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Shugaryme: You don learn new one? Who do you wanna use it for?

you wouldn't want to know

angela98: I ask for it many times he kept posting me..hmm Wetin eye never see

maybe he wanted to make it special and the moment just never came, or he couldn't get it up. Or maybe he's into _bdsm and was just pitying you.

Hehehe... Angela98, seriously? I don learn new one Maybe he wanted you to ask for it.

eph12: I thought we were. Anyways I have moved on since then. I actually wanted to get really serious with someone before but now I don't even think about having a relationship now. Business and money comes first. No time!

hmmm... Yes o, get the car first and you'd never run out of females looking to take a ride

@Op see what your fellow girls do to guys on a regular basis The girls haven't come with their fake tales yet.

I'm just here to read comments and learn sha. This sexy soul doesn't even have a dating experience

eph12: She called me to meet up the next day again I agreed but when she called the next day I was already in a bus to Lagos. It was in the east. We haven't seen since then though she really apologised.

ehya, that's bad. Were you guys officially dating or were you still wooing her?

Hmmm... Shugaryme, tell us yours. Lead by example

HumanPsycho: you seem low down the line. And if I have to start defining what an alpha male is to you then the conversion isn't worth it afterall, you keep defining alpha male based on the pick up community that is why there is an argument am coming from a more social and Psychological stand point, you are seeing things from a micro stand point, from the seduction perspective thats why you find it hard to get it. Forgeting that body language isn't just about seduction but simple communication using non verbal cues, that is exactly why things like IDEALITY elude you. Now in few words this is exactly what am saying: Body language is dynamic based on settings and it is never and by no means static niether does a single signal describe a situation every single time it is seen. I do hope that helps throw meaning into it. You seen enthusiastic about seduction which is only one of many situation that employs the same principle in social psychology called non-verbal communication.

awww... Someone's trying so hard to sound smart. In your first post, you insinuated that being alpha male makes you able to send attraction signals without truly being attracted. It really must be totally unrelated to seduction. Since I pointed it out, you have been changing colours like a chameleon.

Wake up, look at the topic of this thread and smell the coffee. Love signals. It means the whole of social psychology to you, doesn't it?

I'm not out to argue the whole of body language with you. I only quoted you because of the flaw in your initial post. It's fine if you insist you are right, and make strawman arguments to derail the real bone of contention. Typical pseud.

How someone would argue so passionately without having a clue what he's really arguing about, baffles me. This conversation is pointless. Good day,

I want to play jor... But I'm lost

deife: Lol. But come to think of it MzPreshie, Spacegoat is just trying to be humorous. He speaks well. We shouldn't take everything that is posted seriously. By the way, the word is spelt "grammAr".

ouch!

fruityjojo: Our secret has been exposed ! Op is a Genius!

watch your sarcasm fly over NL heads

HumanPsycho: Calm down before you derail am not in contention or negating whatever you are saying you've successfully repeated the same thing am saying an AFC turn PUA is just a typical example of those who have mastered the cluster of attraction language. Now there are another set of people, THE Naturals. They aren't fake, infact people assume attraction for this set of people until proven inocent, all this's down to a natural aoura they create not because they learn any of those non verbals but because they were born with it (charms), now anyone going about with a piece on body language in an artificial sense is down to get disappointed, I have a first-hand idea of what am talking about body language speaks 60 and 70% of communication based on settings, but there are the exception. Just like not all the thoracics are swift, not all alimentic are slow, not all musculars are troublesome. Just get it atleast if not from anywhere that there is a set called the IDEALS, they are naturals, they are not found everywhere, they definately deviate from the norm I hope you meet one some day maybe a female version. And may I correct your notion an analyst is always an analyst there no such as psuedo analyst because there is a reference point every other you find are mere admirers.

smh... This exactly is who a pseud is. Trying so hard to impress. Do you realise that you are mixing up being attractive for being attracted? Charms is part of being 'attractive', not 'attracted'. No wonder you keep presenting alpha male status as the reason you can fake body language. I wonder who taught you that.

Alpha males are attractive, and so are Rakes. However the reasons are different. You do not become a master of body language by being alpha. That's balderdash. Alpha males are attractive because they are confident and seem in charge while with other males. Females are naturally attracted. Rakes are attractive because they are masters of body language and use it to their advantage. They can easily read female body language signals, and send theirs just as easily. This is the group you are describing.

Being Alpha and being a Rake are neither synonymous nor mutually exclusive.

Every other thing you added in your post is simply information ill-dressed to the discussion.

