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zboyd: Q. 1 - Yes.

Q. 2 - We both did.

Q. 3 - Over here, your child has to attend only those schools in his or her district - popular or poor. It's a tax thing. Your only alternative are private schools, Catholic schools, charter schools or do home schooling. You can risk using a friend's or relative's address ho lives in a region with better schools, but if you get caught, you will have to transfer your child to his or her home school.

Thanks for 1 and 2. I'd get back to them.

Q. 3 Ok better choices. Let me rephrase. Please answer this is it is, an assumption. Never mind if the circumstances can truly happen. Let's say you both don't like the (public?) school in the district. Good thing you have alternatives. Your husband wants your child (one of them) to go to a Catholic school. You don't want that at all, you prefer a private school. Your husband insists. You insist.

What school would your child eventually go to?

Ehya... So some girls think men see them as fools because they are girls.

Self-esteem issues, I'd say.

Lol. He just opened his wallet and gave you 2 million for shopping. Naira? Dollars? Pounds? Euro? The way people make up tales on this forum (especially this section) ehn...

Zboyd, good to know you have kids. Let's start with these three questions. Tell me...

1) Do you bear your husband's name?

2) Who named your kids?

3) Let's say your family just moved to a new home. Your husband wants one of your kids who is a minor to go to a particular popular school because of the legacy, but you don't like the school at all. You don't want your child there, probably because of the behaviour of some of kids who go there. Your husband insists. Your child doesn't mind any school.

Tell me, would your child go to that school as your husband wants, or would you have your way?

eighTHREAD: If you are this way, online, I shudder to think how you are offline.

relax, many tigers online are lambs in reality.

zboyd: If you had been following my posts, I stated more than once that I am not a follow-follow type of woman.

I have no need to follow the ideology of some white women unhappy with their lot with white men (Feminism)...because that's where the concept started...with middle-class white women who wanted a life outside of being a housewife and mother and their husbands wouldn't allow them to.

Therefore, I am not a feminist.

I follow ZBoydology - I think for myself.

If you believe "submission encompasses something different and can even accommodate mutual respect"...then why not spread the word because some people are obviously confused.

Btw...your nastiness DIDN'T fly over my head...and is duly noted.

One other thing...why are you getting all heated over a discussion of "submission"?

Very curious.

Anyways...thanks for your response.

yeah, you aren't follow follow... You just by chance happened to have the same ideology with radical feminists. They argue that a woman should not submit to her husband or even bear his name. Do you think it's right to bear a man's name just because you both are married?

Who says identifying with others who share your beliefs makes you 'follow follow' or somewhat inferior to them? Is that how low you esteem yourself?

I know you think for yourself... I've agreed as many times as you have informed me Your opening post which was not original to you, just came on its own, and opened a thread for itself. You did not try to hide behind the words of a 'Reverend' who thinks the Bible is archaic, just as you do. I understand

Do me a favour, always directly answer the question you are asked, instead of meaninglessly beating about the bush. It's not congruent with your intelligence claim. Please note... This favour is not an act of submission, so feel free.

Well, I don't carry a book everywhere I go. Say wetin? Hmmnph!

fellis: I unfollowed this thread before, I was mentioned by two people, that's why I came back and I want to add something very important to this thread.

You ladies should NEVER let any man deceive you into thinking that being more emotional than logical makes you mentally deficient and is a valid basis for their deciding how you live your life.

Ideally, normal human beings should be 50% logical/ 50% emotional. Emphasis on ideally.

In decision making, The Rule of Balance should be applied. Both logic and emotions should come into play, none is less important and none is useless.
An entirely logical decision making process is devoid of compassion, cold, calculating and slower than an emotional decision making process. Slower because logical thinking has to examine evidence from previous experiences or knowledge in order to come to a valid conclusion. Another problem is that logical thinking is not perfect, it has flaws and the logical decision maker is prone to unintentionally making any one of the countless logical fallacies that constitute problems in logical thinking.

1. Fallacy of Division
2. Fallacy of Equivocation
3. Ad Hominem
4. Red Herring
5. Non Sequitor
6. Straw man argument, Circular argument, begging the question etc, etc, etc.

So as you can see from the list above, a person being more logical than emotional does not automatically mean that they will be better at decision making because logical thinking has it's own flaws
A leader need to know how to equally balance emotions AND logic

Besides, most neuroscientists have agreed that well over 90% of our behavior is generated outside of consciousness and from our subjective life experiences as humans.

