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Mercylike:
I don't think there is anytin to seat an old man and talk about..

I still do what I do for him like sending him money monthly.... I don't think there is sumtin else I need from him.


Dad attend party buys aṣọ ebi but never deem it fit to ever buy us clothes or shoes to wear. Never ever did..

Only mom will wear rag so that we can wear good thing. Story plenty

U still talk like a child. It will remain so forever until u let go. Life na seed,it doesn't matter who wrong or right. Hin do e papa,u do am too,better break the evil circle

Jewessgratitud3:
To you what you're doing is right so you can never see any wrong in what you're doing.

Have you tried looking into all she raised about your character? No. Because you feel you're Mr perfect.

Have you tried to listen and obey her for once to see if she would reduce her controlling attitude?

What man would leave his pregnant wife and go out to take pepper soup and one bullet to the point it now becomes a habit? And you say it's only one bullet. Is one bullet not enough to make you reek of alcohol? No woman wants a man smelling of alcohol every day to come near her. you too check it.. if it's once in a while fine, but everyday? Nah . She's pregnant and any emergency can arise while you're away. Who would rush her to the hospital? Try and see things from her own angle and you'll understand her reason for complaining.


She loves you that is why she likes you to be around her always. A woman who doesn't love you will not care whether you died or lived. So complaining about your constant absence simply shows she misses you and you giving her a cold shoulder makes it look like you don't care or miss her enough to want to be with her. why then did you marry her if you know you're not going to be keeping her company?

If we listen to her own side of the story now, it will be a case of married but lonely. Keep her company and see her change to loving wife.

Thrash❌❌❌❌

funkmrflexx:
My marriage is 2 years old now , me and my wife didn’t date very long before we got married (like 3 months) this was because I’m a man who believes in having my family early and there’s nothing more important to me than my family.

My wife is heavily pregnant and almost ready to put to bed anytime soon. The issue now is that my wife has become very controlling, I saw these signs early in our marriage but Ignored them because I want our marriage to work, The biggest turn off for me is a controlling woman .

My wife comes from a broken home , the father left she was was little , I don’t really know why the dad left her mom and till date the reason why her dad left is a very flimsy excuse ( said the mom was buying properties without his consent ) , so right now the children hate the father. I have advised my wife severally to reach out to the father and ask what really happened that made him leave his family because I feel there’s something else to it , but she refused because the mom has taken the children to her side .

Now in our own marriage she wants to be in control, she doesn’t want me to go out , even when I tell her where I’m going she isn’t satisfied.

So recently I started going out on Sundays because throughout the week I’m usually at home and these days I’m usually stressed out , so I like to go out and relax on my own .
there's a spot I usually go to watch football matches every Sunday, I told her I was going yesterday to watch match and she told me I’ve turned it into an habit to be going out everyday , I asked her can’t I go out ? And her reply was “ What’s the wrong with you ? Why would you answer me like that” I became angry and told her that anytime I want to leave the house she always has a problem with it even before she became pregnant. Most times she always wants to go with me. We have quarreled severally about it , she don’t want me to go out , she wants me to be home on time , she always call me to know where I am or what I’m doing even when I’m in a business meeting. She recently told me she regrets marrying me and I still try to wonder what I did for her to say that. She said I come home reeking of alcohol every time I go out , calling me a drunkard . When I go out I only drink pepper soup and 1 black bullet. People outside who hear her will think I usually come home staggering drunk


And another attitude of hers is that she’s ready to leave the marriage at anytime, she doesn’t care
Any little things she will say “ I will just leave this marriage “. When me as a man I don’t even see leaving the marriage as an option.

She want to control my every move , when I want to do something and I tell her about it , she wants me to do it her own way and I’ve told her severally that it won’t be possible for me to do everything she says .
She also believes we are both equal and anything I do she also can do. Mind you I haven’t had sex with another woman in 2 years so it’s not a case of cheating.