If it looks like a dog, runs like a dog, eats like a dog, barks like a dog... It could be a turtle. Yeah, calling it a dog is a single story. *rolling eyes off thread*

HumanPsycho: Now am telling you that I could mirror act all of those, inculcate it within and still play it out in what is called puedo-persona and it wouldn't still mean anything except to help me get my way with anyone male or female, in essence what am saying is that body language, face reading and what ever you want to add to it eventually fails and do not necessarily mean absolute accuracy for the lay man to start using it in social judgement, except you are a natural at picking cues you would be in for a disappointment. And YES only alpha males can perfect that I mean the AMOG's and not AFC's turn PUA's if get me.. coming from a professional psycho-analyst| post-freudilian.

smh, until you realise that faking the attraction body language cluster is a PUA thing and not an AMOG thing, you know nothing Jon Snow.

You guys have a warped view of dominance. You sound like being alpha male is written on stone. One could be AMOG in a group and yet not be when in another group because there's a more dominant male. An AFC could learn enough to become confident and even be AMOG with a set of people. Thought you'd know that. Well, there are pseuds who think themselves psycho-analysts.

Eminem - Rap god

Been on repeat for days now.

Lol. Everybody get wetin e dey find from relationships na. Men and women. People rarely try hard to please after getting married. It's not just women.

That's what happens when people see marriage as an end in itself and do not give advance thought to what happens afterwards.

HumanPsycho: You are on your own! I will do all of those things consciously and am still not interested as an alpha male. Same goes with BETA girls.

smh @ pseudo-alphas... Being alpha male is with respect to other guys, not girls. The only effect is that he's more attractive to females than his peers and may find it easier to get female attention. However if he's interested in a girl he still would unconsciously display the body language attraction cluster.

It's not the same as being the typical Rake (casanova) who have learned to consciously flirt at the slightest opportunity.

*sighs*

NL girls can lie sha. Why una dey lie like this?

Pyroclast: I wasn't hyper, bro!
Them dey do Vet Medecine for Uniben?
Juz asking o!
I'm still not hyper.

I missed the part in that post where she mentioned vet medicine. Point it out or chillax. I based my comment on that her post I quoted.

Na wa o. People reading our posts would think we are struggling to prove we know her better. I no follow you drag babe jare.

Pyroclast: No, its UI!
Female Katangites

maybe so, but calm down, we no dey drag babe. Uniben has a Queen Idia hall too.

Em... Number 2... What's the basis for saying that having 23 people (253 possible combinations) would give an approximate 50% chance of matching birthdays? They only explained a simple 23nCr2 and jumped to a 50% solution.

How did they arrive at that conclusion, knowing that for each combination, we have a (4/1461) probability of same birthday?

Someone explain biko

Edited: ok, I understand now.

Godspearl: I had a lot of roommates while in school (15) 4 in a room from 100level to 600 except 200 when I stayed off-campus.100 level 1of my roommate ok my bunkky like putting her stuffs on my bed cuz I was closer to d wardrobe which I don't like,400 level 1 of my roomate farts too much chai,500level my coursemate who happens to be my roommate uses my stuff without my consent and she begs too much(ojukokoro),600level my roommate brings too many guys into d room which makes me uncomfortable. I also av my flaws cuz I have terrible mood swings and can talk to u dis minute and d next minute I don't wanna talk to u.Queen Idia Hall...Live and Let's Live

uniben... Hall 2... Shotput...

@ topic, living with strangers is never rosy. Many things can easily be forgiven, but the thing I disliked the most was when a room mate would lay on my bed without a shirt on and even get up sweating

gohome: Feminism.

A dirty word in some circles. When I hear the word, I think of fiery black women with dreadlocks or white women in badly fitting suits. Don’t ask me where these images come from; I don’t know. I do want to know: what’s all the fuss about?

I am a Nigerian woman. I am educated. I hold a job that pays me the same as my male colleagues. I voted in the last election. I can drive. I can own property… Now that I think about it, what exactly does being female forbid me from?

I can’t be out by myself late at night. Common sense. I could be robbed and/or raped. But that isn’t feminism’s war. That’s a function of security. A guy would be vulnerable too. Well, being female puts you at a disadvantage in the corporate world, some say. You can’t be a top-level executive. And they have stats to prove it. I’ll get back to that in a bit.

There are societal norms about how I should interact in society as a woman. But I think that those norms are shaped by the family I grew up in. I was told I was intelligent. Not relative to a boy. Intelligent in my right. The world was my oyster, the sky my limit, my life was charmed. My future was placed before me in pragmatic terms. I could be a career woman like my mother, keep a store close to home like both my grandmothers or be a housewife like many of my cousins. Each was a valid option and growing up, I was exposed to the pros and cons of each.

And this is the thing. A woman should have choices. We may not always agree with those choices (to stay with an abusive husband, to never marry, to take up a job, to become a housewife, to drop out of school) but they’re hers.

