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Some still dey exist.

johnwizey:
LOL.....Truth is I have giving up my seat for the male folks that are not even carrying anything countless times even when there are women in the same bus, and none of the women has ever called me 'man wrapper' or 'gay'. I wasn't brought up to ignore people in distress and I don't see anything wrong with what I have done

God bless you my darling. You are such a sweet soul. Please don't allow any man with 'woman wahala' spoil your good heart.

Thank God there are still some sweet gentlemen out there.

Thanks sis. Really helpful tips.

johnson232:
Hahahahaha....
@bold, which woman?
The one u created, or the one God created that ended up disobeying God just few days of her existence as human?

Don't make me laugh abeg....

If u are hoping on a woman for happiness and being a better person, then u are on a long thing.....

From the tone of your words, I can feel u lacked some motherly care or maybe she wasn't a good wife to your father(no insult intended). Sorry darling, there are plenty of good and virtuous women out there.

It's a pity u are unlucky.

Abrahamjesus:
Have u sent your cv?

Sorry to ask.. Whom or where do send my cv to.
Have a blessed day. Thanks

johnson232:
So someone spent all his time writing this rubbish....

If it was a man, will u give up your seat for him?

Na woman go kill u...

Woman will never kill him rather she will make him a better and happier person. ewu kanbia

You must have done something really really bad. Hope its not what I'm thinkin.

Okay I see. But is it all about him?

SOUNDS OF MUSIC
I started seeing this movie as a kid, now I've three kids and I'm still seeing it with my kids

@Abrahamjesus, may you remain blessed.

Please any job around Iju-Ishaga and Agege area would do. I have B.Sc in Accounting. Thanks soo much.

johnson232:
lol...
as long is ur brother u wont even feel that arousal....
it's natural....

even if he touches sensitive parts u still wont feel anything....
sexual acceptance is zero by default..
people who engage in inccest do it for rituals...
it has nothing to do with whether u re nuude or not....
but if its someone else, ur body will naturally respond...

lets put this in context; try picture ur brother romancing u, u will get a mudane scenario, it cant generate anything sexual....

This is not always true. Only few cases of in cest has to do with ritual, majority of cases are just natural urges.

There's one from my place that was caught, and they both eloped for years now and have still not yet returned. Pls flee from every occasion of sin.

johnson232:
there is nothing wrong with it my sister....

cant u un-dress in brother's presence?

There's an adage in my place that says 'akwara aama nwanne '. Literally, it means that the veins does not know brother or sister. The veins in this context means- sexual urge.

Oboy how do these two feel when they mistakenly rolled to face each other, like oko ati iyawo. ( hmm, just thinking out loud). These two are better experienced(seen physically) than to be read about.

My dear, humility should be your watch word here. Clean the dishes and Intensify in ur prayers and job hunting.
Even if it means waiting by the corner for him to finish his meal and u then clear the dishes, do it. He is ten years older than you, u should be answering him, sir.

There's a reward that comes with humility. So b humble.

Nubian113:
You're as sick as your thoughts. I see absolutely nothing wrong with it. So I can't sleep in the same bed as my brother after we came out the same hole Ok. Kontinue

Maybe you are right, maybe you are wrong.

PresVA:
Is it that bad? Hmmmm

What if someone goes to visit her brother who lives in a self con or one bedroom apartment? The brother go sleep for floor or leave the house for her?

I see no problem as long as it's for a short while probably caused by some inevitable conditions...

I understand your point, but in this case there's a very comfortable bed in a comfortable room.

If she soo needs a bed partner, she should pair with her mother, except if the poor woman refuses but I doubt.

How does he feel when he wakes in between sleep and sees her br east sticking out from the side of her nightie or that the night gown has rolled up to her tummy? This things happen while we sleep.

How does she feel when she wakes and finds her brother's hands inside his boxers holding his 'johnthomas' - He unconsciously does this even when not sleeping. Call my mind dirty its allowed.

Maybe I'm sick in the head. That is why I'm here to seek ur opinions so I can put this insanity in my head into check.

If u actually see the way these two behaves, ur mind might be dirtier than mine. This man is almost ten years older than the lady. One is married and the other is a divorcee.

There is a free room with bed for the love of God. Lets flee from all forms of evil.

Please is it right for a grown-up(40+) man to sleep on the same bed with his sister(30+) even when there is extra bed in an unoccupied room. For me it's disgusting. What do you think?

Always give ur wife a sense of emotional security. Remember, she is ur wife(better half) and not ur maid.

Miami11:
And this is another woman supporting a devious man, end time indeed

I'm supporting no one. All I know is that whatever thing we do, we should learn to strike a balance.
On Sunday's I wake up by 4am to prepare for 6:30am mass cos of my three kids (hubby will never help) and make-up.

We don't live with this family so we can't tell if he has warned her before. Believe it almost all men hate this.

My own husband might even decide not to go anywhere again. I myself I hate it when someone keeps me waiting for no good reason,no matter whom.

Believe me I hate it when men insult women, but in this one (make-up), we are always at fault.

Is this real? Op abeg I dey fear ooo. Since na spiritual matta, mek your parle no com attack me. I no sabi pray holy ghost fire prayer.

Just in case this story is real-Op u know where and whom to run to- J.E.S.U.S. HE is the safest and surest way.