I don’t know if it’s the family she grew up in where a woman is the head and now she wants to bring it into our marriage and also treat me like her elder brother who they even dictate the kind of girl he follows .


So I’m just trying to make things work out for the sake of our marriage and our baby but if she doesn’t change then I’m done.

I don’t know if I should speak to her mom about it or just lock up

You are not a man but a 🐒. Let her go

Namaster:
Women who join the Nigerian Military disgust me. They are senseless and have voluntarily forfeited their feminity and ALL the privileges it accords them.
You join a profession dominated by men with testosterones that are through the roof and expect no sexual harassment. It's dumb.

Also, this is Nigeria

Ordinary lecturers want to mess students for a pass mark in a useless course. Bosses wants to mess their subordinates in the office just for the hell of it.

You now decide to join the Military where zombies are bred. You join an institution where you are just a body that follows orders.

And the orders are given by randy men. Yet you act persecuted when they order you to sit on their di.cks.

It's dumb.

U are the dumb one here bro
No offences

Alaigbo:
You have no idea how foolish your comment sound. We are talking 2 children here to over 12000 Isreal slaughtered this few months alone?!

Keep counting...we never start...70 Times 7

madridguy:
Truly the Houthis are the heroes of our time. They are proven to the world what they're capable of doing.

I expected the US/UK to take the fight to the Red Sea, fight the Houthis soldiers there and not taking your fighter jet to be bombing civilians sleeping at home.

If you have differences with your fellow man, fight him at the spot, going behind to fight his aged mother, wife and children is nothing but being coward.

The Houthis have been blocking any Isreali own ship from passing the Red Sea, I expected the US/UK to take the full fight to the Red sea and not to Yemen.

Now we all can see Israel is just a light weight fighter claiming heavy weight.

Smelly Mumuslim

TechCapon:
Enough with the lies already. All these worthless disgraceful and disgruntled so called ex-workers and ex-disciples. These lies cannot erase all the good things TB Joshua did during his life. I don't know about the miracles but I know a lot about his philanthropy and passion for empowering the poor. Many young guys are playing football in Europe today because of his sponsorship.

For u life is all about materialism

larryUG:
Baba, I spent close to a million for my baby stuff.
What you need to understand is that baby things are generally very costly. Secondly, escalation has taken a toll on the prices of things . It seems a lot of people have not taken into account the effect of the naira losing value in the economy
I gave my wife 350K initially but she bought wasnt substantial.
She added her money and i gave her additional.
BEd alone is 170k-200k depending on the quality. Breast pump (for when your baby my not have the mum around) is 50k in the market. just these 2 items have taken 220-250K out of your 400K. now talk about feeding bottles, diapers, clothes (there are several types your baby will need), Powder/soaps, baby oils, shoes, other stuff, wardrobe alone for kids na 120K. Haba

Relax bro.
All fingers are not equal,I didn't spend 120k to buy baby things for my 1st baby this year.

Someone also used 10 million to buy baby things. All na understanding.

Vikto17:
God bless u my brother,, l will make it clear and l will stick with condoms

U mean Belzebub bless him.
NotGod

mariahAngel:
I'm glad you found it helpful.

If you want your rice to have more colour, add about a teaspoon of turmeric powder to the rice while cooking.
The rice will absorb the colour, plus turmeric gives its own aroma, but be careful not to use too much because with turmeric, a little goes a long way.

Ask for turmeric powder from those women that sell salad/fried rice ingredients or those mallams that sell spices.

Thanks mami.
My husband just dey Laff the rice😔

FanRong:
I'm sorry, this post is going to be a long one. But you're saving a soul if you read through and advice candidly.


My story
We've dated for 6months and we've lived together for the 6months.

On our 3rd month, I found her interesting and told her I'll like to marry her. She accepted but no engagement ring or anything to show. We just accepted by word of mouth.