Women, your being emotional doesn't make you more foolish than men by default, don't fall for that lie. Emotions is what makes women more loving and compassionate and caring. That's why you don't see many female armed robbers or hired assassins or rapists or serial killers.

mehn... You peeps know how to pick the extreme out of the whole range of a point. So if I say the average woman is more emotional than logical, it means she's mentally deficient? Is that how you imagine men see you? You sound sad... almost pitiable.

Well no one is totally logical or totally emotional. Emotions move one toward a goal, logic guides him/her. A woman can be guided by logic, and a man can be moved by emotions. Being emotional doesn't make one _stupid. It only means she's more likely to let emotions shape her decisions.

You seem to be mixing them up. When you decide based on past experiences, that's not being emotional. It's being logical. Look at it this way...

A moth perches on my hand today and I freak out and kill it. After examining it, I discover that it is incapable of biting or stinging me.
SCENARIO A: Tomorrow, a similar moth perches on my hand. I remember that it cannot bite me or sting me, but I freak out all the same and kill it. That's being emotional.
SCENARIO B: Tomorrow, a similar moth perches on my hand. I don't like the feeling. I recall what I've discovered, that it cannot sting me, and simply brush it off. That's being logical.

My point is that the average woman is likely to play out scenario A.

When a woman kills her own baby because she feels a strong dislike for it, is that a lack of emotions?
When a man kills another person out of vengeful anger, is that a lack of emotions?
Being controlled by emotions doesn't make one automatically better off as there are good and bad emotions.

Hmmm... So easy to hate things about other persons even when we are guilty of worse.

zboyd: If everyone thought for themselves, then they wouldn't give a hoot what anyone else thinks of them and their decisions.

In my opinion, other people's thoughts broaden your horizons and opens your mind to other truths, possibilities and perceptions.

Narrow-mindedness only gives you a narrow-minded view of the world.

Knowledge is power.

Embrace it!

yeah yeah... You'd like to believe you are the only human who thinks for herself. How about a nice round of applause for your intellect? I wonder how my sarcasm managed to fly over your head.

After you copied and pasted questions from another mind that fits your ideology (so much for thinking for yourself), and I answered them, did you find any meaningful objection? Nah, all you did was spam the thread with the same argument that you think for yourself. Since when did that become the bone of contention?

I simply said you are feminist, and you are yet to deny or accept it. All you did was attempt another strawman. Don't tell me you are ashamed of being feminist.

You believe submission can only mean being a thoughtless female robot controlled by a man. I believe submission encompasses something different and can even accommodate mutual respect. How come I'm the narrow-minded one?

Stop the self-deception, for your own sake.

The alternate account SAMBARRY is busy endorsing each of the op's post. Are you her account or do you belong to some other person?

One 'Sticking Around'. Matchstick figure graphics.

zboyd: Em...I follow my own mind.

I'm not a follow-follow type of woman who allows herself to be swayed by some mindset formulated by white women unhappy with their standing in the white man's world. That's THEIR lot in life - not mine.

I think for myself.

Is that confirmation enough?

technically, everyone thinks for himself. I'm yet to see two separate persons controlled by one brain. If that's what you mean, I agree.

If it isn't, I also agree, seeing that you composed your opening post by yourself and didn't merely paste someone else's thoughts. All the best painting a toad orange with black stripes to make it a tiger.

blueberryp: nice point u have there but men make it look like its a birthright, if u want anyone to submit to ur leadership u should be worthy of the role of a leader. Its just like the case of the president nd d citizens, nigerians r the ones suffering d effects of the presidents wrong decision. I believe a woman should only be submissive to a man who is worthy of it not just every tom, dick n harry with a tail between his legs

yes, many men make it look like a birthright, and it is not unrelated to the fact that the society promotes that idea. It starts from childhood.

Some parents teach their boys that they deserve special rights or should lead because they are boys even if they have an intellectual or moral deficit. Same way many girls are taught that a man is a meal ticket and their body parts entitle them to preferential treatment.

The men who know what true leadership entails do not abuse it, they know that leadership must come before submission, and they are never content to receive submission on a platter of golden female helplessness. When a man takes the lead in a loving manner, his wife naturally submits.

dagentility: M

what does it profit a man to quickly write 'M' and miss first page anyway

tracyfemmmm: When did feminism come into this now did the op say she was a feminist abeg leave us alone oh.

isn't that obvious? Ask the op for confirmation.

Em... No 'full stop' or 'comma' on your keyboard?

Well said... The reality many people choose not to see.

When we say feminism is anti-marriage and anti-family, you femi-nazis would cry foul. Here:

1) An obvious strawman. When did men say submission is THE recipe for success? Hard work is the recipe for success, and at times such hard work is rubbished by arrogant insubordination. If you or your pseudo-Reverend knew the least about social psychology, you'd have realised that dominance and submission is a recurring theme in all human and animal relationships even between platonic friends.

