okay... what should we do with this info?

JennyOfOldstones:
The OP has deactivated o

Am sure he deactivated because of posts like this " Someone should show this thread to Nigerian Police and catch this poster and his friend for interrogation.".. and sad enough he may just leave the case to God and move on with his life as if nothing happened.

Mcy56:


I didnt read this post as indicting anyone, its more of a compliment actually in my opinion.

I think so too...

pocohantas:


Pls, spare me the semantics. I've been on this section long enough to know how they operate. It wasn't a compliment, I don't defend prostitution and begging. It isn't my daily need either, before you say that one is a compliment too. You don't tell me how I respond to such mentions

I believe one of the things you do most on this forum is defending your gender and it's a good thing..funny enough I was complimenting you

"How they operate "...is this some sort of conspiracy or what

pocohantas:


I created no name of supporting/defending... begging, whoring and gold digging. I won't allow any dumbfuck impose beliefs that are not mine on me. That's not fame. The decision to complain is mine, not yours

why you angry? the guy only mentioned your name because of the fact you defend anything women on nairaland and with this kind of biased thread,your attention is definitely needed to do your daily need.

furthermore the mention can be seen as a compliment so no need to be rude.

eyinjuege:


What domestic violence are you talking about?
You should go and learn the definition of domestic violence, before you quote me.
Educate yourself a little. It would go a long way

I guess your brain skipped the title of the thread.
funny thing asking obvious question.

eyinjuege:


The children were with their grandparents. Unless of course your parents have dangerous people like paedophiles living with them, the children are safer there than following her to the shop where she can't keep a proper eye on them when she's busy, and all sorts of strangers come.
I'm still yet to understand why you feel the children are being neglected, even though their grandparents are looking after them. If you really think they are being neglected, you should also talk to your brother and scold him for not coming to pick his children early from their grandparent's.

funny how you ignore the domestic violence act by the said lady which is the bases of the thread.

such pathetic response from an anti dv campaigner..

armyofone:
Imagine the abuse the poor woman faced in her home. Tell us the real words you guys used...on her because she doesn't come home on time. They are really helping their brother - such interference because bros doesn't know how to keep wifey in check. Op, you tried and need the best younger bros of the year award.

so that gave her the right to assault the guy....

lol.. doing the same thing they accused nairaland guys of doing..

TheArchangel:
You must be coogar of old

Lol... nah am not....great and legendary guy he is .

UjuJoan2:


Actually I didn't get this stance untill I actually got married. Like most mills and boons lovers I dreamt of getting married and living a fairytale, but that's not always the case is it Reality hits you hard on the head like a rock and then you start wondering why you ever thought it was going to be a bed of roses.

So I'm giving back by teaching young people to find their peace before settling down with anyone, or else they will be in for a life of disappointment.

I don't see how that makes me unhappy or in bondage. I think I have the best marriage because I and my husband are not under any sort of pressure to be 'perfect'. We are happy with each other just the day we are.

Why do you even care if I'm happy or not? Hope you are not one of the monitoring spirits?

Awwww. . . . The bolded is just sweet. Thanks!

I agree with you except the part you said marriage should be outlawed.

I honestly care because am your fan and you make me laugh with your submissions so why will I want to see you sad.


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EfemenaXY:


Is this necessary? Really?

Why pick on her and make it personal?

This is one of the reasons why people are sceptical about baring their hearts here or letting others have a peek into the dynamics of their home.

I 100% agree that no marriage is all sweetness and light. That's just not possible. Why? Because no two people are exactly the same. There'll always be differences and how these differences are handled is / are the challenges - the basis of this topic.

We're all here to learn and share from and with each other. Let's be mature and respectful of that fact. Or is that too much to ask?

I picked on her because am a fan..
Also you make it seem as if I said something bad or offensive, I just summarized her posts and gave my honest opinion.

I agree with your other points.

UjuJoan2:


Really? You didn't see from my first post that my choice of spouse will not change my stance on marriage and that I was quite lucky with my choice . . . . Or from my 4th post that I wouldn't trade my husband for any reason

Maybe you are just seeing what you want to see.

And you've somehow missed my point in all my posts. . . . Marriage doesn't define who I am or dictate my happiness.

And I see you are a fan. . . . That's okay, I get that a lot
spouse

"your choice of will not change your stance on marriage "...this validates my first point of you're getting married because of societal pressure not that you really desire it..you believe marriage should be outlawed and it's not important yet you still went ahead to get married...... this beg the question of will you ever be happy in your marriage when you see it as bondage, the answer is "it will be difficult "


for your other point I agree with you.

note: Am your fan no doubt, missed the old you and your interesting submission.

UjuJoan2:




Just wondering how you got that from my posts?

