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merit455:
waste of time,he will asked u to pay some cash....u that need help ohh. Don't take this people serious

J swear baba, see how he sounded like one caring better human being, lol... Later for dm, he go say, "this course cost 50k, but I will help u for 10k...kai, some NIGERIANS dey mad o

FreshFarmAgro:
Why do you people behave this way ? Why ?

Na u be werey oh.... Person never chop, u go say make hin give u small thing laslas.
Some Nigerians dey mad I swear

Greattestman:
I've noticed the drastic change in my mother's behaviour towards me such as compelling me to rent my own house, shouting at me for any little mistake, not helping me financially and even badmothing me to neighbours.

I took the case to my uncle (her elder brother), he said for not helping me with money, the reason is that my mother is saving money for her upcoming traditional wedding. I was surprised.

When I came back home and asked her, she unleashed anger on me and almost curse me to death. The worst part of it is giving me ultimatum to vacate my own father's house. Who the hell does that? I can't take that!!!


Seun Mynd44 nlfpmod dominique mukina2

Pls in bini, it's the parents first property the first son has right over, others are shared among siblings, it must go round

dawnomike:
If she wants you to leave, I pray God blesses and prosper you. Pls leave
It is her husband house and although no one should send you out from your father's house for another man. You just have to live to fight another day biko

Op... This kind of advise you won't get even at Lagos business school. Take this advise, nor die leave land wey go ever outlive u

oz4real83:
Come to ringroad in Benin city, some ladies will pass you, you will turn to confirm again if what you saw the first time was true . At least I'm seeing pants in the pics posted above, but you won't see anything apart from the shirt that some of them wore.

They don't wear anything under
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tydi:
One million is too much, she could cheat on her wedding day with groomsmen if any wears a better suit than her husband.

Fear women.

I will cancel too if I was in his shoes

vikstandon:
Happy Birthday in advance sweet!

Thanks so much

E fine pass the new one self

TheboyGhost:
Listen my friend.... You know where your family call the west? Where probably your entire lineage has been jostling to live in...

Now look at their mode of dressing and look at the level of their society!!!

Now compare it to your society where you have the most religious and self imposed Righteous homos!!!!


Now what my mother or sister decides to wear is not a problem and will never be a problem or even a hindrance to their development and progress as long as your pervert father and brothers will not think a dress code is a warranty for sexual assault!!!


You should be ashamed of yourself as a woman standing beside a man degrading your kind!!!

Maybe you are one of them women with long black dicks in place of a pussy!!!


Modified::

Anybody weh decide say na me em dream about for night or think about for day should mention me again with some stupid words!!!

Bleep ur dead whorish mother fool...
Let ur mother dress like a prostitute

TheboyGhost:
Men are also dressing too Smart looking for Escape goats

Can't wait to leave this stupid country!!!

Just look at what!!!!

So if your mama or sisters dress good this Xmas na Escape goat them dey find too abi?


Stupid and broke Nigerian men always placing themselves way above their worth!!

How much una dey spend on top woman self?

Maybe ur mother and sisters dress seductively to look good. If not read what op wrote and stop trying hard to be foolish

Mammie330:
I need help.

I got married few months ago after dating my husband for some years.

Our relationship was really beautiful and I was the envy of most ladies.

At some point we had a long distance relationship but Communication was smooth.

The first time he came to visit , I discovered he had been chatting with one girl, having flirty conversations and all. He said he was just catching cruise and apologized for that. I forgave him.

Another time I discovered he doesn't know how to set boundaries with ladies.
I complained about all that and he promised to change.
This is someone that comes to visit me at any given opportunity.
Then recently I found out he had been chatting with one girl on Tiktok.
The girl already started calling him baby and I saw where he told the girl he likes her already.
As usual he said it’s not serious, that he hasn’t seen the girl and he didn’t mean that.
The girl chatted him up and he flowed because he was bored.
Truth Is I’m hurt and ashamed.
Where’s the self respect?
Someone you don’t know from anywhere.
He eventually blocked the girl but I don’t even trust him anymore.
When we were together, he wasn’t anything like that and I’m wondering what went wrong.

He keeps talking about how much he loves me and how he wouldn’t have been married to anyone else if he didn’t get married to me but at this point I’m not even moved again.