2) I like the way the first two questions are asked without adding marriage to the picture, so you femnists can shift goal posts when you like. I would answer the way it was asked. The key advantage of female submission is the same as the key advantage of male submission to higher (managerial or political) authority. It helps stem unnecessary conflict and it's effect.

3) There's no real 50-50 partnership anywhere in the world that doesn't involve signing legal documents to that effect. Why? To stem future conflict. Why? The average human likes to be dominant over 'equals'. How does this relate to marriage? The man and the woman are not equals in every sense of the word.

Women are generally physically weaker than men. The average woman is more emotional than logical, unlike the average man. Many women have fluctuating emotions because of hormonal issues (pms and post-natal depression anyone?)

A submissive woman helps build up her home and earns the admiration/respect of her husband (if he's reasonable).

4) About the same reason you femi-nazis call every criticism of women misogyny. If you grab every chance to attack the generality of the male folk without ever praising the good parts as if there isn't any, if you blame them for your misfortunes (but never yourself), exaggerate bias against women but downplay bias against men, and bring up gender equality only when it suits the female-folk; face the truth, you are a bitter, man-hating feminist. If you maintain that women don't need men, that makes you lesbian.

5) Many men are brought up from childhood (a mother is usually involved in this training) to believe they are the natural heads of the family. For this, some do not bother trying to earn the respect of their wives. If you BELIEVE you are the head of your firm, how would you view an employee who likes to think you have no right to set any rules? Be sincere.

6) Same reason some people (male and female) defraud others who are trusting. Same reason some ladies lie to get men in prison for a _rape that never happened. Same reason some women maim or kill their innocent babies. It's not because they are men. It's because they are terrible persons.

7) If a man is a monster, he deserves to be treated as one. If he isn't, don't give a dog a bad name so you can hang it.

8 ) Societal norms, family upbringing (including those mothers who pamper their sons), religion. Such a view is as widespread as the view that you must never hit a woman, no matter what she does. Same source, same flaws.

9) See number (6) above. In addition, although domestic violence is bad, a woman should try not to provoke the man unnecessarily with her tongue. There's no monopoly of abuse (verbal abuse is also abuse)

10) Again, it's not because they are men. It's because they are reasonable persons. That's a man that has earned his wife's respect and natural SUBMISSION. Conflict doesn't result in happy families. It could also be because they have a wife who isn't a bitter, selfish, man-hating, blame-pushing feminist.

NB: You feminists seem to have a warped view of submission. It doesn't mean being a puppet or blind obedience. It's simply letting the other person lead. In a group of women, there's always a natural leader. For whatever reason the other women look up to her and let her lead (even without realizing it). Why is submission an issue when it involves men?

fhunn: There is this mod whatsapp am using called 1GWhatsapp that can send up to file size of 1gb can telegram do that?

something is said to be able to send data of unlimited size and you are asking if it can send up to 1GB? Na wa o.

Smh... Saying I love you is not a greeting. Why worry who says it first or if the other person would say it back?

They totally copied whatsapp and made notable improvements. Been weeks since I installed yet just one inactive person on my contacts. It's the way every chat app starts out though.

With enough publicity, it might take over from whatsapp, though I doubt it.

Hehehe... "From abinitio..." This babe no get joy for big big legal jargon o.

If you tell the guy about it yourself, e go bite you for shoulder like Suarez? If you are afraid, keep reminding your landlord till it stops. CO can kill sha, remember that when you are afraid.

It's nice you want to face your studies, not date (him?) but your siggy and profile pic sha

Ishilove: Na Amukoko you dey so you no qualify

It is known. Grin with me, my dear... Yeah, right there... Don't stop... *deep sigh of obvious satisfaction*

*grinning sheepishly for no reason*

softsparkyy: No I dont,please tell me something.

keep an honest diary and you'd likely find out

xtervaganza: even if they're just friends....




That's insulting




I'll delete her number that moment and never speak to her again

lol. Yeah it is a terrible thing to do, but people do similar stuff anyway. A girl doesn't just become a real friend simply because she's willing to help a guy spend his cash.

Such action from a mere female friend wouldn't hurt as much as from a romantic partner. Big difference.

softsparkyy: Wether he is still wooing or dating her ooo, it's so unfair.

like people care what is fair and what isn't. As long as they aren't on the receiving end, "all is fair in love and war." You might be different, I don't know, but girls string guys on a daily basis. They just expect the guys to "be a real man" and overlook it.

You know how some girls treat their wooers na.

technophile: simply cut their d*ck, like they did to Theon Greyjoy in the game of throne

and the female paedophiles?