And who the hell you are

looking at all your post on this thread it's quite easy to figure that out. it's more like you married for the sake of the society and not really your preferred choice.


who Am I? oloyede,

quite an interesting thread. @ UjuJoan2 so you finally got married and from your post you ain't happy in your marriage.

funny enough only few people can be considered intelligent on this thread. the op stated his opinion elaborately and I expect people to comment based on the content not on the personality of the op.
Even people who agreed the good grammar is not the only criteria for intelligence are falling for the same thing they accused him of. furthermore if the thread ain't your business what are you doing here.
ladies @Safiaa, Lawlahdey what your grouse with the op, is that you guys don't like his write up or you just dislike him.

modelmike7:
All the pregnant women and expectant mothers in the section......
Safe delivery to them all.

amen...

who do you think is the most popular moniker on family section
for me it's cougar, the guy is legendary although not active again

freshvine:


See for yourself.

Bro you still senseless. so because buhari wants Shari'a in Nigeria means he is a terrorist.. you dull.furthermore that a statement he made years ago and he is now the president has he implemented it... think Bro think

DarkRebel69:


You have nothing to say and don't try to deflect attention from the emptiness of your argument. Poetry my foot.

It's funny how you should say that this debate should be premised on common sense and yet your remarks thus far are seriously lacking in common sense.

First, you veered off topic when you said that you would rather not accept "society's standard of attractiveness". One would think by that statement–although terribly off topic–that you were some maverick or non-conformist. Yet the so-called person, the so-called non-conformist who does not accept society's standard made these declarations:

"1. weight gain: is mostly used in our environment as a compliment, evidence of good living.

2. weight loss: whether it involves a dead relative or not, this word is used by people who truly cares or attempt to show some concern."

The phrase "mostly used in our environment" negates your pretentious claims to being a non-conformist. What kind of non-conformist tailors his ways to what is prevalent in society even if that which is prevalent is wrong?

As I have said before, you are emotionally unintelligent – your antecedents prove this. You are also pretentious, and confuzzled, and unnecessarily belligerent.

PS: When next you see your boss' wife, ensure you make an observation about her weight loss.

in summary your point is that the statement is offensive while acidosis point is that it's not offensive.I don't really get the need for insulting his person.
funny thing is that while you're telling him not to generalize you said "we guys".who are the we guys Bro speak for your self.

freshvine:


Address me with the normal signature or title.

Should I blame it on glaucoma that you didn't find "F" in my name?

Lol... if you ain't suffering from acute glaucoma you won't say president buhari is a terrorist..Bro you dull. think before you type Bro,don't let your fingers to be faster than your brain.

freshvine:
Buhari is simply a terrorist with the mindset of islamisation.

Christians were warned prior to the election but the yorubas think otherwise.

you senseless Bro...

PaperLace:


1. You are 23yrs old.
2. You are in 300level.
3. Your parents are training you in school.


Can you be realistic and tell us what business you have dating this 18yrs old fatherless girl (no insult intended). Face reality, your love won't stop that man from harassing her if she remains there, your love can't pay her fees if she returns back to her mother _hence your concern.

Why do you young guys like complicating your lives?

Each time she comes telling you her challenges, you will start thinking how to scam your parents?

You're creating thread on NL when you already know the solution. There is just one way out of this situation and love can't fund it _you know that already.

so because she is fatherless he shouldn't date her.

nototribalist:
If other Arab countries can't overcome isreal, how can hausa Fulanis overcome children of God. It's not possible, instead Buhari will die before his time.

but buhari is 70+,so I don't understand "before his time".

nototribalist:
If other Arab countries can't overcome isreal, how can hausa Fulanis overcome children of God. It's not possible, instead Buhari will die before his time.

but buhari is 70+

cococandy:

Nobody asked you.
Your opinion about my behavior is irrelevant
In this discussion, you're irrelevant

Face the OP

girl nobody is fighting with you so calm down and drop the rude comments.. Mrs relevant

cococandy:
Move along please

really, not your best behavior ...

cococandy:
So your mom's actions disgust you but not your dad's? I'm sorry you're as bad as he is.
Anyone who can't see how both actions are equally terrible can't be taken seriously,
Infact I don't see what your mom has done wrong as of now. Your father is the cause of everything and if I were her I'd do it in way that will hurt him deeply. Bringing other women into my home. The nerve of him.
And the nerve of for even finding something wrong about her actions.

just because he posted this issue doesn't mean he sees his father's action less disgusting.. however it sad you are justifying a bad behavior because of a bad experience..the question is would you be happy seeing your mom engaged in such actions, am sure your answer will be negative.....

This is original biafran comedy.. you guys can lie.... haba fear God.