Abeg I cover myself and family by the blood of JESUS.

veraiyke:
Throw her out of the house

Like she is a tenant? If she had caught him cheating, would she have thrown him out? Men with low self esteem.

Btw I'm not saying that cheating is right.

Timbuktou:
If she can go to this length to cheat, my brother she's already a pro. I can bet my soul that that ex has gonked the living shiit outta that booty. In fact, he fùcked her so good she thought it best to abandon her family and relocate to the east. Òsé!! That guy has lambaed the hell out your wife. Bros, you're a divorcee and a dead man but you dont know it yet. She could have easily poisoned you and you for be past tense.

I will tell what I would do and have done. Leave her finally. Any apology is a further insult to you. What you need now is the presence of mind to end that marriage. Sorry, but that's the bitter truth. If her people come and beg tell them she must accept that job. You cannot afford to cater for her anymore. Let her be gainfully employed. Me, I value the air I breathe and I would be frankly wary of sleeping in the same house as this woman.

Dont listen to foolish advice asking you to open a shop for her. She doesnt need a job. She needs to change the dìck she's been collecting steady(I assume) for the past 15 years.

Damn. I dey pity you.

There are many ways to kill a rat. living with him is not the only way.

If u know you want to meet up with oga and that u can't do without ur make-up, please start preparing 4hrs before time especially if you have kids.

If above option won't work, just have ur bath, wear ur clothes, gather ur gele and make-up kit and finish up in the car's back sit. yeah I do that some times. My husband can't even stand that wait. The way he will describe that make-up of yours will leave u feeling down.

The thing is too annoying . Some lady I live with will bath by 8am and by 11am she's still before the mirror. Enter her room and you will think she is about to attend some mmomiri (marine) meeting-orisirisi colours and brushes.

Maybe the man was trying to avoid paying fine for lateness.

He would have gone to get her himself, at least that will enable him to know the stage she is. Sorry madam.

You are very correct.

I will advise you do a thorough research on how these contraception pills works, after that you will be able to provide answers to this your question. As for me, it's natural(the thing dey fail me sha, but I don shine my eyes).

All these baby husband wanting to eat their cakes and at the same time have it.
Love her as christ loved the church and died for her (na bible talkam). These are some of the things you should do for her and she would natural submit to you:
1. Correct her with love- stop being bossy all the time, no woman likes that.
2. Defend her from external forces(only when she is right).Remember as a married woman you are her voice.
3.Give her a sense of security-this is what every woman craves for in any relationship.
4.Try to seek her opinion on some, if not all matters.(we know that yours would finally be utilized). Just give her that sense of belonging. etc

Please and please STOP being bossy all the time. This wife's submission thing has really destroyed many of our men and marriages. Thank you @all.

U are already on the line for a testimony. Children are the joy of marriages, your own joy shall not be missing. Amen

Pinning ko needling ni. Try it and disgrace and shame will be your reward at last. You don't want nonsense comments when you have already created nonsense for yourself.

Askseek:
If I could like this a million times. I admire you efe, your wisdom is humbling. I thought to myself, why is she fighting for the till when she can focus on herself but I would never have passed the message across as clearly and in a non judgemental way like you did. To oluafam I say take this advice to heart and follow it. Nothing else comes this close

Thanks dear, I'm not fighting again I've already started focusing on self-development. Just that hubby needs me around and will need me even more when she is gone for the NYSC program.

Askseek:
If I could like this a million times. I admire you efe, your wisdom is humbling. I thought to myself, why is she fighting for the till when she can focus on herself but I would never have passed the message across as clearly and in a non judgemental way like you did. To oluafam I say take this advice to heart and follow it. Nothing else comes this close

Thanks dear, I'm not fighting again I've already started focusing on my self-development. Just that hubby needs me around and will need me even more when she is gone.

EfemenaXY, I'm very greatful. Thanks so much. I've actually been following your advices to shingmama on one of babyosis' s thread. I will put the things you have written into practice but before then, let me make some things clear;
Firstly, we are age mate(I'm about two weeks older).
No she she doesn't have a child yet.

Secondly, and I think most importantly, she doesn't know quarter of what I know about the business, be it customers, suppliers, prices etc. Remember she doesn't live with us and has been away from the biz for close to a decade now. For almost five years of my marriage, this is her second and longest visit.

Thirdly, I have taught before (within this her present visit). I began to notice this struggle for sit during her first visit 2years ago and I allowed her Cos I didn't want it to cause a fight and I didn't tell anyone-I just kept it to myself. Within this present visit, something happened in the house (not entirely her fault) coupled with position issue during her first visit, I decided to teach so as to engage myself with something. At this time my Baby was just two months old and her immediate elder was 18months old.I only taught for one term and left because it was quite stressful with my two under aged kids (the eldest child was in another school then), very very little and irregular pay.
Secondly, almost everyone was against my choice to teach. My people, my in-laws, my husband, almost everyone complained. So coupled with the stress, I had to quit.

Before now I've been very active in the biz except for baby-sitting times (omugwo things)and this is the time she usually strike, cos I'll home 24/7. And after my omugwo, sit then becomes a battle.
If she was with her brother as at the time I was married, I wouldn't I have minded any sit at all.

Before the fight, I confided in my husband and told him my observations. He in turn told me that I can sit anyway I like, that although she is his sister that I'm his wife and that the position is mine (if he had said otherwise, i won't have bothered) but after the fight, he went defensive and left me in the hands of his elder brother. brb