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DateMynd44:
0818 isn't mtn ni

brightalo1010:
Send me your number and network for 1k airtime I am serious.

Imagine people telling a man dying gradually to keep praying and managing the devilish heartless, selfish, wicked monster. I vowed never to tolerate such nonsense. I don't even have such time to listen to any advice from any fvkin pastor or anyone before I'll frustrate the evil lady's life.

CAPSLOCKED:
SO WHAT DO WE DO NOW?
TAKE UP ARMS AND GO AND FIGHT?

LordKO:
@OP

Let me believe that you are not the instigator of her sociopathic attitude, because her attitude depicts that of a woman who has resolved to withdraw her submission after being taken for granted for too long - you have a sociopath-like woman in your hand now. The worst kind of woman to take for granted remains a submissive woman - the contentious and servile/frenemy ones are very easy to put in their places despite their crassness and disingenuousness, respectively. If you have not been both conscientious and altruistic towards her all this while, retrace your step, because a good woman deserves all the love/goodness in this world from her husband. 

Meanwhile, let me assume that you are truly married to an unconscientious woman who does not have altruistic interest in you - the worst mistake a man who values the sanctity of marriage can ever make - by extension, you are dealing with a sociopath-like woman. Well, you have been an enabler of her toxic attitude towards you in the marriage so far because you have a weak defense esteem, connotation of your submission shows that you are under her emotional grip, the effect of stockholhm syndrome after using servility to sustain a relationship for too long is this powerful. It is time for you to squash the emotion and extricate yourself from her grip and entanglement. 

You have to start treating her like a sociopath-like woman; you can achieve this feat by making a conscious decision to win through either a dishonorable means or lose through a honorable means - there's no shame in both ways because she will be the dishonorable loser, regardless of the route you choose, provided that you execute, it well. The ball is in your court. If you are discerning and ready to regain your sanity and gain authority - leadership of the house has never been in your hold -  you should know what to do from here. If you execute it perfectly, she will either set up like a submissive/virtuous woman or walk out of the marriage in shame.

asapeola:
Wow! I tried visualizing what ur going thru in ur marriage and sincerely i felt very bad. If all u wrote on here is true, then its very unnecessary to remind you of how u got here. I feel ur yet to accept the reality of the kind of marriage ur in. Your idea of how a marriage ought to be isnt what ur seeing and ur very disappointed. This rubs off on how u handle issues with ur wife. Bros, wake up n face it! For me, i think uv got 2 options:
1. Acceptance and Admittance and i mean it really. Accept ur wife and admit the reality of ur marriage. If twas the other way round, women would normally advise the woman to focus on her children n make herself happy. Same applies to u bro. Focus more on urself and d kids after all ur literally catering for urself in ur house. Expect less from ur wife so u dnt get disappointed all the time. Tho u ddnt say anytin abt the sex part, but ask for it if u want, if she accedes - cool! And if she wants u, don't deny her too.

2. Separation: This option is abit more financially expensive. I suggest u get a small place to stay away for a while while you show up to check on the kids and supply their needs. You have to be quite strong to try this tho cos u myt end up missing ur family esp the kids. This shld be a very strong msg to ur wife and if it works that she adjusts from her ways, then great, if it doesn't, you know the last option.

God be with you and your family!

MSEdLAW:
God bless you!!!

Hakeem12:
I read the book and summoned the demons, didn't see shiit. Also invoked bloody Mary or whatever, slept like a baby that night. Nothing happened.

mansakhalifa:
Am I the only one who doesn't believe stuff like this??

I am a bloody skeptic as far as things revolving around the "spiritual" are concerned.

As far as I am concerned, those things ain't real.

As a kid, I kept on hearing about mermaids and crap like that from folks from the village but I have been on and around several bodies of water and I ain't seen any one of these imaginary creatures.

Let's give it a break, guys.

Reason, I don't dig religion a lot.