Since then, I've worked towards it. I've told her to call her mum and eldest brother(dad is late) to relate my idea and understand their feeling since it won't be that easy to marry. (same state, but my people and her people are highly selective in marriage)

After several persuasion, and threat that I'll throw her out if she doesn't relate the circumstances to her family, she called the mum. And again I had to force her to call the eldest brother. She claimed she did. And that's enough. I'm ok.

Meanwhile, there's this guy(her ex) she claims helped her when she came to Lagos. It was when I started accommodating her that I found out in her chats that she was living with this guy, but lied to me she was living with her Aunt and the aunt's husband was harassing her sexually and she wants to leave. She later told me the guy, though provides for him but has never had sex with her, even when she was living in his house. These stories doesn't move me since everyone, who is not a virgin has an ex. So I forgave all that and we moved on.

She wasn't everything I need in a women, but I told myself I could train her the way I want. We continued adjusting to each others likes and dislikes.

I feed her this 6 months, provide comfortable shelter, buy her things she needs,(not want). Told her I'll do more and open a shop for her, if we get married, but she still confronts me asking why should I wait till after marriage? . I didn't allow the words move me cos Its my decision and my money and also, I'm used to gold diggers.

A good number of times, I see her as being selfish. If things doesn't benefit her, she'll not get bothered even if I'm involved.

Just this week, It became obvious to me that she argues everything I request her to do. From 24th Dec, we've been on holiday, we're always at home.
1. I'll wake her up at 9 and ask her to prepare breakfast for the family, she'll prefer to roll on the bed than do it. I'll finally have to do it myself so I can get things done and get busy.

2. I detest girls on eye lashes. I've repeatedly told her how I dislike it, but when she went to fix herself for the Christmas, she fixed the eyelashes, Contrary to my demand.

3. I got her some sneakers to upgrade her fashion style and look smarter, instead of the usual slippers and sandals she wears.
When we prepared to go to the beach few days ago, I requested her to put on the sneakers to look more fashionable, but she refused buttressing that she must wear what she wants, sandals.

4. Few days ago, we had a heated argument and she said that if I'm not happy that she's living with me, that she can go, afterall, she has somewhere to stay. I asked her to go and she immediately called that her ex bf to come to my house. I immediately swung into action, took all her belongings out, before the ex will arrive, at the same time, retrieving the items I gifted her.
While she was struggling to have her gifted items back, our neighbours heard the struggle and had to come and settle for us. She apologized and I forgave her. we were back into the house.

5. Just yesterday , we left home together, and I locked the door and I took the keys with me. We walked down the street together to the Busstop, I have almost no friend and seldomly greet. But there's this my ex girlfriend by the roadside, she saw me and yelled my name, I went to greet her and my Fiancée picked offence, left me without waiting for me. After that I chased her and told her it's nothing because I've told her everything about this ex.
Before we could get to the Busstop, she demanded for the house keys and I gave her since she might come back earlier than me.
We couldn't say bye. The anger was clear on her face and we parted ways.

After about 15mins, I got to where I wanted to make payment for the items I picked only to notice I am not with my transaction phone. I was confused where could I have kept it, the seller insisted I may not have come to his shop with the phone, and the phone rang as I called with my second phone. so I had to call my Fiancée for assistance since she's with the keys.
At first, she said she was still around the Busstop but when I told her I needed her to go home and confirm my phones whereabout, she said she can't go back that she has gone far, shouted on me and hung the phone.

I called and called and called, but she didn't pick. Many thoughts ran into me. Who took this phone? My money? , my phone? , my sim card? . I had to find my way and trekked back about 4km to the house since I had no cash with me. And finally saw the phone ringing in my house. I was relieved.

The way she shouted to me on the phone got me unbalanced, I felt she would be fire if I get this girl as a wife.

We finally traveled to our home state today and I paid the bills for the traveling. My major plan of traveling was to see her people and do the needful before I mistakenly get her pregnant. But I'm seriously contemplating of canceling this plan and throw her out come January. I need peace.

Dear nairalanders, I'm really in the middle of the deep blue sea and the devil.

I need mature and candid advice please.
Should I continue with the marriage plans or the redflags are obvious?