I’ve asked him countless times why he is flirting with ladies online.
He said nothing.

He said he hasn’t touched any lady apart from me.
I’m actually tired of asking, I want to know what I can do to get the pain away.

He has travelled back now and I’ll be alone for a while before we start living together as husband and wife.
Should I stop talking to him?
Should I report him to my mum?
Should I play along and just develop a coping mechanism?
What coping mechanism can i develop?
Should I keep complaining?
I didn’t allow him touch me before he travelled back and he was pained.
I really just want my man, I don’t like how he’s not making me trust him anymore.
I don’t go after other peoples’ men why should mine be like this?
Can he possibly change?

Same you flirt with a guy by June abi... Ndiara, or u forgotto delete it from ur post

Basicend:
A very underated Chelsea legend. .

Those ladies shouldn't be carried like that anymore. . They have grown in a way. .

Sorry for ur life.
I pray u leave this poverty mind someday

Awesome01:
Of curs, we can do this ourselves. I am yet to see a Nigerian based in Nigeria say he has prayed and God told him his wife is in Zimbabwe, or Iraq or Yemen. Neither has any told us that God said he should marry a blind or crippled lady.

It is always that sister in the choir, or that classmate. Always someone we already know.

@OP's problem is incompatibility. Every single man or woman must always check if they are compatible with whoever they want to marry. It may not be 100% perfect, at least 80%, however the odd 20% behaviours must be the negligible ones.

Secondly, try to test your partners during courtship in many ways to know how they react to things. You will see some red flags then, which may guide you to readjust or correct some things before marriage proper.

Say what u know, many have married like that. Say what u know

Amza07:
my wife no longer respect me i canot blame her, i think the main reason is because she is fedup of the current situation am in.
I lost my job and am out of business, some days we cook without oil and somedays we fast because we do not have anything but i dont Stop loving her but why is she givingup on me now?

Never ever let a day pass without ur family feeding. It's a crime against God bro.
Worse than Adultery

shortgun:
We always want God to do things we can always do ourselves.

This one, we can't do ourself

Mammangaddafi:
How you take know say him brother no read?

So why others pass.

help2022:
No, it was not like this in the beginning and even if it were, there is already a law that abolished conditional pass. The tears and resources we put in should not be in vain simply because he failed one course. My family is in deep pain. This is not fair. A system that is hardened to the plight of it's own people should be reviewed.
As it stands now we do not even know what is on his mind as he is just weak. I am particularly scared for him.

It's not grading baba. Ur brother nor read, my little brother came out with a first class from same law school.
So let him sit up and rewrite next year. Nothing mega

Incredible128:
The people here are wicked, which kind of mother do u have? That's very unthoughtful of her considering how harsh the economy is and who the hell pushes a 20year old out of the house?

Lived with mine til 27...
It doesn't mean I'm not responsible.

Thank God today, I'm bringing her to stay with me till she joins God

ebbo:
If u are lying, may God punish u and turn ur children to exactly what you just describe above.

..
If I'm saying the truth, may you die impoverished and your seeds be scattered throughout Jigawa like the ill treated Almajirs.

blaquebelle:
And what did you do to help, within your own capacity?

You go and try it na... Make dem kill u, I buy dem noodles when I see then, share money for them, but u can't question the authority they are under

True.
Go to North, u will see Almajiri u can count their bones..
This cold seasons, they die on roads like chicken. My eyes don see am

teamc:
Got married 2yrs ago and we have a beautiful daughter, she has this dream of studying in Canada and I support her dream .
Our immigration consultant recommend she apply alone to increase chances that i and our daughter can join her later .
Now visa is out and she will be travelling next month, I have read numerous stories about how women change when they travel out .
Should I be worried?

Form experience, immediately she boards that plane, it's over. Although your case may be different.
If she has no atom of cheating in her, no ish

Timekeeper:
There is this guy that is working in my place of work, he is also a serving corp member. The thing is that this guy has already started working in another place. Now he comes to our place of work like once or twice in a week, the head of his dept knows this and does not know what to do. Meanwhile our boss doesnt know this because I am sure he will not allow such thing. This guy expects to be paid at the end of the month and i dont agree with this. I have told his dept head to tell him to choose one because the dept head is having it hard for him to cope with the burden of this guy dt he is supposed to do but wunt be able to do since he has gotten another job.

