijaw land first.

Sweetvie:
Lol... Actually my point is not basically on the money part... My point is why do guys downgrade girls as if we're nothing? Do u get what m trying to type??

LadyD22:
Wow
I've never noticed , for me I ask from help from women than men because I am very suspicious of any man even relatives , for me girls are more generous than men ,

Most times in school when I was broke , I always I mean always had them coming for me , especially on my birthday and I don't celebrate birthdays , even my sisters are very generous, I'm the eldest but they always want to give me something, same with my friends , I've never been abandoned , I have male friends but 90% are women and I can't point one stingy person

Sweetvie:
one thing u should know aim girls is that they really don't like themselves as they make it seem like. Imagine u went to ur girls for help a person u call friend, she didn't even borrow u the money but start telling others behind ur back... Or she borrow u but Still saying it around as if she save u from death. That's y girls doesn't borrow money fr mom each other, t pmhey do come to guys bcoz u guys can keep secret n you're not like girls

LUAN1:
my brother family settled with demon last yr. E no reach 6 month. The demon in her manifest. I go make threads on this in soon

womenareapezz:
what is wrong with all you foolish guys is thinking inside the box
Why not think outside the box by dating foreigners

Once dating a foreigner you will be the one running away because of overlove by the foreign woman you are dating!

Leave those poverty stinking piece of shiit called naija women alone and date a foreigner

Ifebright:
Thank you so much…is this a telegram channel tho?

Sweetvie:
Lol... E dey nau
I don see woman wey help man b4 but e no too common sha

udofia234:
Then Go and report to the police and stop disturbing people here.

Bye.

You should be asking yourself that question! hope u even read the post! I have being using that for some time now and its affecting my ear somehow! fine I can use it bit not all the time!

udofia234:
suddenly I'm being weak! someone is trampling on my right, that's noise pollution! I won't take it!

BrotherCork:
M.0.D....front page please!

All men agree no female can be a true LADY unless she dates a Londoner altho the good news is am London guy. LADIES, today is yor day coz this is yor shance to stepppup by dating us Londoner :

Step 1. Always say hi, not hello. Hi make u sound like wifey material & not like village girl(REAL TALK & no oofencse)

Step 2. Make sure yor lightskin by making sure u have to be lightskin like Prettygirl200 coz she move from dak to light (TRUE STORY)

Step 3. Always spek English grama to us insted of using yor pigeon English. We prefa propa English but pigeon English is for those homebase guys(NO OOFENCSE)

Step 4. Ladies.stop ask us for moiney coz I have moiney..ask us for moiney by saying u love us.we like romantic women (I swàr)

Step 5. please please please, stop comparing us to homebase guys coz we spek English. They struggle with English. the more u respet us the more we give u a shance to date us((TRUE TALK))


.... thank me later!!

udofia234:
Good afternoon! I'm a Christian and also a committed worker, I have a very serious issue that might make me commit sin!
I live in a room and palor self contain and the house is build in a way that the other room and palor is built together with mine, that is if I say anything in my palor or room the will hear! My neighbour is a single like me , but he is giving me big nightmare. Every night he brings different girls home, and when I'm preparing to sleep that is when they start having sex, this girl will moan loudly that even if I cover my ears with my hand I can still hear it, not even that alone the knacking sound is so irritating to me, sometimes to avoid me lusting in my mind I try praying, but it won't work cause my system is not in that prayer, guys to the extent that when I sleep I dream of them having sex, many times at night.
I approached the guy to complain but he said its not my room and my girl now! he even said that when ever I pray he gets more motivation! imagine! When ever this girl come around and the guy is not in cos she has a spare key to the guys house , the girl always dresses immorally (most times without pant and bra, she wears see through cloth)and I notice that once I see that I have erection. I tried not to think on this but every time I'm alone even after prayer my mind will start rehearsing this pictures, I can't help it anymore! i told one of my pastors he said i should fast but still in that process this atrocities is still going on, i couldn't end the fast when my mind is polluted .I wish to pack out of the house but the place is one of the best houses in my area! I don't even have the cash to get another, so I'm thinking of reporting him to the Landlord. pls help me.

Davincii78:
I work from my home.

Sweetvie:
Have been reading alot of post about girls begging for money from guys and their reply have not been kind especially if the girl is not in a relationship with them. I mean y do guys have that kind of mentality that u can only give girls ur money if you're sexually involved with them.

Heathrow44:
,

Ifebright:
And pls is there a telegram or WhatsApp group I can join regarding study visa immigration…so as to ask questions and not to make mistakes regarding admission and visa application process