I was taught to respect men, to honour the man I would eventually marry. I like to think that my future husband was taught to respect women, like my brother was taught, like my sons will be. But I was also taught to pay for my drink. To be content with what I had. To earn my money without selling my dignity.

Society didn’t teach me this. Family did.

Yesterday, I took a male friend out to dinner. I called the waitress over. I requested the menu. I ordered. And when we were done, I requested the bill. When she got to our table, the waitress made to give it to him. I stretched out my hand to take it. She ignored me, and still pushed it to him. He smiled and handed it to me. The look on her face as I counted out the money from my wallet was priceless. Was I offended? No. Amused, more like. And frankly, I considered it too small to hold a grudge. I don’t blame society, I understand that it’s a function of her family and upbringing.

And then, there are bars/restaurants/clubs who refuse entry to unaccompanied women. On one hand, I find it amusing that a public establishment would seek to make moral choices for its patrons. On the other hand, I would boycott such an establishment. If you don’t want my custom, why would I force it on you? My own money? But I also think that this is a petty battle, and one I wouldn’t waste effort on.

What battles would I be interested in? Poverty alleviation. I hear of families that send only their sons to school because they think their daughters could do no better than to marry well. But often, these families can’t afford to send everyone and so they have to make a choice the best they know how. But what if they could afford to send them both? Would they still refuse? I could be wrong, but I don’t think so. And so our battle should be getting them across the poverty line. I know a mother who runs a small kiosk to support her family. Getting a bank loan to expand her business would be difficult. But that’s not because she’s female. Her husband is a vulcanizer (Nigerian term for a person who fixes tyres), and I daresay getting a loan would be difficult for him as well. It’s not really a gender problem, but one of class distinction.

Gender equality battles aren’t complete if we don’t fight for men’s rights, as well. Does this sound odd?

Back to the corporate arena. I overheard female colleagues complain that we aren’t well represented in our company’s leadership. They insist that D & I should be brought to bear. I differ. Leadership should be given to the most capable, not shared between the genders. If I want to be manager (as a male or a female), I have to work harder and longer than my peers to develop the right competencies faster. That’s easier when I’m unencumbered by family commitments. However, if after getting those competencies, I was turned down and the job given to a less competent male, then I would cry foul.

If I have a family, it gets harder. Some jobs are inherently incompatible with raising a family. With a family, I simply will not have enough time to develop those competencies faster than my peers. As a parent, I have a responsibility to raise my child. I can’t balance this with working long hours unless I have a very supportive husband. Let’s say he supports me 100% and he’s willing to take responsibility for our child. If he’s a house-husband, this is easy. But house-husbands aren’t common. Men have not been wired by their families to be house-husbands. So he has a job. Will his job let him close at 3.30 to pick our child from school? Will his job allow him take the afternoon off to take our child to hospital? Or his school’s soccer game? No. Women get those breaks in some companies, men hardly ever. And so this is what I think should be feminism’s cause. Flexible working hours for both sexes, so that each spouse can choose to support the other. Not just women, but men too. My husband should get paternity leave as long as mine so that if I choose to return to work a week postpartum, he can stay home to care for our infant. Amen?

There is the aside that even with these perks, some men would not support their wives’ ambitions. A shame, but that’s all it is. Society (or a movement) cannot force a man to support his wife, it’s a personal choice. The same way it’s a wife’s personal choice to support her husband.

But don’t hand me a promotion because it’s the politically correct thing to do. It’s an insult to my intelligence, and tells me I wouldn’t have been good enough otherwise.

wow! I totally love this! I just had to quote the whole thing. Now here's a lady with lots of self-esteem, not those feminists playing the gender victim card at every opportunity and demonising men to make themselves feel better with their lives. Respect!

APC is PDP. PDP is APC. Blind opposition is hypocrisy. Democracy is an illusion.

Awww... Terribly self-centred as is typical of many women. She's only somewhat strange cos she chose her husband over children. Did she consider what her husband wants?

Lol. Are we talking about child marriage? Groom an adult with deeply entrenched values and attitudes, to become something different from what she is? All the best trying.

So why is the bride called 'bride'?

@ xp17 and @ AdeniyiA, you guys are presumptuous mehn... So easy to assume people breakup without trying to make it work. Why judge her path when you haven't walked her journey? (AdeniyiA's signature anyone?)

Dating is meant to test the waters, to see if you guys are good enough for marriage together. It's not marriage itself. If there are intolerable traits you discover in the other person before marriage, you are supposed to hang on forever because? Get real jare.

Ha!

Em... There's no painless way, much less a most painless way. If there's strong attachment, it would definitely hurt, though much less if you let go gradually.

In other news...

I disagree jor. Social stare (the eyes/lips triangle) is not for potential lovers. The intimate stare is. There's always a bit of sexual attraction in any romantic attraction, even if we may not realise it.