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Znation:
Note: most of the things she gives me, she bring it without me asking for it. And if i try to reject them, she starts to think that i'm trying to give her space, i'm seeing someone else or i don't love her anymore.. Thats why i need advice, because i don't want to loose her by rejecting what she brings for me.

Look for a way to give back, by either paying her school fees or doing something tangible for her.

Znation:
Hello nairalanders

Some people may say i'm lucky and would want to be in my position, but i really need ur advice..

My girlfriend mum have a very big provission shop, and u all know how it feels (that joy) to have such person daughther as your girlfriend.

She loves me so much that she can give me money, food stuff, all for free from their shop. infact, i don't even spend a kobo to buy anything again. All i do is just go to their shop, & collect whatever i want.

If i meet her mum when i want to buy something, i'll pay her. But if i give her N500, she will give me change of even N2000 and ask me to go. And i don't argue with her so that her mum won't notice. I will just collect the money and go.

If i call her on phone that i'm hungry, only God can tell the things she will bring for me withing just 20 minutes of calling her..

She's spending so much on me, and i think i need advice.

I thought i was a lucky man b4, but the thing is too much 4 me.

nairalanders, What should i do?

Op, please stop encouraging her abeg.
Chai! This girl must be very naive.
I guess she’s still in secondary school.

We all did same as teenagers so what she’s doing is not abnormal. Op, It’s left for you to apply some maturity and thread with caution to avoid story that touch the heart.

FutureIsFemale:
Happy 7th Anni to them.

God please bless me with a husband who knows you.

Amen to your prayer.
HWA to them.

olabrinks:
I’m not being funny but women born after 1990 should not have this stupid olden day mentality of the “kitchen belongs to me only”. It’s weird and stupid. The Kitchen does not belong to the wife of the house, if someone is hungry and they want to cook, let them cook. If someone wants to bath will they ask for permission before using the bathroom? What nonsense.

…..Come to think that this comment is coming from a female. Always making insensitive and agbero comments.
It’s not about the woman’s mentality. It’s about respecting boundaries. The OP should either respect boundaries or rent his own apartment.

My Condolences. In everything, we give thanks to God.

Fine babe.

beejaay:
So howfa with your money nowknow the truth and have peace

The money has jakpad.
I wonder when people will learn.

DoggoneDogg:
No offence but, what does she really want?

Simply enjoying her life. Doing what makes her happy. Please free her.

Happy birthday to her.

pocohantas:
I am more concerned with why you think she WANTS anything. She is simply living her life and sharing her pictures like every other human out there.

I am sure at this point she is tired of sympathy and would do fine without all the “heyaaa”.

HBD to her.

Exactly.

SirBunky85:
sorry for your loss,I hope your friend hooks you up with another guy soon.

Make I do thanksgiving first for dodging a disastrous missile . Will invite you to my thanksgiving ceremony.

SirBunky85:
sorry for your loss.ndo

You mean congratulations to me for dodging a destructive bullet

SirBunky85:
aunty,pls endure your painment in peace

Lol. You must be one of his errand boys.
Get a job anuofia.

mariahAngel:
Not to burst your bubble op, but you will hardly get the response you expect because this forum is filled with mostly bitter souls with only negative things to say about marriage.

You mean the useless guys in this forum

yetunsbay:
It's high time you begin to roll with good guys. The assumption should be that you're also bad....reason being attractive to bad guyz

Oga, read to comprehend.
Please go through my comments again.

MisterKennedy:
Good morning Nwachi

I've just read your post and I was super impressed. Please never give in to any guy asking you to get pregnant before he marries you. That's a very foolish and bizzare thing for a guy to ask. If he thinks you're barren then he has no business marrying you.

I have a female friend -- a very good, gentle, hardworking lady with a good character. A man asked her hand in marriage about 7 years ago and got married to her. And she gave birth for him. Later they found out the man has already married and has a wife and 3 children in another state.

It pained me so much because this particular lady is one of a kind. She's everything a man would ask for in a wife. And an idiot just deceived and made her look like a joke. And this is really going to affect her psychologically. Now whenever she talks to me she's ashamed and has a very low self esteem.

You did the right thing dear. I respect you so much. You might be on the verge of accepting his deceptive proposal but God has saved you.

I have also read your profile and I respect the kind of woman that you seem to be and your mindset.

Wow! Thanks for this, Sir. God bless you.
I’m glad to know that there are still sensible and well brought up guys on Nairaland.

I’m so sorry about your female friend. One of my cousins almost fell into this same trap in August this year but God saved her. The man is even married with three children (a boy and 2 girls) in Owerri. Their wedding card was even out. The experience really shattered her. She’s yet to recover from the shock till today. I advice ladies to always take their time to ask questions about any man that approaches them for marriage, don’t be in a hurry to accept his proposal and jump into bed with him, and don’t totally believe all that he tells you. Above all, pray for God to give you a discerning spirit.
God will help us sha.

Salako01:
You cut your story into half and wanted to have conversation with other ladies. You sef. Why are you now talking about this part now, why didn't you include it into the main story. People up there have given answers based on the half baked story you dished.

Oga, you’re right. Would have added more details.
Anyways, the married guy in question is following the thread and has been in my inbox begging me not to include more details. Na coded player im be.
Will respect that. Don’t want to scatter any home.

SirBunky85:
why not also share your sex experience with the said guy?abi una no have sex before his proposal?

The guy in question is online following this thread.
I can give you his monicker so you can ask him yourself.

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SirBunky85:
thank which god?so for your mind,the man never sample her kpekus?don't forget, the op is a hooker

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I learnt from your mama.

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SirBunky85:
gbam.you discernment acumen is very active. For a friend to have hooked her up means that, the op lives a flirting lifestyle

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Thrash

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SirBunky85:
he was just whining the naive op

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Qualer:
Where are you at the moment.

I dey my village.

cococandy:
Why do you people support evil? The man clearly had evil intentions for her.
And you all will still have the most to say about single mothers.

Don’t mind them. World people.

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Newboss:
Exactly what you're. I see you.

Have fun.

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Your mum you mean. Lol.

yetunsbay:
Eeyah u must have met with bad guys already. I understand

By their fruits comments, you shall know them.
Most of the guys on Nairaland are terrible.

[s]quote author=cerpvad post=107117126]The guy did the right thing. He already knew that you are a time waster so he quickly grabbed the alternative available to him.

Many ladies have taken birth control drugs for a long time and this has affected their fertility. Guys please insist on pregnancy before marriage.[/quote][/s]

[[s]quote author=cerpvad post=107117126]The guy did the right thing. He already knew that you are a time waster so he quickly grabbed the alternative available to him.

Many ladies have taken birth control drugs for a long time and this has affected their fertility. Guys please insist on pregnancy before marriage.[/quote][/s]

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Newboss:
You see how you suddenly changed the story from being pregnant to being married? You think say we be mumu?

Abeg park well with your lies

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Thrash.

yetunsbay:
Ma'am, I won't mind linking up as you must be one

No Oga. Most of the guys in this forum di egwu.

Evercurious:
But why taking this so personal? Haabaaa!!!

He’s the guy in question, he’s so bitter. Lol..

Youngpo413:
You are regretting,it' obvious..

Oh really? Lol

yetunsbay:
Not nowadays,I disagree

There are but very rare.

Torosk1:
Your pxssy will be like this when you're ready

Was that how your mummy’s own was when she got married?