₦airaland Forum

OAM4J: He is from Argentina, first South American Pope

Yes. That's good. Catholic church I opening up into the new millenium. Afterall latinos and African are the backbone of the church today.

Sweetlemon: Should I insist on helping with the cooking if they turn down my offer? They have maids who do the housework. If I try to help out with the work will it look like I'm trying too hard?
He's said some nice stuff about his family. But who doesn't say nice things about their family?? *sighs
As for sharing the same room with him, that wouldn't happen because we haven't even had sex yet.

You may not get to read this cos I am not a popular NL person, but just be yourself. Please wake up early and change out of your nightgown. I even suggest you take a bath first thing in the morning and dress properly. Don't loll about with your nightie. Don't wear revealing clothes no matter how trendy they are. Even for those of us who are already married we dress carefully around our mother in laws. Also don't try too hard. Just try to be with his sisters as much as you can and blend with them. This is not the time to spend with your guy but spend a lot more time with his family members. Also be sensitive, when they want to have a family chat take a cue and give them some space. Always try to leave when he sits with his mum for a chat. Let them be the ones to ask you to stay. My mother in law loved this about me before I got married. Also don't give unsolicited opinions or advice all the time. Listen more and talk less. I wish you all the best. You are lucky you aren't intimate yet, that's usually the tricky bit.

Space is important in marriage but should be only occasional. Every woman should have a few minutes to unwind before going to bed. However separate rooms is a no no! Not even for putting your stuff. But if you must have one, make sure there is no bed in it. It's always so tempting to sleep alone after a quarrel. Unfortunately, it only widens the gap in the marriage. It's better to sleep on the same bed with your backs turned. When you realize you are no longer enjoying your sleep you will be forced to make up.

I remain faithful to my husband of 15 years because I am so committed to my marriage. No matter how strong your love is, there will always be temptations. A lot of times women invite temptation by being unnecessarily nice. Be committed to your marriage. Be reserved as a married woman and comport yourself well. Occupy yourself with God, your career, kids and your husband. There will be no room for the devil.

Apart from missing out on heaven,my greatest fear is losing my darling husband of 15years the way my mum lost my dad when I was quite young. There is no basis for that fear but its just there sometimes in my subconscious. I pray God gives us both long life.

maclatunji: Maybe because they know that their daughters are having sex anyway with different men all in the name of courtship and they are like: "there is no perfect man anywhere, choose a reasonable one and make progress with your life."

. Very true. Parents have been taking care of you since you were born and believe me they know what it means to grow old alone without a partner. They can't help but mount that pressure. Its just like how they pressured you to pass jamb. They mean well. A lot of ladies are looking for utopia in a man that's why they stay single.

uceee: The singular worst problem Nigeria has is our cultural and religious diversity. We have very different orientations. What do we even have in common? That is why there is no sense of nationhood or a collective purpose to excel. Most would say the problem is our government, but our government is just a very clear reflection of the people. Everybody wants what is best for himself, his family and his tribe in that order. Who then wants what is best for Nigeria? Nobody.

. I totally agree. I attended a federal school and we all spoke only one language: English. We didn't remember tribe or even religion when we made friends. I am one of the people who believe that we would be better off if we were homogenous. Diversity will always breed suspicion and corruption.

Well I guess you are talking about men less than 50years and married less than 10years in Nigeria. A lot depends on how rich he is, the kind of work he does and the pattern both of you set early in your marriage. If he is a very busy and rich bizman who comes home after a stressful day expecting to be pampered, lady even if you are MTN CEO, he will not cook and clean for you oh! The best thing is not to expect too much, do the much you can, get a housekeeper if you are a career woman and appreciate the little or much he can do for you. Whether we like it or not,women are home makers, men are providers.

Actually I dont think those tests are done for doctors that trained in recognized foreign schools such as top uk and us schools. Most of them trained in Ukraine and eastern bloc countries and believe me those schools are NOT better than our med schools. Our medical graduates are doing very well in uk and us because their training and practice is based on a basic knowledge of medicine and not reliance on labs and diagnostic gadgets. Parents should be very careful when they send their children ABROAD for studies. The grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence.

Julesbloom: Golden morn old pack doesnt hv dz age restriction. but its nw on their new pack which amazed me cos hav bn given it to my baby gal since she was 1yr but nw i hv stoped it cos lately she started complaining of stomach cramp wen am giving her d golden morn.
i think nestle company jux discovered it dat its nt suitable for age 2 n below

Julesbloom: Golden morn old pack doesnt hv dz age restriction. but its nw on their new pack which amazed me cos hav bn given it to my baby gal since she was 1yr but nw i hv stoped it cos lately she started complaining of stomach cramp wen am giving her d golden morn.
i think nestle company jux discovered it dat its nt suitable for age 2 n below

I raised all my 4 kids with golden morn which I usually introduce at 9months or so. However my last 2 didn't tolerate it. Rather than constipation it caused them to pass frequent though non watery stool . Literally used to poo poo about 30 minutes after a bowl of gmorn. However in the past that warning wasn't there. I wonder why?

All these our zigzag movement in this country. I thot Sanusi was promoting a cashless economy. I simply couldn't understand how a 5000 note could have helped achieve that. Kudos to GEJ for quickly reversing to status quo.

I always told my husband who used to admire the man's "success" story that the guy is just a noisy fraudster and that soon his ill gotten empire will collapse like a pack of cards.

THANKS To my God first for creating opportunities for me all my life and sending me a wonderful husband. To my Mum who stayed with my children anytime I was on call at the hospital. To my late father who made me love maths and science. To my siblings who set a good example for me. To my brother who has told me that I have to continue till I become a Prof. To my senior colleagues at UNTH who told me that Part One exam is no big deal and told me the secrets of passing. Finally to my husband who believes in me, supports me and encourages me ALWAYS.