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I have been checking this thread secretly for the wedding pix...

Evina pls let's see the pix naw

Happy married life dear, God bless ur new home!

Wahala dey o... Some men/women can lie eh and they will not arrange themselves well.

Reminds me of a friend who was going about the place telling us she's a virgin(nobody asked her o) meanwhile another person told me of how she directed her to where she had an abortion..

The guy should confront her sha. No one is perfect but there are certain things u don't do or u arrange urself well.

cococandy:
If she's rhesus negative, has aborted before and didn't take the injection within the time frame to protect her next kid, she may have a still birth or a severely anaemic baby. That's so sad.
That's why ladies need to be very aware what having a rhesus negative blood type means.
And mothers should encourage their daughters who are rhesus negative to be always open about unwanted pregnancies to avoid spoiling their chances of ever having healthy kids in future.

But this your story.
[b][/b]Your sister-in-law's friend's neighbor.
Aproko to badt.

ShioOoo.... Na on top aso-ebi matter make u write dis long tory? The tin don pain u wella... Lol

U lack manners...

lordkrato:
Hmmm.. Are you a fool for hire?

If not, then I advice you change your career path.

That's how people don't get husbands in the future and wouldn't remember that they complained and formed that they wanted someone who will be their perfect clay , not even man sef

Idiot.

He thinks he owns her right? If u see some couples eh u will feel like getting married sharperly and when u hear the stories of some, marriage go tire u.
I close relation of mine when through almost same situation as the op so I understand d pains. The woman is trying to make it work but the man doesn't want a happy home. *sigh*

rudebouy:
Our soceity puts pressure on d lady to get married. And so she gets married, and day still put pressure on her to carry belle and make d marriage work. If she no carry belle, its her fault. If d marriage is not working, its her fault.

So u see, its not only d fault of d men. Besides, she was bought with a price, so literally he thinks he "owns" her. D issues are many my dear.

Dis tin called marriage no be beans oh! Its either na d woman day cos wahala or na d man day mumu.

One shd just pray for a nice partner dats all.

My dear ur case is so similar to a relation of mine. Married a man who was treating her anyhow and didn't tell her he had low sperm count. How person wey dey always quarrel with husband wan take carry belle na? She left the man to marry someone else, she's now a proud mother of a baby boy after having 2 miscarriages for her new husband. Meanwhile she didn't miss her period for one day while still with her ex.
I'm not saying u should leave ur husband o. I pray God intervenes in ur situation. Some human beings no be am at all. Them no like peace at all.

Fablady:
Thanks bigl. The issue of kids is another story entirely. Not sure I am Virgin Mary. I need sex and sperm to make a baby.

I hate when men treat women anyhow in marriages jare.. Lol

rudebouy:
Chai! Madam abeg u get bad mouth.

That is it! The society is putting too much pressure on female folks about marriage. The matter tire me I no go lie. I will like to get married o but gaskiya the man has to act right for things to work. Seriously I understand what u r going through, but I can't cope.

Fablady:
Lol@ I wan marry I wan marry. My sister, what can we do na? If only society can let us be....

I wan marry I wan marry. The day we ladies stop seeing marriage as the all in all in our existence the better for us.

Ehen op I feel ur pains o. U r a single woman only with marriage certificate, this isn't what I will wish an enemy.
I'm not married o but I can't cope with any man that will treat me anyhow. God help you!

because I type from fone I didn't have the patience to explain this. Thanks

Diamonddamsel:
In my opinion the OP claims no woman has ever had an abortion for him but never said he had not had unprotected sex with anyone in his lifetime.Then he is just lucky because any of those ladies could have gotten pregnant.What if you meet a lady who has never committed abortion but has used a lot of contraceptives which could in the future affect her fertility cos many fall in that category.If an abortion is done safely not with quacks it doesn't affect her chances of having children in the future.Im very much against abortion but I admire the lady's truthfulness.I've personally witnessed a lady who married as a Virgin wait for 7yrs while another who had done an abortion currently has 3kids.

I don hear you

chowlade:
You cannot be impregnated without you knowledge

Can't guys abstain?