Keemsleek005:
Nice sum up, i keep telling people its when you are alive, that you can work, eat and pray. And if these thing should blow out of hand they will still blame the goverment. These a mistake posted it on the wrong comment pls ignore trying to delete it.

Barrywilly:
Basilosaurus is extinct million of years ago. The picture is not well taken but I reckon that this is a calf humpback whale. Must we butcher and eat these precious sea creatures at the first glance. Why are some Nigerians like this?

Jinja007:
nice point, my question is, what happened to their savings while they were working??

HornyTave:
I'll tell you a story.

A story of my father's friend, he's over 70yrs now. I don't know why I'm telling this in a public forum but I believe it will help someone here.

The story happened in Edo state, if you're familiar with Edo state you'll know Uromi.

When this young Pastor wanted to get married, The senior pastor told him not to get married to the lady cause if her attitudes and all that but this man was a soft religious man who believed and still believes in prayer. in his words he said 'Baba no worry, I go change her with prayer' so they got married.
After the marriage and kids began coming the woman became the devil in this man's life, He turned the church against this man, accusing the pastor of dating the choir mistress and all that. The man had to leave the church to form his, then the real issue started

'after the man has sweat his ass training his children through private schools ans some in medical school the mother began her manipulation- though I won't go into details of how she did it-, right now her daughter is a multi millionaire, she bought a Mercedes-Benz ML400 for the husband in 2012 or so but the father use an old, Loud cargo motorcycle, The wife chased him from the house he built and now sleeps in the church, His son got married and hired a dad. he go bundled up when he showed up in the venue.'

many things i wouldn't put here.

I feel sorry for you and here is my advise, I will also back it with another true story.

I have a first uncle who married a really beautiful woman but she's rude and all that, gave my first uncle real problem, everytime got my uncle coming to my dad for settlement and all that and this uncle of mine is rich, works in Chevron as a real staff, - this is in 1987, after all that my uncle one day left for work and didn't come back home - hos wife, He left everything for her, the rent, Tv, everything in the apartment.

today my uncle is married to another woman with amazing kids, this old wife is an usher in Ayo's church in Warri and she depends on the church for survival.

If I were you, I would pick the Children who respects me and leave the home, get some where else and live as a single dad, if the house is yours, don't sell it, use it as a gift for her and the other kids, Filing for divorce is another thing.


I CAN BET WITH ANYTHING AT MY DISPOSAL THAT THOSE OTHER KIDS WILL NEVER RESPECT YOU, NO MATTER THE BEATING THREATS, IF YOU BEAT THEIR MOTHER THEY'LL NEVER FORGIVE YOU, IF YOU STAY YOU MIGHT COMMIT SUICIDE.

IF YOU LEAVE, THERE'S A HIGHER CHANCE THE OTHERS WILL LOOK FOR YOU.

I'VE said enough

hollah123:
like seriously I never read this part b4 I made my first comment....u cheated ,yea she might not see it as a big deal after u begged but u have a boy from that(evidence of cheating).Do u know how heartbroken she was when she heard that after everything I both went through n what u work towards

She can never forget n she knows irrespective of whatever she laboured together with u a strange woman will b a part of it someday cos u will give d boy something n d boy will give his mother.Bro at this stage of your life, all u need for yourself is a soft landing cos the children are old enough to see everything.

Pray to God,change your ways n convince them alot that u are truly a changed man

All d best

Danniedpastor:
Bros, nobody is going to force you to tithe.
Stop looking for cheap opportunity to ridicule the church Of God.

And always know that tithing is a personal thing.

Pay if you believe. Don't pay if you don't believe because that's even dangerous.
I'm a pastor and I hardly talk about tithe .
Our God is not hungry.

Stay blessed

jokotus:
God need your soul to be right with Him. Your holiness is much more important than your tithe. No matter how much you give to church if your relationship with God is not right hell fire straight. Whether paying it or not it doesn't matter.