The problem is; if my boss finds out about this, the dept head, the supervisor and even I may not be paid. My boss will say we knew about it and we refused to tell him. Personally, i dont feel comfortable that a guy will be collecting allawee, doing another full time job elsewhere and also pretending to be doing full time job here in my workplace and b expecting to be paid the same amount for the month.....

Even his service, My boss is not fully aware dt he is serving but his head of dept is not having any problem with dt since CDS is just once in a week but holding 2 full jobs and NYSC is unfair to our boss. People are looking for jobs and one person is holding two jobs when it is not suppose to be so bothers me.

I have taken a decision that when it is time to pay salary, i will approach his head of dept and tell him that the guy must not be paid full salary for whatsoever. Like this guy earns over 80k from his new job, 33k allawee, and over 80k in this our organization while some people are working 24/7 in this place and they are earning 35k. I find it unfair and greedy...


Nairalanders, what do you think about this?

For those talking out of point, i dont blame you. No be you dey work na. Same you is complaining about lecturers working in 3 schools, talking abt the state of the economy but deep down, u r the same with those you are criticizing.

Let me point it out; This is not the first time our boss has withheld our salary for not informing him abt sumtin he later got to know. This is not also the 2nd time our boss has withheld this dept head salary for not informing him.... If our boss should find out abt this current one, it wont turn out well for me, dept head or even the supervisor (who is also not aware about it). My boss wunt pay us and he might relieve us from this job because he is already having so many issues with work things.

Bleep u hater... Remain a time keeper till u die

Lonelyhrt1:
Good evening everyone, so yesterday being on 14th of November at around 2:53 PM, 3 men and 1 boy came to my wife’s medicine shop which is located at Sapele Road Benin. The boy pointed at the wife that my wife sold him tramadol, one of the men flashed his ID to my wife claiming to be police (although none of them was with a gun, just handcuffs), and without delay, they ordered my wife to enter the vehicle they came with, my wife entered and was told to pay 500,000 naira (five hundred thousand naira), my wife told them she doesn’t have that kind of money moreover she’s innocent on what they’re accusing her of, they said they’re taking her to NDLEA office and when they get there they will see her she can prove her innocence, hearing this she decided to bargain with them and agreed to pay 150,000 Naira, they took her phone and didn’t allow her to call anyone, then she told them she need to her husband (me) so I can send her 50k after giving them 100,000 Naira which was sent to a first bank account
Account number 3188154057
First Bank
Ogbodo Ngozi Blessing. When she called me, I told them to take her to NDLEA office that I will meet them up, hearing that I am not sending money, they took her phone again and refused her to call or take calls from anyone else. I went to NDLEA office at Upper Sakponba Road, Benin city at about 3:50 PM, getting there I was told no lady was brought to their office.
I started calling but no response until around 6:53 PM when I got a call from my wife that they dropped her in a village hear Ovia River along Benin Lagos express road.
Today being Tuesday, November 15th, 2022. I went to the Edo State police PRO office to lay my complaints and got the unexpected response of my life, after narrating my ordeal and the first he asked was “where they on Uniform or holding a gun”? And I replied “No”. He asked again what division were they from and I told him I don’t know because my wife wasn’t too. His last question was “Wha do I want him to do since I don’t know their division”? I told him I have the account number the payment was made to, he told me to find myself a lawyer and write a petition.
Please I’m writing this to beg the general public and those in authority to please help me out not just to get back my wife’s money but also to get justice and reveal those people because I believe this isn’t their first time and it won’t be the last.
Below are the available information.

Account number 3188154057
First Bank
Ogbodo Ngozi Blessing
Vehicle number: DGE227AL (Edo)

Drivers number 0705 779 8608

Please ignore my typos. Thank you all.

Go to Twitter, tag rugeddy baba, Nigeria police, ndlea, segalink, mrmacaroni, rinu. And see wonders

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Perez99:
Happy new month y'all. I'll go straight to the point. Pls I need your advise.

Yesterday evening (6:10pm) when I came back from work, a friend of mine who live down the street invited me over to his birthday party. So I quickly freshened up and I went for the party.

There was enough drinks (alcohol), smoke and goat meat pepper soup. Although I don't smoke. I only drink and it's occasionally.