I didn't need to finish it.
My brother😔,
The closeness in marriage is too much,when your supposed best friend become an enemy,it's beyond darkness.

Pls quit that relationship, no matter ur heart or financial investment.

mariahAngel:
Recipe for basic Nigerian fried rice.

Ingredients for chicken and stock:

- Chicken
- Onions (chopped)
- Curry powder
- Thyme
- Seasoning (knorr chicken preferably)
- Salt
- A little water (for stock)


Ingredients for vegetables:

- Onions
- Carrots
- Fresh peppers (ata rodo)
- Green peppers
- Green beans
- Spring onions
- Curry powder
- Thyme

All vegetables chopped.

Process:


Step one

Season and cook your chicken as you would with the listed ingredients, until done.
Be sure to have some stock in your chicken, because you're going to use it to cook your rice.

Step two

Cook your rice with the chicken stock and water as required, add seasoning and salt to give taste to your rice.
You can also add curry powder to the rice for aroma and colour.
Seasoning your rice ahead will make it taste better when you eventually mix with the stir fried vegetables.

Step three

If you want your chicken fried, you can start by frying your chicken in the same oil your going to use to fry your vegetables.

Make sure not to fry on high heat, so that your oil does not smoke.

And you don't need much oil.
Shallow frying your chicken is okay.
Just to brown them a little.

Step four

After frying your chicken, proceed to frying your chopped vegetables, starting with onions, carrots, green beans, green peppers, spring onions, thyme, in that order.

Note: You can skip the curry powder if you already added some to the cooked rice, or you can go ahead and add a little.
Curry always does Nigerian fried rice good.

Step five

Add the cooked rice into the stir fried vegetables (or the vegetables to your rice, whichever one is convenient for you)
Mix until well combined.
Taste for salt, and add if needed.

Your basic Nigerian fried rice is ready. Serve with your chicken.🙂
You can ask questions for clarity.

You are so kind,this helped me too,but my color nor yellow😔

Nahunger:
Fvck Hamas 🔥

Twice on Tuesdays

Kepukepu:
drop your whatsapp number

Thanks. 08074062143

Kepukepu:
I offered to mentor one person to gain a front-end skill, we chatted but at the end of it, he's not serious.

How do you want to secure a good job without learning a skill?

I think the best thing is to charge, the serious ones will pay nd learn it

I'm ready bro.
We many that day, you chosed only him

ILoveNG:
I remember my late grandfather once said "it's the behavior of the guest that will determine the behavior of the host"

A wise man he was

Very foolish old man

slaawomirr:
Damnnn niggar

Nice

Too many innocent souls in there

Impersonator, oya we don observe you.
Rest 😴

[quote author= post=126988457]Let us plant our own rice.

But wait o,
The last time we did that, did Nigerians buy it?

Charity begins at home[/quote]Don't be foolish sir.
Everything isn't politics

Svoboda:
Coward idf Blowing up an empty building. Hamas will survive this war certainly. I dare idf to send its troops into those tunnels.

Hunger don dey kill una inside tunnel already. Wicked religion

Generalmystic:
you're stupidity is second to none.
I'm not here for your tomfoolery.

He should be investigated period

l

You are a goat

Nigeria Muslims are useless. All of them

nairalee:
There's a difference between retaliation and sheer brutality to prove ones superiority and express hatred.

For those that support Israel just imagine Boko Haram attacks US and US in retaliation starts bombing schools (killing your only child) and hospitals (killing your parent) will u keep supporting them?

MODIFIED: For those quoting me, you've all failed to imagine yourselves losing loved ones and suffering for what you're not involved in. Trust me there are ALOT of Palestinians that oppose Hamas so should they and their families also be killed?

Q:Please what exactly is Israel mad about?
A: Killing of its innocent women, children and men by Hamas.
Q:What is Israel's reaction?
A: Killing of more innocent children and women and civilians of Palestine in greater proportion.

