divorce him.
@yieldings you haven't said anything tangible with all this your stories. stop quoting other post and type what you have for the op

Nice story or not, o don't Really care But I give kudos to 5min for giving a set of married women something to yarn about.just love seeing them.

TheArchangel:
Same thing na, if child care = 70 :30
Then bills should be split 30:70. Nobody should cheat the other. Period.

I don't care if they split bills 30/70 or 50/50.my question is that should men tell their wife how much they earn as the women believe their husband does not have any business with their salaries.

fellis:


First of all respect yourself and don't bring any of my parents up again because I can equally bring yours up and insult them if you try me.
Secondly no, Nigerian men do not take care of children to the same extent their wives do. They only pitch in occasionally or only when they don't have a choice but to assist. Denying that fact all you want doesn't stop it from being true.
The typical Nigerian man will never agree that he and his wife have equal responsibilities towards home based child care.

there is No need for insult..I see, child care is your main problem.in an average family anywhere in the world women do More than men in taking care of their children so I don't see it as a Nigerian problem.
what your problem with Nigerian men.

cococandy:
Comprehension issues

lol. you gat issues

cococandy:
Exactly

exactly? please make comment based on the topic.

PaperLace:


When did TENDER and TELL become synonyms?

The problem wasn't telling, the problem was/is tendering all the money she worked for all through the month to her horseband.
So, go edit you topic_ Should a husband tender his salary to his wife? The keyword here is TENDER!

there is No need to edit the topic. the topic was based on the various comments from the thread not the thread itself.many female have the opinion that husband's have No business with wife salaries. and going by that it will be equally acceptable to say wife have No business with her man salary. this the basis for the thread.

so make comment based on the topic.thank you

fellis:


Wake up at night to carry crying baby as often as your wife does it, bathe and dress kids, clean and change diaper, prepare pap/baby formula to feed since you can't breastfeed, play with them when they are crying of boredom, take them to hospital when they are ill, take them to school and bring them back when they close from school, assist them with homework, teach them how to handle bullies, teach them how to do housework to help out at home, discipline them properly when they misbehave etc

so now tell me if you have seen any man not doing all that for his child?
you speak as if most Nigerian men are not caring. wtf if your father or any of your relatives is not doing that for his child you don't need to make silly generalization.

fellis:


Marry a modern man with a very good heart then.
Many Nigerian men the minute they find out their wives have money they assume it is now time to share financial responsibilities 50/50 but these men will never ever decide to share child care and house keeping 50/50.
No. Na the wife work be that.

you believe a man has No business with his wife salary because he will share financial responsibility 50/50 while child care and house keeping will not be shared equally. my question is how is it possible to share child care equally

Pidggin:


It seems you have a narrow view of things. I hope you are an adult? You will understand as you grow

understand what? that for me to be a Good man I must wash wife clothes.. and if you are an adult you will realize that being a Good man has a broad meaning not limited to washing of cloths,dishes etc.
hy girl grow up from your biased narrow minded self,it will do you some Good.
don't qoute me typing rubbish again. old woman

anthonydunamis:


I know you are eager to lambast me but please hold your horses for a while sir. 'The man is the head' means that he is the leader. The leader of a group or the captain of a team is not necessarily superior to the other team members. The husband has the character needed to lead and organise the family, that's why he is the head. He can coordinate- not control like a dictator- the direction in which the family moves. Secondly, science lets us know that men are physically stronger than woman. That isn't the same as superiority. Okay, women have more fat than men in their bust area. Does that make them superior to men? Oga, if you don't agree with me, fine. We are mature enough to disagree cheerfully.

Lol why would I lambast you for doing that you like, What I disagree is with the statement of another poster that said the man is a Good man,for washing wify clothes What about we that we do dishes. that not a fair statement..; D

anthonydunamis:


The washing of clothes is not important in itself but the 'why' is the main thing. When there is love, a couple will not separate family activities into 'husband's duty' or 'wife's duty'. Anybody can do anything in the home, as long as you have the ability and strength. So, the post is encouraging us to see our spouses as partners, not superior or inferior to us. The man is still the head of the house, but he is the head so that he can lead, protect and satisfy his physically weaker wife. Let love break the barriers that tradition sometimes places on the mentality of Nigerians. Some of us here will never do our wives 'breakfast in bed' till the day we die. Chai!

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the question "why" as you claim is the main thing as to do with choice .and our choices determines whether or not we engage in certain activity. so you don't need criticize why I don't like washing my wife cloth.
so couples that shares activities into husband and wife duties doesn't love themselves?
lastly in the same post you said we should see our spouse as partner then in another sentence you said the man is the head and the wife is a weak or physically inferior human. be clear on What you believe in

Pidggin:


Yes it is. He has shown that he is a good leader, he can sacrifice and go out of his way for his family even when it might not be convenient, he is also a humble person.

so from your statement a Good leader is the one who wash his wife cloth. 2.sacrifice to you means washing ones wife cloth 3.out of his way for his family also means washing wife cloth 4.a humble person /man is a man that wash wify clothes..

as in this actually funny and senseless. please don't quote me saying trash again, please .

anthonydunamis:


Oga, let's focus on the essence of the post. It's not about washing clothes or not washing clothes. That's each man's business, it doesn't make you good or bad. Obviously, you missed the point.