After taking few green bottles, I know I would be very hungry later, so I pleaded with my girlfriend to help me prepare jollof rice and meat, that I'm at a friend's party. I sent her 9k to prepare the food.

As at 8:45pm she called me she's already at my house with the food. So I left the party and headed home to open the door in order not to keep her waiting. Her house isn't far, it's just #100 Keke or bike down to my place

She sat on the couch playing game on her phone, I don't understand what came over me, I was under the influence of alcohol. Omoh! Alcohol na bastard.

The next thing I did, I started kissing her which she responded, she knew I was drunk, she could smell alcohol all over me, then she persuaded me to go eat my food before it's get cold and go take my bath.

Before I knew it I pushed her on the couch to lie down while I unzip my trouser, she said I should stop that she's not in the mood, I didn't listen to her, she crossed her legs so tight while struggling with me that I should stop that she's on her period yet I didn't listen to her.

I was forcing & trying to open her legs while she crossed her legs so tight struggling with me. I was almost gaining access Until she said "Peter do you realize you're about to rape me? Please stop"

Omoh! The word rape reset my head, the highness cleared off my eyes immediately. Honestly I didn't even know what I was doing. I knelt down and I begin to apologize to her.

She stood up and left immediately. I called to apologize but she didn't pick my calls. This morning she texted me saying "I thought I was safe whenever I'm with you. You scared me so much that I don't know if I could continue this relationship"

This girl is a beautiful, caring and nice girl and our relationship is just 5 months. I really love this girl. I don't want to lose her. She always give me good sex but I don't understand what happened yesterday. Infact I quit alcohol from now henceforth. Shayo na bastard. Please how do I apologize to her.

Don't apologize with text or calls... Meet her, don't let anyone hold you

Gosh234:
I will go straight to the point and make this brief. Recall this thread https://www.nairaland.com/6990203/should-marry
On March this year I got a job as ICT officer in a firm which made me move to Lagos ,we are super excited about this development and everything working out fine (No relationship is perfect, understanding kept us going)

I served in a university, towards completion of my service year, I accomodated a guy who got to know about us
One day we were in a arguement of dating or marrying someone older than you.
I stood my ground that I can marry irrespective of age, provided it is what I want
The guy came to conclusion that it seems my spouse is older than me, we laughed over it (That ends it)

Secondly my friend Davidson that live in the same compound who is done with his studies, working while waiting on NYSC.
I told him about my woman , how I love her and ready to settle down as soon as things go as planned for me (he have seen her visited once but they never met)
He asked me if she work, I told him
He asked of her age, I JUST TOLD HIM THAT SHE IS A BIT OLDER THA ME.

While discussing with my woman last night , I was assuring her how much I love her irrespective of anything then I pointed out the two above incidence
To my greatest surprise she became angry eith me
In her words
a) She detest dating underage, how she found herself in this mess she can't tell

b) I should go ahead and tell my mum and elder brother (they just talk via phone) and even all my friends

c) I make her look desperate, that she is loosing interest already

d) I insulted her and she can't trust me again

NOTE
a) I promised her that no one will know of the age difference even if they know she is older

b) I never mentioned her age to these people or the age gap

My crime is that I admitted that she is older and I am proud and love her wholeheartedly

I don't see this working out again
I feel so belittled
Gosh

Can't you see you are a child.
Carry Megaphone, go round about and announce it, Ozuor

agadez007:
your mothers in ife protested naked because a man from ijebu was made the Vc

You don't respect your mother's so I'm not surprised, una even cut una sister private part like kpomo record am.
UPON pigs. Cursed on any of my child that marry Igbo

StrongandMighty:
I wonder what's the intentions of the mod that moved this topic to the front page with such destructive headline...

But na true na... Igbos supporting igbos in the mud...
Anuofia people

Daguccizgreat:
The trend continues

The Mod that banned me from January till yesterday because I called mannabbgrills"zombie" may your next 7 months be enveloped in total crisis and frustrations

Amen

baralatie:
The custom in the north is mirrored after the Islamic which permits the husband to have more than one wife nah

I'm a Northern woman... I know what I'm saying

charlesdinho7:
men should not only focus on their wife to be beauty before settling down with her, know her anger issues. know what length she can go when angry. RIP TO THE DECEASED

Truth is you can't know all these, trust me.
Just pray God gives you the right woman