Fourwinds:
did dey force d girls legs open or d girls willingly open d legs. don't forget it takes two to tangle. d guys are not saints but cannt girls say no.

As usual the men are now saints... #sigh#

Hehehe.... That's their business. Sincerely speaking I don't and won't support abortion but I hate it when guys come here to pour all the insults on ladies. Sometimes these ladies who are blinded by love are cajoled into having unprotected sex and then the guy tells u 'I'm not ready to be a father'. Its annoying mehn.

CSTR2:
Are the girls "babies" , that they can't take responsibility for their actions?
99"% of the time, the unprotected sex was consensual.
Any mumu girl that gives me this excuse in real life will get a full embarrassment.

Abeg na who dey give dem belle?
I can only spare u from this statement if u have never had premarital sex. Like the girls impregnate themselves, right?

agarawu23:
she knows about your past relationship and she still open up to you ,then I give her 3 gbosa!!!

1. her story might be false to know how much you care because her boldness for telling you such is what's strange to me

2. Guys are adviced dis days to make sure your wife to be is at least 1month pregnant before you start marriage arrangement(that's if you are financially ready to settle down)


ladies and abortion these days

I nor fall nau.... Lol

shadowgwalker:
sorry...

Some of these points made me resigned about four months ago. I haven't gotten another job and its frustrating but I don't regret leaving where I was.

When that time comes I will deal with the situation appropriately. The best is to be praying for the child. What I know is that I won't disown my baby. Shikena!

U said some, definitely there are still good ones. I respect ur decision cos me too won't want to marry a man with a child. But if I see a good man with a child I can still marry.

Fourwinds:
yeah. did u read Point number 4.?? dat alone can stop a man from marrying a single mother. for me I don't want to take d risk

Exactly. But like he said no one is above mistake. If not for the liability aspect of having a child one didn't budget, being a single mother doesn't mean the woman is wayward. It takes a very brave single woman to keep a pregnancy which eventually results to a child.

Fourwinds:
correct. Dats one very good point.
2. It will be funny to bring a girl with a kid to ur family and announce to dem u want to get weded except ur have urs already. AMANDIOHA.
3. U may have problem dealing with dat child once she/he grows up in d near future because he/she is not ur biological child.
4. Dis one is very deadly. Some women are not loyal at all. It is just like d case of a girl who will never forget d guy dat disvirgin her. Women are too emotional, d guy dat dump dem before dey find comfort in u can appear one day. Before u say Jesus, u will find her all over him and she is gone with d guy and d child. Dis one in particular, i fear women.

I was being sarcastic.

egbedore:
Extra liability you said! When does children become liabilities? They are blessings from God!

I hope her facebook wasn't hacked. I so pray it is true.

The agony of a mother!

Cos the men don't want extra liability

My friend called me this morning that she received an invite.

Thank you op.

It is well ooooo

Haba madam, 90percent? Una dey try with dis una percentages.

amokeme:
Noticed same... 90% of them are just bitter.

To the topic,
Yes, some nurses can be rude o that makes me a nurse wonder why they are so pained. But truth be told some patients and patient's relatives can be annoying. It takes self discipline to ignore some of then. But does old nurses rude sha, always annoyed with everybody and I think its individual tin not about the profession cos so many nurses are angels too.
Complain don too much about rude nurses sef. Kilode gan? Lol

Better, atleast we can rest now..

I don't even want Buhari or Jonathan. Can't we even consider the other aspirants?

I just pray for peace after the election. Shikena!

I just hope u don't end up hating yourself too...

I think u r being paranoidal.
Just take it easy.

What will u think about men that say indomie is their favorite? Cos I have met several guys who indomie is their best food.
No be every man get strong nd deep belle like ur family men, mbok....

F22RAPTOR:
Thank God for you bro, I had a close call with some of them at maitama district a few weeks back on my way back from work; two cars parked with engines running, doors opened. There are about 4 guys around and one of them starts to approach me and is like "bros abeg come make i ask you somtin". My brother, I screamed "abeg leave me" while accelerating my footsteps . After I was at a safe distance I looked back, lo and behold they had driven off. No time oh

This is funny! .... Na so u fear reach?