Take two seconds to think about this

Your wailing just started bro.
It's times seven

Mosaic law

Bescdmsd:
In front of the gate of Al-Shifa Hospital in Gaza now... martyrs, children and women.

Baby terrorists,
Kill dem all.
Islam is a curse to human kind.

My friend who is a Muslim on PH changed his Muslim name because he fears for his life

bonechamberlain:

A Nuremberg style trial must be conducted for the IDF and all Israeli officials involved in this massacre/cleansing of Palestinians.

The west issued an ICC arrest on Putin for saving children. Netanyahu deserves whatever punishment Hitler's generals got.

Religion have destroyed the sense of reasoning and humanity of some Christians in Nigeria. These Jews you see in the Israeli government today hate Christians even more than Muslims. They are evil and their motive is not religious but political and economical. They want a regional war, to instigate another chaos in the middle East, but the Arabs are now wiser. This time they would bid their time and won't act based on the push of the enemy.

If Israel thinks it would go Scott free after this, they better wake up. As it stands now, there is nothing like international law as Israel has disobeyed all known international laws regarding conflict. Lets see how America and it's senseless hypocritical allies would impose sanctions on any country again after this ethnic cleansing.

This is not about religion or terrorism it's about land theft, corruption, business and depopulation.

It's 7 times payback.

Calculate 1500X7

Agritech:
They are making things difficult for their allies.
Now America and Europe can no longer condemn Russia because Israel brutality is making Putin look like a saint.

The West might not recover from this damage to their reputation.

Only a daft will compare an unprovoked attacked of Russia in Ukraine with a terrorist attacked that claimed the lives of over 1500 isrealis.
. Every country has a war policy

Jewish law is 7 times payback according to the old Testament, the jews actually killed Jesus because he preached peace.I am a Christian and I know it's not God's will that any should perish. I really hope this war ends soon.

modernWays:
Since a man is expected to take care of his wife and children in this part of the world, it is only logical for every female to marry at least who can comfortably provide basic things for the family.

Don't insult the girl, just don't get marry when you are broke because no matter how you try to explain, society will frown at you the moment you can't provide for your family.

.
No man is broke, that word is relative , I have five million savings and I am broke for my level

Wujio:
Na so. Criticizers, how many Over 100k jons have you created. While he declines both, can you please cater for his needs till he finds job over 100k. Nonsense

Foolish 🐐

That's mine suggestion
Fo. Ol

Nor be every body dey suffer

oceanblazer:
I currently work as an a bank reconciliation officer with a monthly pay of #50k and I have an offer for a Guinness depot sales reps job.

I would love to know how financially rewarding the sales rep job for Guinness products is.

I'll really appreciate your inputs.

Dare not, anything less than 100k , don't accept for sales job

LordIsaac:
I agree with you but…sitting here and just picturing how the guy may have lifted up a cutlass to cut the lady into pieces…maybe she even pleaded with him in shock….and then, he still continued…if it were your sister, for whatever reason, you’d agree with me that no one deserves to die like that! I find it very difficult to even kill a chicken I reared. It takes a very dark and dead heart to take a human life in cold blood, least of all, for “personal material advancement.” I honestly pity her. If he hadn’t seen her to kill, he would have killed another lady out there. This is monstrous, and must be condemned in the strongest of terms. We cannot be too careful, I know, but we shouldn’t allow evil to thrive amongst us.

F.. CK u bro.
Our sisters isn't whores, if yours is

descartes400:
Is it a new phone or a fairly used phone?

If its a fairly used phone, the phone could have been rooted. GTB seems to have enhanced the security of their app to not work on rooted phones.

Many bank apps with enhanced security don't work on rooted phone. And the process to making it work can be combative.

Just Google bank apps and rooted phones to get an idea of what l'm saying.

No it's not a rooted phone. I have othe APps working perfectly on same phone

descartes400:
Yes I have. GTB app has been working since then.
Are you having issues with yours?

Yes, I changed my phone.
Over 2 months now, I just can't log in past bvn