What the essence of the thread when title is Why I
Wash My Wife's Clothes". What the point enlightened me boss

sequence to this thread " Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands?.many females are of the opinion that husband's have No business with their wife salaries, which now beg the question "Do You Think Married men should tell their wife how much they earn"

people are funny sometimes. so he is a Good man because he washes his wife cloth, is that the new criteria for being a Good man..as in I tire for una ...

martineverest:
watch how hypocritical nigerian men will criticise this woman and call her names,instead of giving her encouragement......but,they are fast in criticising buhari for his comment

why should we give her encouragement.are we the source of her money hungry predicament.

SAMBARRY:
no.you're OLOSHIDE because when you fok off it's usually a pleasant day

Hence the name OLOSHIDE!

Lol. angry bird aka sambarry and the person who liked her post are both oloshide.fok off

SAMBARRY:
oloshide get of my mention.Must you stalk me

By the way when will you grow up?

I thought you should have outgrown your stopeed childishness by now

Abeg get lost joor.oni rada rada

Lol. stalk Who? you. that not possible cos I don't do sugar mommy.

for the rest of your ranting,it's total rubbish
Am OLOYEDE by the way

SAMBARRY:
please shut up

shut up? how is that possible when am typing. madame stop typing fake stories.

SAMBARRY:
Its only men that can stop mil vs dil bs but they choose TO be neutral for reasons best known to them

during my free time at work one of my male colleagues was jisting briefly which was last week and he said the first time he brought his fiance home who is now wife he told the mother in clear terms which was heavily loaded.I laughed when he said it he said


MUMMY IYAWO NI MO MUWALE MIO MU OMO ODO ABI ERU WA FUN YIN O

So I was like why did you say that. He said because he knows the type of woman his mother is and what she does to his younger brother's wife

He said the wife was sitting there when he said it and even after marriage no mil harassment.every one respects themselves. That's why I said the issue can only be resolved by the man because if he doesn't set boundaries no one will not know where they belong

Madame I don't know how your story will solve the problem here.did you read the op?

Lol. What a crazy thread. See married and single moms drooling over a married man picture for more that five days. As my brother will say in yoruba ''ara hin ti kun'...

Kudos to the main warriors;
Tv,mindfulness.
To supporting partners ;
Craky,tim,njoku,sheababy,5min.chill,coco and other partners I failed to mention.well done guys,well done.

scores as at today:
Tv:50 points
Mind:45 points..you can do it bae
Tim and co:34
Chill:20 points(faTty madam lol,go and rest cos they have finished you)
Sheababy:25(always hiding behind mind,but single baby mama carry on)

Scores to be upgraded later.bye

Mindfulness:


In other words you didn't know what you were talking about. I thought so.

lol..you thought wrong...but it ok.

Mindfulness:


So how do you raise a child to become gay?

lol are you asking me that? WHen I haven't seen anybody who is gay.lady talk better tin ol

Mindfulness:


What environmental factors?

eg the child socialization will the basis for his behaviour.also the family, society,religion,culture,laws,mores,norms and other external influences such as media etc are the enviromental factors am talking/typing about

In as much as i enjoy and learn from this arguments please let make this a healthy debate.it sometimes hurt me seeing matured men and women insult and abuse eachother.please let stop.
@mindfulness if am correct you agree that people are born gay.i disagree with that cos i believe being gay or not has to do with enviromental factors more than other school of thought(heredity)..

KingCheezyPuff:
The husband has many right.....because he put a ring on it/made a serious commitment
But let's bot get into all that.
.....
Will my views on a form change what people do in their lives that you had 2 argue me down like you did? .....No.
I want 2 go now. Bye.

ok.next time think before you type. Bye

KingCheezyPuff:
I LOVE how you deduced I wasn't intelligent because I
stated the boyfriend Is Not the husband
and Does Not have right 2 anything.

so its the husband that have the right cos he is handicap to cook for himself..also have the right to make the woman a slave?...

Why I said you wrong is that let people make choices for themselves whether to cook of not for ANYBODY..

KingCheezyPuff:
on the contrary, it shows I won't be taken advantage of.
......
You think a woman should be the only 1 cooking?
..... or at all? He's not husband.
Why can't the man cook 2....is he a cripple?

oh God.the problem here is you thinking a woman that cooks is a slave.your view is wrong because you reason for everywoman.

As for the rest of your silly assumptions it shows you aint that intelligent for me to converse with you again.bye

KingCheezyPuff:
Why will a woman cook.for a man?
Why can't he cook for them both? Take turns even.

hy are you serious or just trolling cos with this your comment it shows how unfortunate you are..

ghostmist:
If girls were to have their way, all guys would be turned to father Christmas. see how she conveniently forgot that the guy also has a family that needs him to make them great; since he is now in the business of making strangers great.

I tire o.

keryj:
Op I don't agree with ur no 2. I see nothing bad in it even if u eventually despise the girl, be rest assured that u v imparted in someones live which is a grt investment as a human. Especially if the girl in question makes god use of the opportunity excels well, so what do u think u v to loos in helping someone to become grt?

what my business in helping someone become great.is that an achievement for the heartbroken guy?tell me.bad investment is never an achievement but a way of showing you how things went bad and how to never make that mistake again.